The more subtle thing's that float your boat.

[bltn1966]

My wife prefers privacy when she’s with another guy. Sometimes, for my pleasure, she’ll make a sex video if the guy agrees to it. If the guy was terrible in bed Marie will gladly give me recording. She will also tell me a lot of details. She’s very reluctant to give me the recording if the guy was great in bed. The greater the sex, the more reluctant she is to give me the recording. She will barely go into details. Sometimes the most I can get out of her is “he was ok”. It’s a little frustrating but kinda sexy that, after all these years, my wife is still worried about hurting my feelings.

[Ed_Vic]

This is an interesting thread. I don't think I've thought about the subtle things.

One that comes to mind is seeing Vicky from the back, while she's topless and facing one of her playmates. There's something about seeing her bare back and knowing that she is facing them, exposed, giving them something they're' probably aching for (because it seems everyone wants her tits!). But me seeing her from the back prevents me from seeing her expression or the true exchange between them. But knowing my wife is exposed in that way is somehow very arousing for me. I remember the first time I walked in on her and saw her topless and facing her friend. I didn't know what was being exachanged between them. Who took the top off. How it came off. What happened or what was about to happen. But just this sexy scene of her being exposed and sharing a moment with her very lucky friend was very arousing for me.

[WatchinginNJ]

This is an interesting thread. I don't think I've thought about the subtle things.

One that comes to mind is seeing Vicky from the back, while she's topless and facing one of her playmates. There's something about seeing her bare back and knowing that she is facing them, exposed, giving them something they're' probably aching for (because it seems everyone wants her tits!). But me seeing her from the back prevents me from seeing her expression or the true exchange between them. But knowing my wife is exposed in that way is somehow very arousing for me. I remember the first time I walked in on her and saw her topless and facing her friend. I didn't know what was being exachanged between them. Who took the top off. How it came off. What happened or what was about to happen. But just this sexy scene of her being exposed and sharing a moment with her very lucky friend was very arousing for me.

One of the things that definitely pushed my buttons for this lifestyle was a woman being topless. As long as I remember I loved the idea of my woman going topless (a little different than what you are saying of course). But I get the feeling of exposure. Topless beaches with my girl are one of the hottest things in my book.

[AdamGunn]

We’d go to a swing club, and Mary would put on something very sexy, revealing. Then she’d head for the dance floor. Of course she attracted the men, but she wouldn’t dance ‘close’ to them until she picked out the guy she wanted.

Then, she’d get close to him, turn her back and squirm to the music as the man felt her stomach or neck or waist. And then, finally, he’d raise his hand and fill it with her tit. That always got me going, knowing that in a little while he’d see her without those clothes on and she’d have his cock deep inside her.

[hapycpl]

Mine is smelling her boyfriend's cologne on her. When she comes in and has his scent on her and her clothes it's such a turn on!

[hapycpl]

Mine is smelling her boyfriend's cologne on her. When she comes in and has his scent on her and her clothes it's such a turn on!

[zorro]

Great question! It spurs me to remember multiple "subtle" moments that left my cock steel hard and dripping precum.

1. Ruth at one phase of our 15-year HW journey loved having multiple men at sex parties, especially 3-baggers and 5-baggers. That was exciting to watch, but that special moment when I slid inside her after we got home and crawled into bed was magical. There was something intensely arousing knowing my cock was moving where only an hour or so earlier 5 other cocks had ventured and in some cases came. It all felt intensely natural and right.

2. At one party after she had pulled a train with 6 guys and me, as she was starting to dress, a young man came up to her to say, "I was hoping to fuck you." Her immediate answer: "OK!" And they did. Her lack of even momentary hesitation and taking her clothes back off were a huge turn on.

3. We have never had that experience where she slips down her panties while a guy hovers over her with his cock ready to go. When we have gone to parties, like Tank's wife she felt no need to wear clothes and quickly became one of the naked women in the group. So there was no chance to pull down panties. But being rapidly nude so she could start collecting cocks inside her for the evening was a dramatic, erotic statement.

4. It didn't happen often, but I was super turned on when on a lifestyle takeover cruise, she approached a young, wiry black fellow to ask him if he wanted to play. He did, and they did. It didn't hurt that he had the longest, thinnest cock I have ever seen. Even driven deep inside, he still had several inches of cock left to go. What make this subtle moment memorable was how erotic it was for her to actively seduce a male to take her. That is a subtlety that still supercharges things when it happens. Not much indicates female sexual desire more than a woman's asking another man to fuck her.

5. Our now long-term regular FB during our first encounter 8 years ago took the occasion while I went into the bathroom to pee to put his bare cock into her pussy in my absence. Although I was startled, I also found it very hot. As time has gone on, I noticed that when I stepped out of the bedroom to get some water or whatever, he would climb between her open legs to fuck her bareback. I found that very exciting. For a long time, I even deliberately made it a practice of stepping out of the room to allow him to do what I suspect was a "sneaky little fucker" chimpanzee-like sexual act of taking her when I was out of sight. I never interpreted that for him because it was so predictable and fun to watch that I didn't want him to stop. We do that less these days, perhaps as he has come to understand he can fuck her whenever they want and I don't have to be out of the room. But I bet he found it extra arousing to think he was getting away with something behind my back. We are now in a more overtly demisexual relationship.

