Jealously then acceptance then near perfection....

[dbcraleigh]

I've posted our lifestyle journey before but a semi quick recap.....hoping for similar stories and or guidance or general feedback...

We are a couple for 15 yrs....hotwifing for 13 yrs now....

We used to do swing clubs because we got into this because I/we were obsessed with fulfilling a DP fantasy.....multiple clubs and some hookups but no DP, finally out one night ( our anniversay ) and she saw a hot guy and finally made the first non club move to go up and give him her # with a note.....next night we met in the hotel and he was having trouble keeping it up.....I made the unplanned choice to leave so she could enjoy, that had been off limits I had to be there, etc, etc. AND I loved the thought of her enjoying herself, that lead to 4 yrs of the same bull, him traveling up and her traveling down for full weekends, he sadly moved but it was amazing.......we have always yearned for that. 3 more bulls in that time frame of her with her longterm bull and grew used to her going solo whether it be our house or there's for a weekend but these bulls were always out of town or in our town for 1 or 2 nights, usually lived three hours away so a safety net...

We were out of the lifestyle for about 18 months or so and kind of had let it slip by the way side, still having a great sex life but it took a backseat......out of nowhere about 8 months ago now, a local guy, our old trainer at the gym who she told out drunk one night about our lifestyle texted her saying "she's so hot", it was odd/funny/hot because it took him a year to get the courrage to respond but she was so turned on by a guy she always wanted to fuck reaching out....

So mind you, when he texted we had been out of the lifestyle for about 18 months, this is where the new chapter begins....ane new filling for me..

We have a talk and agree that having a local bull is going to be different for us, the other bulls being hours away added a buffer, we agreed since it had been so long and she found this guy to be so hot that it was worth it and we had missed hotwifing....a solo date happened then an overnight at a hotel the next week.....we all love the same music so we share that love.....he asked her to go to a show and she said sure but my partner is coming , no issues, we all hungout no sex talk but a good hang, sent her home with him after the show and they stayed up fucking until 6 am....

He later came to a show with us 3 hrs away after my wife asked him 3 times, I thought man maybe we can DP my wife or I can be in the same room and watch because I still love seeing her fuck but it's rare no issues of hers it the bulls and going soft.....so we take this trip/share a room, they start fucking in the other bed but wait until the lights are off and when i try to turn the lights on my phone he goes soft..they sleep together in the same bed both nights, on night 2 they wait until I'm asleep and go to the bathroom and fuck for 2 hours, she's squirting everywhere, I don't even know until I wake up and go shower and wet towels are everywhere, he makes her gush, something I can do but rarely, it's nonstop with him.......which not going to lie drives my jealousy.....it's my 2nd fav kink...

Back home and he starts to text more but just about meeting to hookup.... I allow it but for the first time in about fifteen yrs I start to feel jealously and the sense that my relationship may be at risk, mind you this is NOT normal, I'm a confident guy and have either setup or pushed all the bulls in the past....they start fucking more or less once a week, our house or in a hotel room, christmas comes so a naturally break about a one month and that's exactly what I/we need.....he texts to fuck and I/We are CRAVING IT, they fuck for 5 straight hours in our bed but I say I want to spend come home so no overnight.....only one week goes by and she keeps saying she feels like she owes him a special treat because since that weekend trip I laid my foot down and said hey no overnights if he is going to be greedy with you and not let me watch like once in a blue moon.......so tonight he is upstairs in our house and has been all night fucking my wife and now he is spending the night....I got one text saying she never squirted so much and the amount of time she spent cleaning the house and even bought a new sex swing for him is hot but shows how much she cares....I'm back at the point like I am with the olds bulls and I can't get enough, I truly want him to fuck her every few days, like I don't want him to be her boyfriend but I love him using her like his own personal sex doll....and she does, too, her fav thing about him is he only sends stuff about a music and keeps it about sex, never blows her up.

so my question to the crew is do I push this forward, any words of warning, encouragement? Any pitfalls I'm not seeing or things I can do to help her achieve even more bliss.....I'm back to wanting complete compersion for her.....a great mix of angest, horniness, and excitement...

P.s. no worry of her leaving me for him so please leave that guidance or talking point alone....