Beginnings

[HotwifeLatam]

Hello community I'm D (F35), and I've been on this platform for two days. I've been married to F (M44), for 14 years, and for those 14 years, I've been exclusively his, carnally speaking.

Two years ago, my husband first told me about this world, of which I was completely unaware. From that moment on, many doubts arose in my mind. I even got a little upset with him. Is he cheating, and does he want me to fall for it too? Is he gay? These were my questions.

We decided to share our intimacy on Twitter/X...without showing our faces. My attention was totally focused on one man in particular, who, after seeing my photos without clothes for three months, decided to talk to me. This man is a 51-year-old Frenchman with whom I had sex for the first time via videocall. I masturbated in front of the camera for this man like a cock-hungry slut, while my husband watched me from one end of the room.

This Frenchman is very skilled at the game of seduction. Months after we started talking, I allowed him to disrespect my husband by saying things like, "Your husband is stupid; I wouldn't share you," "Your husband has low testosterone," and "Your husband opened a Pandora's Box." And... I started having problems with my husband. I felt that the Frenchman was right at some point, and he suggested deleting my Hotwife Twitter account and made me feel ashamed, so I deleted it. This made my husband very angry, because, I was, in a way, obeying another man who wasn't him.

After this episode, we realized that this is a somewhat dangerous fantasy and that we'd better talk about it a lot more before taking the step of making it completely real.


I understand that there are different levels here, all very exciting, and I'm here because I love erotic reading. I also want to know from men what motivates them to share their wives. Additionally, I want to know how the beautiful Hotwives on this forum manage to dodge powerfully seductive men who threaten their marriages.

(Sorry if I had any grammatical errors; English is not my language).

[armyguyot1]

Marriages are based on love and trust and respect. Sex if for fun. They should get in the way of each other.

[zorro]

My respectful recommendation is to figure out what YOU want and pursue that.

[HotwifeLatam]

Marriages are based on love and trust and respect. Sex if for fun. They should get in the way of each other.

I agree, I think that no matter how human we are, there is an animal nature in us women that sometimes overcomes reason.

There is a possibility (to which you are exposed) that other people who wish to have access to your body will begin to manipulate you with their mind games and try (just as a hobby) to destroy the beautiful relationship you've built, one where you trust each other enough to be open and express your carnal desires

So, do you think initiating this dynamic is a good test of how much we trust each other?

[HotwifeLatam]

My respectful recommendation is to figure out what YOU want and pursue that.

Thanks for the feedback. We'll see how everything develops.

[zorro]

Marriages are based on love and trust and respect. Sex if for fun. They should get in the way of each other.

I agree, I think that no matter how human we are, there is an animal nature in us women that sometimes overcomes reason.

There is a possibility (to which you are exposed) that other people who wish to have access to your body will begin to manipulate you with their mind games and try (just as a hobby) to destroy the beautiful relationship you've built, one where you trust each other enough to be open and express your carnal desires

So, do you think initiating this dynamic is a good test of how much we trust each other?

Yes. There are few ways to better establish trustworthiness than being honest with your love and partner about your true sexual desires and activities. We have found that sharing my wife has deepened our trust and intimacy. There are few better ways to know what your spouse is actually experiencing than to be present while she fulfills her sexual wishes. Having sex with other people does not destroy relationships. Dishonesty, deceit, lying, sneakiness, and poor communication murder them. Others cannot manipulate you if you communicate to your husband what they are doing so as to maintain a dialogue. Outing them protects your marriage. You may eventually find outside lovers fulfill needs your husband does not. That can be okay and can paradoxically strengthen your marriage once you realize depending on one partner to fulfill all your needs and desires is in fact hard to do if not impossible. Being able to enjoy others as well as your husband is key to a good outcome. We have been through these threats to loyalty infrequently and through good communication and trustworthy behavior on her part survived them when they came along.

Our culture assumes that having sex with another man is evidence that the woman is leaving the relationship. Experience has taught us that assumption is dead wrong. It can be true but need not be when you are shared out of love.

[sc7557]

Hello community I'm D (F35), and I've been on this platform for two days. I've been married to F (M44), for 14 years, and for those 14 years, I've been exclusively his, carnally speaking.

Two years ago, my husband first told me about this world, of which I was completely unaware. From that moment on, many doubts arose in my mind. I even got a little upset with him. Is he cheating, and does he want me to fall for it too? Is he gay? These were my questions.

