Who pays for the hotel?

[DonVito4u]

So far we've met wife's play partners at the bar in the hotel we are staying in. Only a year into the lifestyle it's important for me to create a safe, comfortable and sexy experience for my wife. Though we are enjoying exploring and staying at some great hotels and hotel bars in the City. Unfortunately this hobby is getting expen$ive. Setting up a poll to see what other couples do.

[Abrandnewstart194]

Yeah, dude’s getting to screw my Queen…he can pay for the hotel.

[DonVito4u]

Yeah, dude’s getting to screw my Queen…he can pay for the hotel. I’m a cuck, not a stooge.

Do you just tell him to pay? Who picks the hotel and makes the reservation..? Not taking my queen to Motel 6.. so do u give him option and minimum price point?

I don't see it as "screwing" my queen... or being a stooge.

It's a celebration of my wife willingness to be sexually adventurous. And I want to do everything in my power to make sure we all have a great time.

But any tips on how to negotiate and navigate the room charge without feeling like a pimp is appreciated.

[Farmgirl]

When we have a room, I pay for it. It's a little naughtier that way, and it's my room.
But, most times I have truck sex, sex at my home, or somewhere around our ranch. I carry a travel blanket and all the necessities in my truck. A Girl Scout is always prepared .

BTW, I didn't select any poll options besides "hotwife pays for hotel" because the other choices related to me were all about the hotel being too expensive. It's not too expensive for me, it's just not convenient. We don't have hotels around our ranch, so I do what is convenient and fun for me.

[jeanniekeith]

We rarely have anyone over to our house. If there's a hotel involved, which is most of the time, we get the room. We don't even consider asking our "guest" to get a room. That way we guarantee we aren't meeting someone at an hourly rate motel because that's what they booked. Plus, we don't "entertain" for more than a couple of hours. When we invite someone to come to our room, we don't waste any time and get straight to it. But we always pay for the room.

[Abrandnewstart194]

Do you just tell him to pay?

We don’t need to, we tell him to make the arrangements. If he brings up money, then he loses his chance. It doesn’t have to be the Waldorf Astoria, but if it’s something cheap and sleazy, that’s a no-go as well.

[LongTermHubby]

My wife enjoys being wined and dined by her lovers so they pick up the expenses.

[frank12]

I don't do one time things, but along with that first "hello" meeting over a cup of coffee or a beer those moments of getting to know and trust one another are important to be comfortable and neutral. That sometimes means the first sexual activities are at a neutral hotel, and though not the rule it is often the hubby who chooses and pays.

The very *best* playtimes however, when all the other logistics of discretion and other obligations align is to be invited to her house for a pleasant and unhurried playtime in her own comfort space. There is a bit of the "what we did RIGHT THERE" that goes on that can often be very pleasant for memories too.

Prof Wood

[Robvanjan]

The first meeting, the cuck pays for the hotel. Afterwards, I prefer to go to their house and fuck in their bed and stay overnight.

[D+D]

Most of the time he gets the hotel and pays. He’s getting her sex so why should she pay for the room? My wife isn’t that desperate. She travels occasionally for her work and so in that situation her company pays of course. She meets men in the hotel bar often. She has met men and they did it in the backseat of his truck and she had her regular here at our house. Most though are at a motel and he pays.

[SilverStag]

A hotel is neutral territory. Each is getting something out of the playdate. By splitting the bill there is no Quid pro quo.

[options311]

This hasn't happened yet but when I brought up the idea to my girlfriend, she said, Sure, but you're paying for the hotel room for me and my new lover, it's only fair. Wow, that was so straightforward that it sent shivers throughout my body and balls...Guess that is my answer to the poll

[vmb69]

It's always nice to split the cost. It's about everyone having a good time. We don't put any expectations on anyone. We have a few good hotels that will rent the room by 4 hour blocks, they are in no way 5 stars but clean and that is all we need. The fun part is when we get the key and they see our friend with us. They 100% percent know my wife is here for a good time and I'm sitting in the corner.

