Dating a BBC only girl?

[galactic]

I met a girl on blacktowhite.net. She was there to find black guys to hookup with. She said that she'd never really considered a "cuck" relationship before, but after reading some stuff there from "cuck" guys she started thinking about it. She and I started corresponding, we chatted and stuff for a while. Basically, she said that she is BBC only and wants to stay that way. If she were to have an LTR with a white guy, he would have to accept that they would never have sex. But we live close enough to each other and, knowing this, we both agreed to go out on a date last weekend.

Neither one of us has ever done anything like this before, in terms of having this kind of relationship. We are both in our mid-20s. I'm an attractive guy, but I've been out of any kind of long-term relationship for about a year. She is very hot, and said she'd only been with black guys for about the past 3 years. She's been in some LTRs, but her last LTR ended about 6 months ago. She said she still considers the possibility of marrying a black guy, but wanted to explore this as well.

Our "date" went really good. She's awesome and we have a lot in common. We've talked a few times since our date and she wants to see me again. I'm not really sure what to do about this. I mean, we got into this knowing what was up, but like, do I really want to do this? I mean I do and I don't.

I'm also not really sure how to proceed if I do want to. Most girls I've dated we had sex within the first month or so of getting serious with each other. I guess I've had like 3 serious girlfriends in my life, 1 in high school and 2 in college. And then a few others where we dated a little but it wasn't exclusive and others where we hooked up and it was mostly sexual but not really anything else, etc. But sex was always a big part of getting serious.

So, like how would I get serious with a girl without having sex with her? I think I should at least kiss her. We have talked about her sex life and guys she's been with. She does like to brag about stuff she's done, which I enjoy.

I think I'm going to see her again and see how things go.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum galactic.

[Marksmall5]

Sounds ok start to me. Stick with the plan and see if it works out. Pretty cool if she becomes your partner but only takes BBC. Nice.

[canberraguy4fun]

Sounds like a fantastic relationship potentially! Let her know that is you start a relationship with her, you expect her to REGULARLY make you lick her pussy. Tell her that you don't want to fuck her, but giving her oral every day would be fantastic!

[cukgrl69]

Sounds very hot. I can understand the trepidation, but personally I would go for it and just see where things go. Good luck!

[4herpleasure89]

A fetish is a poor foundation for a long term relationship imo.

[gordon921]

Hi galactic,

"A fetish is a poor foundation for a long term relationship imo." so true. Have you really sat down and thought about this long and hard.

She states she never would want sex with you - so what intimancy would you have, suspect you have no idea at the moment as you have no relationship and you've not even kissed her yet.

Are you prepared to NEVER have penetrative sex for as long as this relationship lasts.

She will possibly want kids at some stage, so possibly will want to marry her boyfriend, where does that leave you, her boyfriend/husband might not even like you, so you'll get tossed.

Go find a nice girlfriend get into a relationship and years down the line once you have a solid relationship and a good basis see if your partner would cuck you.

There are a couple of guys on here who have done what you're suggesting but it is a very very small minority.

Good luck....

[galactic]

Well, I think I have nothing to lose in the short term. We're planning to go to dinner Friday night before she meets up with one of her guys. We've been talking a lot. She likes having a guy she can talk to and confide in. Her girlfriends know some stuff and know some of the guys she's been with, but she doesn't like to share everything with them. We're in the Atlanta area, so interracial couples aren't that unusual. But she's done some group stuff that she hasn't told anyone else about.

I'll see how dinner goes. Right now I just want to keep it casual and hang out and see where things go. I do enjoy talking about sex with her. It has been unusual because in all my other relationships I felt like we were both trying to hide our sexual history from each other, cover it up, not discuss it, pretend like we were each other's first, etc. But this is sort of starting on the opposite foot.

We'll see...

[subguy80]

So, like how would I get serious with a girl without having sex with her? I think I should at least kiss her. We have talked about her sex life and guys she's been with. She does like to brag about stuff she's done, which I enjoy.

I think I'm going to see her again and see how things go.

I think you're in for a lot of heart ache and disappointment. As you say, yourself, exploring sex with someone you're dating is important to you, as I think it is with most people. The fact that this isn't going to be an option to you seems like a strong sign to look for someone else. That doesn't mean you can't be friends with this woman and maybe keep seeing her on that level if you enjoy her company. I wouldn't fool myself into thinking she'll change her mind. Good luck.

[parklife]

I hesitate to call this “dating”. My wife has Friends With Benefits but this sounds more like Friends With No Benefits. Which, when you boil it down is just friends.

