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[LuvMyFitWife]

The answer to this question likely varies from woman to woman, but here goes.

Are women who get into the lifestyle more likely to have had an adventurous sex life as younger women ? The reason I ask is my gorgeous wife has only ever had sex with me and I was wondering if that was an indicator that she would be much less likely to ever be open to becoming a hotwife.

[2inUPMichigan]

First off I made the MFM threesome much more interesting when I introduce her that a Sensual Cuckold Threesome is so much better & it would start with newguy & I giving SexyWife a Sensual massage mentioning would get her comfortable with the new guy and once relax I would give SexyWife a nice sensual kiss and I be the 1st one to step aside giving SexyWife & New guy 1on1 (12-15mins) then I join making it a 3some then new guy steps aside and giving me 1on1 (10mins). Then joins in making it a 3some.. after awhile we take a break for SexyWife needs 7-10 mins then last round giving New guy (25-30 min's) 1on1 with SexyWife then he exits out to leave me and SexyWife to finish the night.
SexyWife implemented some rules I agreed
This is at the beginning
1. New guy only doggie style
2. No Anal
3 No kissing
4. Must wear condom
5. Caucasian Str. Male
6. Circumcised
7. For Size between 5"-7" & Girth Average or Kinda
Thick or Thick not too thick.

After a year later she change it up and she's more lenient.
#1 Like New guy able to any position, However our favorite positions off limits missionary & wheelbarrow or anytime where he is on top of her and she is on bottom,
Face to Face. Made it a point to make sure new guy does doggy style & Spooning.

#3 Also we agreed that light kisses & short kisses are okay it shows appreciation.
#7. SexyWife when ask what if new is almost 5" like 4¾" or over 7" like 7¼".....,. SexyWife said, No she doesn't want it to be Small or Kinda Small bad experience & prefers it to be over 5" like 5¼-5½"
Also if he is over 7" like 7¼" or 7½" if the guy was nice & cool & respectful she be okay with that as long as it's 7½ or under.
We have joined a adult xxx dating site she likes it especially being called SexyWife. I told her if she has a hard time picking between 2 guys I would be okay with doing a 3some with both at different times because one of the guys could be disappointment and I go as far as her up to 3 guys if one was disappointing.

Ok Now that you have heard our situation. What do you think about SexyWife's guidelines and restrictions at first? And becoming more lenient later allowing a bit more?
What is your perspective is there a good chance she might want to do this more or one time or ???

I think it is pretty common to start out with a stricter set of guidelines and then loosen them up a bit as you gain more experience. I personally am very picky but realize that finding decent quality men isn't all that easy.

The list you detail refers to only the physical aspects - kind of like ordering off a menu. Have the two of you spoken about actually interacting with the other man and what that would look like?

How is she going to determine if a man is a good fit for her? (And a MFM) If he agrees to her list? A lot of men might do that but they could be the biggest most disrespectful jerks around - see where I am going with this.

Absolutely the two of you should have an idea of what is off limits and discuss that with any potential men. Any man that does not respect those limits is not a good match - very simple. But beyond that compatibility is more than just a list of physical traits.

How often she does it depends on how that first experience goes and the reactions of both of you after the fact.

[2inUPMichigan]

The answer to this question likely varies from woman to woman, but here goes.

Are women who get into the lifestyle more likely to have had an adventurous sex life as younger women ? The reason I ask is my gorgeous wife has only ever had sex with me and I was wondering if that was an indicator that she would be much less likely to ever be open to becoming a hotwife.

You are right

We have a mixture of backgrounds here, both women with limited experience prior to marriage and women with more extensive experience prior to marriage.

So.....nope! You wife is not more or less likely to be a hotwife based on her sexual past.
There have been a few stories that I remember reading about hotwives who were virgins when they got married.

[LuvMyFitWife]

A question for VHWs: Do you do over-nighters away from home and come home the next day some time? What state is your husband in?

We’re just at the talking phase but I’ve told my wife she has my permission to stay away overnight, provided of course that we both know and trust the bull.

[2inUPMichigan]

A question for VHWs: Do you do over-nighters away from home and come home the next day some time? What state is your husband in?

We’re just at the talking phase but I’ve told my wife she has my permission to stay away overnight, provided of course that we both know and trust the bull.

I never stay overnight, that is something we both wanted and agreed on in the beginning. I sleep with my husband only, not other men.

