His or hers idea?

[Hallonsoda]

Tell us if this lifestyle was his or your idea and why? Did he have to convince you or were you already a naughty girl?

[Wifewithothers]

First few experiences would definitely say we're more her doing. Once we sat down and really talked about it , we decided together to keep going.

Though it certainly helped she also had a few being shared/group experiences before we even met.

[Tank Turner]

It was mutual.

[funkyfitter]

I picked her idea.
It was a mutual agreement, but she's the boss.

[jrobb]

Whose idea? Mine, not hers...

It was incredibly sexy, soooooo hottt, and suuuuuch a turn on!!! But our first time wasn't like a lot of the others. There wasn't any hinting or apprehension about what to say. It was more like lightning had struck that night...

For years I had searched for whatever it might be that my shy wife might enjoy in terms of sex, and as I mentioned, she was painfully withdrawn about such things. Her seeming lack of desire and disinterest in sex actually put a big strain on our marriage. No talk of fantasies or other such openness. But one night, much to my surprise and joy, she was loosened up enough to reveal herself to me. From the start of that moment, to being shared, took only a couple hours for my hotwife to appear.

It was a regular week night. Me, my buddy, and my petite wife had all been in the living room listening to music and casually talking over a few beers and more in the late '80's. In the course of our conversation, he told a story about how he was involved in a threesome some years ago in college.

Later on that same evening, we went out to the hot tub. After a while, when he got out to get a drink and make a pit stop, she told me, "His story really turned me on." She was clearly loosened up from the smoke and wine, and I quickly responded with an approving "Mmmmmmmm!" In only a matter of seconds, I was slipping my hard dick into her and quickly gave her a good filling.

By the time my buddy came back to the tub, she was already filled with my cum. He had barely sat down and while she was resting the back of her head on the edge of the tub and stretching out, I lifted her bottom up to where her pussy was above water and said, "Ok, I just got done. Now it's your turn." She, somewhat shocked, asked, "Are you sure? Are you sure you want to do this?" I said, "Absolutely!". Of course, my buddy knew it was game on!

I had her balanced in my hands, floating in the water with her pussy easily visible. Her right arm around my neck, my left hand under her shoulders, my right hand under the small of her back. He got down in the water, positioned his face between her spread legs, and started to eat her as I held her in place. I cautioned him about me just filling her with my cum, but he continued to tongue-tease her clit and maybe even savor a bit of my remnant. She was cooing her pleasure when he stood up, positioned his hips between her legs, and slid into her VERY ready and willing pussy.

He didn't last long, and when he took his seat again, we all sat there, in a sort of pleasurable shock about how exciting the last couple of minutes actually were. Within 5 minutes, she said, "I want to do that again", and went over to stand next to him in the tub and asked, "How long has it been since you had a blow job?" Almost before he could even respond, she was already sucking on him as she leaned over, got him just a little hard, then moved her back to him, pressed her ass against him, and reached down between her legs to stuff him into her pussy. Sadly, he couldn't muster the erection that soon and our evening came to a close shortly after.

And that's how it started, and why for us, it took only a couple of hours, if even that, to start our hotwife life.

JR

[BT2]

My wife became a hotwife by accident. If we had thought about it, the idea of another man fucking my wife would have turned both of us off.

This was a second marriage for the both of us, so sex was not new. We did things that a new couple might do to turn each other on. One was for her to have a sensuous massage. None of the legitimate masseurs were interested, and the local body rub parlors would not take a female client. But at the suggestion of a telephone receptionist at a body rub parlor, we found a guy in the adult classifieds in a fringe newspaper. The first massage went o.k. except it was the first time I had ever seen her full frontal naked, hard tits, black bush, in front of another guy. It was actually she who started tugging at the guy, they both ended up totally naked, and she had a happy ending. I got to watch it all. The next sensuous massage, same guy, both started out naked, and I watched them do mutual oral.

We tried a third visit several months later, but the guy and his girlfriend started living together, so that was the end of that. We still wanted her to have a sensuous massage, so we looked in the same classified as before and found a new guy. There was no pretext with him. He started out massaging her back, had her turn over in a couple of minutes, and in less than five minutes from the start was inside her. She didn't resist. I was both unnerved but also turned on. And that was how she became a hotwife. That was over 30 years ago.

