Getting close?

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Thanks, Set! That is an interesting thought. We actually haven’t taken any sexy pictures of my wife, but I will ask her if we can send something R-rated to him. I am quite sure she is not ready to do more than that, but sending a sexy image will prompt “D” to compliment her sexiness. That is sure to score points with my wife! Great idea! Thanks again.

[setv4]

Congrats on the update! Hopefully he'll be able to join you in Florida and you all can have a great time together!

Thanks, Fearless! My wife told me that she was very happy to get a nice email from “D” today telling her how much he “loves” to see her. I asked to see their exchange. He expressed his hope that we would get together again soon, and she responded that she hoped so as well. She closed her message with a smiling emoji surrounded by hearts. So, I remain hopeful that things are moving (however incrementally) in the right direction.

Assuming “D” is able to meet us during the conference, what advice do you have as to how I should best handle this? He will probably be getting a room in a different hotel. I am thinking to just play it by ear and let nature take its course. But, then again, I can’t help but wonder if there is anything I can or should do to encourage my wife to take the next step (without freaking her out). “D” is a genuine gentleman, and as much as I know he wants to have sex with her, out of respect for her and me, I don’t think he will make a move outside of my presence. So, in light of that likelihood, is there anything you think I should do when all three of us are together? Back in June (I think it was) I encouraged my wife to give “D” a nice kiss when were all together. The two of them did so and it went well, although my wife had some second thoughts later. She recovered quickly, however. I’m open to your suggestions!

When you guys go to FL, have 'D' stay at the same hotel, as it would make things easier for them to get together during the trip.
This 1st morning the 3 of you should have breakfast together, with them sitting together across from you, before you head to work. They can then hang-out for the day together, while sharing selfies with you, of their interactions.
They could go shopping for a sexy new swimsuit, some sexy lingerie, &/or a couple of sexy outfits that she could model for you & him later on. Head to a beach or the pool with her wearing a hot swimsuit or a naughty sheer when wet swimsuit. Them having a flirty lunch together, including some kissing, along with eating. When you meet them after work, have dinner together, with your Wife sitting between You and 'D' & encourage 'D' to join you in touching your Wife seductively during dinner.
Have your Wife treat you two to a naughty fashion show, with her mainly preforming for 'D'. The possibilities are endless.
Most of all Have Fun! Best of luck to you all!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Congrats on the update! Hopefully he'll be able to join you in Florida and you all can have a great time together!

Thanks, Fearless! My wife told me that she was very happy to get a nice email from “D” today telling her how much he “loves” to see her. I asked to see their exchange. He expressed his hope that we would get together again soon, and she responded that she hoped so as well. She closed her message with a smiling emoji surrounded by hearts. So, I remain hopeful that things are moving (however incrementally) in the right direction.

Assuming “D” is able to meet us during the conference, what advice do you have as to how I should best handle this? He will probably be getting a room in a different hotel. I am thinking to just play it by ear and let nature take its course. But, then again, I can’t help but wonder if there is anything I can or should do to encourage my wife to take the next step (without freaking her out). “D” is a genuine gentleman, and as much as I know he wants to have sex with her, out of respect for her and me, I don’t think he will make a move outside of my presence. So, in light of that likelihood, is there anything you think I should do when all three of us are together? Back in June (I think it was) I encouraged my wife to give “D” a nice kiss when were all together. The two of them did so and it went well, although my wife had some second thoughts later. She recovered quickly, however. I’m open to your suggestions!

When you guys go to FL, have 'D' stay at the same hotel, as it would make things easier for them to get together during the trip.
This 1st morning the 3 of you should have breakfast together, with them sitting together across from you, before you head to work. They can then hang-out for the day together, while sharing selfies with you, of their interactions.
They could go shopping for a sexy new swimsuit, some sexy lingerie, &/or a couple of sexy outfits that she could model for you & him later on. Head to a beach or the pool with her wearing a hot swimsuit or a naughty sheer when wet swimsuit. Them having a flirty lunch together, including some kissing, along with eating. When you meet them after work, have dinner together, with your Wife sitting between You and 'D' & encourage 'D' to join you in touching your Wife seductively during dinner.
Have your Wife treat you two to a naughty fashion show, with her mainly preforming for 'D'. The possibilities are endless.
Most of all Have Fun! Best of luck to you all!

