Is it hard talking to a guy after he’s fucked your wife

[bltn1966]

I find it super difficult talking to a guy after he has been with my wife. I’m not very talkative to begin with but after a he’s been with a guy I can’t think of anything to talk about. My wife on the other hand is very outgoing. She’s not shy about introducing me to one of her FB’s. After she has been with a guy, my wife rate the sex with him on a scale of 1-10. So when me and the guy happen to be face to face all I’m thinking is “he’s an 8 or he’s a 3 /. What did he do to her in bed. / What do he think of her over-the-top orgasms. / Your the one that made her squirt / your the one that had her sore for a few days. / Your the one that fucked her and her friend the same night...etc”. I see some of my swinger friends have no problem hanging out with a guy after he’s fucked their wife. Lucky for me Marie rarely have sex with friends of ours.

One night when I was at work Marie had a very impromptu night of sex with a good friend of ours name Jesse. We met Jesse and his wife at a swingers club a few years ago but we’ve never come close to doing anything with each other. Marie apologized about her surprising fuckfest with our friend. I had Marie tell me how good he was in bed. The next weekend when I saw Jesse I couldn’t think of anything to say to him. It was very awkward. It still is. My tongue gets tied and my mind keep thinking about him fucking Marie. The only time I felt somewhat comfortable talking to him was when he briefly told me how great it was to finally fuck Marie. He also showed me and Marie the scratch marks she left on his back. I really wanted for him to go into more details about fucking her but he didn’t. I feel it would be super weird to ask a guy to tell you about fucking his wife.

I’m not a cuck or like to be dominated or some shit like that. I’m 6’2” and supposedly have an intimidating look. I just have a hard time talking to a guy after he has fucked my wife. I want to talk but I can’t. Anybody else have the same problem. If not what do you and her FB talk about.

[tractorman2]

I have always enjoyed talking to men I knew were shortly to fuck my wife and afterwards too. I am completely at ease with this or else I wouldn't allow it. They fall into several categories, men I give my wife to and the most enjoyable men who take my willing wife from me.

[VictorCharlie]

We dont spend a lot of time making small talk but usually chat a bit between taking turns with Mrs VC. No big deal.

[adamgunnauthor]

We're an experienced MFM couple. I don't find it hard at all talking with the guys my wife has been intimate with. If we're all in the same bed (that often happens as we're recharging for seconds,) then the three of us tend to talk about past escapades. If it's in a normal, clothes-on, situation, we talk about what everybody talks about. Weather, sports, travel, etc. Other than the fact that the guy has known my wife carnally, he's no different than any other guy.

[oldgeneroushot]

I enjoy chatting with her BFs/FBs later. Sometimes we discuss her and the sex and sometimes we discuss other things. We all know what happened and that we all know so why not be friends and friendly! Her current BBC BF is a great guy and I enjoy him on many levels as does she!

[Cdncuck]

My wife likes variety. She has several boyfriends and fuck buddies. I know most of them. We have been camping or fishing or to the movies with them. I get along well with the guys I know. We talk about sexual things and sometimes other things.

[Des 31]

Not for me. I haven't met them all but if they're at our home for their dates, I'm entirely comfortable talking with them. I recall two who weren't confident guys, a bit shy, and it was more difficult carrying on a conversation before or after. Each of those were short-term hookups with my wife, so I didn't consider our odd conversations to be a problem. She has been having a long term affair with her boss at the bank where she works and with two 20 year old community college students and I get along fine with each of them. We have become friends with her boss and his wife and go out with them every month or two.

I'm thrilled no matter who she is with, but I sometimes feel I'm most excited hearing about her dates with men I haven't met. She is good at narrating the details while we fuck later at home.

[stonemtncouple]

We must be friendly have conversation and genuinely enjoy being in the company of a single man or couple before she fucks them.
Everyone she has fucked we consider a friend. When we have MFM there are lots of smiles, laughs and orgasms all way around.

