Hotwife emotions and How to support them.

[DonVito4u]

Hello Everyone,

A year and a half in the Hotwife Lifestyle, we've had some great and not so great experiences.

On Saturday went to a fun Halloween kink hotel party.
Wife met and connected with two men and later that night we brought them back to our hotel room. It was the first time she had sex with two strange men at the same time.

After about 30 minutes one left, the other stayed and she continued playing with him into the early morning. She was amazing. I didn't get to play with her since she was sore and too tired for me. I understood as she fell asleep.

Later that night back at home. She mentioned that she felt embarrassed and a shame. I tried my best to counter her feelings but we were both really tired to continue the conversation.. I thoroughly enjoyed the experience and would like more of her.

Q:

1. Are her feelings normal 24 hours after a marathon Hotwife session?

2. As a loving husband how do I proceed? How do I support?

Would love to hear from Hotwifes and Husbands

Thank You

[parklife]

Without having been there or know anything more, I’d say that yeah, that could be pretty normal. After nearly every first time new experience with someone my wife felt shame and/or regret. She later felt exhilarated and excited after a time.

Some of that is just the rush of emotions and the after shocks… if she was drinking, if they’re new partners, if they were strangers and she’s never really done anything with strangers, it all makes sense. Id at least say it’s not abnormal to have a sense of embarrassment. Maybe she felt a loss of control or loss of having all her wits about her.

Regardless, you proceed with supporting her at her pace of acceptance. You reassure her how much you love her and if there is any doubt in her mind about embarrassing things or shameful thoughts, you squash them with reassuring love and words of acceptance. Not your acceptance but encouraging her acceptance of herself. She may be slit shaming herself in some sense… you should make sure she doesn’t fall into that rut by making her know you love and support her and that they (the strangers) don’t think that either.

You’re there to be her rock and safe space.. whatever that means for her. Even if that means asking her what that means for her.

[ugcp]

It sounds like it was quite a few hours of high intensity experiences: first the party, then apparently sex for hours (with 2 people at one point). If you consider neurochemisty, she probably significantly depleted multiple hormones, and the next day would likely have a pretty devere "drop". This would also be amplified if any mood altering substances were consumed (including alcohol). This drop can manifest in various emotions, and given the context, shame would seem a likely one. Basically, she'd be coming down from a high, and her emotions could be delicate and her perceptions could be distorted.

It's now been a couple more days. How is she feeling now? I imagine she may be more positive about it, especially if you indicate a positive (but mellow) vibe about it from your end. The method of doing so matters too, though. I wouldn't get too over the top or pervy, since that could inadvertently reinforce her previous negative feelings, even if you intended such comments in a positive manner (though if she starts discussing it in a positive way, especially in a few days, you could indulge her).

[annsman]

My wife knew I would be turned on hearing about it and enjoining her wet from the other man and she obviously enjoyed sex with him, so she was excited, happy and horny as was i.

[BT2]

When we started out we had no thought of recreational sex involving anybody but the two of us. We tried out various turn-ons, including going to a nude beach, but never involving a third party. We had heard of bodyrub parlors in our city, thought it would be a turn on for her to have a body-rub, but none of the establishments would take a woman client. One such place recommended a local adult paper with adult classifieds, so we had a look. We found an ad' from a guy who gave (free) bodyrubs to women. We visited him one evening. He was mindful, respectful, and not pushy.

It started with her on her tummy under a towel, him fully clothed, and me watching. The massage on her back started out "normal" enough, but the towel disappeared about 20 minutes in. It was time for her to turn over. It was the first time I had ever seen her full frontal naked, hard nipples, black bush, for another man. My heart started to pound. He started rubbing her breasts. A few minutes later she was tugging at his pants. He got the hint and got undressed. He got close to her pussy, she didn't demur, I nodded my o.k., and he started fondling her pussy and she rubbed his cock. She ended by having a happy ending.

Several weeks later we returned. this time the bodyrub started out with them both being naked, no towel, and ended with mutual oral.

Now to the question implied in this post. I was so excited that it took over a week for me to think of much else. (The third vist she became a full fledged hotwife.)

[Spencer1]

BT2 that had to be such a rush!