wife interested in other guy

[Bi+Gigh]

Are you assuming you will inhibit her or have you talked to g about it? What if something could happen would she mind? She thinks its hot af to watch you blow him, why not more? Id feel him out. He did joke about you being fucked by him. And if i remember correct he came up and humped you when he asked and maybe he was naked. I could be wrong but there are alot of signs. I think you should talk to g. Hell it could turn into 2 nights for g and 1 for you.

Yes, I am assuming I could inhibit her. I considered asking her but also didn't want to put her on the spot by asking if she is doing stuff with Conor that she wouldn't with me. But I guess I can just flat out ask her how she feels about me being in the room. Again, part of it was not being crazy about Conor fucking her and watching him satisfy her more than I can.
And I think she'd be on board if anything ever happened with me and Conor. But also again, we're getting to a good place and I might want to just let this ride out for awhile without complicating it. Tbh, I'm pretty content with being able to suck his dick.

[Marinecuckplease]

Absolutly take your time and enjoy what you have going on now. But maybe they already talked about inviting you in. I would just bullshit with her about it. Make no plans. make it no pressure. Just what ifs. You have nothing to to lose. Someday coud be tommorrow or really never. But if you know shes ok with something you dont have to think about it as much. And im sure she would change how she acts if your in there. but maybe it would be even better for her too.

[gordon921]

Hi Bi,

with C coming over for dinner next week and G not being there, I'm sure you will, but check in with G that she's totally onboard with this, as you say he's primarily her boyfriend, so you don't want to push the envelope to far if she is not comfortable.

Are you and G alone this weekend? If so do something special with her.

Regards

[nekkedoutdoors]

Thats good with your comfort level with him. Fuck why didnt you join. Not only because maybe he was offering you an olive branch. But A.. two hot people you are attracted to fucking.
B.. he loves your bjs
C.. you could eat his cum from g
D.. maybe hes more bi than he leads on. Most straight guys wouldnt take a bj. And your not his first guy bj so... we all have hangups. He could be curious to more with you. But hes too embarrased and too alpha to confess. But i bet if you get him wiggling you could probably get him to do more. Especially if you were to get g on board

And G is traveling next week. When Conor was leaving this morning he asked me if I would make him dinner one night next week. I know he's looking for more than just a dinner and I'll likely be sucking it again. But that's kinda odd to me. Of course, he could also be coming over to dismember me and hide the body parts.
I'm not expecting anything in the way of bi or gay sex but I don't believe he's 100% straight.

With G traveling, you could always FaceTime or call so she can listen so she is included in any extracurricular activities that may take place after dinner with Conor. That way you have witness if you are indeed dismembered.

...Actually, calling so she can listen without Conor's knowledge may be very enlightening and educational for the both of you. Just a thought.

[Lucky Dog]

Wow, the thought just occurred to me. What would we call G if things became (not saying this would happen) Bi+ and Connor and G wasn't involved one day? If Conner were a woman, G would be a ±. But with Connor definitely being another guy (and in fact somewhat bi), I don't know if there's an "official" name for that— the only thing I can think of is "Fun!"

[Bi+Gigh]

Hi Bi,

with C coming over for dinner next week and G not being there, I'm sure you will, but check in with G that she's totally onboard with this, as you say he's primarily her boyfriend, so you don't want to push the envelope to far if she is not comfortable.

Are you and G alone this weekend? If so do something special with her.

Regards

We are alone this weekend and it's really nice! And we did something special last night, at least for me. And G is totally onboard with anything that might happen with Conor. Her reaction was when it comes to people and sex, nothing would surprise her.
And we are at the beach again until tomorrow. It's beautiful here.

[Bi+Gigh]

Wow, the thought just occurred to me. What would we call G if things became (not saying this would happen) Bi+ and Connor and G wasn't involved one day? If Conner were a woman, G would be a ±. But with Connor definitely being another guy (and in fact somewhat bi), I don't know if there's an "official" name for that— the only thing I can think of is "Fun!"

I'm really not expecting anything to happen beyond what we've (or I) have already done. Like I said, I don't think he's 100% straight but I don't think he would have the balls to act on whatever curiosities he has.

[gordon921]

And we did something special last night, at least for me.

