Ex-boyfriends?

[ktcouple]

What’s your opinion on your wife meeting her ex-boyfriend? Would you encourage or discourage it?

My wife recently bumped into her ex on a party and she said he brought up times when they were together. I’m not sure how I feel about it.

[MarknSusan]

If you are not comfortable or if you are jealous about this situation she should drop it.

However, in our experiences Susan has had wonderful encounters with three ex boyfriends.

[Wantsomefunto]

If you two have a strong bond, and she wants to enjoy wha she had with him sexually again, tell her to go for it

[Southerncuckboy]

I have mixed feelings, recently Hannah's ex had messaged her, apparently we are all going to thr same wedding. She hasn't mentioned anything, but I've felt a strange tension ever since she got the message. Part of me wants to let it happen, but there's still some unresolved anger and hurt there.

[Greywolf and Vixen]

I think it depends on the depth of the emotional attachment that existed before. There are a couple of guys from my wife's past she wouldn't want to be near again (and one of them can't be near her legally, LOL.) But then there are a couple of other guys who were more 'friends with benefits' than boyfriends who have had their benefits restored!

[annsman]

My wife has had sex with two ex-boyfriends and worked out well for all of us.
One continued, off and on, for several years. The other was spending one night with him after a school reunion, they both would have liked it to continue, but unfortunately he lived abroad and only came over for the reunion.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

My hotwife Kelly and I both agree her keeping in touch with ex-boyfriends have lead to many wonderful benefits and sexual adventures for us.

Early on in our marriage an ex-boyfriend of hers reached out to her and due to social media knew we were going to be attending the same wedding. At the last moment I could not attend the wedding with my wife, and she and her ex had a great time at the wedding including sex. Great experience

Was I worried that my wife spent the weekend with an ex-boyfriend, no. Although he was well endowed, handsome, and great in bed he was as my wife put it, his lack of him taking life seriously was a turn off for her long term, a great sexual provider but lacking substance outside the bedroom

[CuckedbyNikki]

Old flames bring out a lot of passion during sex. The whole dirty talk is based on their arguments that happened decade ago. Nikki has had 2 boyfriends before me and the first guy she mentions is a pure sex machine. They have crossed paths sometimes when she visits her parents and desires have built up time and again but she has never acted upon them. We have discussed it a lot of times that she should fuck him, and she has said maybe on some reunion she will give it a shot.

[Englishcouple]

What’s your opinion on your wife meeting her ex-boyfriend? Would you encourage or discourage it?

I would welcome it in a heartbeat. My wife didn't sow any wild oats as a teenager as she met her first boyfriend at 16 and married him at 19. The marriage was over at 21 when he left her, and she had an immediate rebound with K, an older guy in his 30's, who stayed over at her place most weekends for 6 months and she said was her best ever lover and a really sweet person.

In the 6 years between splitting with him and meeting me she had a 4 month fuck buddy/boyfriend, lived with a totally unsuitable guy for 2 years 8 months, married a guy 20 years her senior and had 4 one nights stands where she was cheating on her partners at the time.

I would love to set something up with K and any of the one night stands

[rogerbaulk]

My wife's ex boyfriend from California stayed with us in Korea for 10 days. They made out and came very close to fucking. Our pillow talk fantasies about him got very very hard-core. If he came again they would fuck non stop.

[Bodenn78]

My wife (girlfriend at the time) regularly saw her ex. We lived together and had kids together but didn't get married for the first 13 years or so. She often went to see him during that time. He got a little odd about it after we were actually married. There wasn't any real problems at least not for her. It was over and done with emotionally from both of thier point of views. So no danger of someone catching feelings.

[Greywolf and Vixen]

I would love to set something up with K and any of the one night stands

Setting up an 'encore' for a one nighter would definitely be hot!

[Swe_male]

I have mixed feelings about that. One side says that she knows what to get and that's good, I think, otherwise she would have chosen somebody else. But the other side is that they been together in an other way before, like husband and wife, they know each other in an other way. But if you're in this lifestyle, the wifes will must be more wort more than the husbands....

[BBCfan]

My wife is in contact with most of her ex-boyfriends. Although we are in the wanna be phase, I think the best possibility of her going to hotwife route would be with an ex-boyfriend.

There was 1 particular ex that was more of a friend with benefits then a boyfriend, who still reaches out to try to hook up again which I encourage. She knows he was a good Dick candidate only and not a relationship candidate so I feel less threatened by that.

However if it was an ex-boyfriend who felt she was the one that got away then that would be one I would discourage her from reconnecting with as he would likely make a push to try and "get her back". She has 1 ex that is like that and I would not encourage her to reconnect with him ever.

Context matters but for the most part they're exes for a reason, and most people realize going back that route for anything other than physical connection would be unwise.

