My Wife's Hotwife History - Will eventually be everything

[Des 31]

Has she ever thought about flipping the script and telling her men that tonight their cocks belong to her to cum on as much as she wants?

That isn't her personality to say that. I doubt it would occur to her.

[Des 31]

Has she looked into Krav Maga to improve her ground skills? I don’t practice martial arts myself but two co-workers of mine speak very highly of it. Happy Thanksgiving, btw!

I hadn't heard of it but asked my wife. She said she knows little about it except it's a mixture of judo, karate and some other skills developed by Israelis. We checked online and read it's particularly good in street fighting. She finds that interesting and thinks that would be far easier than that suggested by her dojo master. It's a possibility. Most things she studies are just out of her personal interests. She has never actually had to use any of what she has learned, which leads me to think more than half the things she gets involved with is a waste of personal time, but she does whatever she wants to do.

(My personal defensive strategy is just to stay out of the bad parts of town.)

~ Des

[Mr ablondemilf]

(My personal defensive strategy is just to stay out of the bad parts of town.)

~ Des

YEP, my thought process as well.....

[rascalnvixen]

Most things she studies are just out of her personal interests. She has never actually had to use any of what she has learned, which leads me to think more than half the things she gets involved with is a waste of personal time, but she does whatever she wants to do.

(My personal defensive strategy is just to stay out of the bad parts of town.)

~ Des

I firmly believe those personal interests are very beneficial to her in business because they allow her to be a much more rounded person who has basic information on a lot of topics that may well come up in some of her discussions, social and professional. In the business world it gives her a sense of being a person who is knowledgeable and aware of things in general. Not a bad trait for business contacts to have of her.

As far as your defensive strategy, that works to a large degree but what will you do when bad comes to you???

Rascal

[afagehi7]

Has she looked into Krav Maga to improve her ground skills? I don’t practice martial arts myself but two co-workers of mine speak very highly of it. Happy Thanksgiving, btw!

I hadn't heard of it but asked my wife. She said she knows little about it except it's a mixture of judo, karate and some other skills developed by Israelis. We checked online and read it's particularly good in street fighting. She finds that interesting and thinks that would be far easier than that suggested by her dojo master. It's a possibility. Most things she studies are just out of her personal interests. She has never actually had to use any of what she has learned, which leads me to think more than half the things she gets involved with is a waste of personal time, but she does whatever she wants to do.

(My personal defensive strategy is just to stay out of the bad parts of town.)

~ Des

She also is skilled at the ultimate in self defense...a bullet... so most of this is more academic for her as is my guess.

[Des 31]

Most things she studies are just out of her personal interests. She has never actually had to use any of what she has learned, which leads me to think more than half the things she gets involved with is a waste of personal time, but she does whatever she wants to do.

(My personal defensive strategy is just to stay out of the bad parts of town.)

~ Des

I firmly believe those personal interests are very beneficial to her in business because they allow her to be a much more rounded person who has basic information on a lot of topics that may well come up in some of her discussions, social and professional. In the business world it gives her a sense of being a person who is knowledgeable and aware of things in general. Not a bad trait for business contacts to have of her.

As far as your defensive strategy, that works to a large degree but what will you do when bad comes to you???

Rascal

Actually, she has told me knowing those sorts of topics does help with others who she comes in contact. She frequently has people of all ages coming to her for advice, although she reminds most she's not a professional counselor. She can carry on a lot of varied conversations with almost anyone and what she doesn't know about a topic asks whoever she's talking with about some minor detail, which pleases others to add to her knowledge. She once even took an astronomy class for several week nights and even that comes up with some. Good point.

Added on later: as it occurred to me: Just recalled an incident that gave me and others a laugh. We were at a bank function. A woman my wife works with came up to her and asked what she might advise about some ongoing problem between the woman and her neighbor. My wife nodded toward me and said, "You can take my husband's advice. He doesn't use it."

I said, "Hey, stop talking about personal things about me." A guy alongside us asked me, "Where does she get all these jokes?" I don't know.

