Is it hard talking to a guy after he’s fucked your wife

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Below is my initial response to this post

My update. To some degree I find it easier talking to men who have fucked my wife due to their appreciation and acceptance of my wife being a Hotwife and the men who have fucked her with their continuation of them admiring her

My wife is good judge of character in selecting other men to have sex with and their maturity to treat both my wife and I well after the fact lends itself good conversation

Original reply below
No it is not difficult to talk to another man after he has had sex with my wife.

In high school and in college my wife to be had dated / sex with quite a few guys. As a Hotwife she has added a fair amount to the number of men she has had sex with, let’s say 40 to 50 men maybe more. So since she had sex with that many men it increases the possibility of bumping into one of them.

While of golfing with two of my traditional friends the three of us got paired up with a single golfer. He turn out to be a man who my wife has sex with on a few occasions from the swing club my wife and I attend

I got along with the former “sex partner” of my wife fairly well during the 18 holes of golf the four of us played together

Yet my two traditional friends didn’t seem to accept the cover story that I knew this man by once meeting him on a business trip

LOL, how should have I introduced the former sex partner of my wife.....oh I know him, he has a big cock and he fucked and came inside my wife on several occasions

Yes I would play golf with him again

[MSCS]

Several months ago, the male half of a couple we have played with (straight swinging/swapping) was traveling to our city. He's traveled here before, and we usually only met for a quick dinner. This time, we had decided it might be fun if my Verified Hotwife (HW Carol) played with him alone before we met for dinner. So they arranged to fuck in his hotel before we all met for dinner.

I met them in the restaurant. I came from work. They came from the hotel. Sat next to my wife, and across from him, and we ate dinner and drank wine as if nothing happened. When I sat down, wife gave me a deep, long kiss, not long after his cock had been in her mouth.

The 30 minute ride home after dinner seemed like it took hours before we could get in the house, get our clothes off, and have reclaim sex.

[HWBarb4Fun]

My husband always escorts my boyfriends out to the front door when they are done. In his words he said it is awkward, but if I'm man enough to ask my wife to have sex with others while I watch, he says he needs to be man enough to thank them for the great job they did as they depart.

[maybe2]

Many years ago (before the internet) my wife had a number of guys she made love with. I met a few of them. It was a little strange because they thought she was a cheating wife. I felt smug because they didn't know that I new they were fucking my wife and I am sure they felt smug thinking I didn't know they were fucking her. It was a strange feeling; one that I would love to have again sometime!

[1luckyone]

Its never hard for me to visit with her lover because we became friends before he got into her pants.

[respectabullinma]

coming from the other perspective as a bull, I most definitely want to talk to the husband - before and after the playdate. I want to know that the couple is in a good place and that his needs are being met. I want to know that they're communicating, if their expectations or wants have changed. Remember, this lifestyle, whether hotwife/husband or hotwife/cuckold, is about the couple - not the role I fill. Some couples want to have coffee or drinks before play and sometimes we talk while I'm busy with the wife - just as there isn't one right way to hotwife, there isn't one "right" time/way to talk. The only important thing is that there is communication between everyone.

[afagehi7]

coming from the other perspective as a bull, I most definitely want to talk to the husband - before and after the playdate. I want to know that the couple is in a good place and that his needs are being met. I want to know that they're communicating, if their expectations or wants have changed. Remember, this lifestyle, whether hotwife/husband or hotwife/cuckold, is about the couple - not the role I fill. Some couples want to have coffee or drinks before play and sometimes we talk while I'm busy with the wife - just as there isn't one right way to hotwife, there isn't one "right" time/way to talk. The only important thing is that there is communication between everyone.

Sounds like a solid strategy for repeat business.

If my wife had a hotwife adventure, I'm not sure how I'd feel about chatting with the guy. I may go prof braw where I don't want to meet him. I haven't really considered this dimension.

[zorro]

Some extra guys are more introverted than others. I prefer when there is good conversation, sharing of mutual information, and generation of good feelings.
Although any guy who can fuck R outstandingly is welcome, I like it when everyone feels some connection.

Think of it as as extension of socialization, only the fucking and sucking parts are just one channel of communication. The more you like the participants, the better the experience.

