The risk a cuck takes

[ErikaPeter]

We have been active in the lifestyle for several years and are still happily married. For about a year and a half, we have stopped having penetrative sex. We still maintain intimacy by making love in other ways, but his dick is not allowed to enter me. In our case, opening up our marriage to allow me to be with other men strengthened our relationship.

[Ijustloveher]

We consciously took the risk together and it was absolutely awesome until the end. She had warned me several times that she wanted to stop. I couldn't stop, she couldn't either. In the end she broke up with me. I don't blame her, or him. It was my own doing. But I am glad to have experienced it all. I just wish it had lasted much longer, even forever, but we had no idea what cuckoldry was really in those days.

[Dse2012]

Since 2008. Stronger in our relationship than ever.

[a_dumb_cuck]

This distribution is skewed and you will likely never get a real window into this, given that most cucks that lose their relationships dont linger here. It took me 10 years to come back after my first wife broke me.

[Chrislydi]

This distribution is skewed and you will likely never get a real window into this, given that most cucks that lose their relationships dont linger here. It took me 10 years to come back after my first wife broke me.

Exactly, about as real as a dream.

Chris

[mrdnrm]

Been married nearly 35 years now, I have been her Cuckold since 2003, have been caged since January 2018, I have been pussy free since January 2021. We still have all other forms of sex but PIV. We are still very happily married

[dinoo]

A very good marriage is, to MHO, the base for a healthy HW-lifestyle. Personally I think that a couple must not try-out this lifestyle if a good marriage is not or less the case. What is very good, good, average or bad is up to the couple itself. Having trust in each other, is something else like a very good communication, but both are necessary for a HW-Lifestyle.

Yes, there is always a possibility a HW-lifestyle may finish badly but if a couple agrees to stop when a marriage will come in danger (which we did) there exists already a high level of security, for both members of a couple, only IF trust exists.

That you are married don’t mean that you can’t fall in love to another “partner”. I sincerely think, this is natural. That a couple met each other is to MHO a coincidence. In my personal case we knew (and discussed it often) that the danger of falling in love in vanilla life is always there and we agreed also that a danger with her was bigger than with me. Sinply because of the reason that she (my wife) was “a better lover” than I was.

So the question could be why should I take the risk to lose her by letting her fuck other men?

In my case I hadn’t any problem when she should fall in love with another man only IF she would always return to me. Our rule to stop a relationship if our marriage would suffer, was for me the security to accept the possibility to fall in love with another man.

The reader will be curious if it happened ….

Once, she was on top of him and I thought she was only sitting on his stomach. She pointed me to come nearby. I did and she kissed me passionately.
Then she said: “He is in me now finally (he never wore a condom). I’m so happy now and you have to know both.”
(This happened in “our” club in which she met him for the first time, perhaps a year before.
I wasn’t aware of his penetration. He never did wear a condom, but he didn’t fuck other women than his GF.)

They fucked then as I never saw a couple fucking. My wife was in another world. After a long while he left her to find his GF. My wife nestled herself in my arms.
I whispered to her: “I’m glad for you it happened finally (the bare penetration).
She said:
“That isn’t why I wanted to kiss you. Yes, you had to know too that I finally had is huge dick completely in me, unprotected of course. But the reason I kissed you was because during our encounters my feelings for him changed. I have now the unmistakeable feeling to have fallen in love with him. Above, I can’t imagine a better lover than he is.”
A moment of silence.
She continued:
“You always told me not to hide my feelings, not to avoid them, to let them evaluate, not to stop them. By kissing you I wanted to express my gratitude being able to experience these other feelings. And what makes it even more beautiful, I knew I could tell you without having any fear. I had his huge dick burried deeply into my pussy and therefore this kiss meant a lot for me. Kissing my husband while I was on top of him, his dick deep into my pussy, unprotected, was so erotic. You knew already I liked him. But reaaly loving him will be a turning-point in our life. I have to confess longing for him.”
Some silence.
“Our life will never be the same. You know now my inner feelings. If you still love me like before then kiss me.”
I did kiss her passionately. Maybe the confession touched me because it was for the first time in her life. Between in kissing I told her loving her very much.
She: “You can’t imagine how much I love you, my dearest. Giving me all this freedom”
Can you remember when you grabbed his dick and put his glans into my pussy while I was making it out with him. I cooperated with you, I felt Jean did too. That was already so hot.”