We decided to share our intimacy on Twitter/X...without showing our faces. My attention was totally focused on one man in particular, who, after seeing my photos without clothes for three months, decided to talk to me. This man is a 51-year-old Frenchman with whom I had sex for the first time via videocall. I masturbated in front of the camera for this man like a cock-hungry slut, while my husband watched me from one end of the room.

This Frenchman is very skilled at the game of seduction. Months after we started talking, I allowed him to disrespect my husband by saying things like, "Your husband is stupid; I wouldn't share you," "Your husband has low testosterone," and "Your husband opened a Pandora's Box." And... I started having problems with my husband. I felt that the Frenchman was right at some point, and he suggested deleting my Hotwife Twitter account and made me feel ashamed, so I deleted it. This made my husband very angry, because, I was, in a way, obeying another man who wasn't him.

After this episode, we realized that this is a somewhat dangerous fantasy and that we'd better talk about it a lot more before taking the step of making it completely real.


I understand that there are different levels here, all very exciting, and I'm here because I love erotic reading. I also want to know from men what motivates them to share their wives. Additionally, I want to know how the beautiful Hotwives on this forum manage to dodge powerfully seductive men who threaten their marriages.

(Sorry if I had any grammatical errors; English is not my language).

So hot!

[Deeperlove1369]

Hello, stag here. Sounds like your 3rd (we actually hate the term 'Bull') was into cuckold and humiliation. While there are plenty of cucks and the women that love them out there, that's a whole different ball game. Personally, I would want to knock that guy out and if my wife liked it, there'd be big trouble in little china as I am the primary lover to my goddess. I LOVE my beautiful wife of 30 years getting hit on, flirted with, and ravished by another man, there's nothing like it in the world...as long as there is love, respect, trust, and unconditional open communication and none of that cuck nonsense for us. I suggest you do a little research on the "Stag & Vixen" side of the Hotwife lifestyle if you both want to continue experimenting in this lifestyle.

[HotwifeLatam]

Marriages are based on love and trust and respect. Sex if for fun. They should get in the way of each other.

I agree, I think that no matter how human we are, there is an animal nature in us women that sometimes overcomes reason.

There is a possibility (to which you are exposed) that other people who wish to have access to your body will begin to manipulate you with their mind games and try (just as a hobby) to destroy the beautiful relationship you've built, one where you trust each other enough to be open and express your carnal desires

So, do you think initiating this dynamic is a good test of how much we trust each other?

Yes. There are few ways to better establish trustworthiness than being honest with your love and partner about your true sexual desires and activities. We have found that sharing my wife has deepened our trust and intimacy. There are few better ways to know what your spouse is actually experiencing than to be present while she fulfills her sexual wishes. Having sex with other people does not destroy relationships. Dishonesty, deceit, lying, sneakiness, and poor communication murder them. Others cannot manipulate you if you communicate to your husband what they are doing so as to maintain a dialogue. Outing them protects your marriage. You may eventually find outside lovers fulfill needs your husband does not. That can be okay and can paradoxically strengthen your marriage once you realize depending on one partner to fulfill all your needs and desires is in fact hard to do if not impossible. Being able to enjoy others as well as your husband is key to a good outcome. We have been through these threats to loyalty infrequently and through good communication and trustworthy behavior on her part survived them when they came along.

Our culture assumes that having sex with another man is evidence that the woman is leaving the relationship. Experience has taught us that assumption is dead wrong. It can be true but need not be when you are shared out of love.

First of all, I appreciate that you have sincerely shared your experience in this lifestyle with me.

My husband wants to see me with other men, with everyone except that Frenchman, and I was rebellious, I wanted him to agree, despite knowing that the Frenchman had played those mind games.

Has your wife ever begged you for permission for her to have sex with someone who made you uncomfortable and you agreed out of fear of losing her? If so, how did you handle that situation?

I don't want to do anything without my husband's authorization, for me my husband is my owner, and of course he also has to be respected and tell me NO when necessary.

[MartasBoy]

Hello community I'm D (F35), and I've been on this platform for two days. I've been married to F (M44), for 14 years, and for those 14 years, I've been exclusively his.

This Frenchman is very skilled at the game of seduction. Months after we started talking, I allowed him to disrespect my husband by saying things like, "Your husband is stupid; I wouldn't share you," "Your husband has low testosterone," and "Your husband opened a Pandora's Box." And... I started having problems with my husband. I felt that the Frenchman was right at some point, and he suggested deleting my Hotwife Twitter account and made me feel ashamed, so I deleted it.

