My Wife's Hotwife History - Will eventually be everything

[Scotch98]

Security is a good thing Des. Looking forward to hearing about her date w/ Fred. Hoep you have a great day and thanks for the update.

[Tracey52]

How has nobody else gone nuts over this awesome avatar?

[yielding william]

Well, you did it good again, even without the sex. I thought that update was more than interesting and the new avatar is great. I like that you change those around.

[Des 31]

Thank you for taking the time and effort to remember and document your life. I don’t always get it, but I don’t have to. But I am captivated by your adventures. . . . . .

I thought about that a few days and decided anyone not getting my motivations is easy to understand. I don't know why either, so I fully understand what you mean. I ran across this piece from Psychology Today magazine. They don't all fit me, but the writer has done his research. I can understand any of the reasons other than "sperm competition," which is considered by many specialists to have the weakest evidence (but maybe that's also true). Copy and paste into browser:
psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201007/why-would-you-do-watch-your-wife-another-man

Thank you for your comments. Those were appreciated.

~ Des

[solstice]

Let us hope the system does not fail, the contractor go out of business, and your remain trapped in your fortress till you starve to death, far fetched, of course, but a short eight months ago, who would have predicted that the world be almost brought to it's knees by a virus with as yet, no cure.
I know that security is not the driving force in you replicating Fort Knox.

[anonymister1948]

psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201007/why-would-you-do-watch-your-wife-another-man

I've read this before and questioned whether it was true that men asked more often than women for their wives to fuck other men. Certainly, the evidence on this website would point to that being the case. But in the Nonmonogamy, Polyamory, and Open Marriage SubReddits, the sense I was getting was that women asked to open the relationship, either where they were the sole parties to be open, or fully open, more often than men.

Of the three subreddits, only the Open Marriage subreddit was it clearly evident that one party was a woman and the other a man. (There are a lot of posts, especially in the polyamory sub where they try to be gender-neutral in their posts) So the Open Marriage subreddit is where I did my count. I only counted posts where there was no ambiguity and it was clearly stated that either the husband or the wife asked to open the marriage. In some cases, like on OHWs, the reasons for opening-up were because of some medical or psychological condition, such as ED, or one spouse being asexual. But more often it was that they simply wanted to fuck more people. I went back through three years of posts.

The results confirmed my suspicion. Sixty-five percent of all the requests to open the marriage were from women. When the author of the Psychology Today article stated that men more often asked their wives to fuck other men, I think they only counted those wives within the Hotwife community. As my count showed, and I'm sure if I wanted to (I'm old and lazy) I would find a similar result in the Polyamory and Nonmonogamy subreddits, that women are more likely to ask than men. I shared this on Reddit and got a variety of responses as to why but I'll spare you those as many of them were damned derogatory towards my research, "Nice job being gender-biased," and "After working in the home all day it was nice to finally be appreciated," being just two.

[Des 31]

psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201007/why-would-you-do-watch-your-wife-another-man

I've read this before and questioned whether it was true that men asked more often than women for their wives to fuck other men. Certainly, the evidence on this website would point to that being the case. But in the Nonmonogamy, Polyamory, and Open Marriage SubReddits, the sense I was getting was that women asked to open the relationship, either where they were the sole parties to be open, or fully open, more often than men.

Of the three subreddits, only the Open Marriage subreddit was it clearly evident that one party was a woman and the other a man. (There are a lot of posts, especially in the polyamory sub where they try to be gender-neutral in their posts) So the Open Marriage subreddit is where I did my count. I only counted posts where there was no ambiguity and it was clearly stated that either the husband or the wife asked to open the marriage. In some cases, like on OHWs, the reasons for opening-up were because of some medical or psychological condition, such as ED, or one spouse being asexual. But more often it was that they simply wanted to fuck more people. I went back through three years of posts.

The results confirmed my suspicion. Sixty-five percent of all the requests to open the marriage were from women. When the author of the Psychology Today article stated that men more often asked their wives to fuck other men, I think they only counted those wives within the Hotwife community. As my count showed, and I'm sure if I wanted to (I'm old and lazy) I would find a similar result in the Polyamory and Nonmonogamy subreddits, that women are more likely to ask than men. I shared this on Reddit and got a variety of responses as to why but I'll spare you those as many of them were damned derogatory towards my research, "Nice job being gender-biased," and "After working in the home all day it was nice to finally be appreciated," being just two.

I have read some of those too. It makes sense for women to initiate opening up a marriage in which their husbands have ED or are in a marriage that result in other sexual frustrations. We know a couple in their early to mid 40s whose husband is rather submissive to his wife and others have told us she goes out with other men; he knows with some certainty her husband is aware of it because of the time she is out on dates, sometimes all day and overnight.

