UKDan wrote: ↑Thu Sep 12, 2024 11:31 pm
Hi guys, my wife and I had some fun with the Hotwife ‘fantasy’ a couple of years ago. It really was a lot of fun but she was always a ‘it will not happen for real’. We enjoyed it in the bedroom, and she even got to the point of pointing out guys she liked on tipsy nights out
For some reason, she cooled on the fantasy and I never really ‘stoked the fire’.
I’ve started to reintroduce my fantasy very gently and want to do it right this time and get as far as we can. (Even if that is just fantasising between the two of us).
Therefore, my question to you guys is - what are some good answers to the inevitable questions that are going to be fired at me?? Why do we need this? Am I not enough? Do you want an affair? Etc.
I want nothing more than her, she’s amazing, beautiful, and seriously sexy! We have way more ‘fun’ than anyone I know, and I may be being greedy, but I’d really like to explore this fantasy some more. It’s highly addictive
You sound like you’re coming to this lifestyle much the same way my wife and I did.
We fantasized. We came together. My softening dick would slide out of her, and she’d say, “It’s just a fantasy. It’ll never really happen,” and my dick would go from softening to completely limp in one second.
I was hoping it would happen fo soooooooo long.
So…..sometimes (and eventually often) I started asking her to imagine specific guys we know when she imagined them fucking her. She was tepid with a lot of guys, but there were two or three where she seemed to get wetter than usual during our fantasy-driven sessions.
Eventually, she settled on this one co-worker who was, quite frankly, the best “candidate” out of all of the guys we role-played. He became the subject of our fantasy. Single. Older. Owns his own home. No kids. Never been married. Well-built (not perfect, but not bad at all). Before long, it was clear by how sopping wet she’d become during our sessions that she wanted him inside her in the worst way. (Add to this a little workplace flirtiness here and there. She LOVED imagining him bending her over and fucking her silly. But still, almost like it was habit, she’d end EVERY session with, “It’s just a fantasy. It’ll never really happen.” (It used to drive me nuts!)
I encouraged her to flirt with him at work. She never had the guts to go one step further and take the flirtation to a slightly higher level…a touch…a suggestion that they should get together outside of work….nothing. It went on like this for months. I was going crazy. Her sopping pussy “told” me she wanted it. I, of course, wanted it. And I was almost positive that he’d LOVE to “bag the hot chick at work.”
I took a bold step, and I admittedly deserve some criticism for it.
As we all know on this forum, it MUST be the hotwife’s choice to enter this lifestyle. Anything else is a fraud upon the lifestyle. In a female-led relationship, SHE must ultimately lead.
I managed to approach him privately (We sort of knew each other from company functions) and tell him that she was hot for him and I didn’t mind it one bit. I told him that, should anything happen in the future, he’d get a green light from me, and that EVERYTHING needed to remain extremely discreet.
I think he was delightfully surprised and knew he’d make a move in due time. He agreed that discretion should prevail should anything happen.
For my wife’s part, being seduced by him was the thing that turned her on most. She wanted HIM to take the lead. That was the part of the fantasy that she loved…another man taking control, holding her down and eventually fucking her lights out. She enjoyed the taboo of being a faithfully married woman who would be compelled by sheer carnal desire to open her legs for a man who was, by all means, stronger than her husband…more forthright…older, more experienced…a man who knows what he wants and takes it when he’s given the chance.
Several weeks later, he did exactly that…..fucked her lights out.
SHE LOVED IT! Called me IMMEDIATELY after it happened to tell me she just got thoroughly fucked and that it was the best sex she had ever experienced. (TBH, that hurt a little, but it was to be expected.) Indeed, he had taken TOTAL control of her that afternoon…Gave her what she was craving!
Coincidentally, as soon as I hung up with her, he called me to say he’d just had sex with her…..and that he imagined this would be happening much more often. (That was the first time I felt “cucked.” He wasn’t saying it to humiliate me. He was simply saying that they’d had a good time and that he’d probably be enjoying her more often in the future.). He wanted to let me know sort of out of a mutual respect.
The rest is history. They were together for 16 years. They absolutely loved fucking, and I was eventually invited in to watch. (And that’s when she discovered she liked having me watch her getting completely layed. He, in turn, discovered that he rather enjoyed fucking a married woman directly in front of her husband…me jerking off while he showed me how to satisfy the woman I’m married to!)
To be completely honest, here…..we sat her down about three months after they started their fantastic affair and told her that we had spoken PRIOR to his seducing her.
By that time, she didn’t care one bit. She just shrugged it off and hopped on his dick for another great ride. She was having the time of her life. She LOVED fucking him. (And he LOVED fucking her.)
I deserve criticism, I guess, for having taken the lead by talking to him, but we look back, now, and consider it a fairly inconsequential moment in the bigger picture.
For some reason, she cooled on the fantasy and I never really ‘stoked the fire’.
