Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[BallSpanking]

That sounds wonderful, Ms Reese. I think it's high time you had a little Boy-Toy fun, you've been an exemplary HW, and done just what was expected of you, and had a wickedly good time doing so!

I think a few 'Girls Nights-Out' with your fresh Stud-Toy (preferably well-hung) is just what the doctor ordered!
Besides, maybe you could bring Reese some new-flavored creampies!

[mrs_reese]

Hi everyone,
things have been quiet over the past few days.
Robert was away.
I told him how I met Brad.
Hubby is encouraging me to openly cheat on him with Brad.
He is so cute.
He is a few years younger than me and thinking of him and his yummy body, i have these thoughts of kissing him all over.
We have talked a few times.
He thinks that I do not tell hubby anything of my cheating.
Its funny telling another man who wants to fuck me that I cheat on my hubby.
Its kind of sexy/naughty but sometimes, I just want him to know that this is our lifestyle and I do not cheat.
Most guys would have a hard time understanding that though, especially guys as young as Brad.

Anyway/ I am thinking of meeting him at the Mall today.
He works as a manager of a speciality store.
I think he manages a few of these stores.
He told me that he would really like to spend some time with me.
Robert may be jealous, but he understands that I am my own woman.
Hmmm, trying to decide!
What do you think??

[mrs_reese]

I am leaving for the mall now. I am wearing sexy scandals, red/white top showing cleavage of course and cute jeans.
I want to make out with Brad.
xoxoxo

Honey, if you read this, sorry, I havent had time to talk to you.
I will text you when I am sitting down with Brad.


You love this baby!
So do I!

[Aynsley]

[quote="mrs_reese"]I am leaving for the mall now. I am wearing sexy scandals, red/white top showing cleavage of course and cute jeans.
I want to make out with Brad.
quote]

Cool.
I love it when Iris is out meeting a new BF,
eschewing the other BF's for the new conquest.

Have fun, Mrs. Reese!
By your description, I'm sure you'll knock Brad's socks off.

[mrs_reese]

aynsley, mr bear and jr!
I just got back from the mall.
Short and Sweet!

Brad is so nice. He told me that he doesnt want to interfer in my personal life but since I gave him the idea that I was very interested in him, he thought that he would pursue me.
I told him that I want my personal life to be left alone and that I am very interested in spending time with him.
I told him that I was very attracted to him and that IF we were to spend time together, it would more or less be for intimacy. He told me that is what he loves about married older women.
Even though I am only 4 yrs older than him, I took offense to him and kicked him in the shin: lightly of course!

He asked me how this will work. I told him that from time to time we can hang out and go from there.
I told him a few times that I was very attracted to him, so hopefully he understands my intentions.

We kissed a few times, whew! Great kisser

I told him that I would like to meet up with him for a drink Thursday night.

[Aynsley]

We kissed a few times, whew! Great kisser

I told him that I would like to meet up with him for a drink Thursday night.

...hehehehe....
Aw, Mrs. Reese, you again remind me of Iris.

One of the first 'tests' that a new 'guy' has to pass, is kissing.
If he doesn't kiss well, Iris throws him back.

...hmmmm....are you already thinking of what to wear, for
Thursday Night's date ??

[BallSpanking]

I don't log on for 12 hrs, and you are off to a new adventure!
Mr Reese will have a 'hard time' keeping up with you!

Please keep us posted...

[aemn711]

.....He told me that is what he loves about married older women.
Even though I am only 4 yrs older than him, I took offense to him and kicked him in the shin: lightly of course!

He asked me how this will work. I told him that from time to time we can hang out and go from there.
I told him a few times that I was very attracted to him, so hopefully he understands my intentions.

We kissed a few times, whew! Great kisser

I told him that I would like to meet up with him for a drink Thursday night.

This is an interesting twist - to the casual observer - it appears Robert is in the proverbial dog house - and while it seemed very positive from the vacation Robert and Mrs R took to Paradise Island soon after it it seems like Robert really stepped in it and it looks like Mr and Mrs R are trying to find a path to move on. While I personally was never impressed with Mrs R trying boy toys, because I believe Mrs R can't really be challenged by them I would understand if they were used as a transition strategy or a cooling off strategy. To me, it looks like Mrs R is getting Yoyo'd by this whole situation trying to satisfy Hubby yet trying to make this whole thing work for her.


I would like the Rs to elaborate more about what they think is going on

Aemn

[mrs_reese]

AEMN.
You are blessed with perception.

I have grown tired of keeping 2 men happy all the time.
My obligation and love is for my husband.
Somtimes Robert expects things from me that i can not give.
Mentally, it is very difficult having both men in my life.
Until the day comes that my husband can not make me orgasm, the Robert's in my life will come 2nd.

lol, JK!
But seriously, I need a little break from Robert.
HE was mad at me for not going on his business trip with him.
Enough is enough.
I am married and a mom.