[Cray-z-dayz]

I've never had any difficulty talking with one of my wife's lovers, but I'm rather extroverted and have never been short on words. I have noted that a few of my wife's lovers were uncomfortable talking with me... they were nervous around me, so I just gave them distance and didn't bother with small talk. (My wife's theory is that they were afraid of me for some reason... which is really kind of funny seeing as I'm not very imposing... I'm only 5'10" and about 200 lbs... but maybe it's just a gut reaction to my being "The Husband".)

Most of her lovers are cool with me, though, and reactions vary from hand shake to fist bump, with some of them giving me a really happy smile and thanking me for having such an awesome wife, while other just keep it to a smile and nod in passing.


-Cray

[hotfreaks]

Not for me at all. I actually like talking to them

[cthubby]

no, not really. usually it's someone we know, and there's not alot of awkwardness for that reason

[samlowen]

I tend to be a nervous talker at times dove right in with my wife’s first lover, chatting with him to help calm my own nerves. After a few lovers, my anxiety disappeared as my comfortability increased. Some of my wife’s lovers have been anxious about meeting/talking with me. They have tended to be the younger or less experienced ones. I do enjoy making them squirm a bit with my chatter. It might help you if you had something short and simple ready to go. Thank you for having sex with my wife never hurts.

[Long Lurker 34]

You know it's not like you have to launch into a post sex interview with the fellow like it's a sporting event. Ask how the traffic is/was. Movies, books, hiking, biking, cars, actual sports. Would he like a beer/wine? Become friendly. It might take sometime. A number of visits. Ease into asking about bedroom activities.

[Janes Husband]

It is for me. Watching has always been awkward. Mostly i have stayed away from both for that reason. Even the nudity i find a bit awkward.

[Myhotwife76]

I have no problem talking to them. Usually shake there hand an say thanks. I also think those things to. Your the one that had her screaming ect. Yes it can be akward but just keep it simple. Wife usually does the talking i get ignored. Till he gone. Lol.

[KennyWintersFromFET]

I find it super difficult talking to a guy after he has been with my wife. I’m not very talkative to begin with but after a he’s been with a guy I can’t think of anything to talk about. My wife on the other hand is very outgoing. She’s not shy about introducing me to one of her FB’s. After she has been with a guy, my wife rate the sex with him on a scale of 1-10. So when me and the guy happen to be face to face all I’m thinking is “he’s an 8 or he’s a 3 /. What did he do to her in bed. / What do he think of her over-the-top orgasms. / Your the one that made her squirt / your the one that had her sore for a few days. / Your the one that fucked her and her friend the same night...etc”. I see some of my swinger friends have no problem hanging out with a guy after he’s fucked their wife. Lucky for me Marie rarely have sex with friends of ours.

One night when I was at work Marie had a very impromptu night of sex with a good friend of ours name Jesse. We met Jesse and his wife at a swingers club a few years ago but we’ve never come close to doing anything with each other. Marie apologized about her surprising fuckfest with our friend. I had Marie tell me how good he was in bed. The next weekend when I saw Jesse I couldn’t think of anything to say to him. It was very awkward. It still is. My tongue gets tied and my mind keep thinking about him fucking Marie. The only time I felt somewhat comfortable talking to him was when he briefly told me how great it was to finally fuck Marie. He also showed me and Marie the scratch marks she left on his back. I really wanted for him to go into more details about fucking her but he didn’t. I feel it would be super weird to ask a guy to tell you about fucking his wife.

I’m not a cuck or like to be dominated or some shit like that. I’m 6’2” and supposedly have an intimidating look. I just have a hard time talking to a guy after he has fucked my wife. I want to talk but I can’t. Anybody else have the same problem. If not what do you and her FB talk about.

It shouldn’t be difficult if you right mind set. A bull, like myself, is for entertainment purposes. We exist to ENTERTAIN and SATISFY those in the lifestyle. We’re the sexual equivalent to stunt men. We love attention and friendship. If you feel like you can’t have a beer with your bull that’s a problem.

[iwish]

I didn't answer since we haven't gone down this road, but I would doubt I would be able to have a conversation. I would be imagining just what he did with my wife. Was he the best she ever had? Did he cum in her? Did she swallow? Etc. My mind would probably be spinning so fast smoke would be coming out of my ears.