[Fotodom]

Ok, now she's gone even Further up in my 'Most Admired' level; a Great sense of humor; Dang dude, you have hit a grand slam in the bottom of the ninth in the World Series, by being with her.

[yielding william]

Really liked that personal background. Have a better picture now.

[ericsacto]

Thanks for sharing some of your wife’s background.

Has your wife ever make any new personal friends while pursuing her personal interests?

[Des 31]

Thanks for sharing some of your wife’s background.

Has your wife ever make any new personal friends while pursuing her personal interests?

Yes, some I’ve written about here before and others through them she hasn’t had sex with. She has made friends with some who became good customers through the latter and others who were referred as customers. Her non-sexual interests also include three retired guys she occasionally plays golf with, along with others. She considers those her friends but not necessarily close friends. For the reason she doesn't want others to know about some parts of our lives, she doesn't want to get to know most people too well. She is cautious about that. I'm the same.

[solstice]

I think I may be in love with your wife, Although I would have to stand on a stool to even kiss her. her only fault that I can deduce, is I gather she is not keen on small men, perhaps my sparkling personality would win her over. Oh and I'm 85 years old may drive the final nail in the coffin.

[Des 31]

I think I may be in love with your wife, Although I would have to stand on a stool to even kiss her. her only fault that I can deduce, is I gather she is not keen on small men, perhaps my sparkling personality would win her over. Oh and I'm 85 years old may drive the final nail in the coffin.

Actually, two of her all time favorite guys are 3-4 inches shorter than her as written here. Hasn't yet been approached by an 85-year-old guy, so who knows?

[Des 31]

Whenever my wife phones me at work with a particularly personal message, she asks if I’m in my office and alone. This morning, I was.

Her boss told her when arriving at the office to check with me to see if I would object if she met him at his and his wife’s mountain cottage Friday night. Each will be attending separate parties at the homes of banking clientele and both gatherings are scheduled from five to seven. They would have a few hours to fuck there, away from his principal home.

She phoned me here at work and I told her that’s fine. It’s a bit more difficult to turn down an invitation by her boss than it is other guys anyway. His wife and kids will be traveling beginning Thursday to visit her parents and returning Sunday night. His approving wife suggested it would be nice if he got together with my wife in their absence, and he told her he would ask about that today.

She estimated she could be home Friday around midnight. It occurred to me the weather could be a problem with their plans. It’s in the thirties here and snowing north and west of us. Though the white stuff isn’t anticipated to be yet upon us, thunderstorms are anticipated late this week. Neither of us likes driving in intemperate conditions. I suggested she might also be tired after a day of work and the party, so I wouldn’t bellyache if she returned Saturday morning.

Because neither had considered those potentials, she will mention it to him. She surmised that no matter what the weather might be, he would probably prefer a sleepover anyway. I responded I’m sure he would and to tell him my agreeableness is my holiday gift to both. She laughed, promising to say it just that way.

That isn’t bigheartedness on my part. I’m thrilled when she’s being well fucked, maybe as much as she. She added with a giggle, “I know you’ll be jacking happily while we’re fucking.” I said she knows me too well. She always phones me when arriving at a guy’s place. She’s fully aware I’m jerking off while she vamps about what she and he will soon be doing. I clicked off as she said, “Fuck you later, Kemo Sabe,” and waited for my hard on to go down before venturing out of my office.

If she stays overnight, I can anticipate her straddling my hips in bed Saturday morning and stroking me as she narrates the details of their time together the night before. It's either that or I'll be madly fucking her. She vividly recites every galvanizing moment and I typically listen excitedly with a moronic, wide-eyed expression. That sort of conversation ranks among my favorite past times. And hers too.

~ Des

[Xalar11]

Her boss told her when arriving at the office to check with me to see if I would object if she met him at his and his wife’s mountain cottage Friday night. Each will be attending separate parties at the homes of banking clientele and both gatherings are scheduled from five to seven. They would have a few hours to fuck there, away from his principal home.
~ Des

Excuse me my intervention here, but didn't your wife say just about two weeks ago, if I remember correctly, that she want to spend all of December just only with you? I would have thought this would mean she wouldn't have any "intimate meetings" with her boss, Beau & Jack or her numerous other lovers during this time. Excuse my curiosity, but what does actually her statement, of about two weeks ago, concretely mean to your wife?