Brad seems like a lot of fun.

goodnight everyone!

[reese]

Tonight my hotwife is going out with her newest boytoy....I am very excited by the fact that I dont know much about this guy..and that she wants to meet with him alone. I think my wife is up to something...things have been kind of quiet with Robert.

The thought of her going out alone....possibly kissing this guy....and maybe bringing him home??
The chemistry is there....at times my wife has told me to read some of her messages on her phone from him.
Reading the correspondence b/w both of them was very erotic....I cant wait for the night to end so I can learn about her adventure!

[mrs_reese]

I just ended my call with Robert!
He isnt happy with the fact that I am going to spend time with Brad tonight.
He feels like he is being shut out!
I didnt know what to tell him, and he kept asking WHY???
So I am cancelling Brad and going to spend the night with Robert.
I havent spoke to my husband yet, but this is one of those moments that cause so much anxiety.
Speaking to Robert, I understand his situation and how he feels.
He has given me so much of his time and attention and he feels like he has been "used"!
I broke one of my personal rules by allowing him to come close to my heart.
I do love him.
I dont want to lose him.
I told Brad, "another night" soon!
But I need to take care of my lover.

Baby, I hope you are not mad at me. I know that you love the idea of a new man.
But you know how I feel about Robert.
He has been complicated at times, especially lately. But I love him, and you know that!
Tonight, while I make love to him all night, I want you to think about how you lost me to him.
I know that you will be burning up with LUST inside baby!
I will leave some panties and nylons for you.

Tonight, I need to be with Robert.
I hope you understand baby.
xoxoxo
I will be gone when you come home from work.
I miss you baby!

[BallSpanking]

Dear Ms Reese,

I think you have been give the freedom to handle your affairs as you see best fit (as long as you keep Mr Reese in the loop).
It makes perfect sense that you would cancel tonight to unruffle Robert's feathers, after all, you do love him, and don't want to lose him as a BF.
As to Brad, I think he will readily understand that, and you will have time to spend with your Boy-Toy this weekend perhaps, or sometime soon. After all, a girl should have the right to choose her own fun in her free time, right?

[reese]

Hey,

I am somewhat annoyed at this entire situation with Robert. My married husband jealousy is kicking in. Please dont judge me...some may say that I should not interfer with my wife's motives!
I am starting to grow tired of Robert's demands. I am torn because I keep pushing the envelope with my wife...encouraging her to move deeper and deeper when she is in a relationship with a lover.
With that regard, I realize that I have NO right to be pissed off at my wife, and I am not!
My male ego is kicking in right now with Robert. He knows that my wife loves him and at times, I think he is using his influence as a torn lover over her. She has such a big heart...and I dont like the fact that I think he is playing with her emotions.
It is hotter than hell knowing my wife is spreading her legs..whispering "i love you to him"....but I cant help myself right now. This is bullshit for me! Every part of my being was looking forward to my wife coming home later tonight...I knew that she would not be spending the night with Brad. I wanted HER! I wanted her intimately!
But tonight, 50% of my wife is playing out our fantasies...and the other half of her is satisfying her lover....and her love for him too! I am jealous....I want her right now......and I hate being a hotwife husband right now!
Why do we do this to ourselves??? Why do we torment our hearts and minds? The angst...the misery....at times it drives me crazy! It's time to jack off to her panties.....and nylons. For a brief few minutes.....I will find her panties on our bed...and her nylons wrapped over some sexy high heels in bed as well...and I will masterbate to the thought of my slutty hotwife......I just wish I wasnt so damn jealous right now!

I also wonder if this may be Robert's final time with my wife!!!

[BallSpanking]

Hi Reese,

I sympathize with you, because you are right, this is one of those times when she is following her own feelings, leaving you to wait for her.
All I can say is be patient and tender with her.
She is doing what you asked of her, and now she's developed feelings for Robert. Of course he wants to fuck her, who wouldn't?

Be supportive of her, she will soon be spreading her thighs for Brad AND Robert, as a happy, contented HotWife SHOULD!

Peace.

[BallSpanking]

I suggest you imagine her like this with Robert, doing her best to empty his cum inside her...

http://www.flickr.com/photos/reesehw/3827605048/

[sedvuslad]

It kind of reads like progressively expanding control by a series of those whose place is (or ought to be) 'privileged guest's‘!

I am starting to grow tired of Robert's demands.