While I was imagining what happened, I would hope he would be more than willing to describe to me in great detail how he fucked her senseless.

[UK-Stag]

It gets easier. You need to realise your position of power. You're marriage comes first. Obviously you don't own your wife but she does this with your permission. To be honest if it's not a cuck situation then they should make the effort to talk to you. This train only keeps rolling if you're both getting something out of it.

[cthubby]

no..largely because they were friends before. Should they feel awkward, I try to put them at ease.."nothing's changed..sooo how was it?"

[CoupleFun555]

No problems for me. I can talk to anyone almost anytime. My wife only has sex with men that she likes and we tend to like the same type of people. Plus, I join her for some MFM stuff when we both want that.

I never think that another person has “had” her. That thought feels a bit too much like I own her. I think almost exclusively about how much fun she has had because she is awesome to watch and hear in bed.

[Hungry4IT]

Not hard at all for me. Wed never move into a relation with someone we couldn't have a solid conversation with about anything in life really. It's important to use people are good comunicatirscand open and honest.

We play together so I'm always involved. I'm an upfront forward dude that doesn't have problems talking to anyone.

But if I found it hard for some reason that would indicate to me I was having some issues with something and I do some soul searching to figure on why.

As for what we talk about that ranges from shit about our kids, daily life bullshit, how sexxxy my wife is, and even other chics they are fucking.

Best of luck to ya. I'd bet if you brake the ice and get to bullshiting it won't be as bad as you think. Maybe start with talking about how great of a fuck your girl is. It's a common subject!.lol

[JustWannaWatch]

Yes, I agree with you. I too find it awkward if I don’t know the guy at all. Aside from me, my wife has two guys who have been constant in her life for about 20 and 10 years, respectively. With those guys, I can certainly chat. Sometimes we even compare notes afterwards.

-Frank

[noreaster]

Not usually. Most all interactions with them were more social conversations than anything. Never really talked about specifics of what went on between them. Only one of her longer term guys used to say some things via emails.

There was one guy, actually a relative of mine, who she had a long term thing with. It began without my knowledge but she soon told me what was going on and it continued without him knowing I knew for a long time. Was an odd feeling when he was around knowing what was going on between the two. We did eventually tell him I knew.

Only once did we talk about it happening and that was after several beers and only in general terms. A pretty awkward conversation. lol Yet we ended up back at our place late that same night and the 3 of us in our hot tub naked before the two of them retreated into the house while I closed up the tub.

Eventually he ended things for a couple years before he came back on occasion. When he did it was like an open secret that it happened, never talked about even though I was usually in the immediate area. For instance one night when he was visiting she went into the hot tub as usual before going to bed. We always go in naked as he knew. Not long after she went in the tub he said to me that he thought he’d go for a soak and asked where we kept the towels. I told him and off he went.

She came back in a bit later on her way to bed. I asked her if she had fun and she just smiled and said yes. Not long after he came in. We talked normally just like nothing happened and he left. There were several similar instances over time. Those were fun times.

[Dharmadude]

I haven’t met most of her partners but she did/does have a regular FB before we moved out of state. They still sext and she sees him when she goes back home. He was in our wedding and helped officiate it.

Since I was banished from the venue all day so I wouldn’t see her beforehand (don’t need any bad juju) I was wondering if they had found time for a quickie. They didn’t but the thought was there. When I saw him, I shook his hand and thanked him for helping out.

I thought the symbolism for our relationship was very appropriate. I was standing there telling the world what she meant to me. And I looked over her shoulder at a man she had fucked two days previous.

Always thought it would be an interesting situation to meet someone that had fucked her, but he wouldn’t know that I knew about it. She would be playing the cheating wife role.

[lovingher]

I think it is understandable that you feel awkward and unsure what to say. And you
may feel embarrassed and somewhat
humiliated. And if you just had a climax
In your hand, you may have that feeling of
regret. Many feelings are touched upon when your wife was just made love to by another guy.
I know how this feels for you.