bradisalpha wrote:Interesting poll !!
Hotwifing gives a woman the feelings of being wanted and the opportunity to submit to her deep down sexual desires. It is very exciting to her to flirt, date and play like a “teenager” again. She will feel more confident and a glow will surround her that is very obvious to Dominant males. Her dress and demeanor will get her the attention that she will begin to crave.
Cuckolding gives a man the feelings of submitting to his wife’s sexual desires by giving her the freedom to explore outside of their marriage. It excites him tremendously to see or imagine a man fucking his wife and satisfying her deep secret sexual urges that she normally would not unleash in her marriage. This creates a certain amount of humiliation, embarrassment and angst along with his heightened sexual arousal and brings him to submitting in various ways to this lifestyle. This can be occasional or very frequent and can easily become a constant craving for more.
So.. this can be a small part of a relationship or very easily become a major part of the relationship as you can see by the poll, but it is very important that the husband and wife maintain the same level of desires or conflicts arise. This is difficult because sexual arousal and desires can escalate quickly and change “on the run”. Some couples make rules to control this but that only works occasionally because one or the other will break the rules and that makes matters worse. So do your best as you enter this world to make sure you are both on the same page as you take this journey. As a bf I have enjoyed couples on all different levels and they all are exciting as long as they are on the same page.
Geez.. now I am giving a lecture.. sorry.
Brad
I was just going to say: either it is time for you to write the book, or gain the status of Advisor to the Board! You brought up 2 points that I consider important:
1. "The feeling of being wanted"
After I answer "No" in reply to "Do I look fat darling?", my wife counters: "You find me beautiful and sexy because you love me. I want the truth!" Same exchange after we have fucked and she asks me if I enjoyed it. So indeed, a 2nd or 3rd opinion is reassuring and elevating to her. Especially when her current lover has had numerous dames in his life. Now, if we husbands play the game right, we are contributing toward her feeling of elation, self esteem and reassurance. If I corrupt the objective, by conditioning my desire for her as a function of her hotwifing, then I have effectively negated my pure want for her as a woman. This is dangerous because then it is the lover who wants her purely for whom she is..... Difficult scenario for those of us who get a rise out of asking her about the other cock while mine is inside...
2. "Maintain same level of desire" While there are intimate moments whereby she does not want to talk about her lovers, there are others when she starts the conversation herself. Naturally I always get the signals mixed up! When I want to know about her most recent encounter, she wants monogamous sex. When I have programmed myself for monogamous sex (I still fantasize she is a slut), she is ready to discuss the girth and thru-put of other engines...
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