The first who told us who confided the couple's cuckolding life is a guy my wife had sex with a couple of years back, and we still see him socially at parties. The cuckolding wife is very attractive and confident. He is a slight-built accountant, very smart, but is clearly hen-pecked. I'm sure she has no problem finding willing partners, and I think she could clearly would be the sort to tell him what she wants and what she is doing. The couple hasn't confessed that to either of us, but I'm convinced through experience with them the story is accurate. We personally like them but don't ever bring up that topic.

But in our marriage, I was the one who encouraged my 33-year-old wife to date other men. It took about a year before she enthusiastically accepted it. That finally came about six and a half years ago, and she has since been fully on board with it. I think it would have been hot if she had approached me first and told me she wished to fuck other men, but her background at that time wouldn't have allowed her to think in that way. When I was attempting to convince her, she thought it was a trick for her to allow me to date other women (like situations I would be unlikely to ever encounter the woman again; and that sort of happening has very rarely come about). Once she got over that hurdle, it all worked out well for us. And she still says she cannot handle me with another woman except under rare circumstances; her principal reason is that she says men don't have as much sense as women, or at least as she does, and thinks it could be a threat to our marriage. It isn't, but I can't change her mind about that.

~ Des

[Des 31]

Will this be your first time inside your wife's pussy since before your trip two weekends ago or did you get an opportunity Sunday after Beau left?

Not the same night after Beau left - but the following morning before about half of our typical exercise routine. She cuts her exercise regimen in half after a night's sex - and on those days skips the chin-ups on the bar installed just above head-height in the bedroom's door jamb, then showers. That began almost a year ago after her annual dermatology appointment. The doctor said her skin was too dry and advised her to cut back on showers to every other day unless she was particularly perspiring; he told her to use a body lotion to replace her facial and body oils after showering. Supposedly, bathing away body oils too often causes the skin to prematurely age, which neither of us had before known.

That hasn't yet come about; when she dresses in certain casual clothing, she still gets asked for her ID as proof of age in some places. That requests always causes her to laugh and thank whoever asks. (She really has no desire to appear younger; she occasionally says she would prefer looking a few years older for the reason of her job. From what I can tell, I don't think that's a problem, so I tell her that when she brings up that issue and she can't recall any problems about her age of 33.)

I have since followed that same routine of showering only once every other day, and each of us rubs in the lotion onto the other's back we can't reach.

~ Des

[solstice]

men don't have as much sense as women

I never thought that Gigi would deal in gender stereotypes, especially as she is married to a think-before-acting chappie, If your wife was sexually voracious, the gates would protect the passing stranger every bit as much as keeping the inquisitive person from evading your privacy.

[solstice]

she occasionally says she would prefer looking a few years older for the reason of her job.

From what you divulge in the quotes of chairwoman Gigi, I think her level headed gravitas count for more than her looks, in her mastery of her advanced position in the bank. this statement could be viewed as nonsense if it wasn't for how well you keep us informed on this forum.
Sorry for the convoluted way of making my point.

[snooper56]

Des and Gigi, what an awesome journey you guys are on. I think it's great how you work together even though Gigi might be ahead on the scorecard. I'm up to May of 2020 now. Will be caught all the way up soon! Thank you very much for chronicling your experiences.

[Des 31]

I’m a couple of days late in getting to this, but Gigi said her Thursday night date was hot. She was an hour later getting home than intended, but we have learned that isn’t unusual in her new relationships. I had half-expected that and she explained to me the reasons for the delay on this occasion.

After work, she had driven to her newest guy Fred’s place that night. He offered her a mixed drink and snacks as they talked about their mutual friend Jean who will soon return to active duty service with the Navy. Sitting alongside my wife on his couch, he kissed her fully on the lips. She responded with arms around his neck as he unbuttoned and removed her blouse.

Urging her onto her back on the couch, he stroked and sucked her breasts for some fifteen or twenty minutes. Soon, she breathed heavily in excitation and reached down between them to stroke his blood-engorged cock beneath his slacks. Moaning, she unzipped his fly, curled her fist around his dick and fervently stroked it. His lips quivered against a swollen nipple as he removed her skirt. She unbuckled his belt and he pulled his pants and shorts away.

Soon the two were naked. She knelt in front of the couch to suck his cock. She lost track of how long her head bobbed slowly onto his rigid member but her lust to have it inside her had become frenzied. He led her to his bedroom and went down on her for several minutes until she was begging him to fuck her. The first time was missionary style, followed some time later with her on her knees as his cock pummeled her cunt from behind. She said she was a bit “noisy” that night, but so was he. He told her he loved that she had shaven her mound, and she responded, “I thought you would like that. I did it for you.” He had made a similar comment in m wife’s presence to Jean on the night of his threesome with the two women.

