Be Careful What you Wish For (true story)

[mr-nobody]

Your story reminds me so much of one I read on a website called "The Experience Project". It's been revamped since and the story is gone but it had the same title as yours, Be Careful What You Wish For. It was written from the wife's perspective though.

Her husband tried to talk her into hotwifing for years. She didn't want to but reluctantly finally agreed. After a couple of false starts she finally found a guy that was agreeable to her and the sex with them was good and then later great. Her husband was fine with them getting together without him as long as only sex was involved. Once after they had sex they were hungry and went out and had a nice dinner together. The husband didn't like that and told her not to to that. She tried. But she found that she actually liked their bull more and more beyond the sex. They soon started sneaking out to see a movie together or have dinner. The affair became them doing normal things. The final straw came when her bull told her, "If you were mine, I'd never share you." She wrote that something inside her just snapped and she was done with the lifestyle. She left her husband and married her bull. She told the story as a cautionary tale to the men who were considering entering into the hotwife lifestyle.

It's something I always keep in mind. I completely agree with OpenCouple.

I think that's the only safe way to live it : A threesome with only 2 active participants, something you actually do with your wife, not like a simulated affair that can actually turn into a real one where she naturally questions her marriage

This is why we opted to go into this as a team.

[afagehi7]

Bound2Bmine,

Did you ever get around to writing the longer version of your story about how your wife left you? Iv'e not been able to find it, it would be a brilliant read!

Second this. Would love to hear.

[Bound2bmine]

Hello it's been a while since I have been on this site. Here is a re-write not great but a little more detail. I do have an ask. I'm looking for someone or a few people coloborate on writing a short script or story based on my story. Might be a fun project. Of course I would share any all info that was needed. Let me know if your interested. Message me or reach out on Skype.

OK here you go. Not a great re-write but a little beter.

Some of you know my story. It has been posted right on this site. I will re-post it here. Tragic but so erotic. I am still so addicted to this lifestyle it really does take over you.

