"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[armyguyot1]

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[SailorGuy]

My observations are over some years, and whether they realize it or not, women act differently around anything "NEW." A wedding, a party, a high school or college reunion, a group picnic, or just a get-together with several other couples. That's why I believe many wives would be "re-awakened" by going on dates with new guys. It may not be the answer for everyone, but from the many articles and posts I've read over some years, a lot of husbands are happy their wives started having a FWB. If the husbands say their wives are much happier, their marital sex is much hotter & more frequent, and everyday life is better with their wives - there must be something to the wives needing some "NEW."

Early-kink makes some great points. We only have to look at male and female behaviour for our answers. Yes, women are excited by newness and variety and men are excited by competition. (These are both generalisations. There will always be exceptions of course, but you get the idea ).

In a swinging situation, women get their fix of newness and variety and men are able to compete for new and different women, but competing for the one most significant woman in the world has got to be way more intense. Looking at swinger polls I note that male swingers are often far more excited by the activities of their wives than by their own new conquests, thrilling though those conquests may be. Also, I note that many of the personal stories on sites such as 'Swingersboard' are actually hotwife stories.

Having experienced the HGF thing years ago with a then-girlfriend - I can say that I had no desire to chase other girls. But I sure got hyper-charged at her going on dates with other guys!! We were "steadies" for a while, and I think that connection we had super-charged the agony / jealousy / angst / lust and eroticism of her dating other guys. So I can relate to what 54321 is saying above. I truly believe there has to be a real connection between the married couple or long-term BF/GF for being a hotwife or a HGF to bring the real hyper-lust into that arrangement. No love /connection - not much hyper-lust.

I've watched women of various ages get all flirty when new guys are around. They do the "hair-flip" thing, bite their lips, put a finger in their mouths, lick their lips a lot, tilt their head in when talking to a guy, etc. They even walk differently - more straight up with chest out to accentuate their boobs, and a bit more sway in their tush's. I think the ladies just like being noticed, seeing if other guys are attracted to them, playing the flirt game, and feeling like they can reel in a new guy and "land him." They love being the center of attention. Watch the hackles of jealousy come up when one girl gets more attention than they get. I've even heard nasty comments directed at the one woman who's getting the bulk of the male attention. That tells you all you need to know about what the ladies REALLY like! They want the attention of "NEW" !! A new guy !! That doesn't make them bad, or whores, or sluts ……………. it just means they love male attention from NEW guys. They love to feel sexy, special, and desirable to someone other than their husband or long-term BF. To know they "still have it."

Gotta love our ladies …………………. sexual creatures that they are!!!

Yes - exactly this! It was indeed a revelation for me when my then-girlfriend in college playfully hinted at dating other guys and then actually slept with one. I thought I would be devastated by such an event and it would be the end of the world for me. And yet: when she told me it was as if a bolt of lightning crashed down upon us. We were suddenly kissing each other madly, passionately, and then ran off to her bedroom and went at each other like animals in heat.
As time went by she would occasionally turn me down in order to go out with another guy; this would both hurt my feelings AND arouse the fuck out of me - the latter emotion coming later on, usually at the time of the evening when she was in fact out on her "date" with whoever the hell it was. And then later that evening when I'd go to bed - alone - in my place I'd be thinking that my girlfriend - for she was still MY girlfriend, by mutual agreement - was very likely at that very moment making love with this other guy. It aroused the hell out of me and I happily and intensely rubbed my stiff cock to a great orgasm. And it mattered a lot that this wasn't just some girl I sort of knew but was in fact my steady girlfriend whom I adored. She had only said that because we were in college and still quite young we should "see" other people if we wanted, but at the same time be in our semi-commited relationship.
It was crazy; it was confusing; it was scary; it was wonderful. And even though that agreement meant I was also free to "see other people" I in fact had zero desire to do so.
So no surprise at all that years later married to another girl I proposed she sleep with another man! And, bless her, my wife fulfilled my wish after a few years of fantasizing about it. While I stay home and happily masturbate; no desire to see any other woman.
What can any of us here say? It is THE most intense erotic exciting thing ever to happen to us, so of course we want it!

[Des 31]

Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.

Although not all cucks are gay, I have learned that's a common opinion among guys without hotwives. But the desire among married men is common and, in my opinion, normal. Marital sex can become routine and some of us want to reignite the passion of engagement and the early days of marriage. I'm not gay but understand why those who are bisexual have their own reasons for sharing their wives.

~ Des

[SailorGuy]

Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.

