Another man loves my wife

[nluvlorn]

Hoping for an update soon.

Hi D+D....We are pretty much in a settled routine now, so not a lot of new information to report.
Juli now meets with Brian at his house one afternoon per week. Their sex continues to be very passionate and intimate. After she returns home I do always ask her the basic questions such as what positions and how her orgasm was. And Brian is no longer dating or attempting to date any other female. I think his once-a-week sex with my wife keeps him quite satisfied and he's not doing anything to jeopardize that.

Personally our marriage sex is also settled into a once-a-week routine on weekends. Due to health reasons (nothing serious) I am best able to perform sexually on a once-per-week schedule. So between me and Brian we seem to be keeping Juli very satisfied.

I think the most significant changes over the last 6 months is the weekly schedule for her to be with Brian, and also her being more open with me about how she feels about Brian. She now refers to him as her "boyfriend" whereas before she would not go beyond a "friend-with-benefits" label. But now they have an obvious emotional bond after 5 years of being sexual intimate together, that even Juli can no longer deny. So she enthusiastically calls Brian her "boyfriend", and of course he has all rights associated with that label.

The other significant development is that Brian has asked Juli to accompany him on a business trip the first of March. It's a 4 night trip to San Francisco and she is amenable to doing it. (Brian did talk to me first and asked if I would give my blessing which I did of course). So Juli is just trying to adjust her work schedule to go with Brian on his trip. That's all that is delaying her to confirm the trip.

So all is well and personally I feel very good about my wife having a boyfriend.

Mark

Hi Mark, Pakistani wannabe cuckold here. I really love this type of deep detailed descriptions. Very nice to see you guys develop a great balanced relationship and hope it develops further. Thank you :-)

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum nluvlorn.

[Pistos]

Welcome to the forum nluvlorn.

Hello...I'm fairly new to all of this but found this site and decided to post my situation here.

My wife and I have been married 32 years (I'm 56, she is 52). Last year a good friend of ours went though a divorce when his wife left him. We let him hang around with us (dinners, outings, visits in our home etc) just to be a good friend to him.
After a while I could tell he was enjoying being around my wife more than just as a friend. A husband can just tell when another man is hot for his wife. I guess I am a bit of a cuckold because I actually enjoyed seeing him around my wife, sometimes ignoring me and focusing on her. I didn't blame him, my wife is a petite blonde, pretty and a great personality. But she is a bit naïve and didn't really notice our friend's behavior being anything but "friendly"

So over a few months it became more obvious to me that he was falling for my wife. I admit I actually encouraged it. I would suggest to her that she meet him alone for lunch, that he needed female companionship since he lived alone. I also gave him obvious signals that I was ok with him being with my wife. He began texting, calling her every day, and she responded in kind.

Finally one day about 2 months ago they were our together on a lunch date, and he admitted to her that he was in love with her. My wife was surprised and didn't see it coming. Kind of shook her up for a few days, but I kept reassuring her that I was ok and our friend needed the emotional support from her, so she has continued to see him.

So far it has not turned sexual between them but I feel it is getting very close to that point. I know he would in a minute if my wife and I offered to let him. I have fantasized about this kind of poly relationship with another man for a long time, now it looks like it might happen. I actually enjoy seeing him interact with my wife and can tell he actually does love her emotionally. I've thought of ways to push my wife into being with him in bed, taking the relationship with him to the next level, but I don't want to push her too far too quickly, but I'm confident that it will happen at some point.

I posted this here mainly to get some feedback. As I said I'm fairly new to this lifestyle but I love the intensity of it. I truly have never been upset to know that another man is actually in love with my wife. In fact it's a huge turn on for me to share my wife with him so intimately.

Thanks for any feedback!

Mark

[nluvlorn]

Welcome to the forum nluvlorn.

Thanks

[Pistos]

Hi guys..I have posted some pictures of Juli in the Hotties Forum. Let me know what you think of her.

Mark

[maxbud]

She totally got that my need was less to enjoy cock than to display submission - both to her and to Steve. She loved it all but it would not have been possible if our relationship was not already solid.

