Losing your love of life trying cuckolding

[cuck_old_bf]

I never thought a fantasy would someday cost me this much.

I were in a committed relationship with a girl for almost 5 years. We so loved each other and everything was just more than perfect between us. We discussed about cuckolding and other fantasies. She rejected to engage with other men at the first place. But slowly I convinced her and she tried little bit of hooking up with guys who used to flirt with her. She didn’t like all these at all, she had been doing all this just for me. She told me it's impossible for her to engage with someone sexually if there is no connection between them. I was frustrated and stopped forcing her to try cuckolding further.

Couple years later, she moved to another city for her university purpose. We started long distance and it was very hard for us. She became lonely and depressed. Few days later she found out a nice guy who was her classmate. He was generous, kind and used to help her in academics every now and then. They became good friends soon and used to hang out everyday. This is the first I saw her interested in someone else other than me. She really liked him and all the time she used to talk about him. That lowkey gave me a boner that she finally started liking other men. I told her to try cuckolding with him and surprisingly she agreed! I was not expecting that she would agree that easily. However she told me that she still needed some time to develop some connection between them. So they started dating, hanging around the city as boyfriend girlfriend. I was way too happy that the dream I dreamt for so many years finally coming true. But I didn’t realise the more they're coming close, the more I'm getting farther from her.

They developed feelings for each other. They were with each other all the time, making love, having sex everyday. Slowly she started caring about me less. We used to talk very little over phone as she used to be with him all the time. Slowly she lost her all interest on me and fell in love with her lover. She was so into him. Finally one day her lover asked her to be exclusive to him and told her if she wanted to be with him, she had to dump me. Thus she in love with him dumped me and broke up with me.

I lost my love of life. Since then my life is ruined and messed up.

I so love being a cuckold but I wish I never tried it with her. A fantasy has cost me my love of life. Has anyone else gone through shits like me?

[NSEW1]

I’m very sorry to hear of your experience. This can happen in any long distance relationship with or without cuckolding. I think in the future it may be prudent to establish a firm commitment to each other first before going down this path, have more precisely communicated ground rules about not crossing certain boundaries, and visiting frequently to keep your own spark alive.

I hope you find love again.

[belvedere]

I'm sorry for your sadness. I agree with the above statement, and I'll say more, I believe she would end up with him anyway given the distance from you... I've heard many similar stories and none related to cuckolding.

[wannabecuck95]

Hello friend,

I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. It must be very difficult for you after such a long relationship. You must also be struggling with a lot of guilt, thinking that you are responsible for this. However, I must offer you another perspective.

I actually don’t think that cuckolding per se was the True reason for the relationship ending. I believe it was the long distance relationship to be completely honest. Long distance relationships are in general extremely difficult. This is especially true if the long distance relationship does not have an end date where the couple eventually meets up and live together again. I suppose this could be the case in your situation, since your girlfriend moved to another city in order to study at university. A situation like this is extremely volatile for cuckolding. In order to pursue cuckolding with your partner, you have to have a very secure and stable relationship. There have to be no or very little problems. There has to be open communication on all levels. Otherwise, it just won’t work and may fire back. You tried cuckolding with your girlfriend in a suboptimal situation. Don’t feel bad or guilty that you were at fault here. However, let’s just say that trying out the fantasy was the straw that broke the camels back.

Last but not least, don’t start to hate yourself for having your fantasies and desires. Remember that it was not the reason in enough of itself for your relationship ending for the reasons mentioned above. This is important, because I don’t believe that your fantasies or desires will somehow subside. Once you have these urges and are turned on by them, they usually stay with you.

Best of luck, fellow stranger. This too shall pass.

[wannabecuck95]

Hello friend,

I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. It must be very difficult for you after such a long relationship. You must also be struggling with a lot of guilt, thinking that you are responsible for this. However, I must offer you another perspective.

I actually don’t think that cuckolding per se was the True reason for the relationship ending. I believe it was the long distance relationship to be completely honest. Long distance relationships are in general extremely difficult. This is especially true if the long distance relationship does not have an end date where the couple eventually meets up and live together again. I suppose this could be the case in your situation, since your girlfriend moved to another city in order to study at university. A situation like this is extremely volatile for cuckolding. In order to pursue cuckolding with your partner, you have to have a very secure and stable relationship. There have to be no or very little problems. There has to be open communication on all levels. Otherwise, it just won’t work and may fire back. You tried cuckolding with your girlfriend in a suboptimal situation. Don’t feel bad or guilty that you were at fault here. However, let’s just say that trying out the fantasy was the straw that broke the camels back.

Last but not least, don’t start to hate yourself for having your fantasies and desires. Remember that it was not the reason in enough of itself for your relationship ending for the reasons mentioned above. This is important, because I don’t believe that your fantasies or desires will somehow subside. Once you have these urges and are turned on by them, they usually stay with you.

Best of luck, fellow stranger. This too shall pass.

[Cdncuck]

You tried it, it didn't work this time. When you are ready, find another hotwife or girlfriend.

My first hotwife left me for another. I met another woman who became my hotwife and we've been married 40 years now.

[trecital]

A risk you take. But you went into it by agreement.

[mrglad2cu2]

Hi

Lost distance relationships are very difficult to begin with. I have been in one for 7 years. Two girls before that but were not a match.

I knew I wanted to be in this lifestyle so I explained it to the third one and she agreed before we met in person. Naturally there is going to be a 'Coming to America' moment if you have seen the movie. AKA I like what you like. All three said the same thing but the third was the only one I tried with when I visited. Just to make sure. Had the usual discussion with why ??? After a few times it became why not. They are so used to jealous bfs.

She was already an exhibitionist so that made things easy. She took lovers when we were together and apart. However being in an Asian country there is a lot of gossip if she plays when I am not there. When I am there I am in a hotel or we can go to their hotel. It is hard for her to get privacy there. So she is known as a slut by her family and neighbours. However she is now proud of it and doesn't care what anyone thinks.

I have told her that SLUT stands for
Sexually Liberated Unique Tri-Sexual and she is happy with that description. Her daughters and their friends want to follow in her footsteps. Mother is 39 and oldest daughter is 22.

I am 67 and have just retired and moved to their country and will have a lot of girls living with me. I am vascectomy safe so they all want to be trained to fuck foreigners so I am not complaining. I will have a lot of hot girlfriends.

They are all moving in tomorrow. They wanted me to rent a reasonable distance away from family and neighbours so we will have a house dedicated to SLUTS with no family interference although a lot are sisters or cousins or mothers and daughters. Just all the black sheep of the family. Ha Ha

I just wanted to say that despite the risk some long distance relationships do work out okay.

[sandy691196]

Many long distance relationships work out.

The probability of it not working out is directly proportional to the SO's loss of respect for her partner. Here the OP saw his GF actively resisting any casual liaison without a "connection"..
OP insisted. He continued insisting even when he found his SO developing a real connection in a place where he was absent physically.
The writing was on the wall.

[BigJim]

Sorry to hear that she left you. Having been in exactly the same situation I can well understand what you are going through. Don't lose courage !