Back at it again

[steveb713]

I've been a long time member of this forum. A quick recap my long (long long) married wife L and I have had our ups and downs in the HW world. After
many years of my fantasy of her having sex with others, L always saying "no way " she came to me and said I'm giving you your gift. I said gift? Yes I found someone I'll have sex with. We knew him socially but L and he became reacquainted of all things playing pickle ball.

We met with him ( J ) describing what a HW arrangement was ( at least our definition of it ). He had no idea but after thinking about it for a few days
he agreed. They arranged a first date and it went the way we all had hoped - in essence it was wonderful - this lasted for a while until I became
concerned that her NRE was placing J in first place and I second.

It was a struggle for a while but we eventually worked through it. J finally broke it off as he wanted to find a girlfriend that perhaps held a future for him knowing this wasn't it. Their arrangement ended a couple of years ago though they've remained friends over the years -

This morning J texted L and asked if she'd like to see his new home - ironically I had told L earlier today I had a dream last night that shew was back seeing J- it was then she said well since you mention it J asked me in a text this morning if I'd like to see his new home !!!! I said wow you're joking - she said no its true - to which I asked what did you say - I haven't answered him I want to know how you feel about it - I said if you want to say yes by all means I/m in favor of it - she said I/m nervous but I am ready to say yes no matter the outcome -

So here we are - L has been gone about an hour I don't expect to see her for at least another hour maybe two - Needless to say I'm very happy for her
as it gives her a shot in the arm. As she's grown older she like most women become concerned that they may not be seen as attractive or sexy - In that regard I'm thrilled for her - Of course I/m excited for me as well as its something I've fantasized and lived with for years.

I'll post an update at a later time when I know what happened -

Steve

[leggysman]

Great, hope it goes well!

[steveb713]

L just texted me that she's on her way home. For all you guys that have experienced your wife coming home after a date you know the excitement
you're feeling - its almost overwhelming particularly since its been a couple of years since her last time -

[DCaftermath]

A tip of the hat to you both!

[steveb713]

L came home a little over two hours after meeting J. She said there was very little conversation between the two of them as there was no pretense as to why she was there.

They soon headed for the bedroom. She said it was great having six with him after not being with him for over two years.

When she came home it wasn’t long before she said take me to bed. It was an incredible reconnection for the two of us. There’s nothing like it when your wife/partner comes home to you and you two can reconnect. It was incredible for me. As always.

We’ve been together for 46 years. The marriage, the sex the relationship never gets tiring. I feel blessed.

It’s ironic that we’re just a simple middle class mature long married couple with three kids and and three, soon to be four grandchildren.

We feel so blessed that we’ve been able to discover this lifestyle.

[zorro]

Love your reunification story. And yes, it is great when your wife resumes fucking a former FB.

[noreaster]

“It’s ironic that we’re just a simple middle class mature long married couple with three kids and and three, soon to be four grandchildren“

I actually enjoy this statement most of all. We were the same way when she used to play. Just normal, middle class, everyday people with kids, etc. I’ve often wondered, and still do, about what others who play are like or are most like us.

Anyway, congratulations on being able to experience such a thing again after a time without it. Again, the same happened with us too. All the best and thanks for sharing.

[steveb713]

“It’s ironic that we’re just a simple middle class mature long married couple with three kids and and three, soon to be four grandchildren“

I actually enjoy this statement most of all. We were the same way when she used to play. Just normal, middle class, everyday people with kids, etc. I’ve often wondered, and still do, about what others who play are like or are most like us.

Anyway, congratulations on being able to experience such a thing again after a time without it. Again, the same happened with us too. All the best and thanks for sharing.

You say “ when she used to play.” Not playing any more?
L is ready to play but her long time FB is currently involved to some degree ( how much or how little we don’t know). L is too shy/reserved to ask him. I’ve been silent in probing what his status is with lady friend.

She’s looking for an add on to the long time guy. As usual she’s not looking for any assistance from me.

[steveb713]

L is meeting her friend for lunch today at a city park. He said he wanted to meet in public. I’ve mentioned previously we’re
“ orphans “ in our community long retired so we don’t have a particularly strong objection to anyone knowing we’re in this lifestyle. In fact my wife actually gets a turn on out of seeing friends while she’s with him.

He’s more concerned about being seen with a married woman than we are. The plan is to head over to his house after lunch.