I think I know what you are talking about, just remember there is a big difference between a good shag and making love. What I suspect your special thing was, you and G making love.
I love giving a woman cunnilingus, how do I derive my pleasure, mainly by the fact that I am giving pleasure to the woman I love and I suspect for G it's the same, you may not be able to take her to the heights C can, but it's different and far more special and satisfying....

[cantbelieve]

I don’t understand, she’s your wife but it’s not your decision? I may get blasted here but she’s your wife and it is your decision. This is a recipe for disaster if you’re both not in agreement. If you would rather she didn’t, and she does anyway, then you’ve already lost her. I guess I, just old fashioned and every decision my wife and I have is a joint decision. Good luck.

I'll also tell you something. If the wife wants to have sex with someone else, even without your permission, there is nothing you can do about it. Oh, it's wrong but you can't do anything about it except let your disapproval be known. I realize that most wives wouldn't do such a thing without consent but, there are plenty of wives that will. And the only thing that the husband can do in that situation is, leave. So that's the two choices a husband has with this type of woman. Accept it or leave.

[Christinebitg]

<< Accept it or leave. >>

That's like the sign that some people have in their kitchen.

"Two choices:
1. Take it.
2. Leave it."

[Bi+Gigh]

I don’t understand, she’s your wife but it’s not your decision? I may get blasted here but she’s your wife and it is your decision. This is a recipe for disaster if you’re both not in agreement. If you would rather she didn’t, and she does anyway, then you’ve already lost her. I guess I, just old fashioned and every decision my wife and I have is a joint decision. Good luck.

I'll also tell you something. If the wife wants to have sex with someone else, even without your permission, there is nothing you can do about it. Oh, it's wrong but you can't do anything about it except let your disapproval be known. I realize that most wives wouldn't do such a thing without consent but, there are plenty of wives that will. And the only thing that the husband can do in that situation is, leave. So that's the two choices a husband has with this type of woman. Accept it or leave.

If g wanted to have sex with another guy, I'd be okay with it. I think she knows me well enough to talk to me about it before anything happened though knowing it would be very highly unlikely that I would object. I know in the past she has said about a mutual friend that one of these days she's ripping his clothes off and they're going to go at it. I offered to help arrange it. So it's not like we're strangers to her fucking other guys.

[Chrislydi]

I don’t understand, she’s your wife but it’s not your decision? I may get blasted here but she’s your wife and it is your decision. This is a recipe for disaster if you’re both not in agreement. If you would rather she didn’t, and she does anyway, then you’ve already lost her. I guess I, just old fashioned and every decision my wife and I have is a joint decision. Good luck.

Generally I'm in agreement with this but then bear with me as I'll qualify that...

To my mind the couple can and should discuss most things and if either feels something is going too far then they have to make their fears heard.

Now as we know on this site there are many differing lifestyles, so you could ask at what level should the discussions take place, so for example the highest level would be both agreeing to try the LS, or at least take steps to get to where both were comfortable to do so.

Once this highest step is agreed then the mechanics of choosing the right partner, should it be a joint decision or should there be a degree of autonomy?

Then once the hotwife is dating, should they the hotwife and boyfriend have alone time to not only fuck but make autonomous decisions on their future together if limited to those not materially affecting the husband?

Then you could take it down to how much secrecy vs exposure there might be and when and where these decisions have to be just between the husband and wife or otherwise.

They're just levels of the top of my head but there could be a lot more, and the answers as to who should be making the decisions at each one a little less clear.

Of course there are also FLR relationships where the FLR is originally agreed upon or comes into being naturally where there's clearly a dominant wife.

So while generally in an ideal world everyone would agree on the way forward, practicalities and different choices may make this not always desirable or possible.

Chris.

[Bi+Gigh]

As I mentioned in an earlier post, G has left on business for the week and won't be back until Friday. I am making Conor dinner tomorrow night and when I talked to him today he asked me 2 things. Can we workout out in our complex's gym before dinner and can he stay overnight. Completely get the staying overnight. He can be at his office in about 7 minutes on Tuesday morning as opposed to if he went home tomorrow night it would take him closer to 40 minutes. So' I'm cool with that, as is G. I asked G how she felt about all of this and she said it was all good with her but not to expect much, and I am definitely not. I'm actually looking forward to just hanging out with him. Maybe get some more information around his intentions. I will let you know how it all goes. Thanks for reading.