Hope to hear even more from other members here.

[rohan094]

The way she leans into her bull and giggles when he cracks a small joke while leading her to the bedroom.

The way alternates between short, long, soft and loud gasps when he enters her for the first time in months.

The way she goes absolutely nuts when she stops riding him for a second to catch her breath and her bull suddenly grabs her hips and bounces her 3 times as hard

The way she whispers back with a louder whisper when her bull whispers something dominant in her ear because she can't control her volume at that point (like "yeah I'll take it").

The way she wraps his arms around him and pulls him all the way in while he's eyes shut unloading inside her.

Subtle things are the best things.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

My particular thing is when a woman (my wife preferably) or her lover pull down her knickers.

Agreed. That moment when she’s stripping off her panties (or when he’s pulling them off with her help) is the moment that it’s a foregone conclusion that his penis is going to be inside of her very soon. It’s a mutual acknowledgment in that moment…a sort of consent…that he is going to see and experience a part of her that is usually reserved for me only. (And little does he know that he’s her second boyfriend since we’ve been married.)

I also enjoy seeing Maria nude, but in a non-sexual way, and especially when she does it for him. Maria, for example, likes to take showers with me…and also with him. It’s a special kind of intimacy. Nobody is expecting sex (although it HAS happened a time or two…or three…or four…). It’s a chance for us to be naked with her….on full display among the bright bathroom lights to accept our bodies together. (We each have our “perfect imperfections,” but bonding in this very “bright” way makes those times that we do have fantastic sex in dimmer settings just so much more wonderful.) Nonsexual nudity around one another has allowed us to accept one another not just as fantastic fuck-buddies, but as people (imperfect human beings) with very real sexual needs and desires…..which we obviously help her fulfill, and which she obviously (and mind-blowingly) helps us fulfill.

Another “little thing” I personally enjoy is her hair being “down” during sex. Maria is Filipino (but with very strong Japanese traits), so she has long, straight, silky, jet-black hair. It looks more like a black curtain than hair, really. I’m sure anyone reading this can imagine the stereotypical Asian hair. It reaches from the top of her perfectly rounded head to the small of her back, a few inches above her butt. When she sits astride us bouncing with delight, leaning back to give us the full view of our shiny, wet cocks slipping up into her tiny quim, she need only tilt her head back slightly so we can feel her pretty hair tickling our nuts. What a feeling!

I may chime in later with other “little things,” but these are the ones that immediately come to mind.

[Parsifal]

For me it's the Zen-like state she's in when she comes home aglow and high on her favorite sex date aphrodisiac. It's subtle but visible as a full body halo

[Greg_N_Shelley]

For me it's the Zen-like state she's in when she comes home aglow and high on her favorite sex date aphrodisiac. It's subtle but visible as a full body halo

My version of that was Shelley's afterglow immediately after orgasm...her radiant smile, giddy demeanor, and depleted body. When I watch videos of our adventures today, some of my favorite moments are scenes of her simply sitting around afterward naked and talking.

The same is also true for early moments of foreplay such as seeing her sitting on his lap shyly smiling at me while his hand caresses her thigh, or watching him fondle her from behind while she closes her eyes savoring his advances. It's exquisitely sexy.

[bewareoflizzy]

Makeup. She puts on a tad more aggressive makeup before the event.

Oh, yeah. This and high heels are my triggers. Watching her getting "all dolled-up" before going out is a heart pounding experience. Knowing what her heavy eye make-up and red lipstick does to me and her boyfriend, she would shamelessly apply her colors to maximum effect.

[funkyfitter]

Slight variation or addition on the panty thing. It’s when the woman is lying on her back and her lover goes to pull the panties down. I love the moment when the woman raises her ass slightly off the bed to allow her lover to slide them off. Tacit agreement that she’s giving her pussy to him!

I love watching my wife kiss her man, but that ass lift when he hooks her panties and starts to slide them off is so fucking hot ! It's his final act before she's completely naked and to watch her willingly make it easier for him is quite the thrill ! After nine plus years into this, I still get excited when it happens !

[ursamajor69]

My wife is not a full hotwife, but does go out with solo dates with guys regularly. As other have said, watching her pick out a sexy dress and shoes and putting on makeup (which she does not use regularly) is a turn on.

I will add 2 more things:
1) She will invariably carefully shave her legs and pussy in the shower before each of her dates. I love watching her do this every time, seeing her prepare every part of her body for these dates. One day, one of her male friends will get to see all of her preparation
2) My wife has a fairly direct way of talking usually. However, whenever I hear her on the phone to one of her male friends, her voice changes completely. The tone softens completely, the pitch goes up, she giggles more and her voice takes on a sultry/breathless quality. And that is with me listening in. It gives me an insight of how she lavishes attention on those guys when she is actually on those dates.

The second one in particular is a subtle thing she is not even aware of that gets me going.