So I guess you should wonder how to move forward being friend-zoned.

Nothing wrong with having a close female friend that shares her sex life with you…. And even helps you explore this fantasy/fetish But don’t confuse this with an intimate dating relationship.

[proudhusb217]

I agree that it's extremely difficult to imagine building a solid relationship without sex. That's just the normal way couples get to know each other on an intimate level.

However, if I was in your position it would be hard for me to resist a hot woman who is into cuckolding. You'll need to find out soon if she wants no intimate physical contact with you at all or if she just means penetrative sex. It definitely won't work if you can't even explore each other's bodies and get each other off.

[Chrislydi]

So, like how would I get serious with a girl without having sex with her? I think I should at least kiss her. We have talked about her sex life and guys she's been with. She does like to brag about stuff she's done, which I enjoy.

I think I'm going to see her again and see how things go.

I think you're in for a lot of heart ache and disappointment. As you say, yourself, exploring sex with someone you're dating is important to you, as I think it is with most people. The fact that this isn't going to be an option to you seems like a strong sign to look for someone else. That doesn't mean you can't be friends with this woman and maybe keep seeing her on that level if you enjoy her company. I wouldn't fool myself into thinking she'll change her mind. Good luck.

Couldn't agree more, you can be friends by all means, even a little more than that but still essentially friends, as for any kind of more meaningful longer term relationship, best forget it and look for someone more amenable to all your desires and not just the fetishistic ones. You need solid foundations before you try for something else not the other way around.

Chris

[Seekingmore12]

I suppose there is nothing wrong with seeing her as a friend and establish that boundary.

Hoping for it to change and build a long term relationship does not seem at least to me like a good idea. Go and read about sexless marriages and the hurt involved.

Friends, sure, fantasy friends sure, girlfriend or future wife not so much. Find a girl you love and she loves you just as much, be open and honest with her and she might cuck you out of love vs this scenario.

Just a opinion, best of luck which ever way you decide.

[Long Lurker 34]

You actually have to have a relationship of some sort, up to and including sex to be cuckolded. Otherwise you are just a friend. And if the relationship isn't acknowledged by both parties and others outside it, even is sex occurs, you still aren't being cuckolded. You are effectively having sex with a rando who does so with multiple partners.

As others, who have far more experience and knowledge about this than I, have given some very good advice. This is not the basis on which to form a relationship, let alone anything long term or on going.

Heck, you haven't even said if she even LIKES you.

[Latido]

Right now I just want to keep it casual and hang out and see where things go.

Sounds like a plan!

[Bent_n_Twisted]

I agree that it's extremely difficult to imagine building a solid relationship without sex. That's just the normal way couples get to know each other on an intimate level.

However, if I was in your position it would be hard for me to resist a hot woman who is into cuckolding. You'll need to find out soon if she wants no intimate physical contact with you at all or if she just means penetrative sex. It definitely won't work if you can't even explore each other's bodies and get each other off.

Yeah, something like this could be interesting and exciting, especially if it included being caged and restricted to pleasuring her orally.

[desertsub]

I agree that it's extremely difficult to imagine building a solid relationship without sex. That's just the normal way couples get to know each other on an intimate level.

However, if I was in your position it would be hard for me to resist a hot woman who is into cuckolding. You'll need to find out soon if she wants no intimate physical contact with you at all or if she just means penetrative sex. It definitely won't work if you can't even explore each other's bodies and get each other off.

Yeah, something like this could be interesting and exciting, especially if it included being caged and restricted to pleasuring her orally.

I agree with both of these statements. I think that taking it easy and seeing where things go is a wise decision. Who knows, it could lead several different things. If you decide to go forward please keep us updated!

[cisner545]

Ask her just to give oral. If she answer yes, stay. If she answer no, go away because with no intimacy it's not a relation. You only would be friends.
Well, just my opinion.

[realcucklife]

Love to hear how the date goes

[mundyman]

Well, I think I have nothing to lose in the short term. We're planning to go to dinner Friday night before she meets up with one of her guys. We've been talking a lot. She likes having a guy she can talk to and confide in. Her girlfriends know some stuff and know some of the guys she's been with, but she doesn't like to share everything with them. We're in the Atlanta area, so interracial couples aren't that unusual. But she's done some group stuff that she hasn't told anyone else about.

I'll see how dinner goes. Right now I just want to keep it casual and hang out and see where things go. I do enjoy talking about sex with her. It has been unusual because in all my other relationships I felt like we were both trying to hide our sexual history from each other, cover it up, not discuss it, pretend like we were each other's first, etc. But this is sort of starting on the opposite foot.