[nekkedoutdoors]

As I mentioned in an earlier post, G has left on business for the week and won't be back until Friday. I am making Conor dinner tomorrow night and when I talked to him today he asked me 2 things. Can we workout out in our complex's gym before dinner and can he stay overnight. Completely get the staying overnight. He can be at his office in about 7 minutes on Tuesday morning as opposed to if he went home tomorrow night it would take him closer to 40 minutes. So' I'm cool with that, as is G. I asked G how she felt about all of this and she said it was all good with her but not to expect much, and I am definitely not. I'm actually looking forward to just hanging out with him. Maybe get some more information around his intentions. I will let you know how it all goes. Thanks for reading.

Make certain he sleeps in the guest room...If doesn't crawl into bed with you.

[Bi+Gigh]

As I mentioned in an earlier post, G has left on business for the week and won't be back until Friday. I am making Conor dinner tomorrow night and when I talked to him today he asked me 2 things. Can we workout out in our complex's gym before dinner and can he stay overnight. Completely get the staying overnight. He can be at his office in about 7 minutes on Tuesday morning as opposed to if he went home tomorrow night it would take him closer to 40 minutes. So' I'm cool with that, as is G. I asked G how she felt about all of this and she said it was all good with her but not to expect much, and I am definitely not. I'm actually looking forward to just hanging out with him. Maybe get some more information around his intentions. I will let you know how it all goes. Thanks for reading.

Make certain he sleeps in the guest room...If doesn't crawl into bed with you.

Hey nekked, thanks for the message. I didn't get what you meant by "If doesn't crawl into bed with you." Could you explain that a little? Thank you!

[nekkedoutdoors]

As I mentioned in an earlier post, G has left on business for the week and won't be back until Friday. I am making Conor dinner tomorrow night and when I talked to him today he asked me 2 things. Can we workout out in our complex's gym before dinner and can he stay overnight. Completely get the staying overnight. He can be at his office in about 7 minutes on Tuesday morning as opposed to if he went home tomorrow night it would take him closer to 40 minutes. So' I'm cool with that, as is G. I asked G how she felt about all of this and she said it was all good with her but not to expect much, and I am definitely not. I'm actually looking forward to just hanging out with him. Maybe get some more information around his intentions. I will let you know how it all goes. Thanks for reading.

Make certain he sleeps in the guest room...If doesn't crawl into bed with you.

Hey nekked, thanks for the message. I didn't get what you meant by "If doesn't crawl into bed with you." Could you explain that a little? Thank you!

Sorry bi, meant to put a "Wink, wink, nudge, nudge" in there meaning that speculations are his sexual tendencies may lean a little more towards bi than he admits. No matter what happens, enjoy the evening.

[Marinecuckplease]

You NEED to sleep in your bed. He can sleep wherever. But you NEED to sleep in your bed.

[Bi+Gigh]

You NEED to sleep in your bed. He can sleep wherever. But you NEED to sleep in your bed.

I'm definitely sleeping in my bed. He can have it when he's with G.
Maybe we'll share the bed!

[Chrislydi]

You NEED to sleep in your bed. He can sleep wherever. But you NEED to sleep in your bed.

I'm definitely sleeping in my bed. He can have it when he's with G.
Maybe we'll share the bed!

That's was what I was thinking too, the only definite is that you'll be in your bed, it's just whether you're the only one.

Chris.

[snooper56]

How did it go with dinner?

[Bi+Gigh]