Maybe I'm wrong, but I assume you won't address your wife about her statement? But what has happened to your wife's intent to spend December only with you? I know it's not a big problem for you, but why does she even makes such statements, when she doesn't even try to follow through with this?

Excuse my many questions again.

[Des 31]

Her boss told her when arriving at the office to check with me to see if I would object if she met him at his and his wife’s mountain cottage Friday night. Each will be attending separate parties at the homes of banking clientele and both gatherings are scheduled from five to seven. They would have a few hours to fuck there, away from his principal home.
~ Des

Excuse me my intervention here, but didn't your wife say just about two weeks ago, if I remember correctly, that she want to spend all of December just only with you? I would have thought this would mean she wouldn't have any "intimate meetings" with her boss, Beau & Jack or her numerous other lovers during this time. Excuse my curiosity, but what does actually her statement, of about two weeks ago, concretely mean to your wife?

Maybe I'm wrong, but I assume you won't address your wife about her statement? But what has happened to your wife's intent to spend December only with you? I know it's not a big problem for you, but why does she even makes such statements, when she doesn't even try to follow through with this?

Excuse my many questions again.

Checked in here just before leaving for the office and caught your message. I don't recall my exact words about that but essentially she said there were two reasons she probably wouldn't be seeing others this month: (1) Beau and Jack are working hard on their final studies at the community college to make sure their grades aren't a problem for admission to the local university upon graduation. Actually, both are already accepted but they're sticking with their intent anyway and each will be heading home after graduation. For that reason, she didn't anticipate seeing either of them in this interim; (2) Her other reason for believing she wouldn't be seeing them or her boss this month was that Decembers are particularly busy for him, partly for social reasons but also for year-end work that comes about each year.

I may not have made that clear when I wrote whatever I posted here. It wasn't some promise she made that she only wanted to be with me. Neither she nor her boss - and maybe her two younger fuckbuddies - had thought they would have sufficient time to get together through year's end. If it turns out differently than anticipated, that would be no different from other months of the year. I don't think it likely she will be fucking other guys as much this month; but if either of us are wrong about that, that's fine with me - (and, of course, especially with her).

Even that doesn't mean "no one at all." We suspect our insurance agent will stop by some time to present a gift and that has resulted in follow-up sex in the past on a birthday. The boat owner and his wife have said they would like to have us over in the next two or three weeks but that hasn't been confirmed. I've also learned unexpected surprises come about at any time and know there are no guarantees in our sort of marriage.

Her exact words, as best as I recall, were that everyone involved would be busier than usual and added with a grin, "But you'll do," during that time. Thanks for writing, Xalar . . .

~ Swa

[solstice]

It looks as if with your dear wife it will be business as usual, in other words she will be fighting them off for the privilege to add another pair of her panties to the wash.

[solstice]

I think your wife's profile picture showing her fabulous breasts is memorable. therefor this may seem a strange request, could you replace it with that spectacular gown,for a very limited period, bought for her by a "friend" and described by you on a few occasions?

[Des 31]

It looks as if with your dear wife it will be business as usual, in other words she will be fighting them off for the privilege to add another pair of her panties to the wash.

It seems she's actually fucking more, not less as anticipated. Even with her busy schedule this month, she and I even have time for lengthy conversation. We were talking in bed last night and I asked her whether it's possible to be in love with two men. She said, "Yeah, even four or more at the same time." That isn't a threat to our marriage but the feelings are there, and she has felt that way with a few others who have since moved on. We have had this discussion in the past but in less depth than on this occasion.

What started our conversation was my question of whether she ever thinks about me when being fucked by other men. She said once, "I was thinking about you the whole time." When I said, "Seriously?", she laughed and said, "Not really." When fucking, that moment pushes out all other thought. It doesn't work that way with marital sex. She often thinks about others when she and I are fucking, but the difference is marital familiarity.