Although not all cucks are gay, I have learned that's a common opinion among guys without hotwives. But the desire among married men is common and, in my opinion, normal. Marital sex can become routine and some of us want to reignite the passion of engagement and the early days of marriage. I'm not gay but understand why those who are bisexual have their own reasons for sharing their wives.

~ Des

All my life I have been a girl-crazy guy, never ever any attraction to men. Not an issue at all.
And yet I've had cuckold tendencies all my life as well ( now that I can look back and recognize them ).
My wife's "mystery lover" in our early hotwifing fantasies always had a big cock. And then when my wife actually hooked up with a neighbor of ours one of my first questions to her was about his cock: is he big?
Judging from this man's looks, his ways, his overall masculinity I presumed his cock matched all this - and I was right. And my slender wife loved it!
And little by little I found myself over the years they've been together ( 20 now ) getting more and more interested in my wife's lover's cock. I finally told her one night I'd love to be invited to their bed so I could suck his cock. There, I said it! And it was true. And it aroused both my wife and me. My cock got rock-hard; she rubbed my chest for a minute or so while I rubbed my cock and we both talked about the sudden new passion of my being with another man. And then - whoosh! Monster orgasm for me!
My wife and I are in a celibate cuckold relationship; if I am ever to have sex with another person again it will be with a man. That's the fantasy.
And yet I feel I can still say I am a girl-crazy guy and am not "gay". But that's just my opinion...

[early-kink]

My observations are over some years, and whether they realize it or not, women act differently around anything "NEW." A wedding, a party, a high school or college reunion, a group picnic, or just a get-together with several other couples. That's why I believe many wives would be "re-awakened" by going on dates with new guys. It may not be the answer for everyone, but from the many articles and posts I've read over some years, a lot of husbands are happy their wives started having a FWB. If the husbands say their wives are much happier, their marital sex is much hotter & more frequent, and everyday life is better with their wives - there must be something to the wives needing some "NEW."

Early-kink makes some great points. We only have to look at male and female behaviour for our answers. Yes, women are excited by newness and variety and men are excited by competition. (These are both generalisations. There will always be exceptions of course, but you get the idea ).

In a swinging situation, women get their fix of newness and variety and men are able to compete for new and different women, but competing for the one most significant woman in the world has got to be way more intense. Looking at swinger polls I note that male swingers are often far more excited by the activities of their wives than by their own new conquests, thrilling though those conquests may be. Also, I note that many of the personal stories on sites such as 'Swingersboard' are actually hotwife stories.

Having experienced the HGF thing years ago with a then-girlfriend - I can say that I had no desire to chase other girls. But I sure got hyper-charged at her going on dates with other guys!! We were "steadies" for a while, and I think that connection we had super-charged the agony / jealousy / angst / lust and eroticism of her dating other guys. So I can relate to what 54321 is saying above. I truly believe there has to be a real connection between the married couple or long-term BF/GF for being a hotwife or a HGF to bring the real hyper-lust into that arrangement. No love /connection - not much hyper-lust.

I've watched women of various ages get all flirty when new guys are around. They do the "hair-flip" thing, bite their lips, put a finger in their mouths, lick their lips a lot, tilt their head in when talking to a guy, etc. They even walk differently - more straight up with chest out to accentuate their boobs, and a bit more sway in their tush's. I think the ladies just like being noticed, seeing if other guys are attracted to them, playing the flirt game, and feeling like they can reel in a new guy and "land him." They love being the center of attention. Watch the hackles of jealousy come up when one girl gets more attention than they get. I've even heard nasty comments directed at the one woman who's getting the bulk of the male attention. That tells you all you need to know about what the ladies REALLY like! They want the attention of "NEW" !! A new guy !! That doesn't make them bad, or whores, or sluts ……………. it just means they love male attention from NEW guys. They love to feel sexy, special, and desirable to someone other than their husband or long-term BF. To know they "still have it."

Gotta love our ladies …………………. sexual creatures that they are!!!

Yes - exactly this! It was indeed a revelation for me when my then-girlfriend in college playfully hinted at dating other guys and then actually slept with one. I thought I would be devastated by such an event and it would be the end of the world for me. And yet: when she told me it was as if a bolt of lightning crashed down upon us. We were suddenly kissing each other madly, passionately, and then ran off to her bedroom and went at each other like animals in heat.
As time went by she would occasionally turn me down in order to go out with another guy; this would both hurt my feelings AND arouse the fuck out of me - the latter emotion coming later on, usually at the time of the evening when she was in fact out on her "date" with whoever the hell it was. And then later that evening when I'd go to bed - alone - in my place I'd be thinking that my girlfriend - for she was still MY girlfriend, by mutual agreement - was very likely at that very moment making love with this other guy. It aroused the hell out of me and I happily and intensely rubbed my stiff cock to a great orgasm. And it mattered a lot that this wasn't just some girl I sort of knew but was in fact my steady girlfriend whom I adored. She had only said that because we were in college and still quite young we should "see" other people if we wanted, but at the same time be in our semi-commited relationship.
It was crazy; it was confusing; it was scary; it was wonderful. And even though that agreement meant I was also free to "see other people" I in fact had zero desire to do so.
So no surprise at all that years later married to another girl I proposed she sleep with another man! And, bless her, my wife fulfilled my wish after a few years of fantasizing about it. While I stay home and happily masturbate; no desire to see any other woman.
What can any of us here say? It is THE most intense erotic exciting thing ever to happen to us, so of course we want it!

