Putting the genie back in the bottle?

[StockingHubby]

Lucky guy here - My wife is a hotwife and we’ve been officially in the lifestyle for just 3 months now, but WOW what a 3 months it has been! Easily 10+ years in the making…

Wondering what others think about how quickly your wife took to the lifestyle once she made the decision to jump in? I have no hangups or worries at this point… just wondering if it would even be possible to put this genie back in the bottle? She’s gone from stay at home mom with minimal libido to now over 6 partners since March. Each one is super hot and she’s totally into it. She loves it and I’m convinced she actually has a high sex drive (imagine that!). One of her new boyfriends mentioned to me that it’s usually the wife who wants to get into the lifestyle, or at the very least it’s the wife who want to keep going. My wife keeps talking about how she feels 20 again and is dating… I’m sure this is a blast for her, and I’m so thankful. Thought this was just my kink. lol!

Thoughts?

[Parsifal]

My experience was similar. For me, the genie was only hypothetical. But in the early going, I too wanted the feeling of security that comes from knowing you have enough control over the situation to keep it under control at all times. The fact is, as you reveal, it is your kink, so you likely won't want to apply to much brake.
You won't want keeping the genie in the bottle, at least not for too horribly long. You will want that pleasure and releasse for her almost as much as she does. As you grow with her in this new style of life for you both, you also grow to trust your love for each other, existentially. Leading up to that blissful state, you can test her respect for boundaries you agree on together.
Ideally, any boundaries you propose should be reasonably related to your unmasked vulnerabilities.
In my own experience, it started off as my kink too, and very quickly I got a real life anthropology lesson on female sexuality.

[Restarting]

No surprise how quickly she took to it. My wife had 3 men in the first 3 weeks. Genie back in the bottle? Why would you do that if you are both enjoying it? If there is a problem, just talk it out with your wife. I think your relationship with your wife is about to skyrocket!

Have fun and good luck to both of you!

[Pufferfish]

She'll tell you that she can put that genie back in the bottle whenever you want her to... but that's never going to happen.

This is something that most women want, but very very few ever get. Almost all convince themselves and each other that these "slutty" thoughts will never happen, so it's best not to think about it or expect it. She's going to feel like she won the lottery. And if this is "your" fantasy, then you both won it.

My wife was hesitant to be honest with just how much she wanted this until it actually happened, then she had another guy ready to go the next week with a huge dick. Once the "Holy shit, this is real!" sets in, there's no un-ringing that bell lol. Congrats and good luck StockingHubby.

[ProfessorH]

My HW and I have both marveled at how normal this now feels.

Yes, she still gets the nervous butterflies before a new vanilla meet or before seeing one of her FWBs…but once things start it just feels right.

Should we decide to stop someday, it’ll be with a huge warehouse of memories of the journey together.

But for now…methinks the warehouse shall continue to fill!

[StockingHubby]

Amazing responses - thank you. I have been in “pinch me” I can’t believe this” mode for nearly 4 months now….

We definitely both won the lottery.

Oh, and I posted this yesterday, right? Well, as of this afternoon, make that SEVEN, but who’s counting?

[Cdncuck]

Could you put the genie back in the bottle? I imagine there are people who could but my wife and aren't among them. Stopping has never crossed my mind. We started this quite young. We were still dating. She was 18 at that time and told me after her second time with someone else she would never stop. That's how fast we both took to it.

[StockingHubby]

Could you put the genie back in the bottle? I imagine there are people who could but my wife and aren't among them. Stopping has never crossed my mind. We started this quite young. We were still dating. She was 18 at that time and told me after her second time with someone else she would never stop. That's how fast we both took to it.

Wow! Just amazing.

Yeah, have no intentions to go back, look back, or put back. Just incredible to see her jump in with both feet. To hear one’s wife say, “I just want to be fucked” as she’s setting up the next date is exhilarating!

[Abrandnewstart194]

Impossible now. My Queen cucked me sixteen months ago for the first time. Her Bull fucked her brains out for seven hours that day, and give her dozens of the most powerful orgasms of her life that day. It was four months before they played together again, but despite that, and morning after mixed feelings, by the afternoon after cucking me, she knew she needed this, and was asking for more.

We went back and forth about it before their next play date, and even after she started fucking him regularly. For the first twelve months, it was something she had fun doing, but still could stop, or take breaks as needed.

After our cuckiversary, however, all of that changed. My queen discovered that she needs this, and admitted that it’s too late for her to even think about quitting. She told me she started this for me, but is now doing it for herself, and couldn’t stop if she wanted to stop. She tells me that her now owns her, and she is overjoyed to have become his “property.”

This woman was a fiercely independent, vanilla wife trapped in a sexless marriage three years ago, but now she celebrates joyfully being the insatiable, utterly sexually submissive sex slave to her Bull and Master. She adores what her Bull has transformed her into through her slut training.