[Farmgirl]

A question for VHWs: Do you do over-nighters away from home and come home the next day some time? What state is your husband in?

We’re just at the talking phase but I’ve told my wife she has my permission to stay away overnight, provided of course that we both know and trust the bull.

I too, don't stay overnight. Some successful couples do it and some don't. It has to be what works for you two.

[AvgCplNxtDr50]

Dear any hot wife who would like to answer: Do you jerk off your husband right before your date so he doesn't "annoy" or distract you while you are fucking your bull? Thank you in advance for your answer.

[Hisnherfun]

Dear any hot wife who would like to answer: Do you jerk off your husband right before your date so he doesn't "annoy" or distract you while you are fucking your bull? Thank you in advance for your answer.

I prefer to tease my husband before I play with others. I ask him how I look in my lingerie and slutty outfit, tell him what I plan or hope to do with my friend as I fondle his cock. I make sure to get on my knees and take him in my mouth for a bit but stop before he cums. Then go off and play.

[AvgCplNxtDr50]

Thanks for the response.

[bltn1966]

My HW usually plays alone. Sometimes she will record herself, with her lover, for my pleasure. I noticed, after all these years, she has a hard time telling me if the guy was fucking awesome in bed. She easily tell me if the guy was so-so or fucking terrible. Oh She can’t wait to vent about the fucking terrible guys. But she’s damn near silent about the guy that made her hoarse from screaming so much.

I can tell if she had a good time as soon as she come home. She will gladly share her video if the guy was good or bad in bed. When she come home and she’s reluctant to talk about it or let me look at the video. That means her world got rocked. The first time it happen was hot. When I asked how was her night she said the guy was OK. On a scale of 1-10 she said he was a 8. She gave me her video and quickly went to take a shower. I watched the video and saw she had a very passionate and orgasmic sex with her new lover. She seemed very relieved when I told her I was ok with it. More than that it fulfilled my fantasy. That should have let her know that it didn’t hurt my feelings. Over 10 years later she’s still doing the same thing. I’ve assured her, over and over, that I want her to have a great time. I was wondering if any of you have a hard time informing your husband that one of your lovers is fucking awesome or fucking terrible? And why is it so hard to say that you had great sex with another man?

[hwsassysouth]

A question for VHWs: Do you do over-nighters away from home and come home the next day some time? What state is your husband in?

We’re just at the talking phase but I’ve told my wife she has my permission to stay away overnight, provided of course that we both know and trust the bull.

I never stay overnight. Hard line rule.

[hwsassysouth]

My HW usually plays alone. Sometimes she will record herself, with her lover, for my pleasure. I noticed, after all these years, she has a hard time telling me if the guy was fucking awesome in bed. She easily tell me if the guy was so-so or fucking terrible. Oh She can’t wait to vent about the fucking terrible guys. But she’s damn near silent about the guy that made her hoarse from screaming so much.

I can tell if she had a good time as soon as she come home. She will gladly share her video if the guy was good or bad in bed. When she come home and she’s reluctant to talk about it or let me look at the video. That means her world got rocked. The first time it happen was hot. When I asked how was her night she said the guy was OK. On a scale of 1-10 she said he was a 8. She gave me her video and quickly went to take a shower. I watched the video and saw she had a very passionate and orgasmic sex with her new lover. She seemed very relieved when I told her I was ok with it. More than that it fulfilled my fantasy. That should have let her know that it didn’t hurt my feelings. Over 10 years later she’s still doing the same thing. I’ve assured her, over and over, that I want her to have a great time. I was wondering if any of you have a hard time informing your husband that one of your lovers is fucking awesome or fucking terrible? And why is it so hard to say that you had great sex with another man?

It’s hard for me to tell my hubby if it was good but not difficult if it was just ok.

[feetuji]

Quick question for hotwives: do you feel excited seeing a guy kissing - mouth to mouth - your husband? Or some handsome guy with other handsome guy that are not your husband?

Explanation for my question: altought I would love to try bissexual stuff (play with a dick, etc), kissing men and stuff like that is really not exciting. Nevertheless, when searching for a erotic video to see with my wife (to see if she gets excited with 2 guys fucking one girl), the more erotic videos I found have kissing scenes between guys. So, I got curious about what other girls think about romantic stuff between guys.

Sorry for my english.

[adamgunnauthor]

It’s hard for me to tell my hubby if it was good but not difficult if it was just ok.