I'm 100% straight. I never wanted to date another girl at that time - just my "steady girlfriend", who was also a HGF !!! SHE was more than enough heat for me. It was the most erotic period of my life.

[wifeloverdave]

If you have ever enjoyed watching any porn, you would agree that it can be stimulating to watch people having sex. When one of those people is your wife, it is simply 1000 times more stimulating. My wife Carolyn and I have been happily married for over 30 years, and during that entire time I've been sharing her with other men, both friends and strangers, individually and in groups. We don't consider this a cuckold relationship, but rather a shared wife relationship. The difference between the two, is that unlike a cuckold relationship, Carolyn never has sex with another man unless I'm there to enjoy the show, and there is absolutely no humiliation involved. Another difference is that Carolyn and I have sex regularly, usually 2 or 3 times a day. The bottom line is that she is an exhibitionist with a massive sex drive, and I'm a voyeur who really gets off on watching the wife I love so much being pleasured.

[SailorGuy]

If you have ever enjoyed watching any porn, you would agree that it can be stimulating to watch people having sex. When one of those people is your wife, it is simply 1000 times more stimulating. My wife Carolyn and I have been happily married for over 30 years, and during that entire time I've been sharing her with other men, both friends and strangers, individually and in groups. We don't consider this a cuckold relationship, but rather a shared wife relationship. The difference between the two, is that unlike a cuckold relationship, Carolyn never has sex with another man unless I'm there to enjoy the show, and there is absolutely no humiliation involved. Another difference is that Carolyn and I have sex regularly, usually 2 or 3 times a day. The bottom line is that she is an exhibitionist with a massive sex drive, and I'm a voyeur who really gets off on watching the wife I love so much being pleasured.

Wow - over 30 years, just like my wife and I!
My wife had only the one lover - Tom - since around 2000, until she added John and his girlfriend Kate earlier this spring ( but they seem to have faded into the background these days, so it's Tom-only once more ). She is just not that sexually driven for more men in her life. And Tom - a real stud, and a man she actually loves - satisfies her completely. And ours IS a cuckold relationship: she is Tom's exclusive lover; she and I haven't been lovers for ten years. And I love it. It was exciting to share my fantasy with her initially; it was VERY exciting when she actually made the fantasy a reality and we continued being lovers; now it is breathtakingly exciting to be my wife's cuck and to live in a perpetual high. Why just the other day she was going off to the pool to meet Tom ( and later go his house for dinner and the rest of the night ) and she was wearing her signature tight-fitting one-piece suit that shows off every curve, every muscle in her toned body. Seeing her like this and knowing I'll never be allowed to even touch such a woman and also knowing that she will be giving herself to another man, a well-hung masculine stud of a man, later that night excited me so much that I actually came in my pants right then and there! And my wife saw the dark wet spot on the outside of my pants and just shook her head and smiled and headed out the door. Though my heart's in the right place I am a lousy lover. I'm barely 5" and I cum way too quickly to ever satisfy her. This was the case when we were lovers; I tried to make up for it by giving her tons and tons of passionate oral. She liked that alright, but she always wanted me to slide up from between her legs and plunge into her. THAT'S what she really wanted. And so what a nice coincidence that I came up with this fantasy, and that she eventually connected with Tom and he gave her what she'd been wanting. He is a solid 10" and can go almost forever.
I've never been allowed to be there with them when they made love, but a few years ago my wife did let me watch them secretly, hidden out on our deck in the dark while they made love in our softly-lit bedroom. All the stories she had previously told me paled by comparison to the real thing. My wife is slender, built like a ballerina, perfectly flat chest and all. Great curvy hips, long strong legs. To see my wife take this man's huge cock all the way into her deep cunt was just stunning. To see him be so physical with my sweet and gentle wife blew me away. To see them kiss so long and so fully was the icing on the cake: these two love each other; this wasn't just casual sex.
Even so my wife is committed to me and our marriage. Besides, Tom's divorce was nasty; he never wants to be married again. Though he loves my wife, and she him, our marriage is as strong as ever. And I am thrilled to be a cuck. I love everything about it; I love masturbating, especially if my wife agrees to be there next to me. I have no interest in sex with any other woman, only in living with my goddess wife. And it makes me very happy to see her so happy, so fulfilled in her life.