And I have zero discomfort talking with R's lovers, either during action or afterwards. Why would one?

[wifesharer]

I enjoy talking to the guy after he has just fucked my wife, the fact I have just watched him do things to her and she has enjoyed it massively doesn't bother me, for the record we don't even talk about it, it's general chit chat, I love the look on their face when you can clearly see he has just had a couple of the best hours of his life boning my stunning wife.

[Jeff111]

She had to Tap Out she was orgasming so much and only gave him an 8?

Hard marker!

I started this thread. I didn’t know I would soon be in a nightmare situation First of all when Marie have sex with a guy, she usually will rate guys on a scale of 1-10. One night, on a whim, we decided to go to a swingers club. It’s been well over a year since we’ve been to a club. We bumped into a a Hispanic couple we spent the night with. Marie gave him a 5 rating. She said he felt great but he kept switching to different sex positions. As soon as she was about to cum he would switch positions again. She said it felt like he was using her to audition for a porn movie.

While we’re talking to the Hispanic couple a young white couple ran over to say hi to us. We were the first couple for the white couple. Marie thought the white guy was cute but didn’t expect much out of him the bedroom. Well he gave her more than she bargained for. Marie gave him a 8 rating. He went down on her and fingered her a lot. After awhile Marie was begging him to fuck her. He then started ducking her real hard. After awhile he made Marie tap out. Watching my wife asking a guy to have mercy on her is one of the hottest thing to ever see. She held her palm out to him and was still cumming as she asked for a timeout.

While we were talking to both of the couples a young black guy walked up and gave Marie a big hug. I never met him. Marie tried reminding me who he was. She told me she dated the guy a few time. When the guy turned his head Marie whispered “he’s a 9 and I’m not talking about his rating either”. My dick immediately got hard. I walked over to the bar because I was having a hard time trying to conversate while standing around three guys that have fucked Marie. My mind was racing all over the place. My tongue was tied and and couldn’t concentrate on whatever we were talking about. My wife, on the other hand, talked as if she didn’t have a care in the world. I stood at the bar and watched Marie surrounded by all three guys. I know they were thinking about their time with her.

[dinoo]

Some extra guys are more introverted than others. I prefer when there is good conversation, sharing of mutual information, and generation of good feelings.
Although any guy who can fuck R outstandingly is welcome, I like it when everyone feels some connection.

Think of it as as extension of socialization, only the fucking and sucking parts are just one channel of communication. The more you like the participants, the better the experience.

And I have zero discomfort talking with R's lovers, either during action or afterwards. Why would one?

Hi Zorro, all goes well?

I agree with your post but like to add that a good communication between a guy/lover and partner/husband gives him the trust to feel free with the wife. In general, this was my experience to this matter.

[kaskap79]

I prefer to talk and get to know both the wife and the husband before we start on anything sexual.

Good to set the playground area before we start, so nobody get hurt.

Love to talk to the both the wife and husband after the fun as well, just to make sure that they both know that I am no risk to their marriage.

[stevens4fun]

For me, it seems to vary depending on the situation. With my wifes long term lovers it was easy to talk to them afterwards as we all liked one another and the guy was a frequent guest in our bed. I have always enjoyed laying behind my wife in our bed as she faces and chats with lover she's just had sex with. It's a breathtaking sight as they chat and being arousing one another again.........My wife's one offs were sometimes different as some were nervous about me being around, and there wasn't much chatting afterwards. They just wanted to leave! :-))))) Her MBC (medium, but thick black cock) lover of several was never comfortable talking to me. He was a coworker she slept with once a month for several years, in her hotel room while working in his region. My wife had explained to him that I encouraged her to enjoy him, but he never was comfortable with the idea of me knowing. Thus, although we wanted him to spend the weekend with her in our home, he just couldn't get comfortable with it. When we'd run into him at company events, he always felt awkward talking to me.

[OZCPL]

Do you mean is it hard or do you mean is it difficult, tongue in cheek.
Either way just talk unless he wants to be difficult. If he wants to be a smart ass tell him he's not getting any more and to get lost.

