bob44044 wrote:Mark, I enjoyed reading your 2 year venture into Hotwifing. I agree with you totally on how you felt when your wife had sex with her bull the very first time. I felt the same way. The only difference between us, is my wife had no trouble sharing all the details. Our guy lonely too. They went bareback because he promised to not see anyone else while having a sexual relationship with my wife. After a month or so I was able to be present when they had sex, a major turn on. I found it fascinating to watch her as they had sex. Wrapping her legs around him. Throwing her hips forward to meet him as the humped. The closer they came to cuming the more intense it was. Amazing!
The one thing I found interesting on your part, was Juli only agreed to have sex with someone other than you, because she had developed a close personal relationship to him, and the fact you said you felt sorry for him for not having a female outlet in a year. And that she felt the same way. Now, all of a sudden she was willing to have sex with someone strange you have no relationship with. That's a rather large leap. I'm glad for you, it just seems interesting.
Also, if you and Brian were such good friends, why didn't you guys spend any time together doing things on your own. And why didn't you guys talk about your sex lives were with Juli, as you and Mike already do. I'm not criticizing, It just seems odd.
It also seem odd the Juli would end the relationship, if she felt nothing for Brian, but they were too passionate during sex. I thought that that was what happened during good sex, passion. As long as they weren't getting too close at your expense, it would seem like she had a good thing going. A great lover who was a friend and a willing hubby.
In any event, your a lucky dude. She sound like a winner. I did see the two pictures you posted of her. Can you post a couple more?
Hi Bob...Yes the 3-way relationships that Juli and I have had over the last couple of years...first with our friend Brian and now with a local man named Mike...are probably more complex than I have taken the time to explain in this forum, but I guess the most succinct way to answer is that our previous relationship with Brian had been as a couple. Juli and I had spent time with Brian and is wife occasionally (socially only), so Brian and I never really developed a "guy" relationship. Also he lived about an hour away so we never had opportunity to bond that way either.
But Brian's divorce happened to coincide with my strong desire to experience wife-sharing...and this came at a time in our marriage where Juli and I were empty-nesters, so Juli was more open to going back to an experience she had had as a shared wife in her first marriage when she was younger. So it all was a perfect storm I guess (I mean that in a good way), and came together in a way that benefited all 3 of us for almost a year.
The reasons that Juli gave me for her wanting to end the sexual relationship with Brian, I'm sure are also more complex than I can adequately explain here...but I take Juli at her word that she had become uncomfortable with the level of passion that she and Brian were experiencing together in bed. I can vouch from my perspective that our marriage sex had become very utilitarian., and literally our sex had become a way for me to simply release inside her, but the real passionate sex was happening in Brian's bed. There was a time over several months where I did not see my wife orgasm. She was having her climaxes with him.
And I think when Juli realized just how far their relationship had gone, it scared her straight and she took an opportunity when Brian had talked about seeing another woman...to end the relationship with him.
I also think Brian enjoyed the exclusivity of having Juli alone in his bed, almost like a surrogate wife. So he and I never discussed their sex life, and our relationship basically developed into two men sharing the same wife.
As for Mike...the reason Juli made the leap from being shared with a familiar friend, to agreeing to be shared with a stranger, was really for the reasons I just mentioned concerning Brian. I don't know that there had been a strong emotional bond develop between Juli and Brian or if indeed it was merely passionate sex as she lead me to believe..but I do know that something in her relationship with our friend Brian, concerned her enough to never want to do the same kind of relationship again with a close friend. So that is when we agreed to find a man who we did not have the same familiar relationship with. So with Mike..it truly is a sexual relationship...and that much less often than it had been with Brian.
Hope this helps to answer some of your questions. As I said..it's just very difficult to go into much detail about such a complex relationship as wife-sharing...and to explain it fully in a very limited space. I know here we tend to focus mainly on the physical part of wife-sharing...but that is only the tip of the sexual iceberg...the emotional relationships and emotional experiences that husbands, wives and Bulls have individually and together are the really intense parts of a 3-way relationship. Just harder to get into those details here sometimes..but they are definitely very interesting!
Mark