[BD8280]

If you have ever enjoyed watching any porn, you would agree that it can be stimulating to watch people having sex. When one of those people is your wife, it is simply 1000 times more stimulating. My wife Carolyn and I have been happily married for over 30 years, and during that entire time I've been sharing her with other men, both friends and strangers, individually and in groups. We don't consider this a cuckold relationship, but rather a shared wife relationship. The difference between the two, is that unlike a cuckold relationship, Carolyn never has sex with another man unless I'm there to enjoy the show, and there is absolutely no humiliation involved. Another difference is that Carolyn and I have sex regularly, usually 2 or 3 times a day. The bottom line is that she is an exhibitionist with a massive sex drive, and I'm a voyeur who really gets off on watching the wife I love so much being pleasured.

Wow - over 30 years, just like my wife and I!
My wife had only the one lover - Tom - since around 2000, until she added John and his girlfriend Kate earlier this spring ( but they seem to have faded into the background these days, so it's Tom-only once more ). She is just not that sexually driven for more men in her life. And Tom - a real stud, and a man she actually loves - satisfies her completely. And ours IS a cuckold relationship: she is Tom's exclusive lover; she and I haven't been lovers for ten years. And I love it. It was exciting to share my fantasy with her initially; it was VERY exciting when she actually made the fantasy a reality and we continued being lovers; now it is breathtakingly exciting to be my wife's cuck and to live in a perpetual high. Why just the other day she was going off to the pool to meet Tom ( and later go his house for dinner and the rest of the night ) and she was wearing her signature tight-fitting one-piece suit that shows off every curve, every muscle in her toned body. Seeing her like this and knowing I'll never be allowed to even touch such a woman and also knowing that she will be giving herself to another man, a well-hung masculine stud of a man, later that night excited me so much that I actually came in my pants right then and there! And my wife saw the dark wet spot on the outside of my pants and just shook her head and smiled and headed out the door. Though my heart's in the right place I am a lousy lover. I'm barely 5" and I cum way too quickly to ever satisfy her. This was the case when we were lovers; I tried to make up for it by giving her tons and tons of passionate oral. She liked that alright, but she always wanted me to slide up from between her legs and plunge into her. THAT'S what she really wanted. And so what a nice coincidence that I came up with this fantasy, and that she eventually connected with Tom and he gave her what she'd been wanting. He is a solid 10" and can go almost forever.
I've never been allowed to be there with them when they made love, but a few years ago my wife did let me watch them secretly, hidden out on our deck in the dark while they made love in our softly-lit bedroom. All the stories she had previously told me paled by comparison to the real thing. My wife is slender, built like a ballerina, perfectly flat chest and all. Great curvy hips, long strong legs. To see my wife take this man's huge cock all the way into her deep cunt was just stunning. To see him be so physical with my sweet and gentle wife blew me away. To see them kiss so long and so fully was the icing on the cake: these two love each other; this wasn't just casual sex.
Even so my wife is committed to me and our marriage. Besides, Tom's divorce was nasty; he never wants to be married again. Though he loves my wife, and she him, our marriage is as strong as ever. And I am thrilled to be a cuck. I love everything about it; I love masturbating, especially if my wife agrees to be there next to me. I have no interest in sex with any other woman, only in living with my goddess wife. And it makes me very happy to see her so happy, so fulfilled in her life.

Oh How I love reading about your story! I’ve gone from firstly reading it a year or so ago and thinking.... ok that’s interesting but I’d never do that.... to now my heart beats so hard I think my wife is going to wake up next to me! We’re on our way at the moment and my fingers are crossed.... the other night during sex my wife said to me ‘what would you do If I never let you inside me again? To which my heart almost beat out of my chest again....
I still don’t understand why these are the feelings I have, but it’s improving every aspect of our lives and (although she hasn’t admitted it) she seems to love it!
The thing I love the most on this forum is reading the long build ups to the various relationships, the first times, the moment she denied you, the moment she let herself go..... heaven

[BD8280]

Its all about pleasuring her, I feel like in her being ultimately pleasured, then I feel the same from it. Its a deep connection, something that comes from true love for somebody, wanting them to experience every single pleasure possible.
Sometimes I think we are a very special, unselfish breed of people on here. But the stigma around it in the real world is awful.
Since being into hotwifing/cuckolding I have definitely become more tolerant to all other people with their wild ideas and strange ways they want to live. Because with this Im one of them too apparently! But i feel completely normal.

