Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
For so many years I have watched how guys – bulls, if you wish to call them – have driven my wife nuts. So now I want to know what it is like to be a bull/lover.
I'll chime in again with more of my thoughts. I'm not a full time
bull nor do I ever want to become one. I enjoy diversity too much to ever focus on only one type of play. So... I like to always mix it up... sometimes a
bull for others and sometimes a hotwife husband.

Sometimes both on the same weekend.
Plus... I'm neither single nor in a loveless and/or sexless marriage (quite the contrary actually), so... I don't need love, emotional attachment to someone else's wife, or even extramarital sex (I get plenty at home). I do this mostly as a "part-time gig" solely for its kink value. Because it's fun as hell! And because I'm a lucky SOB to have a very supportive wife who gives me total freedom to engage in this way (and any other way I desire) with others.
I will say though that what makes me so successful (and modest too

) as a
bull is having been on both sides of the fence (not to mention on top of the fence and under the fence

) for so many years... and having had the opportunity to develop an understanding of what a
perfect bull would need to be like and then trying to emulate that behaviour for others to the best of my ability.
My hot cutie with a booty keeps telling me that others don't know how good they have it having found me. In all fairness... some actually do (my current cuckold / hotwife couple for example, who's on the verge of giving me exclusive access to / ownership of her pussy). And some don't. Where I will agree with her is that if we ever found someone like me for her... we would probably never let him go.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
What are your thoughts about the wives, and more importantly the husbands?
I see myself as an ethical
bull (not to mention an ethical person in general), whose primary responsibility is to help the couple on their lifestyle journey. From that point of view, I'm essentially their (sex life) coach... always listening to their needs, guiding their development, (gently) pushing their boundaries in ways that will help them grow as a couple. I'm never there to harm them or their relationship.
Everyone is looking for different things... so I take my time to unpack that. It takes more than one conversation or play date. Sometimes they may not even know what they're looking for, so I need to ask leading questions or observe their behaviour almost like a counsellor. Some are looking for nothing more than an extra cock for an MFM and that's perfectly fine with me. At the opposite end of the spectrum, some may be looking for a more extreme cuckolding experiences, potentially building up towards a permanent denial of the husband and relinquishing her completely to me. And often times somewhere in between.
I approach this with an open mind and never judge them or their desires. I fully understand why a wife may want me as a
bull and I'm there to give her what she needs without ever judging or disrespecting her or her relationship.
I also fully understand why a husband may want this for his wife and never think less of him even if he's a cuckold. Yes, I may humiliate him and push him into submission if I determine that that's what he wants and needs, but I never disrespect him or his relationship. Yes, I may take his wife's pussy away from him or start controlling his orgasms, but only when that's what he's been missing and craving. I've been in the lifestyle long enough to have a really good understanding of the cuckold mind...
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
Describe how it feels to fuck wives with tight pussies?
Not really that different. Usually by the time I push myself in they crave me so badly that even the tightest ones open up like a flower, ready to take me all in. I love it though when I reach the far corners of their vaginas that may have never been touched before. They're usually hooked on my cock at that point.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
How does it feel to have a husband standing by while you fuck the shit out of his wife ?
Honestly... very satisfying!!!
I have a super dominant personality, so... that fits me like a glove. I enjoy a good cuckold humiliation probably as much as a good fuck, if not better. My best playdates as a
bull are those where the husband completely submits to me. I love having them caged and watching on their knees. I also love having them grab and push my cock inside her pussy as a further acknowledgment of their submission to me, cleaning up as ordered and doing anything else I may require of them without ever questioning me.
I also get a kick out of ordering him to leave the room if I feel like having a bit of privacy with his wife (not that I really need privacy to fuck her how I like it, but I love the humiliation of not allowing him to watch from time to time, as a reminder of his status). And sometimes, to take this to the next level, I may order the husband to get dressed and drive to the liquor store to get me a certain brand of craft beer (one I make sure he does NOT have in the fridge already

) while I'll continue fucking his wife.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
What things do you say to either of them?
That varies wildly on our dynamic. In a hotwife / cuckold dynamic I'm obviously setting the appropriate tone for that dynamic, which would be very different from how I talk to someone in a stag & vixen dynamic. What will not change though is me being respectful at all times, irrespective of the dynamic. I may be very firm with a cuck, giving very specific instructions and making sure my words sting a bit, but... I would never be disrespectful and / or abusive or belittle anyone. And certainly will not be a bully. Just a
bull.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
Is part of the thrill humiliating the husbands or showing off in front of them?
Totally!!!
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
How do you feel about yourself?
The same. Playing as a
bull from time to time doesn't change how I feel about myself.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
Do you feel like hot shit or a man’s man?
No. This is just a kink. Mine happens to be humiliating and submitting someone else's husband. And his happens to be going into this submissive subspace and craving humiliation from the man fucking his wife. My kink is not better than his and certainly doesn't make me more of a man, it's just different. So... no, I don't need to be a
bull to feel like a man's man, it doesn't validate my life and it's not a confidence booster for me...
I'm already in a position of power and very accomplished professionally and personally. So... this doesn't add anything to what's already there.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
Have any husbands become overwhelmed with what is going on?
Yes.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
Have they ever stopped things after they have started?
Not in the moment, no. But on occasion I have stopped fucking their wife to make sure they were still okay with it.
I had one couple, many years ago, that left the lifestyle after that first experience, realizing that it was more than the husband could handle. Strangely enough, the husband kept talking to me for a few years afterwards, always hinting at setting up another meeting and giving it another try and then getting cold feet. There's still a chance he may resurface again and go through with it at some point... she absolutely loved being fucked by me.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
What do the wives say to you?
It really depends on the dynamic. Those in stag & vixen dynamics... usually not much, as not to hurt their husbands feelings. Those in cuckold dynamics... sometimes push the cuckold pedal to the metal and go into full cockold humiliation mode. And some are a bit more reserved, thanking me for the experience and expressing a desire to repeat it soon.
Tryagain wrote: ↑Fri Sep 29, 2023 11:45 am
Look forward to hearing from you guys who represent this minority on the site
Doing my bit...