Chrislydi wrote: ↑Sun Jul 17, 2022 6:38 am
'Having not seen the girl in the last 2 days, and we still haven't really ever spoken properly, I'm getting waaaaaaaaaaaaaay ahead of myself and I have probably just made it all up in my head. All I know is that when she told me her name it did something to me, like I felt my whole body just sing inside, her name just felt perfect. Weird to explain, but the sound of her voice saying her name just resonated in my chest'
I don't want to throw cold water on it but maybe with all your problems you were all too ready to interpret it that way, obviously I've no clue at all but sometimes when everything seems to be going south any small ray of sunshine can become so magnified it takes on a meaning well beyond what it really is. This isn't to doubt anything at all, as I'm in no position whatsoever to judge, but you could hardly be blamed for wanting something good for a change to happen in your life atm.
Chris
Yes I 100% wholeheartedly agree. It's not until/if I have a chance to speak to her for any length of time alone without being within earshot/eyeshot of the others that go to this place on a daily basis then I will likely be able to judge better the level of interest.
I'm well aware of how primed I was to respond to even the glimmer of attention given by someone (I think I already mentioned it) so I also have to keep that in consideration. The whole thing has stirred up such a whirlwind of emotions within me so I am glad that things are progressing slow, I need that time as I would have BIG decisions to make.
Having said that, there's a couple of other things that are intriguing/unusual/worth mentioning. I only first saw her probably 4 weeks ago, but we didn't really start speaking much until 2 weeks ago. A week ago, about a week after we kind of started speaking a bit, she brought her sister to the park! She's been there only that one time and hasn't been back since. It was in front of her sister that she really seemed to flirt with me for the first time. Saying that I seemed familiar to her and asking if I was a teacher as apparently I was giving off "major teacher vibes" whatever that means. A few other things but I could see she was kind of blushing a bit also.
Secondly, I think it might have either been that day when her sister was there or the day after that. But as she was leaving she said "I'll see you tomorrow" and made a bit of a point to check if I was coming, first time we had kind of made a point of seeing each other there. However that next day she wasn't there! The weather was a bit shit so I put it down to that. However when I did see her next she mentioned that her father was meant to bring her dog there on that day. She had given him directions on how to go to the park but apparently he got lost and went to the wrong place. Of course if he did come I would recognise the dog immediately and I would have gone over to say hello and confirm the name of the dog etc and would have talked with him a bit.
So again, could be a coincidence but meeting her sister and then seemingly possibly meeting her father also? Intriguing to say the least. In Aussie culture that's quite odd, especially SO soon. However she is of a different ethnic background (Asian) however I've been unable to determine from which country. Her accent doesn't give it away and her name doesn't either, one day I'll ask but it doesn't really matter at this point. I care about the person rather than where they're from. The family culture though could explain some of this behaviour as it could be more normal, and to look to an older guy also is normal in some parts.
Having said all of that, whatever happens I need to make the decision based on my marriage alone and not what may or may not happen with someone else. They need to be kept as two separate issues as best as I can manage. I would NOT be leaving my wife for her, although that is what everyone would think if I start seeing her. I think everyone here though would appreciate I've done my best to save things before even thinking of moving on, and even though maybe a new opportunity is potentially staring me right in the face (or not as we won't know until we meet again), I am still reluctant to let go and embrace it.
The consensus here (and I think my mum feels the same way but couldn't outright say it as it isn't her place) is that it's time to let her go and to move on. From her actions that seems to be what she wants and I just couldn't bring myself to let her go. If nothing else this new girl has opened my eyes to other possibilities and that there are other things I could look forward to if we do separate.
It could be that my wife gets what she wants, but I have a feeling that she wouldn't like what she gets.