[SailorGuy]

Its all about pleasuring her, I feel like in her being ultimately pleasured, then I feel the same from it. Its a deep connection, something that comes from true love for somebody, wanting them to experience every single pleasure possible.
Sometimes I think we are a very special, unselfish breed of people on here. But the stigma around it in the real world is awful.
Since being into hotwifing/cuckolding I have definitely become more tolerant to all other people with their wild ideas and strange ways they want to live. Because with this Im one of them too apparently! But i feel completely normal.

Yes! Sometimes I think: if my wife and I can be living like this anybody can! We look so "normal" and have such a "great" marriage. Sometimes people ask us what's our "secret". Oh if they only knew!
Sometimes I just want to spill the beans and see what happens. But like you said, I am definitely more open and tolerant to others, whatever makes them happy. Life is tough; if something makes you happy, well, why not live it? But my wife is VERY private and conservative. somehow we've managed to keep her affair a secret all these years. She and her lover want it that way, while I would like it to be more in the open. But I wouldn't dream of doing anything to break this up!

[funcpl477]

I some how lost the quote from an earlier post the said that "HIS" woman was a non-starter. The following is a response to that poster complaining about someone's use to the term "his woman". Hope that makes sense if you read the rest of this.


Read the title of this thread again - it does NOT say "HIS WOMAN" it says:

"Why would a guy want "HIS WIFE" to sleep with another man"


Wife and husband usually have taken vows to be "each other's husband and wife". A commitment was made. That does NOT mean they can't mutually choose to make their marriage any way they want it.

Just like my wife and I have - and it has included a lot of sexual freedom to enjoy others. In my view point - our marriage, (not talking anyone else's) we are partners in life. When my wife is very well fucked by another man (or woman if she was bi-active) with me having given her the right to do so within the commitments of our lives together as husband and wife - the pleasure she receives from the other guy(s) she fucks is just another way I make love to her... and give her more pleasure than I can actually give her by just my self.

MY greatest desires is for her always to be well loved, well fucked and to have a very, safe, secure and happy and satisfying life.

We chose and continue to be husband and wife - or for that matter wife and husband and she is very much "my wife" for as long as she chooses to be.

[early-kink]

I some how lost the quote from an earlier post the said that "HIS" woman was a non-starter. The following is a response to that poster complaining about someone's use to the term "his woman". Hope that makes sense if you read the rest of this.


Read the title of this thread again - it does NOT say "HIS WOMAN" it says:

"Why would a guy want "HIS WIFE" to sleep with another man"


Wife and husband usually have taken vows to be "each other's husband and wife". A commitment was made. That does NOT mean they can't mutually choose to make their marriage any way they want it.

Just like my wife and I have - and it has included a lot of sexual freedom to enjoy others. In my view point - our marriage, (not talking anyone else's) we are partners in life. When my wife is very well fucked by another man (or woman if she was bi-active) with me having given her the right to do so within the commitments of our lives together as husband and wife - the pleasure she receives from the other guy(s) she fucks is just another way I make love to her... and give her more pleasure than I can actually give her by just my self.

MY greatest desires is for her always to be well loved, well fucked and to have a very, safe, secure and happy and satisfying life.

We chose and continue to be husband and wife - or for that matter wife and husband and she is very much "my wife" for as long as she chooses to be.

This is an amazing & very LOVING way to want to please your wife, Mr. Funcpl477. Whether you can satisfy your wife or not, or if she's the kind of lady that just needs some variety and a fresh change in her life periodically ................ you MUST love her very much to be so accommodating to her needs. I'm sure your wife appreciates the freedom to enjoy another lover once in a while - however frequent. Does your wife ever express her appreciation to you?? Just wondering.

Thanks for the enlightening and positive post!!!

[RedVixenStagCpl2019]

For us, it's about the wife being able to explore her sexuality. We frequently enjoy MFM 3somes and I enjoy watching her with other men, one on one as well. Has nothing to do with being gay, because I am not even bisexual. We just love sharing our wives. It's all about her pleasure for me. Seeing her sexual desires with another man are exciting to me and her. We have a great marriage/relationship and this has only enhanced it ten-fold.

There is nothing I wouldn't allow her to do. We have a completely open mind about the Hot Wife Lifestyle.

