It is only natural

[amerus]

It seems natural to me that I cannot be everything my wife needs to have for a fulfilling and happy life. I understand that her needs are greater than my capacity to satisfy them, and I find peace thinking that I don't need to be the only one for everything. I am happy to share, and I think that it is only natural to do so. Daily routine, monthly cycles, and unexpected difficulties make it impossible for one person to be everything. I'd love for her to have a lover with whom she can go shopping and try new restaurants, for example. Yes, she has girlfriends, but it is not the same. Friendship, which can continue to be sexual seems more logical. We are sexual communal beings after all.

[tito123177]

It seems natural to me that I cannot be everything my wife needs to have for a fulfilling and happy life. I understand that her needs are greater than my capacity to satisfy them, and I find peace thinking that I don't need to be the only one for everything. I am happy to share, and I think that it is only natural to do so. Daily routine, monthly cycles, and unexpected difficulties make it impossible for one person to be everything. I'd love for her to have a lover with whom she can go shopping and try new restaurants, for example. Yes, she has girlfriends, but it is not the same. Friendship, which can continue to be sexual seems more logical. We are sexual communal beings after all.

Totally agree, I want my wife to have all of her needs fulfilled, so I want her to have a steady boyfriend who can satisfy her sexually and enjoy different kind of dates, not only sexual, she deserves to pursue another relationship with another man and have all the fun without limits or fear of losing her husband.

[amerus]

It seems natural to me that I cannot be everything my wife needs to have for a fulfilling and happy life. I understand that her needs are greater than my capacity to satisfy them, and I find peace thinking that I don't need to be the only one for everything. I am happy to share, and I think that it is only natural to do so. Daily routine, monthly cycles, and unexpected difficulties make it impossible for one person to be everything. I'd love for her to have a lover with whom she can go shopping and try new restaurants, for example. Yes, she has girlfriends, but it is not the same. Friendship, which can continue to be sexual seems more logical. We are sexual communal beings after all.

Totally agree, I want my wife to have all of her needs fulfilled, so I want her to have a steady boyfriend who can satisfy her sexually and enjoy different kind of dates, not only sexual, she deserves to pursue another relationship with another man and have all the fun without limits or fear of losing her husband.

I love the way you think!

[Experimenti3]

It seems natural to me that I cannot be everything my wife needs to have for a fulfilling and happy life. I understand that her needs are greater than my capacity to satisfy them, and I find peace thinking that I don't need to be the only one for everything. I am happy to share, and I think that it is only natural to do so. Daily routine, monthly cycles, and unexpected difficulties make it impossible for one person to be everything. I'd love for her to have a lover with whom she can go shopping and try new restaurants, for example. Yes, she has girlfriends, but it is not the same. Friendship, which can continue to be sexual seems more logical. We are sexual communal beings after all.

I can’t agree more. Wonderful explanation.

[little sissy Benita]

My mommy (former wife) is in an relationship with her black bf like in a marriage - i love it when she call him my husband and he call her my wife. Of course both are also on the go - in a restaurant or cinema - without me.
When the are on the go - i get of course babysit by Aunt Lisa (former daughter) - i agreed to be her little daughter and also in regression into babyhood by his sisters.

[mychubbyhotwife]

Some wives are totally satisfied with their husband. The thought of having a relationship with someone else is nothing they desire.

My wife had only one very unsatisfying sexual experience (she says) before she had one with me. I was the first man she had an orgasm with.

I taught her every thing about how to please a man. It was like training a virgin in the ways of sex. She was very willing and happy to please me. It was tempting to push her limits. She never said no to anything my perverted mind came up with.

As our experiences expanded the next step was having her experience another man since I was the only man she had ever had sex with. That was the only thing she hesitated to do. It took a long time trying to talk her into it until she finally agreed.

Her first time with another man in front of me was perfect! She loved it! Watching her transformation from being very nervous to relaxing and enjoying it was an unforgettable experience!

She had an incredible experience with him and she became emotionally attached. She fell in love with him.

I was happy that she had a good experience. I didn't mind that she became attached to him. She still loved me. To her it was like having two husbands. She loved me more for letting her have sex with him.

[ucaneffher]

It seems natural to me that I cannot be everything my wife needs to have for a fulfilling and happy life. I understand that her needs are greater than my capacity to satisfy them, and I find peace thinking that I don't need to be the only one for everything. I am happy to share, and I think that it is only natural to do so. Daily routine, monthly cycles, and unexpected difficulties make it impossible for one person to be everything. I'd love for her to have a lover with whom she can go shopping and try new restaurants, for example. Yes, she has girlfriends, but it is not the same. Friendship, which can continue to be sexual seems more logical. We are sexual communal beings after all.

Totally agree, I want my wife to have all of her needs fulfilled, so I want her to have a steady boyfriend who can satisfy her sexually and enjoy different kind of dates, not only sexual, she deserves to pursue another relationship with another man and have all the fun without limits or fear of losing her husband.

