Not a Cuckold, but Thought I'd Share My Situation

[Whosbeensleeping]

Wow, great progress!

[drstrangelove]

So the month of June came and went--we had sex twice in total, but neither time she enjoyed it much. Mostly more of the same of me eating her out and cuming in my boxers, so I don't bother to give updates on all of those.

One interesting thing was yesterday morning though. We both woke up, but were kind of cuddled sleepily with her in the big spoon position. She eventually worked her hand inside my boxers and started jerking me off. It felt fine, but I really wanted to fuck her, so I went to turn over, but she pushed back and sped up her hj. It pushed me over the edge and I humped back at her hand and came inside my boxers. She didn't say a word and just got up to start her day.

Again, nothing big, but the tone of it all felt different. She never said a word, but I felt emasculated--her wrapped around me, forcing me to cum and not letting me fuck her.

She got her period today, so I doubt much will happen for the next week or so.

[FNQLivin]

I’m not sure if you are living a dream or a nightmare.

[drstrangelove]

I’m not sure if you are living a dream or a nightmare.

Hah!

Well it’s certainly frustrating at times, but she’s also really hot and it’s fun doing anything sexual with her.

Ultimately, it feels like there are tremendous ebbs and flows emotionally for me. At times it feels like things are on the right path and going well, then a week passes and I feel like all hope is lost. I’ve tried having so many open conversations with her and they’re really ineffective. It feels like she typically responds to actions better.

But then the couple of times I ate her ass, she didn’t stop me, but she also didn’t particularly care about it—so then for me, I lose interest in things she’s not into. With giving her oral in general, I know she really likes it, so doing it and coming on my own feels like it should reinforce my feelings about sex to her, but it sometimes doesn’t feel she’s connecting the threads.

So if my actions and words fail, I’m out of options...onward we go though.

[jratt85]

I’m not sure if you are living a dream or a nightmare.

Hah!

Well it’s certainly frustrating at times, but she’s also really hot and it’s fun doing anything sexual with her.

Ultimately, it feels like there are tremendous ebbs and flows emotionally for me. At times it feels like things are on the right path and going well, then a week passes and I feel like all hope is lost. I’ve tried having so many open conversations with her and they’re really ineffective. It feels like she typically responds to actions better.

But then the couple of times I ate her ass, she didn’t stop me, but she also didn’t particularly care about it—so then for me, I lose interest in things she’s not into. With giving her oral in general, I know she really likes it, so doing it and coming on my own feels like it should reinforce my feelings about sex to her, but it sometimes doesn’t feel she’s connecting the threads.

So if my actions and words fail, I’m out of options...onward we go though.

I wonder if your wife isn't more submissive. Two submissive people often have difficulties with being with each other as both want to be controlled and used but neither wants to take the initiative and be the top. It really makes me wonder what'd happen if you met a guy that was naturally dominant and he decided he wanted to take your wife and make her his slut and make you a kept hubby.

Even for someone like me, reading what you write all at once makes me feel sorry for both of you, and kind of makes me wish I could take your wife and just let her have fun without worrying about what you want. The more I read you talking about her, your perspective makes it sound like she needs to be tied up and forced. If I was there and you had your kids out, I'd definitely tie her up, make her try to deepthroat me and fuck her with toys till she passed out. (I can't just pound her thanks to my back/hip/joint issues)

[drstrangelove]

I’m not sure if you are living a dream or a nightmare.

Hah!

Well it’s certainly frustrating at times, but she’s also really hot and it’s fun doing anything sexual with her.

Ultimately, it feels like there are tremendous ebbs and flows emotionally for me. At times it feels like things are on the right path and going well, then a week passes and I feel like all hope is lost. I’ve tried having so many open conversations with her and they’re really ineffective. It feels like she typically responds to actions better.

But then the couple of times I ate her ass, she didn’t stop me, but she also didn’t particularly care about it—so then for me, I lose interest in things she’s not into. With giving her oral in general, I know she really likes it, so doing it and coming on my own feels like it should reinforce my feelings about sex to her, but it sometimes doesn’t feel she’s connecting the threads.

So if my actions and words fail, I’m out of options...onward we go though.

I wonder if your wife isn't more submissive. Two submissive people often have difficulties with being with each other as both want to be controlled and used but neither wants to take the initiative and be the top. It really makes me wonder what'd happen if you met a guy that was naturally dominant and he decided he wanted to take your wife and make her his slut and make you a kept hubby.