I like the way you think, Set! Thanks again. “D” said he did not want to stay where we will be only because the conference I am attending is at a high end resort. I am getting a conference rate for our room, whereas his rate would be twice as much and ridiculously pricey. Moreover, it’s probably a little risky if my wife is seen by my professional colleagues hanging out at the hotel pool with another guy. My wife and “D” could certainly shop elsewhere and go to his hotel’s pool. If something intimate develops, I think we could make it happen at either hotel. But thanks again for the ideas and your good wishes! Now we just have to hope that “D” can meet us there.

[setv4]

Congrats on the update! Hopefully he'll be able to join you in Florida and you all can have a great time together!

Thanks, Fearless! My wife told me that she was very happy to get a nice email from “D” today telling her how much he “loves” to see her. I asked to see their exchange. He expressed his hope that we would get together again soon, and she responded that she hoped so as well. She closed her message with a smiling emoji surrounded by hearts. So, I remain hopeful that things are moving (however incrementally) in the right direction.

Assuming “D” is able to meet us during the conference, what advice do you have as to how I should best handle this? He will probably be getting a room in a different hotel. I am thinking to just play it by ear and let nature take its course. But, then again, I can’t help but wonder if there is anything I can or should do to encourage my wife to take the next step (without freaking her out). “D” is a genuine gentleman, and as much as I know he wants to have sex with her, out of respect for her and me, I don’t think he will make a move outside of my presence. So, in light of that likelihood, is there anything you think I should do when all three of us are together? Back in June (I think it was) I encouraged my wife to give “D” a nice kiss when were all together. The two of them did so and it went well, although my wife had some second thoughts later. She recovered quickly, however. I’m open to your suggestions!

When you guys go to FL, have 'D' stay at the same hotel, as it would make things easier for them to get together during the trip.
This 1st morning the 3 of you should have breakfast together, with them sitting together across from you, before you head to work. They can then hang-out for the day together, while sharing selfies with you, of their interactions.
They could go shopping for a sexy new swimsuit, some sexy lingerie, &/or a couple of sexy outfits that she could model for you & him later on. Head to a beach or the pool with her wearing a hot swimsuit or a naughty sheer when wet swimsuit. Them having a flirty lunch together, including some kissing, along with eating. When you meet them after work, have dinner together, with your Wife sitting between You and 'D' & encourage 'D' to join you in touching your Wife seductively during dinner.
Have your Wife treat you two to a naughty fashion show, with her mainly preforming for 'D'. The possibilities are endless.
Most of all Have Fun! Best of luck to you all!

I like the way you think, Set! Thanks again. “D” said he did not want to stay where we will be only because the conference I am attending is at a high end resort. I am getting a conference rate for our room, whereas his rate would be twice as much and ridiculously pricey. Moreover, it’s probably a little risky if my wife is seen by my professional colleagues hanging out at the hotel pool with another guy. My wife and “D” could certainly shop elsewhere and go to his hotel’s pool. If something intimate develops, I think we could make it happen at either hotel. But thanks again for the ideas and your good wishes! Now we just have to hope that “D” can meet us there.

Good idea not to involve anyone you work with, so 'D' staying elsewhere is smart, as is keeping your activities away from the area too.
Your progression towards having a Hotwife is moving along very, very well! Continue to relish & enjoy every milestone along the way.

Still Enjoying The View 4

[hwlurker88]

Is it anyone else's experience that our wive's seem to be much more into the idea when we are out of town/away from home? My wife is always at her most devious mindset when we travel versus being at home. It's like her willingness to possibly become a hotwife increases 30% when we travel.

[Fearlesspain]

YES!

My wife isn't ready to be a hotwife (yet) but when we're out of town she turns into a different woman! She even has "out of town" outfits. She'll ride around topless and won't wear her bra or any panties. One time while out of town she sat in a booth a dinner and shopped for sex toys on her phone while we ate!

In town she might as well be a nun...

[Fearlesspain]

Going back to potential activities, you could "call her an Uber" and have D pick her up. You could open the door like the loving husband you are and watch as she drives off with him before you start work. I know I'd love seeing my wife off to an adventurous day with a man she's interested in.

I'd start a 3-way text between you all for the day where they keep you up to date with the fun they're having. Since D is a gentleman you can trust he'll take good care of her and they could spend some no-pressure time getting to know one another in a playful atmosphere. The 3-way chat could also be a safe space for you wife to communicate if she'd like to move forward with something like kissing him again. This would allow her to get the reassurance from you and will help you not pressure her and allow things to develop at her pace.

