Just a Neighbor.

[8toplaywith]

Did the kiss involve tongues?

[clhw40]

Glad you had a great night! Did you set another date?

[JRE2]

Good instincts...good job! Hope everything works out for the three of you.

[mundyman]

Sorry long post and debated on even posting some of it. Have been busy with friends all morning and afternoon and just had time to type this. I had a nice night and I really like how relaxed we are together. I want to talk about early on because I think it made her comfortable to open up. Could’ve been the cosmopolitan drinks we had. Yes I’m a fancy drink guy also, don’t judge

It was forecasted to be a rainy so I decided take my car and change to a place inside and more intimate. She texted asked how should she dress so I told her to “be you, I’m sure you’ll look great, I’ll be over around 7”. When I backed up into her driveway and tooted she came out in a short creme dress with lace up sandals and looked adorable, she even had a little matching purse. I got out and opened the door for her and complemented her how cute she looked. I think she said the dress was Boho or Bolo or something like that but it was cute. We went to a bar/restaurant that has jazz on the weekends and got a booth. I felt relaxed being with her alone and we had so many similarities despite our 10 year age difference. We clicked on so many levels!

As the night went on I came out and told her I think she’s beautiful and got a vibe from her since we met. She told me she was elated when she saw I was living next-door to her and wanted to get my attention. I told her I enjoyed it but the husband deal was really awkward, I’ve never been in a situation like it before. Just as I got the nerve to ask about her husband and if they were swingers or her a hotwife she started talking about their relationship.

Now the deep part …..

When she told me those times he didn’t care what she did it was true. She went on to tell me they had grown apart from each other 3 years ago. He had colon cancer years back that was treated and It reappeared in his prostate that was treated and being monitored. His erectile dysfunction and lack of sex drive then contributed to the fizzling out. They trial separated but stayed together for reasons like friends, the family business, a dozen rentals she takes care of and her being from the west coast with no family here.

He’s encouraged her to meet a guy again but he doesn’t want to be involved or get in the way. But when they moved in and talked to me and I said I was single they were delighted and she said she wanted to flirt and know me. She try’s to be respectful when she goes out and he does his own thing like sports and work but does want to see her happy. She told me pre-Covid she had met a guy that was nice and dated a bunch but they didn’t work out with covid lockdown and him at risk in the house even though they have separate bedrooms. She met another guy post covid that turned out to be a jerk quickly and she doesn’t do dating sites.

I feel good because I’ve been respectful and not pushy. I didn’t want to move in like a vulture but she did take my hand walking out of the place to my car. We also kissed before she got out of the car when I dropped her off home which was amazing. I felt like a teen again and I’m sure her the same.

Well thanks for reading and sorry this isn’t a “I fucked her brains out on a table” post. I’m sure you all understand. I was debating on even posting the second part but I think you’re entitled to know what’s going on if you’ve been following from the beginning.


Have a good weekend,
NeighborGuy

What an update!
The ice has finally been broken!
There is no such thing as a post that is too long. Especially in this case when you are describing the interactions between you and your neighbor.
It sounds like you have now been given the green light to pursue a more intimate relationship with her.
Perhaps next step is to ask her over for a glass of wine, perhaps some nibbles, one night, or afternoon, and let nature take its course.
Well done my friend.
Very well done.

[whenwillshe]

This is amazing.
It looks like she doesn't just want sex or you'd have already been there.
Have you had any additional interaction with hubby?
Thanks for sharing.
Please keep us posted.

[Allinfun]

Maybe give her a key and tell her she has a home in both places.

This isn't a hotwife scenario. Hubby isn't a cuckold. All parties need to be respectful. Neighborguy has acted like a true gentleman and in doing so may land a wonderful woman.

[ncalcur]

Well - once again the truth can be a number of things! Sounds as if a definite Friends with Benefits program, and the fact she is married is what makes it hot for us on this forum!