Read, 'Robert's CONTROL.
D, Michael, Robert, all have TAKEN (and been so given) control to varying degrees, and it has been all but totally granted.
Yes! It may well be that this is his ejection point!
It is too easy for some men to gain control of and influence over women’s thoughts, and con them into conformance to THEIR thoughts, ideas, wishes, desires, regardless of the lady’s and their mates intentions, expectations, or interests, when they get the lady alone, have a lot of solo time with them, or see them solo very often.
But it is also really easy to cut out control freaks (and/or wannabe control freaks).
Stand firm reese. Retake control over outsiders, and keep them outside!!
It would seem that mrs reese might get a hint that these characters are kind of leading her around on a bit of a leash as far as she will let them lead her.
Oh Yeah!!
What ever happened to:

I know most of you are waiting for the juicy details of my vacation.
I will write about that later.

SEDL

[Irwinhill]

sedvuslad wrote:

It is too easy for some men to gain control of and influence over women’s thoughts, and con them into conformance to THEIR thoughts,

I'd like to suggest a slight revision: "It is too easy for some PEOPLE to gain control of and influence over some other PEOPLE'S thoughts and con them..."

IH

[mrs_reese]

I appreciate everyone's concern.
I am confused. And this isnt easy. For me mostly.
First of all, I want to thank my husband who i love so much. Thank-you baby for being so patient with me.
You know how hard this is. I love Robert. You know its a different love, but you wanted me to be closer to him and I am, so thank-you again, for not blowing up my phone last night even though you knew that my body was being fucked by Robert all night!

About last night. Short and sweet. Robert and I did make love. We didnt talk a lot about everything else going on in my life. I did tell him that I feel him slipping from my life. I told him that I can feel changes happening to me, a change that makes me want to walk away. My husband; he is my only priority along with my daughter. I feel like I am being forced to choose. Robert told me how much he loves me and if he had a chance, he would sweep me off my feet and marry me.
He realizes that this isnt possible -ONCE I told him that its words like that, when he tells me those things that makes me want to walk away from him. Robert eventually convinced me to let go/ and we decided not to talk aboiut our future any more.
I had a few drinks of wine/ and we spent a few hours making love/ very passionate/ words of I love you were expressed most of the night. I forgot about my husband for this night. I know that it burns him up inside with a raging desire of passion and lust when I feel this way/ so i purposely let myself go/ only because I know when I tell my husband how I felt making love to Robert/ he goes crazy!!

This morning, Robert went to work late. WE made love again. I am so tired and sore. I am not able to make love to my husband tonight/ I am just too sore! I know that this will cause some friction! I realize how badly my husband wanted to make love to me last night.
But I was in the arms with my lover/ it was a good night for me.
I was able to feel Roberts love.
I am not sure if it willthe last time for me with Robert though!
My marriage is too important to me.
I think I may go out with Brad once my husband and I discuss everything!
One more thing, I am a grown woman able to make my own decisions.
If I stop seeing Robert, it will because I choose to end our relationship.
My marriage comes first in my life!
I am so in love with my husband and at times, I wish we would not be a hotwife couple.

[zhershey1082]

Reese,
Please try to maintain your easygoing temperament tonight. Don’t load up on Mrs_Reese. Be kind and loving to her.

Tomorrow, it will be back to family and football.

After this last episode, I am expecting you to pull the plug on Robert. However, it is not always the men in her life who are stepping out of their boundaries. I sense Mrs_Reese is enjoying this freedom as a hot wife and it seems that whatever happens, you are the one to have to reign in feelings that are out of control and maintain composure.

We don’t know what really is being said behind closed doors, but your wife is 2/2 in getting two main men in her life Michael and Robert) to fall in love with her and want to marry her. What’s up with that? It is like she is enjoying the romance, attention and love from handsome men, not to mention the size of their cocks. Remember your original goals? It has dissipated into one after another episode of love… telling each other how much they love each other and in essence, playing with the hearts of men.

It is time to set new boundaries for Mrs_Reese. Everyone loves her on this board, and any negative comments bring out her scorn. Yes, we hear you and her daughter come first in her life and your marriage is most important. However, it is apparent to me that she is the one who is out of control and you will have to deal with that by using whatever method is appropriate to obtain focus again on what it is that you wanted out of having a hotwife. For example, all marriages in this style are different and they have different rules of engagement. Here’s an example: you don’t hear anything about Mrs_hotwifecplsa having to let men in her life go because they fell in love with her and want to marry her. She maintains control and fucks the five men in her life according to her schedule.

What does all of this mean and where was I going? Simply that it means Mrs_Reese may need to get four or five men in her life and balance them according to her needs. No love, no talk of marriage, no trying to take her away from you etc.
Good Luck this weekend.

P.S. How is your Fantasy Football Team doing?