After you're finished with work you could always join them or even allow D some time to himself while you and your wife reconnect. After reading your messages I could see how she might feel some unnecessary guilt of being alone with him and that might allow you two time to talk through everything and also prioritize some personal time together so that she knows you want to enjoy life one on one with her at times too.

With this I think she'll be able to see that you're not just some horndog that wants his wife to bone another dude for his own gratification, but a man who deeply loves her and wants to expand her ability to experience happiness with more than one man for her pleasure. D seems like the perfect guy to aid in this because he also seems to respect her (and you) and wants the same for her as well.

I do agree with Setv4 that a dinner would be a great option. You've enjoyed it in the past and it's a great way for you all to interact in a safe environment without judgement.

A movie where you all sit together with a man on either side could be an option as well. The dim lighting could afford for some innocent hand holding. (I bet her heart would race holding both of you hands in public!) She could have some not so innocent petting if she's up for it.

A museum could be neat if you had them "go on a date" while you followed unassumingly as if you weren't together. I don't know if that would be an interest to you.

If things do progress throughout the week you could always go to a club or something one evening.

Hope these ideas help!

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

Man oh man check out all the Hollywood screenwriters in here. Lots of good ideas.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Going back to potential activities, you could "call her an Uber" and have D pick her up. You could open the door like the loving husband you are and watch as she drives off with him before you start work. I know I'd love seeing my wife off to an adventurous day with a man she's interested in.

I'd start a 3-way text between you all for the day where they keep you up to date with the fun they're having. Since D is a gentleman you can trust he'll take good care of her and they could spend some no-pressure time getting to know one another in a playful atmosphere. The 3-way chat could also be a safe space for you wife to communicate if she'd like to move forward with something like kissing him again. This would allow her to get the reassurance from you and will help you not pressure her and allow things to develop at her pace.

After you're finished with work you could always join them or even allow D some time to himself while you and your wife reconnect. After reading your messages I could see how she might feel some unnecessary guilt of being alone with him and that might allow you two time to talk through everything and also prioritize some personal time together so that she knows you want to enjoy life one on one with her at times too.

With this I think she'll be able to see that you're not just some horndog that wants his wife to bone another dude for his own gratification, but a man who deeply loves her and wants to expand her ability to experience happiness with more than one man for her pleasure. D seems like the perfect guy to aid in this because he also seems to respect her (and you) and wants the same for her as well.

I do agree with Setv4 that a dinner would be a great option. You've enjoyed it in the past and it's a great way for you all to interact in a safe environment without judgement.

A movie where you all sit together with a man on either side could be an option as well. The dim lighting could afford for some innocent hand holding. (I bet her heart would race holding both of you hands in public!) She could have some not so innocent petting if she's up for it.

A museum could be neat if you had them "go on a date" while you followed unassumingly as if you weren't together. I don't know if that would be an interest to you.

If things do progress throughout the week you could always go to a club or something one evening.

Hope these ideas help!

Thanks, Fearless! Those are all good thoughts. I also appreciate Set’s and HWlurker’s comments above as well. We are lucky that my wife and I both trust “D” and he trusts us. So, it is my hope that the two of them will get a chance to enjoy time together. “D” told me today that he is not sure he will be able to meet us due to work commitments, but he is trying to work something out. Regardless, we will see him again for coffee in the next couple of days, probably Sunday, and talk further about getting him and my wife together soon. I am very thankful for everyone’s input here!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Minor update: “D” let us know this morning that he was unable to meet today due to a last minute work commitment, and he suggested we meet tomorrow for lunch instead, but we are not available then. C’est la vie. So, he is still trying to see if he can meet us while we are on the other side of Florida next week for a few days. He is not sure about that yet, but he is apparently working on it. One way or the other we will meet him again in the not too distant future, I am sure. I will keep you posted!

[Fearlesspain]

Thanks for the update. Good news is, he's already shown you that he's not a flake. Life is just busy for everyone. In the meantime she gets to feel some feelings along the way that might mean disappointment, but that means that if she is disappointed she is doing it for her own reasons and not just to make you happy.

She'll then get to feel feelings of gladness and excitement when you all do get the opportunity to get together and that will be great!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Thanks for the update. Good news is, he's already shown you that he's not a flake. Life is just busy for everyone. In the meantime she gets to feel some feelings along the way that might mean disappointment, but that means that if she is disappointed she is doing it for her own reasons and not just to make you happy.

She'll then get to feel feelings of gladness and excitement when you all do get the opportunity to get together and that will be great!