[Greywolf and Vixen]

There was 1 particular ex that was more of a friend with benefits then a boyfriend, who still reaches out to try to hook up again which I encourage. She knows he was a good Dick candidate only and not a relationship candidate so I feel less threatened by that.

However if it was an ex-boyfriend who felt she was the one that got away then that would be one I would discourage her from reconnecting with as he would likely make a push to try and "get her back". She has 1 ex that is like that and I would not encourage her to reconnect with him ever.

Context matters but for the most part they're exes for a reason, and most people realize going back that route for anything other than physical connection would be unwise.

Some very good points indeed! Big difference in reconnecting with a bedwarmer vs. could have been Mr. Right!

[Aussiem]

My wife fucked one of her ex BFs for 20years. Started 6 years after we married. He was the first after our marriage. She had others as well once she got into the idea of being free to fuck.

[10ur]

If there was a risk of emotional attachment, I would never want that. But if my wife wanted to have sex with her ex-boyfriend, I would encourage it.

[Jwylde]

My girlfriend is and always has practiced free range fucking. Monogamy has never been in her vocabulary. She's simply not wired for it. She let me know from the start that she dates and fucks all of her friends and her exes, that dating her means my friends are also welcome to date and fuck her, and that she will follow no rules that will ever change this. She said this not to discourage me, but that this is who she is and I have to be willing to accept this about her and be okay with it to date her, because not a lot of guys will or can, but she'd rather everything be out in the open before I made the commitment. I'm more than okay with it.

There's no sneaking around, no questioning how she feels or whether or not she's fucking someone when she's hanging out with them. It's all done very openly right in front of me. Show of affection, sleeping together, the whole nine. Sometimes we fall asleep in bed together and I wake up to her fucking someone. She clearly lets me know how she feels about guys either through directly telling me or making sure there are clear unmistakable signs (tongue kissing, I love yous, guys hitting on her and her accepting their advances, her giving out her number, no shyness at all). I honestly couldn't be happier.

[BCiym]

It is a HUGE turn on for me when Karen goes to bed with an ex! I have never once discouraged her. The fact that they’re so familiar with each other makes the whole experience more relaxing for her. Karen knows husbands go bat shit over that kind of thing because they’re afraid their wife is going to leave her for the ex. In our case it reminds her what a better husband she has in me. After all, I embrace her sexuality and she knows they never could.

[ktcouple]

I think it’s true that it depends on context. For me it’s not only what the nature or their relationship was and if he would be a threat to our marriage, but also if I met him and if my impression was good or bad. The guy she met recently at the party I bumped into when we were early in our relationship and he acted disrespectfully towards me, which left a bad impression of him. Even though my wife still likes him, I don’t. Maybe it’s just a bad memory from the time when I was protective and not yet open towards sharing her and I should get over this feeling. But I would be more comfortable with an ex I never met or who acted normally towards me. Now that I think about it, it’s probably not limited to exes.

[leo-cpl]

Reckon if its a one off thing and hubby is ok, could be super hot to try it! However, if there's potential for a long term thing then for sure its about the ex being the same place as the wife and knows his place in the equation, feel this also involves hubby and the wife discussing what's off the table (if at all).

[Englishcouple]

I would love to set something up with K and any of the one night stands

Setting up an 'encore' for a one nighter would definitely be hot!

All her previous partners have been as a result of spontaneous scenarios and these guys have been lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time. She doesn't have a 'type' and connection is of paramount importance to her.

I have wanted to contact an ex to arrange a social meeting but despite her freely fucking strangers when we have been to clubs, she's totally against arranging a meeting.

However, we have discussed if we randomly met an ex at a club and she said that would be completely different as it would be by chance and not prearranged and she'd probably fuck them because she knows how much I want her to do it.

This is a big dilemma for me as I could potentially get my wish but I would have to contact the ex myself and arrange to coordinate a night where we could all be in the same club. I wouldn't tell my wife and it would be a 'fancy seeing you here' moment.

The likelihood of the ex understanding my request and then agreeing to be in a club is very unlikely though!

[Greywolf and Vixen]

The likelihood of the ex understanding my request and then agreeing to be in a club is very unlikely though!

Yeah, that's a lot of moving parts falling into place...and if she were to find out it was a set up, then what?

[BCiym]

What I should have added is that when Karen's slept with an ex it hasn’t been a “booty call” (if that’s the right term). It’s more like "friends with benefits.” What they text and talk with each other about is pretty tame stuff: how our kids’ are doing, work, vacations, health (the older we are the more it’s the last). It’s stuff she talks about with me sometimes (e.g., “John’s daughter just got accepted at Texas,” “Eric and his wife are going to Portugal”). Of course, hearing about even run of the mill stuff like that is a turn on because it reminds they’re fucking. Their wives know about Karen and they’re not wild that their husbands’ stay in touch with her, but they don’t know their worst fears — that they’re husbands are sleeping with her — have actually come through.