[early-kink]

For us, it's about the wife being able to explore her sexuality. We frequently enjoy MFM 3somes and I enjoy watching her with other men, one on one as well. Has nothing to do with being gay, because I am not even bisexual. We just love sharing our wives. It's all about her pleasure for me. Seeing her sexual desires with another man are exciting to me and her. We have a great marriage/relationship and this has only enhanced it ten-fold.

There is nothing I wouldn't allow her to do. We have a completely open mind about the Hot Wife Lifestyle.

This is just sooooo cool, you two !!! Mr. RedVixenStag - you must love your wife to the Nth degree to put her pleasure at the forefront. Mrs. RedVixenStag must be so appreciative of your support. She must feel like she's in "la-la land" I would guess!!

Mrs. RedVixenStag - I'm happy for you to be able to enjoy such steamy, lusty fun!!!!!! I wish more ladies would join in the fun - and admit they LOVE IT !!!

You said "we just love sharing our wives." Are there more couples who are friends of yours who also have ladies that love to enjoy "mini-vacations" sexually??

[RedVixenStagCpl2019]

For us, it's about the wife being able to explore her sexuality. We frequently enjoy MFM 3somes and I enjoy watching her with other men, one on one as well. Has nothing to do with being gay, because I am not even bisexual. We just love sharing our wives. It's all about her pleasure for me. Seeing her sexual desires with another man are exciting to me and her. We have a great marriage/relationship and this has only enhanced it ten-fold.

There is nothing I wouldn't allow her to do. We have a completely open mind about the Hot Wife Lifestyle.

This is just sooooo cool, you two !!! Mr. RedVixenStag - you must love your wife to the Nth degree to put her pleasure at the forefront. Mrs. RedVixenStag must be so appreciative of your support. She must feel like she's in "la-la land" I would guess!!

Mrs. RedVixenStag - I'm happy for you to be able to enjoy such steamy, lusty fun!!!!!! I wish more ladies would join in the fun - and admit they LOVE IT !!!

You said "we just love sharing our wives." Are there more couples who are friends of yours who also have ladies that love to enjoy "mini-vacations" sexually??

Thank you! We thoroughly enjoy the lifestyle. We have some friends who are local who are into the same yes. She does fully have my support in enjoying her sexual exploration!

[Rocket11]

Although we havent done it in reality, i love fanasizing about my wife sleeping with an other man.
While doing so, i have the most powerfull orgasms ever with a crazy amount of sperm which my wife strongly enjoys.
This and the fact that after all these years i am still horny and arroused about her is owed to the hotwife fantasy.
Till now i only confessed to her that i love it when other man are watching at her big breasts and wonderfull body. She knows that i become very arroused when someone hits on her at a party. After that she enjoys at home how hard and strong i cum in her.
Sometimes i give her the permission to "cheat" on me and i leave her alone with her toys.
The feeling of beeing outside and hearing all the moaning and screaming when she comes drives me crazy. It sounds to me like there is a strange woman there.
I barely can imagine how it would be if there was really someone else fucking her.
All i know is that hotwife fantasy blesses me with the most intense and strong orgasms with a massive amount of sperm.
I barely can imagine to get off on an other fantasy, so i love it.

[early-kink]

Rocket11 - ^^^^^^
So many millions of men around the world get highly aroused at the thought of their wives or LTGF's having sex with another guy. I don't think sexual science has nailed down a reason or trigger for this arousal. Some theories have been suggested - "sperm competition", an evolutionary response to other male competition, a sort of emotional "masochism", etc. But whatever the reason or trigger .............. it's definitely a TRUE point of arousal for most men - even the ones who don't / won't admit it. The super-hard, longer-lasting erections, the larger amount of semen / sperm released when the man ejaculates, and the harder force of the man's ejaculation are all common events attributed to a wife or LTGF having sex with another guy.

My wife even noticed these symptoms in me several times when we were talking about her being a hotwife. She didn't even actually have sex with anyone else ............. she just expressed interest in it!! She said, "Wow - you're REALLY HARD!! And when I went off - it was like I had a high-powered pump making me shoot harder & farther!! She liked the effect though. So I think these effects are common among most men when thinking about - or actually facing the reality of - our wives & LTGF's having sex with another guy. It certainly IS a VERY HIGH level of arousal.

[Dzs1653]

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So many millions of men around the world get highly aroused at the thought of their wives or LTGF's having sex with another guy. I don't think sexual science has nailed down a reason or trigger for this arousal...