[Thebestdays1]

As a teenager I was very shy around women, having grown up in a village with very few girls and going to a boy's school that used to give me so much homework that I had very little time to socialise with anyone. Consequently, when I had my first girlfriend, I was too shy to make any serious moves on her beyond holding hands with her.

One night, we joined a few of our friends from work at our local bar where there was a group playing. I wasn't into dancing so she ended up dancing most of the night with a man she knew and I noticed they seemed to be getting on very well. Towards the end of the evening she said goodnight to me and as I was walking home I saw them walking hand in hand towards her place. I assumed they were going to have sex and I regretted not having spent more time with her and cursed my shyness. I never asked her what happened and we split up shortly after, when she started seeing someone else.

It was probably a year later that I met this lovely woman that was staying in the same hotel as me whilst on holiday with her sister. Somehow, I felt bold enough to let her know I liked her, a day after she'd admitted she'd just sucked off another lad than we'd met on the holiday. I wasn't jealous, just excited that she gave blowjobs.

A few months later I proposed to her. She admitted she was bi and had a girlfriend and would most likely still want to go with a woman occasionally if she was married. She also admitted she'd lost her virginity five years earlier to a much older couple who had an open marriage and who'd extolled the virtues of such a marriage. During her time with her next boyfriend they'd swapped with some other couples and she'd also cheated on him, with both men and women and enjoyed the thrill of being fucked by different people and even found watching her boyfriend fucking another woman excited her. After telling me all this she said she had to be honest with me and say she could only agree to marry me if we could have an open marriage and that would include me being allowed to have sex with other women and here she specifically mentioned her elder sister. She said that in order for such an agreement to work, we both had to be totally honest about any encounters we had, either beforehand or directly afterwards. She added that she would tell me if she was seeing another woman but she wouldn't tell me any details as it was something private that she did purely for her enjoyment and not done to turn me on, like it had done with other men.

I was surprised by her suggestion but I don't think I believed just how much she'd actually want to go with another person. I certainly didn't think I'd want to go with another woman, especially not her elder sister and so I agreed and we became engaged.

[Shadnaster]

There should b a third option here. "Mutual". For us, we eased into things. We did online stuff for a while then we got into swinging. We'd swap with couples for same room sex. Even though I was with other women, I couldn't take my eyes off of her have sex. I would end up cumming watcher her cum. Or watching the guy she was with cum on her. At some point it was obvious that I was WAY more turned on by watching her in action than getting action myself. I wouldn't even cum with the other women. I'd wait until the other guy came on my wife's face then, I'd have sex with her. From there we did MFM's. then me just watching. Then her going out alone. I'm not sure there was ever a time when either one of us said "this is what we need to do".

[WatchinginNJ]

The first time, was because we had broken up, and she wanted to get back together but "See other people".

The second one was her friend suggested we trade for a threesome (she would go with the friend and her boyfriend, and vice versa), she told me jokingly thinking I wouldn't go for it, but we made it happen. It evolved from there.

My most serious one, she told me a deep dark secret that she had never told anyone. She liked fucking strangers. When I was like, "Ok, lets make it happen" she was suspicious, jealous, angry; everything but on board. So we did some role playing mixed with some exhibitionism, and eventually it evolved organically.

Now? Well since I only talk to women who are already ENM, I guess it's mutual.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I initiated the idea.

She took ten years to think/fantasize about it with me before trying it. (Stay strong, wannabes!) Once she got that dick in her, she was hooked. Absolutely loves it! (And I love seeing her happy.)

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Duplicate post!

[ChokeMe92]

My idea (wife). It took a long time for us to agree, but now he can't go back.
He helps me keep track of who I fuck, how we fuck, when and where. Then he gives me goals to reach like "get DP'd before this date" or "get X amount of creampies in five weeks". Makes it fun and light, not only kinky and adhering strictly to the dynamic.
I'm pretty much living as close to my sexual dream scenario as ever thought I would.

[ferrisandrews]

Definitely mine.