Serrand wrote:When you're referring to the sex between Sarah and Aaron as "making love". Maybe, it's only semantics and in this case and doesn't mean anything. But, I don't know, should "making love" not be something that's exclusively only between you and Sarah?
You also said Aaron has "power over her body". I quite certain you have that "power over her body" as well, maybe in a different form?
Didn't you tell us about a sexual encounter, recently, in which Sarah told you, that you gave her one of the the most powerful orgasm she ever experienced. As always very much looking forward to your next update.
I say that Sarah and Aaron are “making love” because I think it’s a more accurate description of what’s happening between them than to say they’re “having sex” or “fucking.” I would never say she “makes love” with any other sex partner she’s had, past or present, besides me. But, with Aaron, I have to acknowledge the depth of their sexual connection.
Does that mean they love each other? No, they don’t love each other like Sarah and I love each other. But, they definitely have “feelings” for each other. And they should. I would expect that. So, yes, part of the words I use are semantics. It’s my attempt to come up with a term that maybe isn’t perfect, but it’s more accurate than “having sex.”
It’s the same with my expression “Aaron owns her body.” Obviously, he doesn’t really own her body, any more than I own her body. She’s in control. But, when they set everything aside, i.e. the jobs, the kids, the everyday demands, and yes, maybe even when she sets me aside temporarily, and it’s just the two of them, naked and together, it seems to me that Aaron “owns” her body. Not her mind, but the part of her that is a sexual being. On a purely sexual level, he satisfies those urges and needs she has in a way that I, as her loving husband, can’t always satisfy. At least not in the same way. She seems to “let herself go” with him. She “hands him the keys” so to speak, and that’s why I say he “owns her body.”
That doesn’t mean I can’t also provide her with incredible sex, as she recently verified. That’s the beautiful thing Sarah taught me. A human being is able to have mind-blowing sex with someone other than their life partner and it’s normal and healthy and can even strengthen the bond between them.
Another significant awareness to me, however, is that both Sarah and I might just be experiencing a similar pattern of submissiveness to Aaron. I have been a sub to him for a couple of years, but this is something new and unexpected to see Sarah, at least in those moments of passionate sex, getting a similar enjoyment out of submission.