The Frenchman is not a good candidate for a wife to play with. In the hotwife community, the boyfriends who play with them understand some boundaries and rules of respect. The nice people recognize that the husband has this fantasy it allows them to enjoy love making with the wife. They show respect for both, recognizing that they are being allowed a very special privilege.

The Frenchman is not kind or respectful toward your marriage or your husband. He would put your marriage at risk. I would suggest you find play partners who understand the unspoken rules of respect. There are plenty of them.

After this episode, we realized that this is a somewhat dangerous fantasy and that we'd better talk about it a lot more before taking the step of making it completely real.

It is only dangerous if you play with those kind of men like the Frenchman, who do not respect your husband or your marriage, and may take pleasure in destroying it.
There are good and honorable people playing in this lifestyle. Find one of those.

I understand that there are different levels here, all very exciting, and I'm here because I love erotic reading.

Yes there are many many levels. Read around this website, to learn the different levels and ways of playing, and find out what would be best for you.

[HotwifeLatam]

Hello, stag here. Sounds like your 3rd (we actually hate the term 'Bull') was into cuckold and humiliation. While there are plenty of cucks and the women that love them out there, that's a whole different ball game. Personally, I would want to knock that guy out and if my wife liked it, there'd be big trouble in little china as I am the primary lover to my goddess. I LOVE my beautiful wife of 30 years getting hit on, flirted with, and ravished by another man, there's nothing like it in the world...as long as there is love, respect, trust, and unconditional open communication and none of that cuck nonsense for us. I suggest you do a little research on the "Stag & Vixen" side of the Hotwife lifestyle if you both want to continue experimenting in this lifestyle.

Yes, I like the 3rd, (well I liked him) and my husband told me he wants to kill him, with a real hatred, I must admit that this attitude that my husband takes makes me feel desire for him, my husband really makes me feel like his wife, for a while I insisted, but I don't want to try it anymore, I want to respect my man. And if he says no it's no.

Have you had any similar problems with your wife?

Do you think the 3rd liked to be humiliated? I thought it was him who liked to humiliate people since he thinks he is alpha.


Thanks again for your recommendations, I'm going to investigate, I'm finding out that those terms exist.

[HotwifeLatam]

Hello community I'm D (F35), and I've been on this platform for two days. I've been married to F (M44), for 14 years, and for those 14 years, I've been exclusively his.

This Frenchman is very skilled at the game of seduction. Months after we started talking, I allowed him to disrespect my husband by saying things like, "Your husband is stupid; I wouldn't share you," "Your husband has low testosterone," and "Your husband opened a Pandora's Box." And... I started having problems with my husband. I felt that the Frenchman was right at some point, and he suggested deleting my Hotwife Twitter account and made me feel ashamed, so I deleted it.

The Frenchman is not a good candidate for a wife to play with. In the hotwife community, the boyfriends who play with them understand some boundaries and rules of respect. The nice people recognize that the husband has this fantasy it allows them to enjoy love making with the wife. They show respect for both, recognizing that they are being allowed a very special privilege.

The Frenchman is not kind or respectful toward your marriage or your husband. He would put your marriage at risk. I would suggest you find play partners who understand the unspoken rules of respect. There are plenty of them.

Yeah! Now I get it! Thank everyone for helping me out.

The French definitely won't do it! My husband thinks the same. A disrespectful guy. He didn't care about our marriage or what we wanted. Zero courtesy! But maybe it was inexperience , My animal instincts played tricks on me! I was attracted to how daring he was, but in the end, This helped us rekindle the flame in our marriage! We are having more sex than ever! We are super horny for each other! My husband reminds me who is in charge and in those moments we love to dream about our fantasies.

We'll see if we stay with the fantasy, or if at some point it becomes reality...

[Deeperlove1369]

Hello, stag here. Sounds like your 3rd (we actually hate the term 'Bull') was into cuckold and humiliation. While there are plenty of cucks and the women that love them out there, that's a whole different ball game. Personally, I would want to knock that guy out and if my wife liked it, there'd be big trouble in little china as I am the primary lover to my goddess. I LOVE my beautiful wife of 30 years getting hit on, flirted with, and ravished by another man, there's nothing like it in the world...as long as there is love, respect, trust, and unconditional open communication and none of that cuck nonsense for us. I suggest you do a little research on the "Stag & Vixen" side of the Hotwife lifestyle if you both want to continue experimenting in this lifestyle.