You are right, Fearless. “D” is definitely not a flake. I feel very fortunate that we have met him, and I know that my wife would be instantly turned off if he was otherwise.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Another update. My wife and I had a very nice lunch with “D” today. His work will prevent him from meeting us at the hotel on the other side of Florida for the next three days, unfortunately, but we are already planning our next get together, perhaps this coming weekend. During lunch, I asked “D” if he wanted to tell my wife about the MFM relationship he had over a three year period with a Korean woman and her husband. He was more than willing to talk with us about it, but my wife thought we should do that when we have more privacy (not that anyone could hear us anyway). But she was very cute, batting her eyelashes and saying she is too “shy” to talk about such things in public. She did not seem at all bothered about the subject matter, just the time and place to discuss it.

So, that gives us a good topic to explore the next time we get together in a more private setting. The other couple that “D” had a relationship with live in Florida only six months a year, but because of last year’s hurricanes they did not come down due to damage their home sustained. Nonetheless, he has already told me (but not my wife yet) that there are definite parallels between my wife and the Korean woman. Of course, they share an Asian heritage, but they also both come from very conservative backgrounds and are married to white American guys. The other woman is also middle aged, in her 60s. “D” hopes to introduce us when that couple returns to Florida in a couple of months.

In any event, hearing about this other woman and her husband might provide my wife with a different perspective on the hotwife lifestyle. This is a slow process, but the good news is that my wife still wants to meet with “D”, knowing full well that we hope to entice her into a threesome! I am very thankful that “D” has the patience of a saint. :-)

[Fearlesspain]

I'm sorry he wasn't able to make the trip, but it will give you guys some quality time together!

Have a blast!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Thanks, Fearless! I’m sure we will.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Things continue to progress, slowly but surely. My wife and I had lunch with “D” again this past Wednesday and we met him again this morning at a local farmer’s market. On both occasions, my wife wanted to be sure her makeup was perfect and she was excited to see him. On the way to our lunch meeting a few days ago, she cautioned me about raising the topic of “D” having sex with another Asian wife with her husband present while we are at a restaurant, like I did a couple of weeks ago (even though no one else could actually hear us). In other words, she wasn’t saying that we couldn’t talk about it at all, just not in a place that wasn’t private enough (for her, at least) to talk about it. I was not about to disagree with her!

At this morning’s outing, we got some coffee and she wanted a croissant, and then she proceeded to feed it to “D” and then to me, which I thought was perhaps symbolic. In a manner of speaking we were swapping spit over a breakfast baked good! My wife told me later she wanted to make sure “D” knew that she “wanted to take care of him.”

Later in the afternoon, “D” sent my wife a nice email letting her know how much he enjoyed seeing us and how beautiful she looked. She was very happy and excited to get his message. She then told me that she thought she noticed him sporting an erection poking against his shorts when we were at the farmer’s market, and I told her I would not be surprised. I asked her how she felt about that and she smiled. I then tipped “D” off in an email and suggested that if he did have an erection, he should let her know. A few minutes later he sent her an email confirming it. She wrote back to him letting him know that she was very pleased to know that she gets him excited and looks forward to seeing him again soon.

I’m sure we will see him within the next week. So, how this will develop further remains to be seen, but we are making incremental progress, I think. Do you have any suggestions? I am all ears (and then some)!

[Luis]

I think the idea that ‘D’ has gone without sex for 18 months could be importantly for your wife. The idea that he has needs and that she has said she wants to ‘take care of him’ may weigh upon her mind if she is reminded of his situation. He has been patient and gentlemanly, but he has needs that she has increased, ‘naturally’ and that he needs some encouragement that her interest in him is genuine, that he needs encouragement that this is not just a tease, although that’s too strong a word. If she wants to take care of him he needs some signs as he is desperately attracted to her.

[Luis]

I think the idea that ‘D’ has gone without sex for 18 months could be importantly for your wife. The idea that he has needs and that she has said she wants to ‘take care of him’ may weigh upon her mind if she is reminded of his situation. He has been patient and gentlemanly, but he has needs that she has increased, ‘naturally’ and that he needs some encouragement that her interest in him is genuine, that he needs encouragement that this is not just a tease, although that’s too strong a word. If she wants to take care of him he needs some signs as he is desperately attracted to her.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

I think the idea that ‘D’ has gone without sex for 18 months could be importantly for your wife. The idea that he has needs and that she has said she wants to ‘take care of him’ may weigh upon her mind if she is reminded of his situation. He has been patient and gentlemanly, but he has needs that she has increased, ‘naturally’ and that he needs some encouragement that her interest in him is genuine, that he needs encouragement that this is not just a tease, although that’s too strong a word. If she wants to take care of him he needs some signs as he is desperately attracted to her.