Even for someone like me, reading what you write all at once makes me feel sorry for both of you, and kind of makes me wish I could take your wife and just let her have fun without worrying about what you want. The more I read you talking about her, your perspective makes it sound like she needs to be tied up and forced. If I was there and you had your kids out, I'd definitely tie her up, make her try to deepthroat me and fuck her with toys till she passed out. (I can't just pound her thanks to my back/hip/joint issues)

It's certainly possible, but it's not how I've read it. For several years to start our relationship, she was the "submissive" one in bed, with her giving me a lot of bjs and me putting her into the position I wanted to fuck her in. She doesn't like not being in control--even giving head, I realized early that what she liked about it wasn't being submissive to me, it was being in control of me.

FWIW, I don't think she has strong dominant urges obviously, but if I'm going to pick a side, it's definitely as a dom. She'd absolutely hate the idea of meeting a random guy and him fucking her throat. Also likely in large part to her slutty past. She has a lot of negative connotations to that part of her life, which was filled with one night stands.

I think I mentioned it in my OP, but she slept with 30+ guys in less than two years during her first two years of college, and I suspect that number is conservative as it's what she admitted to me as her opening answer. She was going out to bars 5-6 nights a week and being passed around by everyone on campus. Unfortunately, she looks back at it with regret, not sexual liberation.

[jratt85]

I think I mentioned it in my OP, but she slept with 30+ guys in less than two years during her first two years of college, and I suspect that number is conservative as it's what she admitted to me as her opening answer. She was going out to bars 5-6 nights a week and being passed around by everyone on campus. Unfortunately, she looks back at it with regret, not sexual liberation.

I actually used to know a woman that was like that.. I was just a few weeks older than her but still a virgin at 19 (actually still am)
but she had a friend that she always went out with that pushed her to be a total slut. They'd have competitions to see how many guys they could get a night, how many creampies/used condoms, how many times they could make a guy cum etc.. She was really hung up about it. We were actually talking on myspace about it (to an extent) at one point (tells you how long ago this was) and I told her I'd love to date her and maybe have her help me learn about sex... and she was completely disgusted with herself and said there was no way she could EVER touch me.. That she's far to filthy to ever be able to touch me. Still I envied her then and I envy her now. I wish I could've been that free, let alone feel that much pleasure.

It's been over a decade since I saw her last and I still think about her from time to time.. she was a good person and despite what she said I think she would've been a good first girlfriend for me.. especially because I'm naturally a lot more kinky than I let on... as my fetlife shows LOL. I just hope she found a guy (or even girl) that makes her feel special and is able to make her happy.

[drstrangelove]

So another small update. I asked to eat her out last night because she hinted during the day that her period was over, but it wasn’t and still heavy enough where that wasnt an option.

She offered a hj, which was a bit odd since she typically doesn’t specify and will say “we can play.”

So she started jerking me off and it felt great and I was getting close to coming, so I asked, “are you really not gonna put your mouth on it?”

She just picked up her pace until I came all over my chest. She popped up and went to pee before bed while I slowly made my way to the bathroom after her.

I noted to her that when I cum on her I get tissues and help her clean it up, to which she just said, “oh yea, sorry.”

Obviously these aren’t huge developments, but considering how common bjs were for me over the last decade, it sure seems like hjs are going to replace them. No cum in her mouth or even on her body and I can even faster due to the mental stimulation of her making me cum all over myself. It was a win-win for her. She also noted that I can likely go back to going down on her tonight with regard to play time.

I guess one thing I can offer now is that if I don’t cum in my pants before she’s done, I can roll into my back and finish so she doesn’t get come on her. It will ensure all my cum either ends up in my boxers or on my chest.

[Rogueuser1]

Love the way your relationship has evolved and her denial of what most would consider basic sexual privileges of a husband. Have you thought any about increase her level of dominance and adding in either chastity or spanking?

[drstrangelove]

Love the way your relationship has evolved and her denial of what most would consider basic sexual privileges of a husband. Have you thought any about increase her level of dominance and adding in either chastity or spanking?

Not really into spanking. Chastity would be a turn on, but my fear is it would feel like I’m keeping myself in chastity and the atmosphere would be broken.

Pegging is another option that I think would be fun, but I haven’t found a way to introduce the idea.

[drstrangelove]

So I gave her oral twice over the last week, both at her request once she realized I wanted to play.

The first time she came twice really quickly before I could cum. She offered to let me stick it in, but I was really close and just finished on her stomach.

The second time I humped her foot while I ate her out for 20-30 minutes. I came in my boxers on her foot around the same time she came in my mouth.

Then last night it was early and we were downstairs and I was sitting next to her on the couch. I was rubbing my hand over her. And she just asked, “want to have sex on the couch?”