I met my wife when she was in her 20's. She was very mature for her age. I was 10 yrs older than her and divorced and we hit it off right from the start. She was a hot little thing with a very friendly attitude, she was the life of the party. She was a bit of a pot head, but had a good head on her shoulders. I would later find out that she was a bit adventurous, or slutty whatever you want to call it and by age 18 had already been with 30 guys.
So we dated for like 4 years and had one breakup where she ran off with an ex-boyfriend to Jamaica for a week. This is where my feeling of sharing her started I think.
All I could think about was her and her younger ex-boyfriend fucking her every night. Like I said this is where I think my desires to share her started. She came back and we eventually got back together and married. She was 23-24 by then.
I was happy but I still had that fantasy of sharing her. She got lots of attention from men so that helped fuel my fantasy at the time. She got pregnant and we had a child. The fantasy was on hold while she was pregnant. After the baby was born I brought the fantasy up again. She was against it at first but slowly warmed up to the idea.
By this time she was like 25-26 when she started playing with other men. It included men from a young guy who was 19 to an older guy who was in his 50's.
The young guy was not good in bed and it was a one time thing but it broke the ice.
Now the older guy was an interesting scenario. He was a 52 yr old business owner that owned a business right next to a part-time job she had. He was friends with the owner of the place that my wife worked, so he frequently would visit. He had money and would often speak to my wife. He let her drive his new corvette one day and shortly after asked her out on a date and she agreed.
They went out to dinner and to a strip club then to his home. This guy is middle eastern and had a reputation for being a womanizer. I have to tell you this guy was not attractive at all but had that sort of no bullshit attitude about him. This became a regular thing for a while where he would buy her things in exchange for sex.
Now the one thing that really stuck in my mind was that she told me one time that he ripped off his condom and told her don’t worry I wont get you pregnant (she was not on the pill at the time maybe he was fixed). But he came inside her. Something so hot for me to know that an older guy had just cum inside my wife. He was like a sugar-daddy type for her. There was something extremely hot for me knowing that in a way she was being used. This went on for a few months.
Next there was a Latin guy she had like a one time thing with and another guy she met through that same part time job; the other guy was also a one or two time thing.
There was also I guy I introduced her to who was older in his 40's. They never really hit it off but I think he did eat her pussy once.
Oh and I almost forgot through the old sugar-daddy guy she met the owners of a strip club and they offered her a part-time job at the door. She took the job as she thought it would be fun. Shortly after they asked her if she wanted to strip. She never agreed; she said she didn’t have enough self confidence for that.
You know it's funny with no ground rules as we had I never encouraged her to do it. Who knows where that would have led. She only worked at the place for like two weeks.
At this point she decided she wanted to get more career oriented. She got a job working for a governmental agency. It was a big office that housed many departments and had a constant flow of men. While there she met this guy, we will call him J1. He was married but sort of a ladies men. He sort of had a steady thing with her for like a few months. He would follow her home and they would have a quick fuck. This guy was well hung, according to her like 9 inches and she told me once he had a perfect dick.
The one thing that stands out about this guy is that one time I came home and she managed to save his condom with his cum still in it. I was inexperienced and had no idea what to do with it. LOL This went on for a few months but she started to feel bad because he was married and she hated being the other woman.
Then something unexpected happened that caught me off guard but was very hot. There came a time that she had a chance to go for a better job within the same office but working for a contractor for that same office. So she applied for the job and she had to meet with the CEO of the contracting company. He was a black guy in his 40's.
This is what stands out to me. She was to meet this guy at a hotel in the restaurant for the interview. I remember that it took a while and I eventually called her. She answered and said sorry it's taking so long, he is showing me how to negotiate. I thought it was a strange answer but at the time didn't think much of it. Later that day when she came home she said that he asked her to come to his room to sign some papers and that she ended up giving him a blow job.
(So I have to stop here and say isn’t this kind of odd? Why would a CEO of a company take a chance like that unless it was expressed in some way. Am I wrong here? She later said that she felt pushed to do it and later that year he came into town and she did it again with him. According to her only a blow job again. This whole scenario seemed strange. I mean not only what I detailed above but why would he only settle for a blow job. I think more happened. Of course I never pushed for an answer because I just wanted to continue the ride.)
After this there were a couple of other men but they where mostly one time things.
None of the guys knew that I was aware of her playing around. They all thought she was cheating on me. It was easier to find guys that way she did not want to do the bar stranger thing. So at that time I never got to watch. It was her playing on her own and me just hearing the details. This went on for 5 yrs off and on.
At this point I thought I had it made a nice family a young sexy hot wife who was all about our family at home and fucking other men outside the home. By the way no one knew about our lifestyle not her family or mine. We kept it all very discreet.