A part of our bedtalk at home later on. (From our diary.)
I asked her if his huge cock wasn’t painful.
She: “Yes and no. Yes, it was painful but if you are in another mood, it becomes a pleasure.”
Me: “Tell me what you felt, what your inner feelings were?”
She: “The sex we had was, like always, very pleasant, uncommon. At a certain moment I kissed him and said what you know now, namely that I loved him. He then said show me how much you love me. We did understand each other very well what it ment so I grabbed his dick, played with it over my pussy and slowly lowered my pussy down till his dick was burried into my pussy, completely. That felt so good, not only physically and mentally too. He took my head, kissed me and said:
“I love you too. You are the hottest woman I ever met. But how to tell your husband?”
I said “He will love to hear it, it will be no problem. I’m sure. Then I asked you to come nearby to let him watch and hear I was loving you. While we kissed I wanted to know that you were honest to me so I began to fuck my Jean, as you have remarked. Your kiss became even more passionate then. I never felt being so excited. I was fucking Jean while we had trouble kissing each other. Jean took over the movements from me but with force. I placed my arms around your neck. Then I came and I tried to kiss you again but my orgasm was too heavy. Cumming in the arms of my husband, caused by a man I loved, gave me the most intensive orgasm I ever had. I can’t get rid of this happening. It was so beautiful. We, in this way, showing our love for each other.”

A moment of silence.
She: “Jean doesn’t want to cum, but when it will happen, I will sit on your face to give you the ultimate proof of my love for him. I will looking into Jean’s eyes while you are cleaning me.“

Again silence.
“I remarked often that when he was moving his cock from pussy to arse, you didn’t stop him. On the contrary. When he wants to fuck you anally, will you allow it then?” I asked her.
Her quick short but clear answer: “I think I will let him.”
“Do you long for it?” I asked.
“No, not at all, his dick is so huge, but I will let him. Definitively, and unprotected of course. Does my answer offend you?”
Me: “No, you must do what comes up into your mind. It is completely up to yourself. But tell me always.”
She: “I will in very specific details. To arouse you like you are aroused now. I love to see you aroused when I’m making it out with other men…. Or women.
Do you what is crossing my mind now? Don’t ever forget to take lube with you, in case it will be necessary. It would please me when you prepare my asshole for my lover. I would be pleased me even more when you put his cock into my asshole. To show your love to me. That would be kinky. A proof for him that I can do whatever I want to do.”

She then sucked me to the end and said:
“This was the biggest load I ever received from you. Were you so aroused about I told you? Isn’t nice that we can talk about it so openly. Your wife, completely owned by another man and you can only look on. That's what I'm looking forward to. I can long for him from now on knowing you will support me. It will change our sex life rather deeply.”
Our marriage became stronger than ever………. Because she could love both of us.

[Lucky Dog]

This is so sexy and also so lovingly beautiful! I'm happy for you to have experienced all this.

[dinoo]

This is so sexy and also so lovingly beautiful! I'm happy for you to have experienced all this.

Thanks for your comment.

From the beginning of her happenings with this man, I already had thoughts she liked him very much.
Their sex was exceptional to watch. Too, it was simple more...
I was happy for her that she found somebody with whom she had other feelings.

I can remember very well the first time she met him in this club.
Months before this story above took place. It happened during one of our first visits.
She gave him a BJ till the end.
Then she kissed him. She never did this before with me nor with another man.
The way she kissed each other was already a sign of what happened later on.

Can you imagine, the three of us were waiting for a drink at a very crowded bar.
He told me that my wife was the sexiest woman he ever met in this club.
My wife smiled, knelt down on her knees and gave him a BJ in the middle of the crowd.
He looked at me, smiled and said: "This is what I mean."

Dinoo

[Lucky Dog]

I hope you're enjoying this because it all sounds so exciting. Does she talk with you about what she'd like to happen in the future?

[dinoo]

I hope you're enjoying this because it all sounds so exciting. Does she talk with you about what she'd like to happen in the future?

Yes, we both were extremely enjoying all. Our relationship became stronger as thought possible.

And yes, we talked a lot about what could happen in the future.
With him it was limited because he was married.
But she had another unmarried man in mind with at least the same benefits.

This led us to put our fantasies on paper.
She would visit him alternately alone or with my presence.
After each chapter my wife asked me when the next chapter would be ready.
All what was imaginable was mentioned in it.
It became a very long story............

Dinoo

[Lucky Dog]

I hope you're enjoying this because it all sounds so exciting. Does she talk with you about what she'd like to happen in the future?

Yes, we both were extremely enjoying all. Our relationship became stronger as thought possible.

And yes, we talked a lot about what could happen in the future.
With him it was limited because he was married.
But she had another unmarried man in mind with at least the same benefits.