I said no, citing the reason that I’m worried about her getting pregnant—which is true and I’m also considering a vasectomy—but keeping myself cut off from sex is hot. It’s just really hard to willfully do it.

So the she said: “well what does that mean, we aren’t going to ever have sex again?”

So I joked back, “Nope, you’re going to have to find someone else for that!”

Her reply: “I guess so, it just stinks there’s a pandemic!”

She then followed up with, “well why don’t you eat me out. You can jerk off of whatever while you do it.”

I said sure, but we ended up deciding we’d wait to do it in bed. So when we got into bed, she waited a bit and we were both lying there and she goes: “Come on, you can’t even take off my pants for me?”

So she takes off her pants and sits right on top of my face and grinds in. It was really hot—she was facing downward, so she ended up giving me head in 69. We both came.

[realcucklife]

Wow! That sounds like a big step, do you think she was serious?

[Rogueuser1]

Wow what a hot and intense night! Hopefully it continues to develop from here and that wasn't just a one-off comment!
Have you thought about introducing a strapon that you would wear with her to let her have sex and get off but keep down the risk of pregnancy since you aren't inside her. You could then introduce the idea of turning it around and taking it from her too.

[drstrangelove]

Wow! That sounds like a big step, do you think she was serious?

Nah, she was definitely joking. But I’ve planted that seed before because she will say that she would divorce me if I ever cheated on her and I always tell her I wouldn’t if she cheated on me.

[drstrangelove]

Wow what a hot and intense night! Hopefully it continues to develop from here and that wasn't just a one-off comment!
Have you thought about introducing a strapon that you would wear with her to let her have sex and get off but keep down the risk of pregnancy since you aren't inside her. You could then introduce the idea of turning it around and taking it from her too.

We use no toys. It’s frustrating because I feel confident she’d enjoy a vibrator, but she shuts the idea down hard. I bought one like 10 years ago and she never wanted to use it and ended up throwing it away during a move.

[jratt85]

We use no toys. It’s frustrating because I feel confident she’d enjoy a vibrator, but she shuts the idea down hard. I bought one like 10 years ago and she never wanted to use it and ended up throwing it away during a move.

Sorry to say but I can't help but wonder if your wife is either trying to purposely be boring in bed to not go back into "slut mode" that she was in when she was younger.. because she obviously enjoyed sex at one point.. Or if she really is just that boring in bed period and the only reason she ever acted like a slut was because friends pushed her into it.

I kind of feel sorry for her that that's how she feels about her past. I definitely would trade with her if I could. (sexual pasts that is) It's sad when women have a lot of fun when they are younger and then end up feeling worthless because of it instead of just moving on and living life and not letting it influence them and keeping them from having fun.

I know when I finally find a girlfriend, toys will definitely have to be a regular part of our sex life together. I just find them too damn hot not to use them.. Especially because 1) pegging is sexy as hell and 2) the idea of having toys in you/her while out on a date together and having that sexy secret is incredibly hot to me, as well as having an intimate secret like that that you share is a major thing for me.

As for the cuckolding side.. I'd suggest finding some good indie porn producers that remind you of your wife that do cuckold videos and start watching them with her, that or gangbang videos where the woman looks like her and sit behind her and play with her while you watch them and make it a regular thing with her so it kind of indoctrinates her with the idea. ...if she'll watch porn with you.

[drstrangelove]

We use no toys. It’s frustrating because I feel confident she’d enjoy a vibrator, but she shuts the idea down hard. I bought one like 10 years ago and she never wanted to use it and ended up throwing it away during a move.

Sorry to say but I can't help but wonder if your wife is either trying to purposely be boring in bed to not go back into "slut mode" that she was in when she was younger.. because she obviously enjoyed sex at one point.. Or if she really is just that boring in bed period and the only reason she ever acted like a slut was because friends pushed her into it.

I kind of feel sorry for her that that's how she feels about her past. I definitely would trade with her if I could. (sexual pasts that is) It's sad when women have a lot of fun when they are younger and then end up feeling worthless because of it instead of just moving on and living life and not letting it influence them and keeping them from having fun.

I know when I finally find a girlfriend, toys will definitely have to be a regular part of our sex life together. I just find them too damn hot not to use them.. Especially because 1) pegging is sexy as hell and 2) the idea of having toys in you/her while out on a date together and having that sexy secret is incredibly hot to me, as well as having an intimate secret like that that you share is a major thing for me.