I have tried often to understand it in myself, and even brought my wife into the conversation. So far, I have two ideas. First, just the other day I was reading something that Esther Perel said, which I think is relevant:
They [men] genuinely appreciate the quality of their partner’s excitement. Men in committed relationships generally talk a lot about how much they enjoy pleasing their partner. The quality of their experience very often depends on the quality of her experience; seeing her into it, seeing her enjoy it.
She also says this about women:
The roles that she inhabits (mother, caretaker, head of domestic responsibilities) are not roles that appeal to her sexuality ... Traditionally we have interpreted a woman’s desire as less — she must have less of an interest in sex. But no, it’s that women become less interested in the sex they can have. Put that same woman with a new person, in a new story, and suddenly she doesn’t need a role replacement.
So, if you put all that together, I think it is far from surprising that a man, eager for his wife to have ultimate pleasure and excitement, would enthusiastically endorse, even love the idea of her being with another man. To me, this is such a powerful motivation, jealousy ultimately can't stand a chance, even though...
... which brings me to the other idea, which may be just me. In a previous marriage, my wife had sex with another man and told me soon after (which is why I don't like to call it cheating). My attitude back then (over 30 years ago) was radically different from now and I was devastated. But even then, when I imagined her with her FB, I felt oddly aroused. Nevertheless, I think I somehow never wanted to experience such jealous pain again. So maybe something in me decided that the only answer was to fully embrace my wife's freedom and independence. Now, instead of fearing her straying, I love the idea, and the whole thing makes me love her all the more.
Full disclosure: For me, this is in the realm of fantasy. My wife is well-aware of it and has not shamed me for it in any way. If it is ever to become a reality, it will have to be initiated by her.

[early-kink]

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So many millions of men around the world get highly aroused at the thought of their wives or LTGF's having sex with another guy. I don't think sexual science has nailed down a reason or trigger for this arousal...

I have tried often to understand it in myself, and even brought my wife into the conversation. So far, I have two ideas. First, just the other day I was reading something that Esther Perel said, which I think is relevant:
They [men] genuinely appreciate the quality of their partner’s excitement. Men in committed relationships generally talk a lot about how much they enjoy pleasing their partner. The quality of their experience very often depends on the quality of her experience; seeing her into it, seeing her enjoy it.
She also says this about women:
The roles that she inhabits (mother, caretaker, head of domestic responsibilities) are not roles that appeal to her sexuality ... Traditionally we have interpreted a woman’s desire as less — she must have less of an interest in sex. But no, it’s that women become less interested in the sex they can have. Put that same woman with a new person, in a new story, and suddenly she doesn’t need a role replacement.
So, if you put all that together, I think it is far from surprising that a man, eager for his wife to have ultimate pleasure and excitement, would enthusiastically endorse, even love the idea of her being with another man. To me, this is such a powerful motivation, jealousy ultimately can't stand a chance, even though...
... which brings me to the other idea, which may be just me. In a previous marriage, my wife had sex with another man and told me soon after (which is why I don't like to call it cheating). My attitude back then (over 30 years ago) was radically different from now and I was devastated. But even then, when I imagined her with her FB, I felt oddly aroused. Nevertheless, I think I somehow never wanted to experience such jealous pain again. So maybe something in me decided that the only answer was to fully embrace my wife's freedom and independence. Now, instead of fearing her straying, I love the idea, and the whole thing makes me love her all the more.
Full disclosure: For me, this is in the realm of fantasy. My wife is well-aware of it and has not shamed me for it in any way. If it is ever to become a reality, it will have to be initiated by her.

I think your post echoes what other writers in the sexual genre have discovered. It seems - and I believe it - that for many men, their desire for the pleasure and happiness of the wife they love overtakes the jealousy they may feel at first. Those kinds of men - husbands - love their wives so much and want her to be happy & satisfied sexually, that they assist their wives in finding a good, safe, "nice guy" to have as her FWB. They have a genuine desire to be a "helper" in her quest to find and enjoy a really great FWB.

I've also read - and noticed in my own life - how women react differently to a "new guy." I've read articles by sexual counselors and therapists detailing ways women act differently when placed in situations like parties, college or school reunions, business meetings and dealings, outside activities such as physical training, sports, etc. I've noticed many instances myself of women I know / knew that behaved very differently when around other guys. They seemed to get more "flirty", more open to lengthy chat, leaning in close when talking to new guys, hair-flipping, touching their tongue to their teeth so the guy can see her do it, even walking in a different way to "strut" a bit. They don't do those things around their husbands or LTBF's - but do when they're around new guys. They like and want attention. As some articles by professional counselors point out, it seems women just love "N E W. " I see it too. The ladies love new anything, clothes, shoes, jewelry, home decor, cars, hairstyles, makeup, etc. and it carries over to new guys / new romance. Women never tire of being desired and "chased" by attractive guys. We men don't mind attention from new ladies either(!!) - but it seems the attraction is much stronger in women. I've seen women of all ages get positively giddy around a new guy that pays attention to them. They smile constantly, laugh and giggle easily, get "touchy" with the guy, etc.