Yes, I like the 3rd, (well I liked him) and my husband told me he wants to kill him, with a real hatred, I must admit that this attitude that my husband takes makes me feel desire for him, my husband really makes me feel like his wife, for a while I insisted, but I don't want to try it anymore, I want to respect my man. And if he says no it's no.

Have you had any similar problems with your wife?

Do you think the 3rd liked to be humiliated? I thought it was him who liked to humiliate people since he thinks he is alpha.


Thanks again for your recommendations, I'm going to investigate, I'm finding out that those terms exist.

You're quite welcome hotwifeLatam. No we haven't had those issues because we only had 3 "3rds" 2016-2018 and they were all super respectful. We took a hiatus from 2018-just a few weeks ago as she had an emotional let-down when her fav moved away, kinda cute actually. Life got in the way and we lost in everyday monotony, but we're making our way back now. The main problem we have is meeting the right guy she wants to let in her panties.

You're right about the 3rd in your story, he definitely got off humiliating and belittling your husband and the fact he did it without even talking to you means he enjoys belittling everybody in every moment in his life. He's may think he's the top alpha, not a good person.

No doubt this has rekindled the fire with your husband, we fuck like rabbits just when she talks about fucking another man, drives me bananas (in a very good way). Once you both try a few things, you'll find what works best for you. I'm full-throttle, be perfectly happy for her to be much sluttier and start putting notches in our headboard. She's a 1 guy 3rd, long term as she prefers and emotional connection which is fine wit me cuz she's so damn cute when she's got a crush on a guy. Some people ask if we're worried she will fall in love, 100% not worried, her escapades only strengthen us and that emotional connection she craves makes better sex with the 3rd...and better sex for us as well. Best of luck to you, the rewards are far greater than the risks.

[MartasBoy]

..... I also want to know from men what motivates them to share their wives.

Besides the excitement of seeing other men desire our woman, some men have fantasies about having their wife deny them sex, showing preference to their boyfriend. Some like humiliation fantasies as well, like having the wife tell them that her outside lover is better than he is.

This may come from experiences that all men have had, seeking sex from women, and often being denied and turned down. Since we men are expected to pursue the women, the women have the power to accept us or reject us. All of us men have had experience feeling desire for women who turn us down and tell us no. All of us men have some experience with being rejected by women.

We see a woman that we find attractive and we ask her for a date. We have lots and lots of excitement as we get up the courage to ask them for the date. If they accept us, and go on a date with us, there is excitement about that. If we ask them for a date and they turn us down, there is excitement and then rejection. There are many emotions involved in being rejected. We experience this many times, before we are successful and some woman accepts us.

The process of being attracted, asking for a date, sometimes being turned down, and sometimes being accepted, creates lots excitement and a large range of emotions. Some of us get addicted to that excitement..

So, some guys develop fantasies about having been denied, rejected, and maybe even feeling compared to other men.

When you women agree to marry us, that gives us the ultimate excitement. We were attracted to a woman we regarded to be like a goddess, she accepted us, and now she is our goddess wife. That is exciting, but now we no longer have the excitement of asking, being denied, and maybe having another man chosen over us.

So, some husbands develop a fantasy about having their wife denying them sex, but having sex with another man.

The fact that your husband wants to see you be with another man, means that he regards you as being like a beautiful Goddess, and he finds it exciting to be reminded of that, by seeing other men desire you.

Having you deny him sex, makes it exciting, because he desires you even more because of this.

It also means that he trusts you very much, knowing that you might go off and have fun with another man, but you will always come back to be his wife. He gets to feel the excitement of being jealous, but knows that you belong to him in the end.
This applies to many men, but your husband might feel different about some of these things. Ask him what he thinks about how I have described it.

[Deeperlove1369]

Martasboy, everything you describe here is a cuckold situation, there is no chance I would ever derive pleasure from being humiliated or god forbid my wife denies me sex while she gets fucked by other men, that is one of our very few hard rules. I will always reclaim my wife after her rendezvous. Also, we don't view sex as competition nor comparisons, all of us guys are different and we celebrate that, not who is better than who. I will 100% agree that Hotwife husbands are completely devoted to their goddess wives and trust them implicitly with all their being or this just doesn't work.

[Deeperlove1369]

Hello community I'm D (F35), and I've been on this platform for two days. I've been married to F (M44), for 14 years, and for those 14 years, I've been exclusively his, carnally speaking.