[zorro]

Some extra guys are more introverted than others. I prefer when there is good conversation, sharing of mutual information, and generation of good feelings.
Although any guy who can fuck R outstandingly is welcome, I like it when everyone feels some connection.

Think of it as as extension of socialization, only the fucking and sucking parts are just one channel of communication. The more you like the participants, the better the experience.

And I have zero discomfort talking with R's lovers, either during action or afterwards. Why would one?

Hi Zorro, all goes well?

I agree with your post but like to add that a good communication between a guy/lover and partner/husband gives him the trust to feel free with the wife. In general, this was my experience to this matter.

Dinoo, your comment is completely consistent with my point. Lovers are people. The better the people-people connection, the better the sex and the more likely we'd like the guy back.

Party sex with guys where you are lucky to know their name is another thing. I am thinking about smaller, more intimate encounters like a MFM.

[All4Jenna]

Yes, it's usually HARD the entire time.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

I've only met one of my wife's three lovers.
I didn't find it difficult, and was looking forward to talking with him.
He came over for a board game night, and we had an alright time together. There wasn't anything sexual happening while I was present that night.
I don't think my wife told him that I knew he had sex with her.
Her lover had previously gone silent with my wife after they had sex and stopped talking to her for a while. They tried to patch up the friendship part, but it fell apart again and they stopped talking all together, so she only had sex with him one time. I was pretty bummed out that it didn't turn into something more long term.

My wife later said she felt awkward with all of us in the same room when he came over. That is probably the main reason she doesn't want me to meet her current set of lovers.
Though things are going well for her with both of her latest lovers.
I think she is being more honest with them, that I know and consent to what is going on, so maybe that is making everyone more comfortable.

[NewtonBlade]

Not difficult at all. Since her retirement, my wife R has spent a few nights a month with her lover, Robert. I make sure to have coffee and some breakfast ready for them when he brings her home. I love the easy conversation and the glow around both of them.
The only difficulty is that since R and Robert were lovers for years before I met her, sometimes they'll flash back to the years they worked together, and leave me out of the conversation. But even that gets me hard, knowing that he has a longer sexual history with my wife than I do.

[DDs_sltwf]

My husband has absolutely no issues with this at all
Usually I'm the one who feels awkward

I'm OK in a group situation hanging and chatting after, but for some reason after an mfm I want to bail ASAP

[iloanmywife]

Some great answers in this thread!

For us...it kind of depends on how well we know the other guy and what we were just doing. I've definitely had a few nights where it was difficult to make eye contact at the end of the night, especially when we've played with heavy cuckold themes.

I've also experienced the exact opposite. Our current MFM play friend has become a good friend of ours, someone we'd hang out with even if he wasn't fucking my wife. When we play it's an easy-going wife-sharing free-for-all. The transition between hanging out and having sex is totally seamless. And after we're done fucking it's feels more like we just finished some team bonding activity, like we played a game of beach volleyball or something. We just want to have a drink together and share some laughs. It's not awkward at all.

[Her number1]

With the exception of a few guys she met on OHW, I have always known the ones she has contact with. Even the ones from OHW contacted me first. so, it is easy for me to talk to her guys.
Her regular guys are either friends or good acquaintances and I talk to them about all sorts of things including sex, but many things far removed from sex. We kid, joke, and harass each other, or at least I harass them.

[Cuck4Life]

My best friend was my exwifes primary sex partner while we dated and were married. There were many weekend mornings I would wait on him to finish screwing her so we could go fishing. I never asked him questions about what they did but sometimes he would offer up some into and it would drive me crazy.

[Farmgirl]

I enjoy when my Number1 talks to my lovers when they are in a vanilla situation .

[Michaels30309]

With the exception of a few guys she met on OHW, I have always known the ones she has contact with. Even the ones from OHW contacted me first. so, it is easy for me to talk to her guys.
Her regular guys are either friends or good acquaintances and I talk to them about all sorts of things including sex, but many things far removed from sex. We kid, joke, and harass each other, or at least I harass them.

And they presumably thank you effusively.

[Her number1]

And they presumably thank you effusively.

They're pretty thankful.
She has a habit of causing that appreciation.


BTW, she said you had sent her a PM, but your PMs were turned off. Just thought I'd let you know.