As you husbands know the angst and excitement that comes from
Seeing your hotwife getting ready for a date remains one of the most exciting part of this lifestyle. She looked so great leaving home. Very cute well above the knee dress, perfectly applied makeup -
well you all know the drill.

I’ll be making myself busy waiting for her to come home later this afternoon. The excitement of this for me never goes away.

[venus-can99]

How did L's "lunch" meeting with J go? Is he single and available again?

[steveb713]

How did L's "lunch" meeting with J go? Is he single and available again?

He’s single. Available? Well that’s an interesting question. He has a sort of girlfriend. He’s the kind of guy that wants no commitment and doesn’t want to be considered a boyfriend. He’s weird but nice and perfect for L. She knows him and is comfortable around him.

As for the date mount this way. L called me about two goes after they met for lunch. I asked how is everything. She replied. He tickled my tonsils. She gave Jim’s blow job and he fingered her to several orgasms. She got home soon we chatted a bit and spent the afternoon in bed.
One side funny episode. Wed been having long lovely sex. I got up to get to her other side for some reason she slid toward the end of it bed. Put her foot on the floor somehow putting her foot down on her slippery underwear falling out of the bed scraping her forearm on a wicker chair we have in the bedroom.

Let me tell you it was a sex killer. She’s fine but was quite shaken up. After the shock we laughed like hell. These as you know are the special things only the mate has not the fuck buddy.

[steveb713]

Sorry don’t know I posted this theee times - tried unsuccessfully to delete it.

[coastalkid]

Sorry don’t know I posted this theee times - tried unsuccessfully to delete it.

Took care of your duplicates. Thanks! My first real fix as a moderator!

[steveb713]

Ya! Thanks

[pixmangurn]

Good work Coastal !

[coastalkid]

Good work Coastal !

Thanks! Been away camping but I'm back!

[Swingpaul]

Lovely story, hope it goes well for, glad to read about another normal couple who have such a strong connection which this lifestyle has helped with.
I too often look around at couples and wonder who is more open to swinging, sometimes easy to tell sometimes just impossible. I like your description of the everyday experiences, slipping on the underwear is something I can imagine happening to me. Enjoy this reconnection with J, you never know what is around the corner.

[steveb713]

When I said back at it again I guess wasn’t kidding. Was at Costco earlier today received a text from L “
Don’t rush home I’m going to Joe’s for an hour.”

Wasn’t surprised really. Of course her hour time frame
Is unlikely as she’s never been away with him for only an hour.

I admit while excited I always experience a giant wave of emotion ranging from thrilled to everything else. It’s hard for me to put it into words. Perhaps someone can help me understand the range of emotions that others experience. It’s not jealousy best described as angst.

When I think about L having sex with him it really astounds me. Here we are a long married retired couple, senior citizens, middle class, kids all on their own living elsewhere and well settled. We’re really orphans in our community.

The whole idea that we are in this lifestyle enjoying the hell out of it is mind boggling. Keeping it a secret among ourselves
Is almost too much. We frequently look at one another and just break out laughing. The irony of it.

I wait at home having unloaded 175$ worth of Costco purchases. Ironic, while I’m at Costco my wife is fucking her boyfriend.

Who would have ever thought.

[airhorn]

I wait at home having unloaded 175$ worth of Costco purchases. Ironic, while I’m at Costco my wife is fucking her boyfriend.

Unload cart full of stuff, Costco worker makes small talk:

"Did you find everything you were looking for?"
"I came here for lightbulbs."

[coastalkid]

When I think about L having sex with him it really astounds me. Here we are a long married retired couple, senior citizens, middle class, kids all on their own living elsewhere and well settled. We’re really orphans in our community.

The whole idea that we are in this lifestyle enjoying the hell out of it is mind boggling. Keeping it a secret among ourselves
Is almost too much. We frequently look at one another and just break out laughing. The irony of it.

I wait at home having unloaded 175$ worth of Costco purchases. Ironic, while I’m at Costco my wife is fucking her boyfriend.

Who would have ever thought.

This is my dream come true. Well, at least the part of having a hot sex life after retirement. I noticed your thread is titled "Back at it again". Was your wife active before? Are you and your wife the same age? My wife is far to insecure about her wrinkles and weight to seriously consider doing anything with anyone else. Was, or is she reluctant at all considering her age? Is having one particular FWB her preference? Would she seek out another if Joe decided to get serious with his girlfriend?