Great recitation and well although you are a "fancy drink guy" please keep posting! Be interesting to read how the first "encounter" goes!

[NeighborGuy]

Thanks for the replies and thanks for understanding. Definitely a shocker for me what she told me. I came here thinking they were swingers and could feel the sexual tension between her and I. But this definitely has changed things. I have to get on a call at 11 and will try to get on later this evening and answer a lot of the reply questions.

[DoneThat]

I’ll add another 2 cents, now I’m up to 4 cents total in this story. Take it for what it’s worth.

I’m not yet convinced you’re getting the true story.

The reaction of both to hearing you were single just doesn’t square with me.

Her explanation of their circumstances may be entirely factual, or it may be a plausible fabrication.

If my wife wasn’t internet savvy and didn’t yet understand that Hotwife was a term with a growing movement, she might create such a story to make what she was doing for her and I palatable to a stranger.

That aside, I’m concerned that if her explanation is truly accurate, you are looking at a potential for some dangerous drama that could make your home ownership uncomfortable. Do you really want to fall in love with this older woman at this time of your life? What if she falls in love with you?

If I were in your shoes, I would tell her that at first you thought she was a “Hotwife”. Then go on to say “you know, the term for a happily married woman who has the (sexual) freedom to do WHATEVER she wants - like how your husband repeatedly emphasized that word WHATEVER.”

Long term I think you should run away. There are plenty of true Hotwives out there for fun. Being an abutter to a situation that may have been initiated by cancer could end disastrously.

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[Seekingmore12]

Open, honest communication between the 3 of you might be the next logical step. Seems to me “ other “ men in her life has been tried before with no success, at minimum that seems to be what she is broadcasting.

This could go all sorts of ways, in my humble opinion best to figure out what you all want before you get in bed, last thing you need is a cheating wife next door with a angry husband.

[Toonfan66]

I’m not yet convinced ... just doesn’t square with me ... may be entirely factual, or it may be a plausible fabrication ... I’m concerned ... you are looking at a potential for some dangerous drama that could make your home ownership uncomfortable ... If I were in your shoes ... I think you should run away ... could end disastrously.

Whoa with the negativity friend! I'm not saying everyone should be cheerleaders living out personal fantasies via proxy (too many of them as it is) but the opposite can also be true. As for NeighborGuy apart from the fact you've spelt 'neighbour' wrong (at least on this side of the pond you have ) I've loved your updates and really hope this works out well for you both, she sounds absolutely delightful. Looking forward to hearing how your relationship develops whenever you have the time to update us all

[wannabecUKold]

As for NeighborGuy apart from the fact you've spelt 'neighbour' wrong (at least on this side of the pond you have )

Not wishing to give offense/offence of course.

[Jbjhamilton99]

Some of you blokes need to read his post again or you’re seeing it differently then me. I now see a couple that fell apart from love but are amicably staying together for the reasons said. And she has freedom to date.

Anyone know what “trial separated” is?

She went on to tell me they had grown apart from each other 3 years ago.

He had colon cancer years back that was treated and It reappeared in his prostate that was treated and being monitored. His erectile dysfunction and lack of sex drive then contributed to the fizzling out.

They trial separated but stayed together for reasons like friends, the family business, a dozen rentals she takes care of and her being from the west coast with no family here

He’s encouraged her to meet a guy again but he doesn’t want to be involved or get in the way.

even though they have separate bedrooms

excellent update Neighborguy!
go with the flow mate!

[DGPEI]

Just reading this for the first time! Can't wait to see how it ends up, as its escalating!

[Jbjhamilton99]

also explains why she doesn’t wear a ring!

[kaskap79]

Anyone know what “trial separated” is?

You can call it testing if life is better apart, just like you move in together before you get engaged.

[Jbjhamilton99]

Anyone know what “trial separated” is?

You can call it testing if life is better apart, just like you move in together before you get engaged.

Thanks mate. So that would also make sense financially for the both of them with his family business and the rentals she’s in charge of.