Two years ago, my husband first told me about this world, of which I was completely unaware. From that moment on, many doubts arose in my mind. I even got a little upset with him. Is he cheating, and does he want me to fall for it too? Is he gay? These were my questions.

We decided to share our intimacy on Twitter/X...without showing our faces. My attention was totally focused on one man in particular, who, after seeing my photos without clothes for three months, decided to talk to me. This man is a 51-year-old Frenchman with whom I had sex for the first time via videocall. I masturbated in front of the camera for this man like a cock-hungry slut, while my husband watched me from one end of the room.

This Frenchman is very skilled at the game of seduction. Months after we started talking, I allowed him to disrespect my husband by saying things like, "Your husband is stupid; I wouldn't share you," "Your husband has low testosterone," and "Your husband opened a Pandora's Box." And... I started having problems with my husband. I felt that the Frenchman was right at some point, and he suggested deleting my Hotwife Twitter account and made me feel ashamed, so I deleted it. This made my husband very angry, because, I was, in a way, obeying another man who wasn't him.

After this episode, we realized that this is a somewhat dangerous fantasy and that we'd better talk about it a lot more before taking the step of making it completely real.


I understand that there are different levels here, all very exciting, and I'm here because I love erotic reading. I also want to know from men what motivates them to share their wives. Additionally, I want to know how the beautiful Hotwives on this forum manage to dodge powerfully seductive men who threaten their marriages.

(Sorry if I had any grammatical errors; English is not my language).

Hello again young lady, I'd like to share some of my motivation in response to your question "I also want to know from men what motivates them to share their wives." I almost don't know where to start, but here we go.

I've fantasized about this almost our entire 30-year marriage, although I was conflicted as to what society had taught me about being a man, so the only fantasy I shared was wife-swapping with friends and I was pretty consistent on that through the years. She could never envision me with another woman so that never materialized. 21 years into our marriage (in the year 2016), she was away for work and was crushing on a guy that was working there. We have always had open communication, so teasing each other about having boyfriends and girlfriends and who we thought was attractive was normal for us. This time was different, I told her to flirt with him and let it go as far as she wanted - she was floored and didn't believe I was serious or what my "motivation" was. Was I just saying that to hold it over her head later? Was I wanting her to do it because I wanted to use it as leverage to sleep with other women? None of that was remotely true, so I opened up to her about this fantasy I've had for over 2 decades. After much encouragement from me while she was gone for 8 months, she allowed the flirting to take its natural course and got lost in the excitement, and let loose her inhibitions of what society had taught her about being a good wife. I saw an awakening she didn't even know existed in her deepest ocean of mystery and we were both hooked. The stories she shared equaled any erotic story you've ever read and with 100% approval and encouragement from the man she loved, me, and that turned her on. So while this started as a pure sexual fantasy, the love of my life getting fucked into total bliss by another man was intensely hot, and stirred emotions and desires we were not expecting. So I share that story to share what motivates me, a devoted husband, to share my goddess with other men.

1st, it really is so sexy, hot, and sensual that my pleasure is derived from hers, which is also why I have no need to sleep with other women as we both get the NRE dopamine and endorphins from her escapades. Whatever gets her wet, sign me up! You have to understand compersion to fully grasp that when you invite a 3rd into your marriage. I was once told if you feel it too, I don't have to explain it. If you do not feel it too, I cannot explain it.
2d, reality was even FAR BETTER than the fantasy, by leaps and bounds. Love, trust, honesty, devotion, and wide-open communication are essential for you to be a happy and deeply fulfilling hotwife couple.
3rd, I just expected some hot sex/fantasy fulfillment and I got a whole lot more. Our everything got better, deeper love, deeper trust, deeper commitment, deeper respect, deeper thought, deeper discovery, and even deeper communication, and all those were already great. Hence my user name 'deeperlove'. It completely doesn't make sense in the traditional lifestyle roles, how can all this be happening by allowing my wife to have intimate relations with other men? Well, it just does, but it takes all of that for this to work.

So, what motivates me? Everything I said above, but I left out a few things for the end. She's never been an overly sexual woman, sure she liked sex every now and again, but she could really take it or leave it most of the time. She LOVES the whole thing, the flirting, the chase, the attention, and the passionate sex with a new man that is not her husband brings the genie she never thought she had right out of the bottle. The sex she enjoys with another man brings out the tiger in her, and makes me want to devour her when I see how much she feels attractive and sexy to other men. The passion we have now is like we just met ourselves, even 30 years later, the best sex we ever had. Literally every aspect of our lives is enriched, I tell her even my dogs are cuter when she's fucking other men.