This led us to put our fantasies on paper.
She would visit him alternately alone or with my presence.
After each chapter my wife asked me when the next chapter would be ready.
All what was imaginable was mentioned in it.
It became a very long story............

Dinoo

What an incredibly hot idea - writing your fantasies, then making them all come true. Fiction can be very provoking, but sometimes real life adds dimensions we've never previously thought about.

[AZPainter]

My vote was for the next to the less common outcome. It was great while it lasted, but we did break up. What is different or maybe just interesting our break up and divorce had nothing to do with sex or our lifestyle and our lifestyle was a very active one. At the beginning it was exciting with a little concern on my part about possibly losing her to another, more alpha type man and her safety meeting new men through the various ways which were few back then. Being only a few ways to meet meant all those interested in other men's wives and the creeps were pretty much funneled into those few ways of meeting. Swinger parties, a minimum of clubs devoted to swinging and so on. My wife, though had a couple of other pathways being a local model for a local agency that supplied department stores with models for fashion and sometimes lingerie shows. Definitely not big time fashion modeling. They would also do a few fashion shows in some larger places as luncheon gatherings for women's groups and such. Her other and better option was she worked as a cocktail waitress in clubs, this was her main earnings job, which gave her spending money and slightly supplemented what I was bring in as a gallery artist and sometimes sign painter and poster maker for nightclubs.

She had been somewhat promiscuous before we married and during the first year or two of our marriage, there were small indications she might be playing around even after we tied the knot, but no real proof. This really did not bother me as we both were possibly more sexually open than most couples at that time even with the swinging trend that was going on across the country. Actually just the thought she maye playing outside our marriage was sort of a hot fantasy for me when thinking of it. So when it first happen she came home from working at the club and it was obvious that she was drunk, happy and smelling of recent sex when she got into bed and cuddled up with me. The next morning I asked her about it and she admitted she had gone to breakfast after the club closed and then making out with the club manager in her car afterwards and eventually going to his apartment which happened to be on the way she would take to come home. It was a little disconcerting and a bit of a surprise, but I also was more than slightly turned on knowing my suspicions were correct.

More morning coffee talks between us and more came out and eventually we realized this was how she was and didn't feel she could stop an be monogamous, so would most likely continue playing with other men. We agreed t be totally honest with each other and she began telling me what she and different lovers did when she would go out with them. Surprisingly she did this voluntarily. I had admitted to her that all this was a big turn on for me and I wasn't sure why, but at that time I absolutely did not want it to stop, and it didn't. If anything it became more open as she would sometimes bring lovers home with her and I would sleep in the guest room. Eventually I even got to watch and somewhat become involved.

Our lifestyle continued and worked great with both of us happy with everything going on for the next 8 maybe 9 years (I'II need to do a little math). At this time after all the enjoyment in the lifestyle, "hotwife," wasn't a term back then. but is what we had going, she began doing some drugs and her spending was getting out of hand is how I found out about the drugs and bizarre things she would say and do at times. It got worse, and she wrecked her car one night while high as a kite, was arrested and charged with several things like driving impaired, possession of cocaine and a little bit of pot and resisting arrest. The resisting charge got dropped but the others remained. Fortunately there wasn't another driver harmed. The result of all this was some jail time and some big financial hits for me. My name was also on her car registration. There were other issues like a lawsuit which because of joint ownership put house and incomes on me. No fun to say the least. I eventually filed for divorce. Visiting her in jail she showed little remorse and other times was full of sorrow, but the lack of remorse was the most common. I was done.

I dated other women after this year and a half episode and did that and other pleasures I have enjoyed most of my active sexual life, then about 22 years ago gave that up tired of the games in the dating world and now just enjoy my own personal pleasures and my work. I'm in my early 80's now, pretty good health, still painting and selling and enjoying my life. I have no regrets over being in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle and if younger and was with the right lady who enjoyed it as much as I did, I would do it all again. But all should know there are risks and you must be sure you are ready to accept those risk if they happen, or life can go from joy and pleasure to misery in a hurry. Sorry for the long post.

[Lucky Dog]

My vote was for the next to the less common outcome. It was great while it lasted, but we did break up.
...
No fun to say the least. I eventually filed for divorce. Visiting her in jail she showed little remorse and other times was full of sorrow, but the lack of remorse was the most common. I was done.