[Johng1953]

Just go with the flow, so far you've done absolutely nothing wrong.

[Seekingmore12]

Another thought on the trial….they tried it and might actually turned them into life partners realizing that they have love together, just lack sexual intimacy or ability and that is confusing for some. They stay together for other reasons and in some cases that is just as powerful of a bond.

It won’t be the first time we read about a couple in love “ outsourcing” sex due to medical issues. Does she speak of him with kindness ?

So above is perhaps wishful thinking, sounds more like she has permission or that she has taken the position she does.

[greg1]

This must be very exciting for each of the three involved. Well it’s exciting for us readers as well. I keep checking for updates throughout the day!

[Topnotch]

I’ll add another 2 cents, now I’m up to 4 cents total in this story. Take it for what it’s worth.

I’m not yet convinced you’re getting the true story.

The reaction of both to hearing you were single just doesn’t square with me.

Her explanation of their circumstances may be entirely factual, or it may be a plausible fabrication.

If my wife wasn’t internet savvy and didn’t yet understand that Hotwife was a term with a growing movement, she might create such a story to make what she was doing for her and I palatable to a stranger.

That aside, I’m concerned that if her explanation is truly accurate, you are looking at a potential for some dangerous drama that could make your home ownership uncomfortable. Do you really want to fall in love with this older woman at this time of your life? What if she falls in love with you?

If I were in your shoes, I would tell her that at first you thought she was a “Hotwife”. Then go on to say “you know, the term for a happily married woman who has the (sexual) freedom to do WHATEVER she wants - like how your husband repeatedly emphasized that word WHATEVER.”

Long term I think you should run away. There are plenty of true Hotwives out there for fun. Being an abutter to a situation that may have been initiated by cancer could end disastrously.

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i like what you said. totally agree

[slenderfish]

Hubby could have cuckold tendencies but perhaps a) hasn't realized what it all means; b) has realized but has not had convo with his wife; or c) they have a pre-arranged "cover" story so as to not scare off people she meets "in the wild" as we say. Any of these are good.

But if they are trying to work out a sexless marriage or to stay married and she can take a boyfriend or they tried to separate but didn't work out and now she's looking for a different off ramp, then it does require a lot more from you. That is, if sexless marriage then once one (or both) of you catch feelings, it may become messy because the husband is hanging around and all the other reasons. If off ramp, then you may be expected to become her boyfriend and then more over time. If that's not your path, then starting down it with a next-door neighbor is really too risky (for my risk profile).

I do think it's early enough that you should proceed, but with caution.

Nothing she said indicates that there is any history or any demonstrated capacity to enter into a sexual relationship "just for fun" or similar. You noted early on about your own divorce situation, so it's really a question of whether you are ready to date around again. If so, would your prefer to date a married woman with these strings ("baggage") or someone more available for whatever kind of relationship you desire?

Could this woman become a hotwife? Is she that sexy and free, etc.? Do you have the patience and confidence to take her down that path?

[Msn75]

I agree with what others have said. I have had experience as both a “Bull” to a few different Hotwives over the years, as well as being the husband to a Hotwife of my own.

There is a huge and colossal difference between the roles of being a Bull, i.e. simply providing some good hard cock and fucking someone else’s wife’s brains out for a few hours once a week or whatever, vs having a full blown real relationship. Completely different. And both have their advantages and disadvantages

But it’s a very good idea to know what you are getting into. Sex with a Hotwife that is purely no strings is easy, fun, and generally much less complicated. A relationship can be very complicated.

Either can be incredibly fulfilling for you, Neighbor Guy, just trust your instincts think things through etc

[kaskap79]

THis story reminds me of a friend who also lost his sex life due to illness, he just told his wife that she should find a lover.
Just because his sex life is over, her sex life is still working.
So why should she suffer with him, that would just make their mariage worse.

[SixInchDick]

This is a great story so far. Thanks for sharing. Looking forward to seeing how this plays out. Good luck