We'll see...

You’re right, you have nothing to lose going on a few dates. It sounds like she wants a male wingman as well as a friend who knows what she does right from the beginning of your friendship and will be accepting of it, rather than her friends who would probably be shocked and judge her if they found out everything she does. She might even enjoy your reactions as the man who wants to also get in her panties but can’t. You would be her safe harbor that she could share all the sordid details to, get your reaction, and maybe even offer suggestions and encouragement to her. A friend in the lifestyle so to speak.
However don’t be surprised if you are permanently friend zoned.
Please keep us up to date on how this goes.

[slowsteady]

Seek and ye shall find ..

A number of people have given you some very sage advice. Including some I would never have believed were even capable of it judging by their usual advice.

Of course, you also have the usual wankers. Those folk who always advise people in your particular situation to go "full speed ahead" and "live long and prosper".

You went looking on a white girls seeking bbc site and found your Nirvana. Nothing could possibly go wrong! Right?

Now, make your decision.

You are the one that will reap the blessings of your choice. Let's see how this brilliant idea plays out!

[jratt85]

You can still have sex, it's just going to be a different kind of sex.. You can pleasure her and potentially fuck her while wearing a strapon so it's all about her and not you, or you can let her peg you, potentially even while the bull is plowing her and filling her up.. Sex is still 100% on the table, it just has to be a different kind.

[Bscott766]

Idk sounds pretty hot to me. I love that she was going to see a bbc before your date. Can't wait to hear how the date went

[gordon921]

Of course, you also have the usual wankers. Those folk who always advise people in your particular situation to go "full speed ahead" and "live long and prosper".

Yup I call them cheerleaders...

[galactic]

We had dinner Friday night for a couple of hours. I didn't want to just be in the friend zone, so I was flirting a lot more. I walked her to her car and we kissed. After, she invited me to go out clubbing with her the next night. I said sure and said I'd text her the next day. I met her around 11:00 the next night outside the club and we went in together. It wasn't my scene, but she knew people there. She introduced me to a few people, always just by name, not as a friend or boyfriend, etc. She danced a little on her own and with some girl friends, and then I went out and started dancing with her, which got really hot very fast. I was in party mode. I honestly hadn't been clubbing in a couple years, but did a lot in college.

At one point she saw a guy she knew and he came up to her and the three of us danced together. She kissed him and said some stuff to him in his ear. She turned around after a bit and kissed me while he was grinding up on her. After a bit she turned back around and they said some things and then he left. We went and got drinks and hung for a bit and she talked to a few more guys, then she went out dancing with another guy and gave me a look. I just let them dance for a while, and then she came back to me with him and introduced me to him. He was getting all over her, but she reached over and grabbed my hand. She said she wanted to dance again and she pulled me with her this time, so I went with them. We were both grinding on her and I think she could tell I had a hardon at one point. Various other stuff happened, and by around 2 she was ready to go. She actually ended up hooking up with the first guy we danced with. She left with him, but she gave me a kiss on the cheek and squeezed my hand when she left and told me to call her the next day.

I texted her around noon and she said I could come over to her place, but she wasn't getting out of bed. Her apartment is like an hour from mine, but I went over. I'd never been there before. She came to the door in PJs, no makeup, I could tell she had showered. Said she was getting back in bed. She said she didn't get home until 5 am. I got on her bed with her, on top of the covers in my clothes, and we talked a bit. I didn't ask her anything about what she did after she left. She said she had a great time at the club with me and liked my dancing. I started touching her and we started kissing. It got really intense. I took my shirt off and we started making out more and then she started pulling back. We just looked at each other for a bit and then I started kissing down her chest and pulled her covers back and went down on her. I was practically cumming in my pants. It took a while, but I made her cum with just my mouth.

After, we made out a little and then she said "what about you?" She was rubbing my dick through my pants. I wasn't sure if she was going to suck me or what. I got out of bed and took my pants off, but when I started to get back in bed she shook her head and smiled. So I started rubbing myself and she looked interested, so I keep going and started asking about what she did the prior night. I'd ask her stuff and she'd just say yes or no. I quickly came on her pillow.

We threw the pillow on the floor and I got into bed with her and we were having a good time. She said she'd never watched a guy jackoff before. We cuddled and then she actually fell asleep for a bit. I just laid in bed with her until she woke up. We got out of bed and hung out and watched tv for a while. I helped her put some dinner together. We ate and made plans to go to Six Flags in a couple of weeks and then I had to go. We made out as I was going and she said she was glad I came by.

So much for keeping it casual!