At some point we had the idea that we should get a guy who could be a steady lover for her; a guy that we could both be friends with and I could watch and participate, as well as be a steady lover for her. So this guy at her work who was a work acquaintance that I knew as well just happens to break up with his girlfriend. That opened the door.
We will call this guy J2. He started talking more to my wife and became a friend of both of us. He would come over the house and I would conveniently go to bed early and take our child to bed and leave them alone in the living room. That of course lec to more.
So we slowly brought him into the lifestyle. I have to tell you he was and may still be a cool dude. Easy to get along with. He was younger than her by 6 years, he was black which was a big fantasy for me and later found out it was a big turn on for her as well.
So he starts hanging out as a friend of the family and that’s how everyone saw him. He would come over to our house when our child was at grandmas and my wife would go to his place other times. I thought I was in heaven. I had never seen my wife react like she did to this guy.
I have to admit he was in much better shape than I was he had a solid body and the way he fucked her OMG, the way he took over her was incredibly hot and shocking in a good way to me. I have to admit however that it did worry me a bit. From the first time I got to watch them together deep down I knew I was in trouble.
With in 2 months it started to get a little out of control; he was fucking her 3-4 times a week. She totally started to fall under a spell. That again was exciting but worried me. She even started to be a bit submissive to him. Most of times she was at his place because we had a child. She would leave work around 5 pm and go to his place and come home many times around midnight.
(Again in retrospect probably not a good idea. I was allowing a bond to build. But remember we had no ground rules. I was so into this lifestyle that I would allow anything as long as it fed my kink.)
So by this point I have a young wife and mother that is getting fucked by another man 3-4 times a week and I’m hardly getting any sex at all. She was on the pill so he was cumming inside her sometimes several times a night. If she wouldn’t have been on the pill she would have been pregnant right away as much cum as he was dropping inside her. Keep in mind 3-4 times a week many nights twice a night, that’s a whole lot of another mans DNA inside her. I believe this was helping the change in her. Just a theory I have.
(This really fed my fetish. at a psychological level, to know that another mans DNA was flowing inside my wife’s body was like a mental fuck)
In retrospect now it was sort of amazing the way he got into her head and started to turn her.
So I start to see a change in her she starts to become more distant. You know what I mean when you can tell that you’re no longer the one, that something is off. That was the first thing I noticed.
I then started getting less and less sex. Even though that may be the normal progression of a thing like this it started to worry me a bit but also fed into my hunger for this fetish. When she would give me a BJ she would spit me out but she always swallowed him. I asked once why she spit mine out she said your cum tastes sour and his tastes sweet.
So I went from watching and participating to taking pictures and videos to getting an occasional BJ to getting mostly hand jobs when I would complain. And when I would complain about not getting any she would tell me “Come here, let me give you some relief,” and would jerk me into a towel. Then she started to jerk me over the toilet and she knew how to get me off quickly. It was sort of humiliating for her to jerk me over the toilet like my sperm was being thrown away.
So more and more she finds things to fight about. Just like petty things, and I have to admit I would also start some arguments because I could feel her pulling away. She suggested at some point that we go to counseling but I said no like an idiot. Later when I could see we were going to split up I agreed to the counseling but at that point she didn’t want to.
She tells me one day “I’m addicted to him I can’t do with out him.” Then she said, “You got us into this lifestyle, you opened the door, and now I’m in love with him. I can’t be without him.”
We separate. She said she was going to her sisters house to try to figure things out but she never stopped fucking him during that time and within six months while we are separated but not divorced she got pregnant by him. I can remember getting the phone call. She said, “Do you have a minute…I have to ask you to please let us go through with the divorce; I’m pregnant.”
I was devastated and turned on at the same time again, a very serious head fuck. We divorced like 8 months later. She had a big pregnant belly when we had our court date for the divorce. It was kind of humiliating; it was obvious it was not my child.

I wanted to add this as well. This is a conversation I had with her about our past not too long ago. I asked her:
ME: So what was the different. We know emotions came after. Was the sex better?
HER: Your right I didn't fall in love right away, but honestly I absolutely enjoyed the sex, I cant say exactly why, it was just so good. So yes to be honest the sex was better. Sorry.
ME: Was the black thing a turn on for you?
HER: Yes, the black thing was a turn on. Can't explain why, I just wanted him all the time. I don’t know I just like the contrast of our skin together and how aggressive he was in bed. I even felt intimidated when he fucked me sometimes. Turned me on so much.
ME: So you didn't say if you were always attracted to black men?
HER: No not always attracted to black dudes not at all. But you saw us together can you blame me. You have to admit that there was a big difference between you and him. I'm sorry it just got to the point I couldn't imagine you touching me anymore. You wanted this for me. You wanted me to have a steady lover. You encouraged us to fuck all the time and he took full advantage of that. I mean you know we were together almost every day and you got off on it. Do you remember? Sorry. He became my main man the only man I thought about. I craved to have him inside me all the time. Sorry you asked me to be honest.
I also asked her this:
ME:Did you think of me as submissive in any way? Because in regular life I don't like to be pushed around.
HER: Yeah, I could see you being submissive.
ME: OK wow, submissive how?
HER: I just meant that I could see you enjoying a sexually submissive relationship. I really don't know though. I mean you did give me up to another man right. You allowed him to take me over and over. That's pretty submissive!