[D+D]

I wouldn’t mind splitting the cost if I’m invited but I rarely am. It’s usually my wife and a lover, mostly someone I have never even met. We have a hotwife/cuckold type relationship, not a stag vixen. If I am involved I am willing to split. We also have our own money so she can split the bill with them if she wants to but she views it as a date and most men do too so who takes a woman to dinner and tells the hostess that they want two checks? Same with taking them to bed to her and most of the men she sees or have seen she tells me.

[BT2]

When my hotwife has a date, except for a couple of occasions it has always been at our place or his. The two times she had a sex date in a hotel, we were already staying at the hotel on vacation.

If it came to paying for a hotel room and the only purpose of getting a hotel room was to have a hotwife date, I suppose whoever issued the invitation would pay for the room. After all if the guy is a volunteer (e.g. not a paid escort nor masseur), and it is my wife and I who were looking for a turn on and suggested a hotel, and he was providing the experience for us to fulfil our fantasy, then we would expect to pay for the room. On the other hand, if he suggested that he meet with my wife at a hotel, I would expect him to pay for it.

[chard]

My wife's lovers don't know that I am aware of her infidelity. As far as he is concerned she is a cheating wife so if he wants to fuck her he pays for the hotel.

[Smit_hd]

Definitely be willing to pay in the right scenario

[Sissy triple D]

Almost all of Lady M's dates always take place at our home.
But exceptionally it may be that circumstances prevent this, we have a studying daughter at home who is usually home at weekends.With K, the dates were at his home or office.
With O is it the second time that this happens in a rendezvous hotel, of course as befits a gentlemen, he pays.

[suckglovaa]

When we're not at home, the cuck always pays.

[bltn1966]

I use to think there wasn’t a fucking chance in hell I would pay for a hotel room for my wife and her date. Then one night my wife asked for my credit card so she can get a hotel room instead. WHY???
Because the young man was in college and didn’t have much money. AND A few tenants complained she was making too much noise when they were having sex. I asked my wife do she want the VISA or Master Card. That was the first and last time I ever paid for a hotel room.

[Thebestdays1]

During the latter years of our marriage, my wife started seeing a married colleague and would blow him after their night shift ended. He'd tell his wife that he was working overtime on the Friday night, but he and my wife only actually worked three hours.
He was a bit worried about coming to our house and fucking my wife downstairs, whilst I was upstairs. I suggested that they both went to a local hotel if that would make him feel more comfortable and I said that I would pay.
This worked quite well for the two of them and he apparently looked tired enough after fucking my wife all night for his wife to believe he'd been working.
After a few weeks I suggested that I could put a lock on our living room door if he'd be comfortable with that and he agreed, so they never went back to the hotel after that.
I was happy to pay, so that I could hear all the juicy details about their night of sex together afterwards.

[Filou]

It depends on a lot of things, but mostly on how good we know the other guy.

Car sex is out of the question anyway as it might be a very fast and public method to find yourself in jail. (Singapore is even more conservative & prude than the US)

In the beginning it is usually a hotel paid by us. After that an apartment we have downtown that is otherwise often used for clients, family and friends.
If it is a perfect fit they might even meet at our home.

[sml_peterBR]

When I'm present to watch I always pay for the room and other expenses. When my wife is dating alone, usually the guy pays for it, but there was several times that my wife paid too (with my credit card).

[Johnann2227]

It varies. In the past if her boyfriend wants to take her away overnight he organises and pays. If my wife asks me to have a night at a hotel I organise everything for her and pay. This includes the hotel, restaurant, and breakfast at a nearby cafe after checkout (she usually likes to fuck up to checkout). I also drive them to the hotel and pick them up from the cafe the next day.

[verkitwme]

I started paying for rooms initially but after two months of her being shared every weekend she wanted to have her lover at home in the martial bed.
Been that way for 7 years now....