[steveb713]

I wait at home having unloaded 175$ worth of Costco purchases. Ironic, while I’m at Costco my wife is fucking her boyfriend.

Unload cart full of stuff, Costco worker makes small talk:

"Did you find everything you were looking for?"
"I came here for lightbulbs."

I did and more of course. They’re marketing geniuses

[steveb713]

When I think about L having sex with him it really astounds me. Here we are a long married retired couple, senior citizens, middle class, kids all on their own living elsewhere and well settled. We’re really orphans in our community.

The whole idea that we are in this lifestyle enjoying the hell out of it is mind boggling. Keeping it a secret among ourselves
Is almost too much. We frequently look at one another and just break out laughing. The irony of it.

I wait at home having unloaded 175$ worth of Costco purchases. Ironic, while I’m at Costco my wife is fucking her boyfriend.

Who would have ever thought.

This is my dream come true. Well, at least the part of having a hot sex life after retirement. I noticed your thread is titled "Back at it again". Was your wife active before? Are you and your wife the same age? My wife is far to insecure about her wrinkles and weight to seriously consider doing anything with anyone else. Was, or is she reluctant at all considering her age? Is having one particular FWB her preference? Would she seek out another if Joe decided to get serious with his girlfriend?

Yes she was active 6 years ago stopped for a variety of reasons and became active again a few months ago. Wife is 10 years younger. She was 25 when we met. I was divorced only a few months when we met. Weve been married 45 years.

L has added a few pounds in the past several years and only yesterday mentioned she’s determined to lose some weight. She’s been fastidious about her skin staying ou of the sun and never goes out without sunscreen. Of course she’s showing some aging but it does t deter her from looking her best. She’s always pulled together. That’s what I love about her.

She’s very comfortable with Joe, he’s her same age. She’s only been with him. And no I don’t think she’d be with another guy unless it happened casually. She told me she wouldn’t go looking for a FB. Joe has broken up with the girlfriend. He wants nothing serious. L is perfect he doesn’t want a girlfriend she doesn’t want anything more than what they have.

He told L he wants to invite us over for dinner soon.
Should be fine. Laughingly I told L no more hotwife I guess we’re becoming poly. Next we’ll be taking vacations together. Jokingly. I like things as they are.

As for your wife Coastal keep saying sweet encouraging words remind her how beautiful she is and how my you love her. It can still happen.

[Swingpaul]

That is a nice development, all three of you seem to be taking things at your own pace which is not always easy.
Nice that he wanted to invite you both over for dinner not just L. Long may it continue!

[steveb713]

That is a nice development, all three of you seem to be taking things at your own pace which is not always easy.
Nice that he wanted to invite you both over for dinner not just L. Long may it continue!

Yes thanks it is an interesting situation - we are definitely taking things at our. ( actually at L and Joe's pace - I am along for the ride - if it were
up to L I think she'd see him more frequently. She seems to be up for it most every day or every other day. When I asked her about it she said well he needs time to recover his libido. When I said hell, I'm older than him she said well your oversexed with a smile.

As for the dinner there's a bit of a story to that as well. It turns out Joe has a daughter living in DC that he wants to visit. The big problem though
is he has a dog that he refuses to board or send to a kennel. Mind you this guy is a retired veterinary surgeon. He hinted at having L ( and me ) stay with the dog or at least come by a few times a day to walk and be with the dog. Following that maybe I'll have you two over for dinner and we can
talk about that - I of course said sure, meanwhile I'll ask how he enjoy fucking my wife.

I could actually write a book about this whole scenario. He lives in a PUD with neighbors. He's very protective of his privacy so he's very careful to not
have L there without me - its a joke really - I did say to L no darling you're not going to DC with him while I stay home and walk his dog. She replied maybe you should go to DC with him. And yes long may it continue - BTW in closing its only been two days since she was with him and she's already getting cranky and has apologized twice to me for being cranky.

[coastalkid]

The more I read your posts and the more I think about it, you are in a very good spot. You both have stayed together. You both have experience to draw on from her earlier days. She's ten years younger than you and she still calls YOU oversexed! This guy is obviously quirky and discreet so, minimized threat there. I'd say you could have a lot of fun if things go right.

The dog thing is kind of weird. You know if you agree to watch it you'll end up walking his dog. Can you imagine walking his dog while he's having sex with your wife?

What is your wife like when she's cranky?