You and me both, Tito. I want my girlfriend/wife to be able to date without boundaries and restrictions, and I mean that in both a sexual and emotional way. As long as she is happy, I am happy. Steady/full time boyfriend, permanent boyfriend, just a short fling... I don't care. Whatever she wants, she gets with my full blessing.

I think that ultimately the biggest turn on for me is temporarily becoming the 3rd wheel and watching her belong more to another man than she belongs to me. Similar how my ex did with me, she demonstrated with actions that she belonged to her boyfriend and not to me. Her actions were both displayed both in the physical as well as emotional context.

The ways that she humbled me and made me realize that she was his without having to tell me (although she would always verbally tell me while together) were:

-Making love to him only, while keeping me completely denied but reminding me daily that she orgasmed at the same time that he came inside her when they made love earlier and nearly on a daily basis.

-leaving the house dressed the way I always wanted her to dress but it was only for him.

-making him 100% social media official. She did not hide him or her love and affection for him on social media. However , despite people knowing she was with him and In love with him, they'd run into her with me in public but she should tell them that we were friends.

-She started spending holidays and her birthdays with him and his family.

-when her family or mutual friends of ours had weddings. He was by default her +1. She went to several of my friends weddings with her boyfriend instead of me. This really bothered me at the time but shortly accepted it and find it hot over a decade later. She looked beautiful in her dress and I was no where near her. I know he devoured her all those nights in the hotel after every wedding.

These are some of the steps that she took all on her own to prove to me that she belonged to him and not me. I rejected all of it at the time and was very competitive to show her that I was still her man. I wish I would've just accepted sooner and rolled with it as her BFF.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I feel the same way that we all do (so far) in this thread.

When we initially began, I wanted nothing more than to watch her cum on another man’s cock. And I wanted to watch him cum in her…enjoy her…too. It was a “sex” thing.

But Maria, to her credit in those nascent years, said that she would never be able to let another man put his cock inside of her unless she was able to connect with him on an emotional level.

That rattled me for a while. I was desperate to watch her take another man balls-deep inside of her, but it wasn’t going to happen unless she could be emotionally attached to him. I felt like I might be losing her.

It took a while, but I eventually capitulated. My desire to have her cuck me (no humiliation, though) was slowly winning over. She repeatedly reassured me that our marriage was safe; that she would never leave me, but it was hard to see that in the moment. I would eventually have to let her develop feelings and a full-blown relationship with another man. (It was still a “sex” thing for me.)

It has been 18 or 19 years since those days…….and, am I ever-so-glad I decided to trust her.

Her first boyfriend took 15+ of the past 18 years of our (now) half-open marriage. (She has a boyfriend. I’m not in the least bit interested in a girlfriend.) Her second boyfriend has been with her for close to 3 years, now. She is emotionally attached to both, but she/we no longer have sex with her first boyfriend. We’re all still very good friends, though, and we hang out in some manner almost biweekly or so.

What I learned, of course, is that she was right. I never had any legitimate reason to be concerned about the foundation of our marriage. And, yes, she helped my wildest dreams come true by having guiltless and passionate sex with him right in front of me, sometimes (often?) getting me to participate in the fun of making her cum. I am a lucky man, I guess.

But what I also learned is exactly what you fellows are writing about in this thread.

I also learned that I am not “everything” my wife could ever want in a companion. I mean, setting aside the sex and the fact that her first boyfriends had/have a COMPLETELY different sexual style than me, making her cum in ways I simply never imagined, there are other things that I hadn’t seen coming.

For example, my wife is just NATURALLY a “foodie.” She LOVES trying new foods, new cuisines.

I, on the other hand, am VERY NOT a “foodie.” I have a selected set of meals that I like, and I hate stepping outside of my menu. (I think it harkens back to when I was a child, and I got sick…food-poisoning?…when I tried some new foods. The experiences psychologically stunted me…caused me to become risk-averse when it came to my palette.)

As it turns out, BOTH of her boyfriends were/are also “foodies.” They absolutely LOVE going to restaurants together where I wouldn’t be caught dead. In fact, we’ve even planned vacations with each other surrounding their foodie natures. New Orleans gumbo? Miami Cuban? New York pizza? San Francisco’s Chinatown? Nepalese restaurants? Indian cuisine? Ethiopian food? “That Greek place across town”?

They can’t get enough of the “foodie” life! And I couldn’t be happier for them, really. They both REALLY have a lot of fun with it…a happiness in her I NEVER would have seen had it not been for her boyfriends.

And it’s moments like these that settled in with me over time that I am NOT naturally “everything” my wife needs to be self-realized…self-actualized. It’s not just about a hard dick and watching her moan and shudder with a fantastic orgasm. I came to understand my place, her place…our relationship…better.

It’s the WAY he holds her. It’s the WAY he converses with her. It’s the WAY they laugh together. It’s the WAY they eat together. It’s the WAY they seduce each other. It’s the WAY they cum together.