I can appreciate your insight because I think it is how I feel too. While I do enjoy physically how another man's cock feels, it's more than that which gives me pleasure from an Alpha / beta relationship with a man. Once I realized my optimum role when I am in a sexual setting with another male is to be submissive to Him, I enjoyed the experiences much more than when I felt that I had to "perform" on an equal level. And yes, with Mike letting me watch as he has sex with Juli, he must understand that I am naturally beta. I think it probably takes a beta personality to do more than "share" our wife (I mean such as in a swinging situation where the husband gets to enjoy the other man's wife in a swap). To literally "give" our wife to another man with no expectation of any return, takes a beta / cuckold to not only do it, but to enjoy it.

Mark

Thanks for your comments, Mark.

I recall you commenting on Mike's size and ability to achieve and sustain a firm erection the first time he was with Juli with you present. I assure you that from my experience with Jim mounting my wife to witnessing Steve servicing several of my women, that both men were charged by asserting their sexual alpha dominance in my presence and that as much as enjoying sex with my woman fueled their erect power. It strikes me that while Brian had perhaps deeper needs, Mike is quite content to service your wife and clearly establish who was the beta and who as the alpha male. I had another MMF experience with a man who could not perform as expected with me present as doubtless he was not confident in his sexuality. He was fairly average and had I not been present, I'm sure he would have done fine, but I have to think that his performance issues resulted from his lack of alpha confidence in his endowment and his skill in bed.

I did enjoy reclaiming my ladies afterwards but always in private after the 'bull' left. Frankly I was not able to achieve an erection with them present; experiencing a natural sense of beta inadequacy and perhaps not wishing to be humiliated. There was never a question as to who was the alpha male; the man who always went first and marked the woman in such a territorial way. To use an Olympic analogy, they got the gold, while I washed out in the preliminaries. My reward always was to taste and on occasion to enter my partner after she had been filled with another man's sperm. It's more than just the silken, physical sensation on your cock. As you alluded to, it's knowing that it's another man's liquid essence inside of your wife easing your way.

I noticed that you refer quite frequently to the presence of Brian and Mike's semen/sperm inside of Juli each time you reclaimed her. I get that. In a totally primal sense it is their seed, offered so deeply and in such abundance, that provides them with a higher chance for sexual success. It mattered not to me that both my wife and Sandy were on birth control. The deal was that another man, superior to me sexually, had made his primal claim on my woman well before I did and that their pussy teemed with sperm which could not be removed and which was delivered with my consent. That's some pretty heavy stuff, Mark. If as I guess that simple truth is fundamental to your beta submission, Juli will certainly understand and accept. But it has to be verbalized, in my opinion. I always regret I did not take that simple step with Jim and my wife. All I have left is my memories and a quite old photo of Jim and my wife naked together in bed. What I wouldn't have given to fluff that meaty cock and guide it into my wife. Ah well.

I envy you with the opportunity you now have to experience a full measure of submission with Juli and Mike. Hope you make it happen, my friend!

Sirenseeker,...
Been a fan of yours since you used to post on Literotica
Stories like Marking My Women,... and Two Loves Three lovers.. etc... are hotter that fire.

Was wondering if you have had any recent stories or updates,... particularly the studs having sex with several of your women ,.. like teh one who serially slept with your different women, and you sucked him off while he told you the stories. .(Any fmf trheesomes between the stud and your woman and another woman? ) any sub-bi stuff you have done like cleaning his dick with a blowjob, after he crreamies your woman,.. in front of her...?

[sirenseeker]

Thanks for the nice comments. No recent updates.

[Sexilexi]

Did she go to Cali with him?

[co-husband]

Did she go to Cali with him?

Hi Lexi...yes it turned out that her schedule caused a day's delay but she did fly out to SFO the day after he arrived there, and she was with him for 2 nights over that weekend before flying back home. They did everything a husband and wife do together (including the obvious bedroom activities and sleeping together through the night). By "husband and wife" I mean dinner out together as a couple. I know with Brian being single that he really enjoys the opportunities to be seen with Juli in public as others will assume she is his wife. And I know Juli truly enjoys giving him that thrill in a situation where they travel together.

