While somewhat new to this forum (just not active on positing), my husband (47M) and I (47F) have been swinging on/off for about 20 something years shortly after we started dating 25 years ago. We started the hotwife, stag/vixen dynamic LS for the last 10 years or so. I will leave that experience on how it all unfolded from the start for another post if there are any interest.
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So fast forward, we are actively back into the hotwife part, since it really turns us both on. However, I feel that while there are so many more ways to find single or hall-pass men online, I’m finding that what is perceived online is not in reality when I meet them in person. The scenario typically unfolds as I reach out or reply to a guy that I am interested online, and explain what I/we are looking for, majority of the men always come across that they’re very interested, and some some men that I end up clicking with and had sex with alone to start (withy husband’s blessing) all turnout to conveniently forgetting that I am doing this for me and my husband, and not just myself, even when this is clearly specified each time before I/we proceed and they agreed. Meaning that when my husband is not presented physically (watching or participating), then there should be photos, videos, and/or live streaming involved to share with him, but this has not seem to be the case lately. So no matter how great the sex was with these other men, and my husband being very supportive of me going out to have fun, I have eventually stopped all play with these men that seem to have change their acceptance on this because ultimately this is something that I want my husband fully involved in and feel that he is part of it, other than me returning and just sharing stories.
Moving forward, we have changed our approach meeting other potential men by having my husband be involved from the start, this way after a few plays and it all goes well, then my husband is usually very generous with letting me go solo for one-on-one time with the other guy. However, we have also ran into issues with situations like this where the other men forget that my husband should still get at least a photo of me being the hotwife.
I guess I am just here venting and soliciting for some suggestions here. TIA