Thanks for the advice! Certainly learned this time compared to previous times with getting carried away. Today I haven't mentioned anything sexual at all. One thing is two of my buddies invited me out for a last minute guys night tonight and although I did not want to go my wife was very encouraging for me to go out with them. Usually she suggests I don't go or I can tell from her tone and responses in the past when my friends have invited me to go out that she really doesn't want me to go. But when my phone alerted I had a message and she asked who it was from and I told her it was so and so wanting to know if I could go hang out tonight she told me, "You should go!" Even though I didn't really want to go it almost seemed she was suggesting I don't back out of going out when I expressed I didn't really want to go. What's surprising is we are going to be very busy over the next few days/nights and we aren't going to see each other much so I thought for sure on one of our free nights together she would have been on board with me not going out with my guy friends.minos_dis_crete wrote:I think you see where you misstepped a little, so I won't pile on as far as the impulse to initiate, or getting carried away and not quitting while you were ahead. Nothing huge was lost, I don't think. So no big deal, and it's good to learn from mistakes.
Just offering a word of advice in general for you and anyone else reading who wants to improve their flirtation... women like to be wanted, but except when they're already turned on, themselves, I don't think they have as positive an association with hearing about how guys physically manifest their desire as we generally do about hearing how girls manifest their desires.
"I want you so bad" is safer and probably sexier to most girls than, say, "I had to jack off because you turn me on so much" ...even if for us, hearing that they were so wet thinking about you that they had to masturbate might be the ultimate compliment.
Most of the time their fantasies have a slightly more subtle tone than ours and they enjoy the implication as much or more than the explicit. Note how her response was "I could just get whatever I wanted from you..." not "I bet you'd buy me that Coach purse I liked just for a chance to feel the inside of my pussy again right now"
Anyway, whatever you do, try not to apologize for it. She'll forgive you either way, but "sorry" isn't sexy except to dommes. lol. I mean, it's cute, because you're so clearly a submissive little cuck, but in general, better to own your comments than to retreat. For example, this would have been a more effective way to close that thread.
Her: "You can't control yourself!!!"
You: "When it comes to you, never. Can't wait to see you later."
Who knows that may be completely irrelevant to anything and may be nothing but her being generous, but I really would prefer to stay home with her since our time together is going to be limited over the next few days, but she was very much suggesting I should go.