That's a good question, and I know why. Most people don't fully understand what's is really happening within their minds and bodies when they're fucking.yielding william wrote: ↑Thu May 21, 2020 1:11 pmDes - I know you don’t like to get off topic here but you have a good understanding about how to handle this lifestyle. Why do you think it doesn’t go well for some others who write they have had sad outcomes?
I could have mentioned that here long ago, but it takes more time than most care to read. It’s an old story about human nature, and it didn’t begin with hotwiving, cuckolding or swinging. In the Old West, some Native American tribes captured White women. When their families or communities attempted to rescue them, many did not want to leave the tribe or the Native American men they then lived with. There are peripheral reasons for that, but the principal cause is the biological response that comes about in sexual activity.
I’ll use our hotwife marriage as an example. My wife and I knew how that comes about between sexual partners before we married. The physical and mental attachment she has since experienced with other men isn’t a problem for us; but without that understanding, this lifestyle can dissolve any marriage unless the two have sufficient communication and commitment.
More often than not, an emotional bond develops between my wife and guys she has been fucking for a while. As with almost all women, that really begins the first time she climaxes at the moment a guy’s cock is inside her. The feeling deepens each time they fuck. As she experiences that orgasm, the powerful chemical compound oxytocin floods through her brain. This tremendously forceful hormone is like a powerful glue that bonds her to him.
The powerful effect of that biochemical reaction may be what many wannabe cuckolds don’t realize when they discover their wives and bulls are becoming ever closer. As the husband, you cannot break that bond between your wife and the other man; only one or both of them can do that through behaviors like abuse, betrayal, having similarly successful sex with someone else, or heated arguments. That has happened a second time not long ago between my wife and a then, relatively new fuckbuddy; he became upset over my wife being a licensed carrier of a firearm, and she broke off the relationship after his hissy-fit over that. She quickly lost interest.
I don’t know how often I have written here hotwife and cuckold relationships aren’t for everyone. Not all couples have the necessary communication, lack of jealousy or other attitudes that hold a marriage together through the unavoidable storms that ultimately come about within almost all marriages.
Oxytocin isn’t necessarily the only reason. Other examples that enhance that bond exist within the relationship between my wife and her boss. Most men understand that women are attracted a man’s social position, power, superior intellect, exceptional confidence or wealth. To many women, those features are often more important than physical attributes (think, beautiful women who marry millionaires in their 80s). But when all are interwoven in the relationship, trouble can follow – unless the woman understands the reasons for those feelings and is in an otherwise happy marriage.
We believe it's helpful to know all that before taking the plunge into this lifestyle. If any have desires like mine and my wife’s, be sure you and your spouse understand the risks as well as the rewards - and all the qualities needed to keep the three-way relationships in check. I’m pretty sure many don’t.
~ Des