She received a call on her cell phone from Beau at work but her cell was turned off at the time. When she retrieved her messages around four p.m., she called him back. His roommate will be at a class lab Thursday night and he asked if she could come by their apartment. She will be attending client's parties Wednesday and Friday and taking Thursday off, so that night works for her. She will stop by his place for an hour or two of hot sex before coming home. She told me she wanted to see him very much and added, "I love Beau and Jack as much as I love my boss. It's not quite the same as with you and me, but there's a strong depth of feeling between them and me." She asked if that bothered me.

It doesn't. I understand. I think I realized that could come about when I first told her I wanted her to have sex with other men. She said that when she and Beau talked on the phone, her "heart leaped," and her anticipation of them fucking tonight put her in an excited state as she was driving home. I was erect upon hearing that. We fucked for maybe ten minutes at the most as she narrated a story of another man she had fucked while on a business trip. I get harder and cum stronger when she tells me of past encounters, but I don't last as long.

I think her sexual encounters have become so common in our marriage that it works seamlessly with the other parts of our lives. We're still learning as we go.

[afagehi7]

It looks as if with your dear wife it will be business as usual, in other words she will be fighting them off for the privilege to add another pair of her panties to the wash.

It seems she's actually fucking more, not less as anticipated. Even with her busy schedule this month, she and I even have time for lengthy conversation. We were talking in bed last night and I asked her whether it's possible to be in love with two men. She said, "Yeah, even four or more at the same time." That isn't a threat to our marriage but the feelings are there, and she has felt that way with a few others who have since moved on. We have had this discussion in the past but in less depth than on this occasion.

What started our conversation was my question of whether she ever thinks about me when being fucked by other men. She said once, "I was thinking about you the whole time." When I said, "Seriously?", she laughed and said, "Not really." When fucking, that moment pushes out all other thought. It doesn't work that way with marital sex. She often thinks about others when she and I are fucking, but the difference is marital familiarity.

She received a call on her cell phone from Beau at work but her cell was turned off at the time. When she retrieved her messages around four p.m., she called him back. His roommate will be at a class lab Wednesday night and he asked if she could come by their apartment. She will be attending client's parties Thursday and Friday, so that night works for her. She will stop by his place for an hour or two of hot sex before coming home. She told me she wanted to see him very much and added, "I love Beau and Jack as much as I love my boss. It's not quite the same as with you and me, but there's a strong depth of feeling between them and me." She asked if that bothered me.

It doesn't. I understand. I think I realized that could come about when I first told her I wanted her to have sex with other men. She said that when she and Beau talked on the phone, her "heart leaped," and her anticipation of them fucking tonight put her in an excited state as she was driving home. I was erect upon hearing that. We fucked for maybe ten minutes at the most as she narrated a story of another man she had fucked while on a business trip. I get harder and cum stronger when she tells me of past encounters, but I don't last as long.

I think her sexual encounters have become so common in our marriage that it works seamlessly with the other parts of our lives. We're still learning as we go.

What happened in the encounter you mentioned? Sounds like a one off pickup?

[Des 31]

. . . We fucked for maybe ten minutes at the most as she narrated a story of another man she had fucked while on a business trip. I get harder and cum stronger when she tells me of past encounters, but I don't last as long.

What happened in the encounter you mentioned? Sounds like a one off pickup?

I was about to answer that in full, then realized I had written once about it in this thread. She was at a seminar and met a reporter covering the event. That was a chance meeting and I suppose you could call that a one-off situation. As chronicled here, she has had other brief flings like that over the past few years. I also like hearing most of those stories repeated when we're having sex. Those experiences aren't the same for her as with those who she becomes physically and emotionally bonded. That's the way she feels about her currently regular guys and a few others in the past. She has come to know them and says they and she are in love when together. She tells me when they're having sex and for some time thereafter, it's like true love, like that of being engaged to marry or newly married. Her remark about loving "four" at the same time referred to her boss, Beau and Jack, and me. I'm pleased to just be in the mix but also realize our marital relationship has more to it than the physical act of fucking or the temporary feelings she experiences when she is with someone else.