I dated other women after this year and a half episode and did that and other pleasures I have enjoyed most of my active sexual life, then about 22 years ago gave that up tired of the games in the dating world and now just enjoy my own personal pleasures and my work. I'm in my early 80's now, pretty good health, still painting and selling and enjoying my life. I have no regrets over being in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle and if younger and was with the right lady who enjoyed it as much as I did, I would do it all again. But all should know there are risks and you must be sure you are ready to accept those risk if they happen, or life can go from joy and pleasure to misery in a hurry. Sorry for the long post.

Sorry for all the troubles you had, but you seem to be very resilient and the fact that you're in your 80's, in good health, and enjoying your life says a lot. Maybe your attitude towards what happened is key to your success. Happy you're in a good place now!

[AZPainter]

Thank you Lucky Dog. I am in a good place and you maybe right that the bad part of my experience maybe due to the lesson learned by gong through it and realizing there was nothing I could do about it, so why worry and put it behind me. I enjoy other pleasures that truly satisfy my sexual needs now.

[Long Lurker 34]

Thank you Lucky Dog. I am in a good place and you maybe right that the bad part of my experience maybe due to the lesson learned by gong through it and realizing there was nothing I could do about it, so why worry and put it behind me. I enjoy other pleasures that truly satisfy my sexual needs now.

AZP - Just wondering, do you know whatever happened to her?

[AZPainter]

Thank you Lucky Dog. I am in a good place and you maybe right that the bad part of my experience maybe due to the lesson learned by gong through it and realizing there was nothing I could do about it, so why worry and put it behind me. I enjoy other pleasures that truly satisfy my sexual needs now.

AZP - Just wondering, do you know whatever happened to her?

I heard she was released when her sentence was up and denied early release due to her uncooperative attitude and and other problems they had with her. I do not know what those might have been. But she was eventually released and I am not sure where she went to, but several years ago I received a short letter from her sister that she had passed away in Minneapolis. That surprised me as she was born and lived in the southwest all her life. By my count I believe she was in her early 70's. like about 71 or 72. Funny as I can't remember her birthday other than it was in September.

[Northerner]

Even though I was supportive, she could not get away from the idea that she was "cheating." So even though she took a lover with my consent and support, she started hiding what they were doing, and lying to me. It's sad because it started well, and could have been a good long term arrangement. It was the fact that I could not trust her that killed our marriage.

[PhilSwe Couple]

This poll is super interesting. 85 % of hotwife-cuckold are still married according to this poll. Its very high, compared to USA where 50 % divorce (same in other western countries). Seems that the risk for divorce is much lower for hotwifes and cuckold!

[emca753]

Although she left me for her boytoy I still don't regret our cuckold relationship

[4herpleasure89]

This distribution is skewed and you will likely never get a real window into this, given that most cucks that lose their relationships dont linger here. It took me 10 years to come back after my first wife broke me.

I think it’s pretty obvious than when you increase risk you increase loss. Anyone who denies that is self deceived. But there is also no denying that, for some, this lifestyle works pretty well. In our situation it has been great overall, but there have been issues.

[little sissy Benita]

Most of the time, cuckold marriages are more stable than other marriages. Maybe because couples open up more and talk to each other more?
The reasons for starting cuckolding are complex.
An important component is definitely trust.

But it's still playing with fire.
It can be in all relationships. that the wife falls in love with someone else and maybe wants babies too.
The question is also how do I deal with special situations - sometimes the wife wants her boyfriend to move into the apartment/house. (as in my case) - not easy - but I think it can also be an enrichment.

But this is only my opioin.

littlw Benita

[AstaSilva]

Stop the cap bro. If cuckold marriages are more stable its because they are more typical in couples 30+ (at least on this website). A relationship between two 19 year olds will be far more strained

[JeffBingham]

This poll is super interesting. 85 % of hotwife-cuckold are still married according to this poll. Its very high, compared to USA where 50 % divorce (same in other western countries). Seems that the risk for divorce is much lower for hotwifes and cuckold!

First of all, that 50% figure that gets thrown around all the time is based on a non scientific poll done about 45 years ago. According to most studies done in the past 20 years, about 70% of first marriages are still intact. The difference is due to subsequent marriages ending in divorce at a much higher rate which skews the results.

If anyone wants to believe that cuckold marriages are more stable and longer lasting (or even the same) that’s your prerogative. God forbid you should actually dig into the data to find anything that might conflict with what you want to believe.

Furthermore, if you have been around this forum for any length of time, you will have seen many couples who were very active posters just vanish without a goodbye, so they’re no longer around to vote in this poll that their marriage imploded.

[PhilSwe Couple]

Thanks for an excellent answer. I realize its very difficult to compare success of normal and open relations (or cuck-hotwife relations).