The evidence seems to point to ladies being VERY attracted to "N E W" guys .......... because women love "N E W." The draw of new romance, with new activities, new places to go, new experiences with a new guy - is pretty heady stuff. Women feel like teenage girls again, with the same butterflies and giddy excitement as when they first started dating. That doesn't make the ladies bad or evil ........... it's just a trait of women - as much as men like sports. Women are just drawn to romance ........... especially N E W romance!!! In the hotwife scene - it's referred to as NRE (new relationship energy). It's heady, addictive, and lusty. Several ladies on this forum have stated just what Esther Perel said above : women want a break away from the roles of mom, wife, caretaker, housekeeper, kids' taxi, etc. When they see an opportunity to take such a break - they become like new ladies themselves - free of their usual routines, to become just real, live women. Ladies seeking fun, excitement, new romance, and yes - lusty, hot sexual fun too. They can be themselves again for a while - maybe once a week, twice per month ........... whatever she desires.

[dinoo]

"When they see an opportunity to take such a break - they become like new ladies themselves - free of their usual routines, to become just real, live women. Ladies seeking fun, excitement, new romance, and yes - lusty, hot sexual fun too. They can be themselves again for a while - maybe once a week, twice per month ........... whatever she desires."

And so it happened.......

[early-kink]

^^^^^^^^ - Great memories, huh, Dinoo ?? You and Lady D must have had some really great times together! Thanks for all your posts. Best wishes, friend.

[dinoo]

^^^^^^^^ - Great memories, huh, Dinoo ?? You and Lady D must have had some really great times together! Thanks for all your posts. Best wishes, friend.

Yes, Earlykink, indeed great memories. Thanks for your post.

I had the pleasure of watching her, she having the pleasure and fun of playing around so liberated, carefree.
She loved me watching her. It wasn't really cuckolding, much more showing her alter ego to me.
Watching her really thrown all of her "fear" from herself, was really a gift from heaven.
A HW in the real meaning of the word. Partly because of this, our sex was also very great.
Kinky and dirty but we both loved it so much.

Fortunately, we decided to write a diary with the target to enjoy later on our secret life.
At that time we read them again and again, communicated about them, spoke about them, fantasized about what could be next.
Our fantasies went however much further than the reality.
She really liked them and hoped for that once they would happen. (Me too )

Fortunately, I took pictures with one of her steady two lovers.
Unfortunately, most of her kinky happenings took place in a club, in which it was of course forbidden to take photos.
So I'm still collecting photographs to refresh my memory continuously.
She was proud attracting so many men. She was happy I was so proud of her.

Dinoo

[TriangleTangle]

For myself it turned out to be a combination of a few specific aspects which have evolved and become clear as the years have progressed and as our relationship has grown and strengthened.

#1 Erotic Compersion - which differs from emotional Compersion. I learned long ago how to transform the angst and jealousy into a powerful aphrodisiac unlike anything else. I vicariously experience her sexual pleasure as my own. I later learned I am an empath with it being especially strong in the erotic realm which explained great deal. I later learned to appreciate and experience emotional Compersion in addition to erotic Compersion. To this day few adequately distinguish these two types of Compersion or how they can be separate or combined.

#2 The risk of losing her emotionally and physically to another man. That risk exponentially multiplies the angst and jealousy for transformation into erotic Compersion. Some say that has its roots in primitive sperm competition – maybe so, but whatever the root, be it sperm competition or maybe the loss of an early love and infidelity – I can’t ever get enough.

At first it was only my partner’s physical consensual infidelity that stoked the fire in me. I was initially against my partner having an emotional/romantic connection with another male (read – insecurity). As I gradually lost my relationship insecurity over the years (and also after having gotten involved in a muiti-partner poly group arrangement), I discovered that when my female partner developed an emotional/romantic attachment it was like adding Compersive jet fuel. Naturally, it's the emotional/romantic aspects that makes the experience great for her. The stronger and more secure I became in myself and my relationship, the more intense my desire for her to stoke that jealousy by her overtly expressing her physical and emotional desire for the other male - not denial or degradation mind you, just stoking the competitive aspect to the max. Of course one of the best parts is reclamation - but I like it even more when she makes that a bit of a challenge too :-)

So, for me, the reason why I want my wife to sleep (and have a relationship) with another man is a combination of these aspects.

TriangleTangle

[lisamyhotwife]

My wife has been a hotwife for 20 years now and, well, because it's hot and she loves it!