Thanks for your observations, Luis! I think you are right on the money. My wife and I talked about that a little last night, in fact. She says she feels sorry for “D.” She has told me before that she thinks a wife is obligated to take care of her man, and this seems to be her view whether or not a wife is particularly interested in sex at that moment. This is not to suggest that my wife thinks a woman should have sex with her husband if she has negative feelings about his. In the context of “D’s” situation, my wife thinks he is not being treated fairly by his wife, particularly since he tells us that he and his wife otherwise have a good relationship with each other.

So, we shall see how this plays out. “D” told us yesterday that his wife is traveling without him for a few days in the middle of November and he hopes he can have us over to his place while he is alone. It remains to be seen how my wife will react to that possibility. Interestingly, my wife wanted to see an adult movie last night and I found an amateur one involving two white men and a middle-aged Asian woman. One of the guys looked like “D,” and my wife noticed that the woman was about her age. Those two similarities got her very excited. After we watched it and she had a great orgasm while my cock was in her mouth and a very large dildo was sliding in and out of her, she told me she loved the movie and wanted to watch it again tonight!

Thanks again for your thoughts.

[Luis]

I apologize for the typos! Your thread is so sexy and I love the description of all the twists and turns!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

I apologize for the typos! Your thread is so sexy and I love the description of all the twists and turns!

Thanks, Luis! I am eager to find out how this story unfolds too! :-)

[katslover]

I think you and your wife need some activities that aren’t so vanilla, for a lack of a better term. Go see a band play live so your wife and D can dance. Go see a comic that’s a little bit raunchy and have D and your wife laugh and interact on it. If your wife likes to dance, the 3 of you should go. If your wife enjoys drinks, go to a wine bar or speak easy, or take a tour of a winery/brewery/distillery. Or ask your wife if she would be receptive to D writing her an erotic short story. Heck, you could even throw out the idea of D taking photos of your wife in lingerie and making a photo album for either you or D.

[Luis]

Katslover, all excellent ideas but I think I read earlier that his wife does not drink at all. Still, dancing could be an excellent option for his wife and D to get close without crossing the boundaries she has set. Could you imagine the two of them dancing together? Sounds sexy!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

I think you and your wife need some activities that aren’t so vanilla, for a lack of a better term. Go see a band play live so your wife and D can dance. Go see a comic that’s a little bit raunchy and have D and your wife laugh and interact on it. If your wife likes to dance, the 3 of you should go. If your wife enjoys drinks, go to a wine bar or speak easy, or take a tour of a winery/brewery/distillery. Or ask your wife if she would be receptive to D writing her an erotic short story. Heck, you could even throw out the idea of D taking photos of your wife in lingerie and making a photo album for either you or D.

Thanks for those great ideas, Katslover. However, my wife is still learning to speak English (she is Thai) and, while she has a great sense of humor and loves to laugh, I don’t think her English is quite ready for a comedy club. Maybe next year! I have thought about taking her to a swingers club just to watch some of the action there and maybe even taking “D” with us. I may try to feel her out about that idea. Interestingly, “D” is an avid amateur photographer and my wife loves to take (G-rated) pictures of herself. But, perhaps with a little encouragement, she might go along with the idea of “D” taking boudoir photos! Thanks again for those ideas…..

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

A little update. My wife told me this morning that she missed “D” and was sorry we were not going to see him today like we did last Saturday. He is away for the weekend. But, I reminded my wife that I will be traveling out of town next weekend from Friday morning to late Sunday evening for work, and I let her know that “D” told me he was hoping to see her while I am out of town. I also reminded her that he wants to see the two of us the following week since his wife will be away for a few days. She seemed happy to hear that. Later today, she told me that it was okay with her if “D” didn’t see her while I am away next weekend, but I told her it was up to her and “D” to decide if they want to get together. I think she was trying to to make me feel more secure by saying that, but I assured her that I would be happy if the two of them got together in my absence.

In any event, my instincts tell me that there is a little shift going on in her thinking. I am thankful she felt comfortable enough telling me that she misses him, but also wanting to make sure that I feel secure. I do. I hope that the two of them do get together next weekend, even if it is for a meal or coffee, because I suspect that may increase the odds of something more happening with the three of us during the week of November 17. Any thoughts? I would appreciate hearing them.