[HotwifeLatam]

Martasboy, everything you describe here is a cuckold situation, there is no chance I would ever derive pleasure from being humiliated or god forbid my wife denies me sex while she gets fucked by other men, that is one of our very few hard rules. I will always reclaim my wife after her rendezvous. Also, we don't view sex as competition nor comparisons, all of us guys are different and we celebrate that, not who is better than who. I will 100% agree that Hotwife husbands are completely devoted to their goddess wives and trust them implicitly with all their being or this just doesn't work.

Forgive me, I'm astonished, thank you very much for sharing your experience, I'm going to read your threads right now

[zorro]

[Has your wife ever begged you for permission for her to have sex with someone who made you uncomfortable and you agreed out of fear of losing her? If so, how did you handle that situation?
I don't want to do anything without my husband's authorization, for me my husband is my owner, and of course he also has to be respected and tell me NO when necessary.

Thank you for your appreciative words. By sharing with each other on the Forum, we can learn from each other and grow.

Oh, I never begged her to have sex with anyone. Part of the reason is ethical: I do not own my wife or her body. I have always believed it is her choice to decide who to put inside her and whose erotic presence to surrender to.

But, as a HW hubby, my perversion is an intense, compersive joy at seeing her heightened sexuality and ecstasy with other men (she is not interested in women, not that I would mind). She adores cock and the different sensations and feelings other men can bring her. I delight in her being as sexxual as me -- and when all is said and done, she has been more sexual than me, all to my liking.

The fellow I was referring to was an athletic guy in his 50s from Southern California who she loved to fuck and who really curled her toes. I remember coming upstairs one day to watch her in bed riding his cock cowgirl, with a huge smile on her face. She was beautiful. I sat and watched her keeping his cock hard in her pussy while she was above him for at least 20 minutes. She did not pause except to say hi; later she told me she didn't stop because it felt so good. And I didn't expect or want her to stop. I wanted her to fully be her sexual self with him. And as a multiorgasmic woman, that was a lot of sexual being!

He had been single for over a decade, raising two then teenaged daughters following the unexpected death of their mother. He was alone and didn't want to care for those girls all by himself. He decided he wanted to have my wife all for himself; his religious background did not accommodate him to be a secondary in a relationship, and he became quite intent on winning her over. My wife and I discussed it, and it was clear she just wanted more yummy sex with him and did not want to go off with him. I doubted she would leave me, so although I was mad at him for wanting to steal her, I decided that I wanted her to enjoy the sex with him and that we would deal with the relationship pressure. So, she continued to see him for sex, and made a point to tell him several times all she wanted was to be fucked well and nothing more. Before long, he developed a pattern I hated of setting up sex dates with her and then canceling, including one time when my wife had rented a room in a local hotel for them to fuck in. After a drink at a bar, however, he said he needed to go home to care for his daughters. I mentioned that it was up to her but I really did not like his pattern of getting her hopes up but not then delivering the cock she wanted. After several episodes of being set up to be disappointed, she decided it was not going to work for her and ended their relationship. So, I did not beg her to stay. I told her I wanted her to have when she desired. In time she realized he would give her what she wanted and was bringing her more pain and pleasure. Then moved on.

So, although guys can fuck with a woman's head, if she knows what she wants, no guy can successfully fuck with her. It also depends on the strength of the relationship. Ours was strong, very attached, and committed to mutual honesty. Our being able to communicate about the key stuff made it impossible for him to break us up.

So, no, I never let her have sex out of fear she might leave. Despite not liking the guy, I figured her having what she desired was more important.
For us, it worked.

[Deeperlove1369]

Hello community I'm D (F35), and I've been on this platform for two days. I've been married to F (M44), for 14 years, and for those 14 years, I've been exclusively his, carnally speaking.

Two years ago, my husband first told me about this world, of which I was completely unaware. From that moment on, many doubts arose in my mind. I even got a little upset with him. Is he cheating, and does he want me to fall for it too? Is he gay? These were my questions.

We decided to share our intimacy on Twitter/X...without showing our faces. My attention was totally focused on one man in particular, who, after seeing my photos without clothes for three months, decided to talk to me. This man is a 51-year-old Frenchman with whom I had sex for the first time via videocall. I masturbated in front of the camera for this man like a cock-hungry slut, while my husband watched me from one end of the room.