Mark

[shall54]

I love this post! I can just imagine Brian's feelings being with Juli during the two days!! I know Juli is reluctant to share much of the 'bedroom activities', but if she did share with you some, including how she felt and whay Brian did that she liked, that would be great for us.

Hope you to are well and don't mind being quarantined together during the COVID-19 crisis.

Take care and thank you for sharing - Steve

[co-husband]

I love this post! I can just imagine Brian's feelings being with Juli during the two days!! I know Juli is reluctant to share much of the 'bedroom activities', but if she did share with you some, including how she felt and whay Brian did that she liked, that would be great for us.

Hope you to are well and don't mind being quarantined together during the COVID-19 crisis.

Take care and thank you for sharing - Steve

Thank you Steve....
Juli and Brian have now been a couple for 4 years, so their relationship has naturally grown deeper... and while Juli and I do not always discuss every detail of what they do in the bedroom together (for me as a husband it has always been more arousing to let Brian have a private relationship with my wife, so I respect their privacy as I would any other "married" couple".)
With that said...I do know what they enjoy in the bedroom and can tell you that oral sex is a major part of their foreplay. They enjoy various positions and typically finish in the missionary position because Juli considers that the most intimate...(same in our own marriage bed together). I also know that they enjoy showering together (I've seen Brian's master bedroom..he has a really nice walk-in shower so some of their intimate activity takes place there. Even if it's just showering together before or after sex in his bed).

So while Juli and I do not necessarily talk about their sex life in great detail every time, I do know enough to understand what Brian enjoys with her, and can share this information here in the forum.

Mark

[shall54]

Thank you Mark!

[Sexilexi]

Awww I’m so happy they were able to pull that off. That is so fun and exciting!!! And I love your attitude here.

Happy all went well.

[nevertoolate]

I love this post! I can just imagine Brian's feelings being with Juli during the two days!! I know Juli is reluctant to share much of the 'bedroom activities', but if she did share with you some, including how she felt and whay Brian did that she liked, that would be great for us.

Hope you to are well and don't mind being quarantined together during the COVID-19 crisis.

Take care and thank you for sharing - Steve

Thank you Steve....
Juli and Brian have now been a couple for 4 years, so their relationship has naturally grown deeper... and while Juli and I do not always discuss every detail of what they do in the bedroom together (for me as a husband it has always been more arousing to let Brian have a private relationship with my wife, so I respect their privacy as I would any other "married" couple".)
With that said...I do know what they enjoy in the bedroom and can tell you that oral sex is a major part of their foreplay. They enjoy various positions and typically finish in the missionary position because Juli considers that the most intimate...(same in our own marriage bed together). I also know that they enjoy showering together (I've seen Brian's master bedroom..he has a really nice walk-in shower so some of their intimate activity takes place there. Even if it's just showering together before or after sex in his bed).

So while Juli and I do not necessarily talk about their sex life in great detail every time, I do know enough to understand what Brian enjoys with her, and can share this information here in the forum.

Mark

Heartwarming for her to be able to take a marriage vacation. An important part of any vacation is coming home refreshed and the renewal remains after returning home . My wife's main lover was an ex. They were able to meet up away from our home. As one person here observed, it was important to my wife to feel loved by another man. This was her main motivation. All the sweaty stories of sex, or romantic gestures are frosting on the cake. Frosting was sweet, a mixture of love and lust. Really happy for your continued pleasures and fulfillment.

[co-husband]

I love this post! I can just imagine Brian's feelings being with Juli during the two days!! I know Juli is reluctant to share much of the 'bedroom activities', but if she did share with you some, including how she felt and whay Brian did that she liked, that would be great for us.

Hope you to are well and don't mind being quarantined together during the COVID-19 crisis.