[BD8280]

Amazing responses to this thread. I’ve been slowly convincing my wife for over 5 years…. We’re closer than ever now with life becoming a bit easier and the kid’s growth up a bit. Also every time we have sex it’s always about her being fucked by another guy, I think she has finally been worn down! She’s said a lot of good things lately, tonight for the first time she said she’s going to travel away this summer by herself and find a guy to fuck. I’m excited for our lives to change like people have said here, I’m hopeful my vanilla wife with an average sex drive will turn into a hotwife with the highest sex drive. My fingers are crossed and I’m looking forward to not being able to put the genie back in the bottle

[SRKnight]

My HW said after her first time she could quit anytime she wanted. After the first year she didn’t say that again. Now after 14 years of the HW lifestyle she freely admits that if I asked her to stop she would just become a cheating wife.

[Parsifal]

My HW said after her first time she could quit anytime she wanted. After the first year she didn’t say that again. Now after 14 years of the HW lifestyle she freely admits that if I asked her to stop she would just become a cheating wife.

Not that I have any present inclination to test my own wife's assurance that she could abandon the lifestyle after 8 years and not carry on by cheating. But just the thought of putting her to that kind of loyalty test brings to mind the Bible story of God demanding that Abraham sacrifice his son, Issac, to test Abraham's faith. Who am I to ask my wife to sacrifice that much happiness just to prove her loyalty?

[SRKnight]

My HW said after her first time she could quit anytime she wanted. After the first year she didn’t say that again. Now after 14 years of the HW lifestyle she freely admits that if I asked her to stop she would just become a cheating wife.

Not that I have any present inclination to test my own wife's assurance that she could abandon the lifestyle after 8 years and not carry on by cheating. But just the thought of putting her to that kind of loyalty test brings to mind the Bible story of God demanding that Abraham sacrifice his son, Issac, to test Abraham's faith. Who am I to ask my wife to sacrifice that much happiness just to prove her loyalty?

I think mine knows I’d never ask her to

[Whenwillshe]

Amazing responses to this thread. I’ve been slowly convincing my wife for over 5 years…. We’re closer than ever now with life becoming a bit easier and the kid’s growth up a bit. Also every time we have sex it’s always about her being fucked by another guy, I think she has finally been worn down! She’s said a lot of good things lately, tonight for the first time she said she’s going to travel away this summer by herself and find a guy to fuck. I’m excited for our lives to change like people have said here, I’m hopeful my vanilla wife with an average sex drive will turn into a hotwife with the highest sex drive. My fingers are crossed and I’m looking forward to not being able to put the genie back in the bottle

Sounds very cool.
Please keep us posted.

[Wifesharing]

I think it can be put back in the bottle but not sure it is something many will want. For us it is like I don't want her to stop she has had periods where she was just no that interested in playing and so have I but much more her. During those times when one or the other is not interested we have not played.

I think if I told my wife that I wanted to stop playing for ever she would stop. I am sure it would require a good deal of talking and explaining what changed, as it should I think she would be more concerned in what is going on in my head then losing her extra play.

[leo-cpl]

I think we the hubby n the hotwife are enjoying the discussion of putting the genie back in the bottle may never come up. That being said there might be temp long gaps due to various reasons.
For us when we started out wife always kept repeating that she's agreeing to this only for a couple of years to try and see coz I was keen and she doesn't see doing this long term and now after close to 4 years we are still playing, I wanna say she stopped saying that she doesn't wanna do this long term between the 2nd and 3rd year in the lifestyle !!!! lol she just doesn't bring it up anymore

[StockingHubby]

Update nearly 10 months into the lifestyle: she’s insatiable and gets antsy if she doesn’t have a date setup in the coming week. She calls her dates “adventures” and spontaneously says things like, “We’re never going back…”. Wow!

She openly admits that she has a high sex drive and is having a blast. We’ve evolved a bit where she now has some solo overnight dates and it’s super hot to me to see her get ready and really go after these experiences. Clearly she’s in the drivers seat in terms of motivation.

[Vegas Cpl]

I don't think we will stop at this point. She's become comfortable and confident with what we have going on. Recently restarted a few months ago and she's been playing at least once a week since.

[bbarnsworth]

StockingHubby: I'm very happy for you! It's really wonderful to have finally achieved this after 10+ years!!!

For my wife, it took 7 years of marriage (the 7 year itch! ) Before we got together, I'd briefly been part of a poly-triad. I told my (now) wife about it not long after we'd started dating (and some time after the triad ended). She wasn't happy about it, and made it very clear that wasn't going to happen, and she had no interest. I never brought up the idea of swinging or hotwifing to her. At all. None, nada, zip. I was ok with us being monogamous. I really was! Then, 7 years in, some bit flipped in her and she openly voiced that the idea of two men massaging her at once was appealing. I was absolutely _floored_. Never in a million years would I have expected her to say that!