As for the cuckolding side.. I'd suggest finding some good indie porn producers that remind you of your wife that do cuckold videos and start watching them with her, that or gangbang videos where the woman looks like her and sit behind her and play with her while you watch them and make it a regular thing with her so it kind of indoctrinates her with the idea. ...if she'll watch porn with you.

I think the truth is she went off to college at 18, far away from her family, and just wanted to be liked and fit in. She was easy, which turned some girls against her, but made guys and other slutty girls like her. She fell into that routine for a couple of years, but in doing so, it destroyed her self-esteem.

Then she met me and started to really like me and gradually felt guilty about her past. She enjoyed sex then and enjoys it now, but doesn’t need it. It’s not top of mind for her and hasn’t been for a long time. Add in a couple of kids and it’s often hard for her to muster up the energy to care about her sex life.

I think I have her pegged. The frustration is that I’m so turned on by her past and she won’t accept that at face value—it’s as if she thinks she still needs to be ashamed of her past regardless of what I tell her.

As for porn, she hates it. We had the playboy channel for awhile years ago as I thought it might be an easy entry point, but she didn’t find any of it erotic.

[2ndmate]

I also prefer eating my wife's pussy more than fucking her. I could stay fucking pussy free forever if I could just eat it everyday.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum 2ndmate.

[KevDi69]

So the month of June came and went--we had sex twice in total, but neither time she enjoyed it much. Mostly more of the same of me eating her out and cuming in my boxers, so I don't bother to give updates on all of those.--

When you say you had sex twice, do you mean PIV sex twice or do you mean two sessions where you ate her and came in your boxers? How many times have you had PIV sex since your few weeks of sex (I assume it was PIV)?
I am somewhat jealous of your situation. I love going down on my wife and would be satisfied to have that as my sexual outlet with the occasional bj or handjob. But she wants oral to lead to penetration and completion. We never seem to be satisfied. My advice - just go with whatever she gives you.

[drstrangelove]

So the month of June came and went--we had sex twice in total, but neither time she enjoyed it much. Mostly more of the same of me eating her out and cuming in my boxers, so I don't bother to give updates on all of those.--

When you say you had sex twice, do you mean PIV sex twice or do you mean two sessions where you ate her and came in your boxers? How many times have you had PIV sex since your few weeks of sex (I assume it was PIV)?
I am somewhat jealous of your situation. I love going down on my wife and would be satisfied to have that as my sexual outlet with the occasional bj or handjob. But she wants oral to lead to penetration and completion. We never seem to be satisfied. My advice - just go with whatever she gives you.

Anytime I note sex, it's referring to PIV.

[drstrangelove]

So we had an interesting week.

Following her period ending late last week, I ate her out and she came quick, before I could.She told me to just put it in, but I was close, so I just grinded my dick on her clit and she quickly came again. As she was cuming, I dove back down on her so she could cum in my mouth a second time. I then quickly jerked off onto her stomach.

The next night we played again and again she came before me and I finished on her stomach.

Then three nights ago, I asked to go down on her and she said she was tired, so I said I'd be quick and promised to cum in my pants. So she said sure, but didn't move. She was on her stomach, so I pulled her pants and panties down to her knees and dove in from the back (something we've almost never done). I ate her out to an orgasm from that position, also licking her ass a bit while she came. I came in my pants.

Then last night, it was already late, but I asked if she could cum in my mouth quick before bed. She said it was too late, but then paused and said, "ok, but only if you rearrange the furniture tomorrow like I asked" (she wants a better setup while working from home). I agreed, so I ate her out and timed my orgasm to hers to cum in my pants.

[Rogueuser1]

After you end up cumming in your pants do you wash yourself or change at all or do you sleep in your messy underwear all night?

[drstrangelove]

After you end up cumming in your pants do you wash yourself or change at all or do you sleep in your messy underwear all night?

I change my underwear, hah.

[Tiper]

It seems like she likes your submissive and some times humiliating role. You can use that, to take it a few steps further.
Next time you cum on her pussy og chest, tell her that you’re sorry you made a mess on her, and ask her if you should clean that up. Since she has allready given you a cum-kiss, she might like it. And the next time you say sorry for the mess, she might tell you herself to clean up you mess.

And her having to find another to fuck her, could be a way to try toys again. You should find a realistic dildo, not a vibrator. Most online shops have a users rating for the toys. Use those as a guide.
Remind her of what she said (as a joke), and present the dildo to her, giving it a name (like Jim or any other name). And tell har she should sometime spend some time alone with Jim.
If she’s horny one morning, you could ask her if you should go out and prepare breakfast, while she’s having a visit from Jim.