This Frenchman is very skilled at the game of seduction. Months after we started talking, I allowed him to disrespect my husband by saying things like, "Your husband is stupid; I wouldn't share you," "Your husband has low testosterone," and "Your husband opened a Pandora's Box." And... I started having problems with my husband. I felt that the Frenchman was right at some point, and he suggested deleting my Hotwife Twitter account and made me feel ashamed, so I deleted it. This made my husband very angry, because, I was, in a way, obeying another man who wasn't him.

After this episode, we realized that this is a somewhat dangerous fantasy and that we'd better talk about it a lot more before taking the step of making it completely real.


I understand that there are different levels here, all very exciting, and I'm here because I love erotic reading. I also want to know from men what motivates them to share their wives. Additionally, I want to know how the beautiful Hotwives on this forum manage to dodge powerfully seductive men who threaten their marriages.

(Sorry if I had any grammatical errors; English is not my language).

Hello young lady, I received your PM and replied, but it is still in my outbox. If it doesn't send, I'll post it on this thread, so don't worry, I didn't forget about you.

[Mikay19]

For a greater understanding of this new world, I would suggest a few books. My wife and I have read a lot on many subjects and have consumed at least 5 books on sex, i.e. "Sex at Dawn" was our first book on sex and is a really good intro into our human nature in this area. The last book on sex was "Insatiable Wives". Don't let the title fool you. This book is extremely in-depth on historical and present-day factual stories of men and women who have taken deep dives into this very fascinating and highly erotic world. We like being well educated in all areas but especially something as emotional and personal as sex. As you may have already read some of the comments above, one comment said, in regard to love and sex. "They should get in the way of each other." which I believe they mistyped and meant to say should NOT get in the way of each other. Sex and love can be two sides of the same coin, or they can be completely separate coins. Cheating men and women have been doing it since the beginning. They love their spouses but are bored of mating in captivity. After all, novelty is the spice of life. I don't want to ramble, so if you are into reading do yourself a favor and read at these books. If you hate reading, get the audible version. I would highly recommend Insatiable Wives as your first or only read. This book is really informative. The last thing I will say after reading these books, and in my humble opinion, it comes down to two word...Sperm Wars. However, those words are completely oversimplifying what is really happening on a genetic level. Your mind will be blown when you understand what your body is doing that you are completely unaware of. You might say our human nature is trying to correct the idea of the word "MINE", she's mine, those are mine, this house is mine, etc. We lived in tribes for around 95 million years. No one possessed anyone else. Sorry I rambled anyways. I digress.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Mikay19.

[MartasBoy]

Martasboy, everything you describe here is a cuckold situation, there is no chance I would ever derive pleasure from being humiliated or god forbid my wife denies me sex while she gets fucked by other men, that is one of our very few hard rules. I will always reclaim my wife after her rendezvous. Also, we don't view sex as competition nor comparisons, all of us guys are different and we celebrate that, not who is better than who. I will 100% agree that Hotwife husbands are completely devoted to their goddess wives and trust them implicitly with all their being or this just doesn't work.

Hey Deeperlove, I never ever said that all guys into the hot wife lifestyle or any certain way.

I clearly stated with the qualifier "SOME". I did not say "ALL". I was offering her a wide range of descriptions of how some guys are, to help her understanding.

I literally wrote:

"Besides the excitement of seeing other men desire our woman, SOME men have fantasies about having their wife deny them sex, showing preference to their boyfriend. SOME like humiliation fantasies as well, like having the wife tell them that her outside lover is better than he is."

Everything I said is true. There are some men within this lifestyle, who have those fantasies and interests.

[HotwifeLatam]

He had been single for over a decade, raising two then teenaged daughters following the unexpected death of their mother. He was alone and didn't want to care for those girls all by himself. He decided he wanted to have my wife all for himself; his religious background did not accommodate him to be a secondary in a relationship, and he became quite intent on winning her over. My wife and I discussed it, and it was clear she just wanted more yummy sex with him and did not want to go off with him. I doubted she would leave me, so although I was mad at him for wanting to steal her, I decided that I wanted her to enjoy the sex with him and that we would deal with the relationship pressure. So, she continued to see him for sex, and made a point to tell him several times all she wanted was to be fucked well and nothing more. Before long, he developed a pattern I hated of setting up sex dates with her and then canceling, including one time when my wife had rented a room in a local hotel for them to fuck in. After a drink at a bar, however, he said he needed to go home to care for his daughters. I mentioned that it was up to her but I really did not like his pattern of getting her hopes up but not then delivering the cock she wanted. After several episodes of being set up to be disappointed, she decided it was not going to work for her and ended their relationship. So, I did not beg her to stay. I told her I wanted her to have when she desired. In time she realized he would give her what she wanted and was bringing her more pain and pleasure. Then moved on.