I could never do for her what he does for her…

…and likewise…

He could never do for her what I do for her. I am, for example, the father of our children. I am, for example, an anchor of financial stability for her. We are COMLETELY embedded as family-oriented suburbanites with green lawns and multi-car garages.

Our life has become markedly better since we finally decided to (half?) open our marriage. The sex has been off the charts fun, and she is a MUCH happier woman, knowing that she needn’t sneak around behind my back.

It truly seems natural.

It’s easy for me to say at this stage, and I apologize if it seems disingenuous, but…..

I kinda feel sad for all of the couples who are stuck in monogamous ruts. (Do not despair, wannabes. I was a wannabe for 10 years before we half-opened our marriage.)

The world would be a better place if we could just admit that monogamy isn’t the only path forward.

As I write these words tonight, she is spending the night with him, at his place, cooking up some wild dish they read about in some recipe….and no doubt fucking each others’ lights out until they fall asleep together.

I look forward to her homecoming (homecumming?) tomorrow morning. He will fill her up for me before dropping her off. (He knows that I now appreciate the entirety of it all, but that the “sex” part still blows my mind. I LOVE sharing her with him, and they know how to treat me well!) She will undoubtedly be in a great mood.

I am grateful.

[Uncertain9901]

That rattled me for a while. I was desperate to watch her take another man balls-deep inside of her, but it wasn’t going to happen unless she could be emotionally attached to him. I felt like I might be losing her.

This resonates with me, I believe it's critical for a woman to have an emotional connection as part of sex. Initially my wife started seeing a friend for fun sex only, but it's now becoming clear that it's much more than that. They are good friends, she goes to his place for dinners, they go out clubbing together and have fun. It's a bit difficult to talk about it and I'm not sure where it's leading us but I have to accept she's in a relationship and has feelings for her boyfriend. My wife's also attracted to some other men and I've seen her flirt with a few guys in public but she wouldn't sleep with anyone else, except her boyfriend who she has this connection with. I don't know if it's good or bad, for now I try to trust her and avoid jealous thoughts.

[ttcouple]

great story

[bernhard_10777]

My wife would only sleep with another man with whom she has a deep connection. Yesterday, her favorite was with us for the first time in years, and I told him that my wife still loves him. She didn't disagree. I feel that a love she has allowed to exist is lasting.

[bernhard_10777]

My wife would only sleep with another man with whom she has a deep connection. Yesterday, her favorite was with us for the first time in years, and I told him that my wife still loves him. She didn't disagree. I feel that a love she has allowed to exist is lasting.

[bernhard_10777]

My wife would only sleep with another man with whom she has a deep connection. Yesterday, her lover was with us for the first time in years, and I told him that my wife still loves him. She didn't disagree. I feel that a love she has allowed to exist is lasting.

[CasualJuggernaught]

I want this so deeply for my wife. I want my wife to nurture and be nurtured by another man, for them to have a deep emotional bond that lets her open up to him emotionally and sexually. I want her to feel the energy of this deep inside of her and to not fear that she is going to lose me. I want to see her kiss and make deep love with another man, and to let him fill her up with his seed.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum CasualJuggernaught.

[SensualDeviant]

That's not it at all. Any poly relationship she or I have is secondary to our primary relationship. We are everything we need and other relationships are merely extra.

[tn_cpl_4bull]

I want this so deeply for my wife. I want my wife to nurture and be nurtured by another man, for them to have a deep emotional bond that lets her open up to him emotionally and sexually. I want her to feel the energy of this deep inside of her and to not fear that she is going to lose me. I want to see her kiss and make deep love with another man, and to let him fill her up with his seed.

That's a very HOT scenario. I want my wife to not feel pressured to hold back her emotions, but just naturally let whatever happens come to pass, so that she is head over heels with physical and emotional pleasure.

I fantasize that one day when she finds the right man, she will tell me she wants me to watch as she makes love to him and gives herself to him, because she isn't afraid or ashamed to admit she is in love with her boyfriend, and wants me to be an erotic part of that, to join them in their newfound celebration of romance.

[RCM]

It seems natural to me that I cannot be everything my wife needs to have for a fulfilling and happy life. I understand that her needs are greater than my capacity to satisfy them, and I find peace thinking that I don't need to be the only one for everything. I am happy to share, and I think that it is only natural to do so. Daily routine, monthly cycles, and unexpected difficulties make it impossible for one person to be everything. I'd love for her to have a lover with whom she can go shopping and try new restaurants, for example. Yes, she has girlfriends, but it is not the same. Friendship, which can continue to be sexual seems more logical. We are sexual communal beings after all.

. I think it is natural for a woman to have a steady bf or significant other partner. They have needs and I think it takes at least 2 men to be able to provide for those needs.

We started off with me watching her take other men. I love It. But soon realized she would enjoy it alone. So we talked about her having a bf. Now she really likes that she has another man in her life and able to do things with.

[zorro]

Two is better than one.