Take care and thank you for sharing - Steve

Thank you Steve....
Juli and Brian have now been a couple for 4 years, so their relationship has naturally grown deeper... and while Juli and I do not always discuss every detail of what they do in the bedroom together (for me as a husband it has always been more arousing to let Brian have a private relationship with my wife, so I respect their privacy as I would any other "married" couple".)
With that said...I do know what they enjoy in the bedroom and can tell you that oral sex is a major part of their foreplay. They enjoy various positions and typically finish in the missionary position because Juli considers that the most intimate...(same in our own marriage bed together). I also know that they enjoy showering together (I've seen Brian's master bedroom..he has a really nice walk-in shower so some of their intimate activity takes place there. Even if it's just showering together before or after sex in his bed).

So while Juli and I do not necessarily talk about their sex life in great detail every time, I do know enough to understand what Brian enjoys with her, and can share this information here in the forum.

Mark

Heartwarming for her to be able to take a marriage vacation. An important part of any vacation is coming home refreshed and the renewal remains after returning home . My wife's main lover was an ex. They were able to meet up away from our home. As one person here observed, it was important to my wife to feel loved by another man. This was her main motivation. All the sweaty stories of sex, or romantic gestures are frosting on the cake. Frosting was sweet, a mixture of love and lust. Really happy for your continued pleasures and fulfillment.

Thank you...and you make a very good point about this lifestyle that I think sometimes gets lost in the obvious sexual aspect of wife sharing. That is the emotional bonding that takes place not only between the wife and her lover, but in a way between the husband and his wife's lover too. Maybe not a sexual attraction between the men, although that does happen at least to some extent (maybe it's mutual admiration...the lover admiring the husband for getting such a beautiful woman to marry him, and the husband admiring the lover's ability to keep the wife satisfied in bed).

But your point that it's important for the wife to feel loved by two men....I totally agree. I think the longer a poly relationship goes on, the deeper the love grows between all involved. After 4 years, Juli can now openly admit that she loves Brian. I know Brian loves her too and he shows it in his actions in and out of the bedroom. And I hope what I'm about to say makes sense, but I too love Brian as a special friend. One who shares intimacy as I do with my wife.

Also with time it not only becomes easier but natural as a husband to want my wife to enjoy both a sexual and an emotional relationship with her lover. For Juli and Brian to have time traveling alone as a couple feels right and very natural. I have no hesitation to feel happy for their time as "husband and wife" when they travel together. I expect these trips will happen more often...once the rest of the world gets back to normal :-)

Mark

[D+D]

Wonderful update...

[mundyman]

What a great positive update on a day that is quite gloomy around here.
Thank you for taking the time and effort to share.

[Sexilexi]

I enjoy your outlook on sharing your wife. A lot.

[co-husband]

I enjoy your outlook on sharing your wife. A lot.

Thank you Lexi...It's honestly been a very wonderful and positive experience for all 3 of us.

I have learned much about this lifestyle over the last 4 years. It takes patience to allow the emotional bonding to take place naturally, not only between the wife and her lover, but between the men too. Thankfully Brian and I have allowed ourselves time to not only find our respective roles in a poly relationship, but more importantly to enjoy our roles and to willingly submit ourselves to certain boundaries.

I know Brian enjoys and cherishes his deepened emotional and sexual relationship with Juli, and I now more than ever appreciate the deep love of my wife as a husband, which only a long-term marriage can bring. Brian has always respected our marriage and has never been a threat to it. And I am very content to not interfere in his private time with my wife. I have not requested any boundaries to be set as to what they do as a couple, so they have complete freedom as if they were husband and wife.

My relationship with Brian, while not overtly sexual between us...is still a unique relationship, like I have had with no other man. He and I have not had physical contact with each other directly, but because he and I each have our separate sexual relationships with the same woman....Juli has become the conduit for a very unique type of male bond that is very difficult for me to explain with words. But that unique bond feels evident when Brian and I are together.

Mark

[Long Lurker 34]

Covid aside. I understand Juli has had to curtail things with Brian as your daughter has returned home.

With the state of the world (Covid) being what it is, and when things returns to whatever normal will be,your daughter being that young person, who generally are more open minded than we might think. Is your daughter's reaction possibly to be closed minded or more accepting of her Mother's relationship with Brian? Factoring in of course that you are aware and okay with it too.