[Iris777]

Advice is simple to give and hard to follow when it is your heart involved. I do agree with wa very specific point Mr Bear made. You BOTH said you wish you weren't a hw couple. One of the big agreements that we have is that if it isn't fun for both of us, then we stop doing it. Unless you are all happily willing to go the polyamorous route, it might be the best thing for your marriage to stop with Robert - as hard as that may be. It sounds like he has gotten too deeply involved and wants to make the same claims as a husband. He knew the score when he got involved. Now he wants to change the rules. He wants to become more important and come first. That sends big red flags of concern up for me.

But I also appreciate your struggle in a cautionary way for myself. This shows me just what I work to avoid and how it could make my beloved feel.

[aemn711]

I hate giving advice when I know I'm playing with less than half a deck but I'm guessing the Rs are going to figure this one out. One observation however, is that if they think her love affair with Robert is getting too dangerous they will both end it and probably want to take a break. Not sure whether Boy Toys are appropriate if she has to say goodbye to Robert but doing family-daughter and football is. We Michael came to an end, I suggested Mrs R really take her time and look for the perfect guy with all the bells and whistles but preferrably a married man. Now I know there are those on here who will flame the s**t out of that thinking but it would certainly solve a major problem if it was done right.

I suspect there are "hothusbands" out there who would be looking for the romance and sex they are not getting in their lives but are quite HAPPILY married otherwise that would be perfect to push Mr R and Mrs Rs buttons. The tradeoff is that a Happily Married Man is not going to be as available as a single guy and he will have to split his emotions and devotions between his wife and Mrs R just the way Mrs R has to playing HW. I think she and the Married man would find their opportunities to be together when they happen to be much more precious and the intensity would be a good as the Robert situation

One draw back with the married man situation is that it would take a long time and a lot of work to find the right guy and I'm not sure the Rs have the patience for that if they want to jump back in right away.

[BallSpanking]

Dear Ms Reese,

I completely understand your confusion.
I think it's very touching that you surrendered to Robert last night, I'm sure he felt your devotion and tenderness.
I think perhaps that if you can refrain from making unilateral decisions this weekend, things have a chance of working themselves through (without having to terminate your relationship to Robert). I think Robert would be well advised to stop suggesting a more permanent bond to you, because, much though he would like that, you are already married, and such declaratins can only serve to 'spook' you from being close and intimate with him.
In a way, that is why I thought some time-out with Brad could be good for you and everyone else involved. You could have some fun sex with Brad, please Mr Reese by being a HotWife, and give you and Brad a chance to breathe, and resume your relationship in a few days without so much tension. After all, Mr Reese asked you to give yourself to him, to give him your love..., and it seems unfair to now require you to discard it overnight..., after all, he IS your lover, and you should have a major say in keeping him as a lover or not.
I think Mr Reese would agree as long as he can remain happy and your priority...?!

I think we all want to see you happy, and well-loved.

Peace!

[BallSpanking]

Correction:

..., please Mr Reese by being a HotWife, and give you and Robert a chance to breathe...,

[reese]

MrsR wants to write tomorrow...so I guess its my turn.

Jrgraham....I want to clarify something....I do not top from the bottom.


Some thoughts;
Living life on the edge....and letting my hard on do all the thinking for me....I have done some things in the heat of passion...that I do not regret....the gender bending by playing cuck is simply erotic for me.......to be put into that situation...Its hot for me to go there...only because its not a normal thing for me to do.
Watching my wife play cuckoldress...crave cock....put my buttons....act slutty....and beg for me to do things to her lover...its all in the heat of the moment. I have posted many times....that I like to live life on the edge...and mental or physical stimulation is a fantastic way of pushing that button that triggers an intense orgasm...I wont ever ask my wife to leave Robert..that's not my decision right now....I asked her to fall in love with him if she choose...I asked her to torment me...I asked her to deny me...its not my right to TELL her to leave him. I may write things in this forum to VENt some frustration...I write at times because I know that I have friends here who listen to me and give me great advice.

We will spend time this weekend. Together. She doesnt want to be a hotwife this weekend...NO talk of it...NO sex with a hotwife theme....we want to be a married couple....and get back to basics.
One more thing...there isnt any books to help us be a hotwife couple. We can not talk about this at the water cooler with other people. We learn as we go along. My wife is happy being a wife to me. She loves Robert too. I am ok with that....because it makes me work harder at being her husband...not ever taking her for granted. But dealing with the confusion...the misunderstandings...the hurt of the heart...the emotions....the denial...the feelings of loving 2 men...
this lifestyle is not EASY!!! We both are trying to make this work. But this weekend..as some of you have pointed out..we are taking a time out!!

[BallSpanking]

Dear Reeses,

I think you do a wonderful job.
You are great together, and all of us here want your happiness.
Hope you have a lovely and loving weekend!