This lifestyle can be dangerous; make sure you go into it with eyes wide open.

[Chrislydi]

The obvious truths this short thread teaches mean it should be virtually compulsory reading for many of us who frequent this website. There has to be real salutary benefits to be gained about signs missed and lessons learnt in hindsight when they're exactly the same traps we all fall into.

Chris

[BDJ]

Bound2bmine,

My story is similar (fictionalized as Jade: My Story) with the same result in that we separated for a time. Lucky for me things turned out different than for you. Our 52nd wedding anniversary was this year.

BDJ

[Chrislydi]

have to ask since no one else did, what happened to your child how old was he/she when you split up? Is he/she calling her step daddy 'daddy' now and is he/she living with your wife. How is your relationship with your child. The reason I'm asking is because it's all fine and well to have fantasies and even to explore them but didnt the two of you ever consider the impact you had on your child when you started playing and then split up? Wasnt your child ever curious about why mommy wasnt home so much? So you got your ultimate cuckold wish, losing your wife to someone else and she got a man who made her forget you but what did your kid get except a broken home? Truly truly selfish thinking on both you and your wifes part.

While there is some truth to this is it really any different than a husband and wife who go away for a weekend or have a date night every week? That also takes time away from the kids but leads to a more healthy family in the long run. Do you also condem husbands/wives for that?

It's very rarely that I read such advice that I feel is so nonsensical and ridiculous that I think it must have been done in 'jest', as I can't believe any human being with even a modicum of common sense could be so deluded to make such a bogus and ludicrous comparison. Chalk and cheese comes to mind, before you even think of a complete lack of any sense of perspective and absolutely no sense of proportionality. To compare the possible pychologogical affects on a child of knowing her mum and dad share a date night together to being in any way comparable to her mum leaving her dad, her home and the child for her extra marital lover is so unbelievably crass, stupid and idiotic. It's just positively moronic.

I can't believe he was even being serious, and I'm talking from the perspective of someone whose wife did enjoy the lifestyle when our boys were younger, this comparison though is beyond words it's just mind numbingly insane. Even without actually leaving the marriage the two are in no way comparable in any way whatsoever. (I'm trying not to be abusive here)

(Just a side note it's condemn not condem)

Chris

[Chrislydi]

I think sometimes you've got to look at the end result and weigh up the lessons and is it worth doing the same thing in exactly the same way again?

I mean for all you can love how she got drawn in to the extreme and had to admit she was hooked on the fucking, you can look at so many cases and match this alongside what it all too predictably can result in, so in this particular case we see it in the following recollection .....

'I had forgotten to write in the original story. I asked her once why we were not having sex not even a hand job. She said I cant imagine you touching me. I knew it was over then'.

and make your own conclusions

From my experience, it is hot in the beginning and it does make your own sex more frequent with such an edge and ferocity of feeling that it's electrified and on another level, but this is INIITIALLY. It can all too often then start getting less frequent as she starts intensifying the affair - there's almost a connection, as one extramarital affair intensifies so the marital one diminishes. It can reach the stage where slight denial starts to creep in, and then by steps to far more widespread denial, it can even be very gradual, unnoticed and insidious, but there comes a time when she's fucking away from home most nights, or at least with him most nights and you're hardly getting a look in, it's perhaps only at this point that you really realise you're in trouble. That's when you know it was never worth it in the way you went about it - but the earlier obvious signs are recognisable to others too, it's whether they even want to warn you that's the problem..

For me too frequent and not spaced out enough re-occurrences, and having no limits in allowing it to intensify far too quickly, are the main concerns that need to be avoided to mitigate against the most obvious risks. Eroticising the risk is part of it and sometimes inevitable, but then you take on the consequences, for me it's too important that these safeguards are observed.

The above is how I see it, but I know it's not some kind of panacea or a universal cure all remedy, one suited to all couples, it's by no means for all, some can go all the way and take on every risk under the sun and still survive intact or even stronger, but then you will always have the exceptions.

Chris

[love84]

Much appreciation for a.real life story. Extremely hot with real life consequences.