So Conor came over last night. Have to say it was a pretty good time. Our complex has a really nice gym so we went and lifted for a while. While I can’t lift what he does, I’m not that far behind either. I think he was kind of impressed. And he wasn’t being at all competitive. And btw, his shoulders and arms are freaking huge.
We finished up lifting, went back to my place, showered and had dinner. We talked all night. About families, jobs, sports, about my sexuality and when and how I came out. Naturally we talked about G. He asked me again how I could stand my wife being with another guy so I explained that again for about the fourth time. His most interesting comment was “if and when I get married” he and his wife had to be faithful to each other. I asked what he meant by “if” he gets married and he said if he didn’t meet the right woman he wouldn’t get married just for the sake of being married. It was a reassuring conversation for me.
Now for the interesting part. When he showered right before dinner, he came out of the bathroom, naked of course but he was seriously chubbed up. I was sitting on the bed, saw it and asked “a little horny, bro?” He said he was going crazy, hadn’t had sex since last week and then asked if I could help him out. So of course, I did. That was bj #1.
Later when it was time for bed he asked me where I wanted him to sleep. I said if you don’t mind sharing a bed you can sleep in the big bed with me. He said if it was ok by me it was ok by him. We get in bed, make it look like we were naked (we weren’t) get almost cheek to cheek and then took some pics and sent them to G, with some silly captions. She immediately calls, I talk to her, then Conor does (playing with his dick the whole time) and afterwards he says talking to her made him horny again. So I reach over and start playing with his erection and he says don’t start something you can’t finish. So bj #2.

So here’s the more interesting part for me and adds to my doubts that he’s 100% straight. I get up in the morning and I’m taking a shower and I hear him come in the bathroom. He does his business and then comes and stands, naked, at the shower which is wide open except for half of a tiled wall. So we’re talking as he stands there and I can see him looking at my dick. Then he says “if that thing was just a little bit bigger it would almost look like a real penis.” The best I could come up with was “fuck you and anybody would look small compared to that horse cock.” Then, as I’m getting out of the shower, he grabs my dick and starts playing with it. I of course start to react to that. Then he says he was just teasing me and that I was a good size, all the while continuing to play with it. So I said to him don’t start something you can’t finish. He just laughed, lingered on my dick a few more seconds and pulled his hand away, leaving me with a semi. But what straight guy plays with another guy’s dick like that?
I get dressed, he finishes his shower and dresses, I make him a coffee to go (just as he likes it of course lol), we say goodbye, that it was a great time and I get his usual bro hug. As he’s leaving, he tells me he’ll call me later. Wtf?
Anyway, I never saw any sign of his dominant nature. We were acting like close friends and as I said, there was never a loss for things to talk about. We also talked about him moving back home. He said that he doesn't know many people here, but that he would miss me and G and said some really nice things about us. We actually became better friends last night.

[Chrislydi]

Wow, that's all very encouraging, he may have been teasing a little but I'd agree he's definitely showing he's a little curious and possibly more. I consider myself as pretty straight, although no-one is 100%, and it's not something I'd consider doing at all.

Chris

[Marinecuckplease]

This whole scenario is like 180 from a week ago. And awsome for you. I think he is definetly curious in his sexuality. And i really think g can get him to express it. He let you blow him for her the first time. Now he does it for him without her even around. I really think if you asked g to request him fuck you. He would. I think it would almost have to be a threesome though. Both of you blowing him or something where she can read him and ask at the right time.

[Bi+Gigh]

This whole scenario is like 180 from a week ago. And awsome for you. I think he is definetly curious in his sexuality. And i really think g can get him to express it. He let you blow him for her the first time. Now he does it for him without her even around. I really think if you asked g to request him fuck you. He would. I think it would almost have to be a threesome though. Both of you blowing him or something where she can read him and ask at the right time.

I agree Marine. I was a little nervous going into last night. I wasn't sure which Conor I was going to get. But he was fun, laid back even charming. I think the change started when I began giving him blow jobs. I don't think he wants them to stop.
And when G and I started messing around with my college roommate Nick, she loved watching me and him do stuff even to the point of her talking him into fucking me. He admitted tho that he had a "little bi" in him to begin with but she really pushed it.
So when I talk to her about what Conor and I have been up to, she did ask out loud about how far he would go. Maybe she can work her magic with him.
But I just think there's something there with the bro hugs all the time and the headlocks, now playing with my dick. And yesterday lifting weights he was always holding my hands and wrists giving me tips. I know it could be wishful thinking and reading too much into it. I'm not even sure when we'll see him again. He has to go home this weekend and that's 4 hours away.

[Marinecuckplease]

It could be wishful thinking but i doubt it. Im assuming theres still days of the week hes here. Ask him to work out with you see what he says. You know what hes comfortable with. Dont push it but maybe being friends without g around will let him be more comfy with you. Let his gaurd down. Wait until tommorrow say your bored and missing g ask if he wants to hang....your almost gaurenteed to blow him.