A few months later, after lots of talking and considering, we finally decided to try it. A few so-so encounters after that, she was having sex with a guy that was literally making her toes curl. She just couldn't get enough sex from him. She absolutely loved him fucking her, and did so for a long time in that first session with him (there were a few after that one). When we left and got in the car, she said to me "Ok, wow! Now I'm a swinger!" and she was all in 100%. Over the next ten years, she had a lot of sex partners, and two long term boyfriends. She's stepped back from it now, and doesn't play like she used to. It's all up to her, with no pressure for me. She knows I'd love for her to have a regular boyfriend (or 3!) again.

[Her number1]

After her doing this for over 30 years, I can not imagine that she would "put the genie back", and I would Never ask her to do so.

[StockingHubby]

I think it can be put back in the bottle but not sure it is something many will want. For us it is like I don't want her to stop she has had periods where she was just no that interested in playing and so have I but much more her. During those times when one or the other is not interested we have not played.

I think if I told my wife that I wanted to stop playing for ever she would stop. I am sure it would require a good deal of talking and explaining what changed, as it should I think she would be more concerned in what is going on in my head then losing her extra play.

Nearly every word of this is just perfectly stated! I feel like I could’ve written it exactly as you did. The sentiment about not wanting to put the genie back in the bottle all the way to our reactions to different ups and downs.

[54321]

What a wonderful thread!

54321

[StockingHubby]

Officially over a year into this journey and I often still wonder what draws my wife to this. There are times where I would be fine if we chilled a bit and took a slower pace, but she is relentless in her pursuit. We’ve discussed this and she seems to be at a loss for words other than the thrill of NRE.

Don’t take my pondering as misgivings in any way. I know exactly what I get out of this and I love it. But she is like a wild beast! Her libido is insatiable.

Any help or insight from you folks appreciated!

[Tank Turner]

This is something that most women want, but very very few ever get. Almost all convince themselves and each other that these "slutty" thoughts will never happen, so it's best not to think about it or expect it. She's going to feel like she won the lottery. And if this is "your" fantasy, then you both won it.

Hey Pufferfish,

My wife told me the same thing. Most wives would fuck other men if their husbands would not prevent them.

I knew on the evening of our first date that my wife was extremely sexually experienced. I'll never forget my memory of her leading me to her bedroom after our date. She was confident that we'd fuck when I dropped her off at her complex. After her bedroom door closed, we locked our mouths for an eternity before backing away from each other. She looked at me as though she was expecting the same reaction she saw in men before me as she began to get naked. I didn't hesitate. After more passionate kissing during which she stroked my granite hard cock while her thumb stimulated the ejaculation glands at the head of my cock, she got on her knees and gave me the best blowjob I ever had. She swallowed within seconds. She would later tell me that she learned long before she met me that stimulating ejaculation glands caused men cum quickly when she gave them blowjobs.

I laid on her bed with my head on a pillow. She put her face next to mine. After normal small talk, she looked at me and told me that her favorite position was doggie style, and she was on birth control. I was enamored of her sexual confidence. After the third time I fucked her, I knew that there was no way I could keep pace with her libido.

I went down on her that evening. Weeks later, she told me that no one performed oral sex on her like I did. After I asked her to marry me and she agreed, she told me that she knew we would marry after I went down on her on the evening of our first date. Women have nearly flawless intuition. I have no idea of how many times she's told me that she's addicted to receiving oral sex.

We have always been able to talk sex openly, honestly, and without judgment. We've dirty talked each other long before we married. She got into it while I was fucking her doggie and telling her that she should have a hard cock in her mouth.

I knew in my early 30s that our libidos were going in the opposite direction. Hers was headed skyward. Our multi-partner dirty talk frequency increased. Hence, it wasn't a surprise when she confidently told me she would seduce a man on evening we were going to a nightclub. She accomplished her objective. Later that evening, we had our first MFM sport fucking event. If sport fucking or hotwifing were an Olympic sport, my wife would be a gold medalist.

MFM sex is probably the most normal and common women's sexual fantasy or close to it. As your reply indicated, what my wife told me, and what I've read, most wives would fuck men other than their husbands if they were in secure marriages. Well over 50% of wives fuck other men without their husbands' knowledge.

[slenderfish]

My wife SW, after some years of my discussing and fantasizing, did jump into it in the fall of 2020 and was active with two guys (I think it was actually three guys) beginning in September and ending in December. She was really hot and into it over the long Thanksgiving weekend that year, meeting up with her new bull (Mr. S) and on the off day with him, she seduced a prior boyfriend (Mr. M).

But she was expecting romance and the "BFE" from them, and they were essentially just "down to fuck" as they say.

So despite the intrigue and fun of the sex, it seems she couldn't get into it like she hoped. She knows my desire and interest and teases from time to time, but apparently we are waiting for the right guy to light her fire, if that might happen.