HWSassySouth, I'm left wondering why it's hard for you to tell your husband that the sex was stupendous. Care to expand?

[hwsassysouth]

It’s hard for me to tell my hubby if it was good but not difficult if it was just ok.

HWSassySouth, I'm left wondering why it's hard for you to tell your husband that the sex was stupendous. Care to expand?

That is a really good question… I’m not sure I can explain. I **think** it has a lot to do with not wanting to make him feel inferior. It makes me feel like I should apologize to him for having really good sex with somebody else whereas when it’s mediocre I don’t feel badly about it. I know that’s not gonna make any sense to you but I’m just telling you from my perspective.

[adamgunnauthor]

Thanks, HWSassySouth, made perfect sense. It seems you are actually trying to respect your husband.

[Dzs1653]

It’s hard for me to tell my hubby if it was good but not difficult if it was just ok.

HWSassySouth, I'm left wondering why it's hard for you to tell your husband that the sex was stupendous. Care to expand?

That is a really good question… I’m not sure I can explain. I **think** it has a lot to do with not wanting to make him feel inferior. It makes me feel like I should apologize to him for having really good sex with somebody else whereas when it’s mediocre I don’t feel badly about it. I know that’s not gonna make any sense to you but I’m just telling you from my perspective.

I'd like to ask the same question a little differently. I'm still at the fantasy stage (not going to push her), but I've always felt strongly, and told her, that I would want it to be amazing and wonderful for her, and if I met the guy I would try to convey that to him. As with 2inUPMichigan's husband, this involves ED -- I am NOT looking for humiliation or anything remotely like that. So my question is, are there any VHWs here who like to let their husbands know when it IS amazing, or whose husbands, like me, want it to be?

[feetuji]

Quick question for hotwives: do you feel excited seeing a guy kissing - mouth to mouth - your husband? Or some handsome guy with other handsome guy that are not your husband?

Explanation for my question: altought I would love to try bissexual stuff (play with a dick, etc), kissing men and stuff like that is really not exciting. Nevertheless, when searching for a erotic video to see with my wife (to see if she gets excited with 2 guys fucking one girl), the more erotic videos I found have kissing scenes between guys. So, I got curious about what other girls think about romantic stuff between guys.

Sorry for my english.

Regarding my question...anyone?
Thanks

[hwsassysouth]

Thanks, HWSassySouth, made perfect sense. It seems you are actually trying to respect your husband.

Exactly!! Thank you For understanding what I was trying to say!

[InkAddict718]

In regards to bulls, what’s the youngest you would go?

[hwsassysouth]

Quick question for hotwives: do you feel excited seeing a guy kissing - mouth to mouth - your husband? Or some handsome guy with other handsome guy that are not your husband?

Explanation for my question: altought I would love to try bissexual stuff (play with a dick, etc), kissing men and stuff like that is really not exciting. Nevertheless, when searching for a erotic video to see with my wife (to see if she gets excited with 2 guys fucking one girl), the more erotic videos I found have kissing scenes between guys. So, I got curious about what other girls think about romantic stuff between guys.

Sorry for my english.

Regarding my question...anyone?
Thanks

I can’t speak for anyone but myself.... for me, I like gay porn BUT I think it would feel weird to see my *husband* kissing another guy just because he’s such an Alpha Male. He’s a “manly man” and I think it would be odd to see him being tender with another man. Two men kissing who aren’t my husband is hot, though.

[hwsassysouth]

In regards to bulls, what’s the youngest you would go?

I’m asking myself that exact question lately.

[feetuji]

hwsassy, thanks for your answer

[Farmgirl]

Quick question for hotwives: do you feel excited seeing a guy kissing - mouth to mouth - your husband? Or some handsome guy with other handsome guy that are not your husband?

Explanation for my question: altought I would love to try bissexual stuff (play with a dick, etc), kissing men and stuff like that is really not exciting. Nevertheless, when searching for a erotic video to see with my wife (to see if she gets excited with 2 guys fucking one girl), the more erotic videos I found have kissing scenes between guys. So, I got curious about what other girls think about romantic stuff between guys.

Sorry for my english.

Regarding my question...anyone?
Thanks

Rather than exciting me, I find it an utter turnoff.

[Farmgirl]

In regards to bulls, what’s the youngest you would go?

I'm close to the youngest now , he's 23. I'm 63. But, he's no bull. Bulls breed cows .