Absolutely, I believe a strong marriage is crucial. Thank you for highlighting that these challenges can occur, but that wise choices can lead to positive outcomes. It's true that a wife plays a significant role in a man's emotional well-being.

So, although guys can fuck with a woman's head, if she knows what she wants, no guy can successfully fuck with her. It also depends on the strength of the relationship. Ours was strong, very attached, and committed to mutual honesty. Our being able to communicate about the key stuff made it impossible for him to break us up.

So, no, I never let her have sex out of fear she might leave. Despite not liking the guy, I figured her having what she desired was more important.
For us, it worked.

This seems like something anyone could experience when they're new to it. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. I certainly hope my husband and I don't have to deal with this again. I think I'll be waiting a good 30 years of marriage before broaching the subject again. I'm enjoying reading everyone's stories and learning from them. Thanks again.

[HotwifeLatam]

For a greater understanding of this new world, I would suggest a few books. My wife and I have read a lot on many subjects and have consumed at least 5 books on sex, i.e. "Sex at Dawn" was our first book on sex and is a really good intro into our human nature in this area. The last book on sex was "Insatiable Wives". Don't let the title fool you. This book is extremely in-depth on historical and present-day factual stories of men and women who have taken deep dives into this very fascinating and highly erotic world. We like being well educated in all areas but especially something as emotional and personal as sex. As you may have already read some of the comments above, one comment said, in regard to love and sex. "They should get in the way of each other." which I believe they mistyped and meant to say should NOT get in the way of each other. Sex and love can be two sides of the same coin, or they can be completely separate coins. Cheating men and women have been doing it since the beginning. They love their spouses but are bored of mating in captivity. After all, novelty is the spice of life. I don't want to ramble, so if you are into reading do yourself a favor and read at these books. If you hate reading, get the audible version. I would highly recommend Insatiable Wives as your first or only read. This book is really informative. The last thing I will say after reading these books, and in my humble opinion, it comes down to two word...Sperm Wars. However, those words are completely oversimplifying what is really happening on a genetic level. Your mind will be blown when you understand what your body is doing that you are completely unaware of. You might say our human nature is trying to correct the idea of the word "MINE", she's mine, those are mine, this house is mine, etc. We lived in tribes for around 95 million years. No one possessed anyone else. Sorry I rambled anyways. I digress.

Really appreciated comment, I will find it and read it, thank you very much in advance.


Relax, you don't ramble, everything revolves around the initial conversation, everything is ok.

Thank you very much, once I read it can I contact you to clarify some doubts? Well thank you very much.

[HotwifeLatam]

Martasboy, everything you describe here is a cuckold situation, there is no chance I would ever derive pleasure from being humiliated or god forbid my wife denies me sex while she gets fucked by other men, that is one of our very few hard rules. I will always reclaim my wife after her rendezvous. Also, we don't view sex as competition nor comparisons, all of us guys are different and we celebrate that, not who is better than who. I will 100% agree that Hotwife husbands are completely devoted to their goddess wives and trust them implicitly with all their being or this just doesn't work.

Hey Deeperlove, I never ever said that all guys into the hot wife lifestyle or any certain way.

I clearly stated with the qualifier "SOME". I did not say "ALL". I was offering her a wide range of descriptions of how some guys are, to help her understanding.

I literally wrote:

"Besides the excitement of seeing other men desire our woman, SOME men have fantasies about having their wife deny them sex, showing preference to their boyfriend. SOME like humiliation fantasies as well, like having the wife tell them that her outside lover is better than he is."

Everything I said is true. There are some men within this lifestyle, who have those fantasies and interests.

Yes, you certainly did, I was able to understand what you were trying to say and I appreciate the feedback, I have certainly been able to realize that YES, one of the motivations is the one that you commented (and I would dare to say that it is the most common: desire to feel humiliated, or at least that is what I have been able to appreciate)

I am afraid that this will turn into that later (I know of some cases in which they started this way and ended up experiencing deeper and deeper things) because of the incredible amount of dopamine that is experienced every time there is something new.

Thank you very much for the feedback MartasBoy