Either way, they express their love for the other at those times. Her excitation is particularly high as their dicks are working through her pussy. I have been aware of that for some time but didn't fully appreciate how deeply she feels it until our conversation last night. We have had similar conversations in the past, but hearing her go into greater details about her feelings were exciting and enlightening in a way I haven't before experienced. I love that and, knowing her deepest feelings, turns me on in a way that isn't quite the same as her chance meetings. But I like those too. What I like best about everything is that she would never cheat or lie to me, as some wives are essentially forced to do when involved in covert affairs.

~ Des

[Mr ablondemilf]

I think her sexual encounters have become so common in our marriage that it works seamlessly with the other parts of our lives. We're still learning as we go.

I don't comment much on your updates but I DO READ and enjoy every post you make. You and your wife have this lifestyle figured out and enjoy it the max. This thread should be a MUST READ for every husband wanting to get his wife interested in this lifestyle. Once a husband breaks the news of this lifestyle to his wife and she gets over the shock she should have to read this thread as well. She needs to realize there are plenty of couples that can and do live what appears to others as a normal married life but the wife can have her fun on the side without anyone else knowing. Like you said above, you two HAVE figured out how to seamlessly work her sexual exploits into your daily lives. After reading your thread It should be clear to every couple considering this lifestyle that this lifestyle CAN WORK for them if they truly love each other have a rock solid marriage.✔ After reading and digesting the positive affect this lifestyle can have on a marriage, I would think most long term monogamous wives would want to give this way of life a try as soon as possible. HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE!!! Such a true statement. Thank you for continuously sharing your journey with us.

[JustWantToWatch]

Have any of the relationships in which she loved the other man during your marriage ended? If so was she heartbroken or even sad? My wife is not a hotwife yet and this is something I have wondered about.

[Des 31]

Have any of the relationships in which she loved the other man during your marriage ended? If so was she heartbroken or even sad? My wife is not a hotwife yet and this is something I have wondered about.

The second guy she met when we first started was much younger, a 19 year old student, and much shorter than her 5'11" height. But they were together three years before he moved away for a job and to finish his schooling. He was shy at first but rather quickly developed into a confident and virile stud. In my opinion at the time, they couldn't have been more different when I first met him, but they were certainly in love. They had been together so long and bonded so closely, she was particularly sad when he moved away. Yet, she realized the advantages of his new job in Seattle and that the company paid for his final college year and was happy for him in that. We ultimately flew to Seattle to attend his graduation and they fucked a final time in our hotel room that weekend. I wouldn't categorize her reaction as "devastating" because she was also dating other men during that time and he was aware of that. Beyond that early experience, she hasn't obsessed over her series of breakups since.

No matter how close she gets to someone else, we have learned that all these hotwife relationships have an expiration date. Guys move away, get married or move on for other reasons. When that happens now, she can put them out of her mind as just being the way life happens. I have read stories here about other wives who have difficulty handling breakups, but I suspect most of those are a result of their being involved with just one man other than that of their marital relationships. I would think that unless a couple has a particularly strong commitment, those exclusive relationships could have an adverse impact on marriages, but that's beyond my own personal experience.

~ Des

[ericsacto]

Has your wife ever have reunions with guys that moved away? The breakups would seem to be amicable and leaves the opening to staying as friends.

[Des 31]

Has your wife ever have reunions with guys that moved away? The breakups would seem to be amicable and leaves the opening to staying as friends.

All parted on good terms but other than the one mentioned above, she hasn't been sufficiently interested to travel to meet up again with any. Those who moved away aren't anywhere near us. She is occasionally in touch through email with three of those and has received some friendly phone calls but that's all at this time.

Two men who work in administrative positions for an auto manufacture out of state have been in our area twice and she was overnight with both at their hotel each time. That was some time back and I think I wrote here about that. But, as you mentioned, that does leaves an opening to stay as friends. I'm not great at predicting the future at this. I have been surprised in so many ways, little sets me aback these days.

Thanks for writing, Eric...
~ Des