[co-husband]

Covid aside. I understand Juli has had to curtail things with Brian as your daughter has returned home.

With the state of the world (Covid) being what it is, and when things returns to whatever normal will be,your daughter being that young person, who generally are more open minded than we might think. Is your daughter's reaction possibly to be closed minded or more accepting of her Mother's relationship with Brian? Factoring in of course that you are aware and okay with it too.

Hi Long Lurker....You may have me mistaken for someone else. Juli and I do not have a daughter (we have 2 sons which are grown)....so none of our children live with us but are in other states. None of our family knows about our poly relationship with Brian.

And you're right about the impact of Corvid on the frequency of the meetings between Brian and Juli...but we expect the weekly meetings to start again very soon. Juli and I are following the directive to stay home and so in Brian, so he and Juli do communicate which they did just yesterday. So I doubt this self-imposed celibacy will last very long.

Mark

[Sexilexi]

My relationship with Brian, while not overtly sexual between us...is still a unique relationship, like I have had with no other man.

This is so special and unique is the perfect word to explain. Being able to have my husband have this unique connection with a lover of mine would be so fulfilling.

......Juli has become the conduit for a very unique type of male bond that is very difficult for me to explain with words. But that unique bond feels evident when Brian and I are together.

It’s so exhilarating that we as humans are capable of experiencing feelings and emotions that we cannot describe. We can’t describe them because 1) they are so unique and fine tuned to the individual’s relationships. 2) it’s so out of the norm these days that we have maybe almost lost the human’s natural ability to love (or whatever we want to call it) more than one at a time. I don’t make firm statements just “maybes”.

[co-husband]

My relationship with Brian, while not overtly sexual between us...is still a unique relationship, like I have had with no other man.

This is so special and unique is the perfect word to explain. Being able to have my husband have this unique connection with a lover of mine would be so fulfilling.

......Juli has become the conduit for a very unique type of male bond that is very difficult for me to explain with words. But that unique bond feels evident when Brian and I are together.

It’s so exhilarating that we as humans are capable of experiencing feelings and emotions that we cannot describe. We can’t describe them because 1) they are so unique and fine tuned to the individual’s relationships. 2) it’s so out of the norm these days that we have maybe almost lost the human’s natural ability to love (or whatever we want to call it) more than one at a time. I don’t make firm statements just “maybes”.

Lexi you are exactly right and you worded it perfectly.
After being in this poly relationship for four years now, I have come to understand that the dynamics between the three of us are much deeper than the sex that Brian and Juli enjoy with each other. It truly is an emotional bond that takes time to develop and deepen. Again, not just between them, but between all 3 of us. I think there was a point where Brian began to understand that as well, and even Juli was unable for a long time, to allow herself to admit that she indeed can love two men at the same time. Only in the past year has she been more vocal and open about her love for the two men in her life. So it all takes time and much patience. I have a feeling that most "throuples" do not give the relationship sufficient time to deepen naturally.

Also...in a forum like this, it is easy to emphasize the sexual over the emotional. But as a husband, I have found that seeing my wife bond emotionally with her lover is more sexually arousing to me as if I were to watch them in bed together. At least the arousal I experience from their relationship lasts much longer than the hour or two that they are in bed together.
Hope this makes sense. Again...it's hard sometimes to find adequate words to say what I am feeling.

Mark

[Sexilexi]

I have found that seeing my wife bond emotionally with her lover is more sexually arousing to me as if I were to watch them in bed together. At least the arousal I experience from their relationship lasts much longer than the hour or two that they are in bed together.

Mark

Mark, I think typing out your explanations is good for you. I think you’re explaining things perfectly to those who want to relate. And this is my favorite part of your explanations, that your arousal comes from their relationship/her emotional bond which indeed lasts way longer than the actual sex. This statement is so special. I’m happy things are working out for yall. Happy to see what continues to unfold for you three.

[Sexilexi]

I guess I do have a question:

Humans naturally will bicker and argue and get in “fights”. Have you three ever gotten in a “fight” or have they? I know everyone handles “fights” differently, but if y’all have, how did you handle it all? Thanks!!