I asked how big he was, a question she at times responds with a sideways flash of her eyes that seems to mean my inquiries about size has become repetitively old. But she instead grinned mischievously and said, “I don’t know for sure. About the same width as yours but maybe an inch longer, which makes it look long and slender.” That would make it around seven inches. She hadn’t told me that when he first fucked her. I said, “So you liked that,” and she smiled, responding, “Well, yeah, it’s nice.” She went on with words I cannot recall accurately; but she said that if my real question was whether she enjoyed sucking his big pole, then yes, it was exciting and felt good sliding through her mouth.

By then, my dick had risen full staff and I gripped it tightly. I pushed to her back onto the bed and parted her legs. I’ve pretty much concluded conclusion my wife is becoming a size-queen if she isn’t already; I’m unsure why my dick stirs about that, but it’s exciting to me. The largest in her experience is her boss’, at eight-and-a-half. Another guy who moved away not long ago was near that length, and she had confessed to me both drove her wild when inside her cunt. She tells me, though, my standard six is fine with her. Now, Fred’s seven-or-so inches is large in my opinion and I liked hearing that.

I guided my cock to the opening of her cunt, still warm and creamy from her fucking Fred. Her eyes opened wide and her head pressed back against a pillow. She said, “It was so hot when he was fucking me.” She claimed she could feel it hitting her cervix and I was cumming within five minutes at the most. At times she is telling me these details while we’re fucking, my mind turns to mush. He fucked her twice that night and she says he can last a long time, which she likes.

I told her if she had wished to stay the night with him, all she needed to do was to call and tell me. She said she couldn’t have done that for the reason she was to be at work the following day and her boss won’t return until Wednesday. But she added, “If my boss doesn't have other ideas, I may invite him to our home next Friday night. That is, if he doesn’t still feel uncomfortable about meeting you.”

I won’t mind that at all but responded I had no problem with her going back to his place if he didn't yet wish to meet me. I would like to know what he’s like. My wife seems rather excited with this new relationship. She had previously told me after that first time he fucked her without his other married girlfriend Jean around, “He fucks good, Kemo Sabi.” After I recovered from our sexual union, I wanted to have sex with her again, but the night was late and we’re typically up in the morning at 5:30. We had sex again last night as she went on about how much she likes the guy.

I didn’t say whether or not I might watch them on my computer screen from the bedroom’s surveillance cameras, but I suspect my curious tendency toward voyeurism will win out.

~ Des

[afagehi7]

Size IMHO is like boobs. We're perfectly fine with a b cup but a DD certainly butter on the biscuits. Some men may prefer a cups or truly believe more than a mouthful is a waste or value the French champagne glass but largely we welcome some DD. I think cock size follows similar for women. Just as we won't generally put up with a lame in the sack total bitch just because of DDs as personality has a large impact and tit size isn't everything but it's nice.

My hypothesis is dick size is similar to women. As men we think it's more important than it is but it's certainly a nice luxury (up to a certain painful point of course).

Sounds like Gigi is on a little nre. Why won't he meet you if he knows you are cool with their playtime?

[Des 31]

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Sounds like Gigi is on a little nre. Why won't he meet you if he knows you are cool with their playtime?

She says he thinks meeting her husband would make him nervous. I asked if he was shy or a nervous guy. She says he isn't, but he isn't the first to have that hesitation about meeting me. It's happened before with several when she was constantly meeting different men. On one occasion, she had sex only twice with a guy she met while shopping at a local market. She invited him to our home after they had been together that one time at his place. He was clearly uncomfortable meeting with me, although I had no problem with staying in the living room and reading while they were fucking. He didn't call her again; it was one and done.

Some guys are just like that, but my wife says if any persistently refuse to get to know me, she also loses interest. She has said as an explanation, "I like to keep it in the family," essentially meaning she wants me to know the guys with who she is having sex.

~ Des

[Tracey52]

Great update Des. I hope your fans are happy you’re getting some. Love hearing about pasted encounters we haven’t heard of before either. Wouldn’t it be so ego boosting to know you can just go to the supermarket and pick someone up for sex? I think sometimes Gigi with Her looks, passion and smarts could rule the world if she wanted. I think Cleopatra.

[Tracey52]

On another note, Fred commented on Gigi Being bare. I thought she was already bare from some photos you have posted? What about her guys? Are they natural, bare, sculpted? What does Gigi like and does she influence their manscaping?

[Des 31]

On another note, Fred commented on Gigi Being bare. I thought she was already bare from some photos you have posted? What about her guys? Are they natural, bare, sculpted? What does Gigi like and does she influence their manscaping?

She varies her routine on that, but shaving isn't frequent for her. When she shaves her mound, she says she experiences some minor discomfort as her pubic hair regrows. She had used an electric razor - I think Tuesday evening - and her mound was still smooth Thursday. I like the appearance, but it isn't a regular routine for her. Her current guys don't shave their groins, but she has dated some for short times in the past who shaved their entire bodies. I have seen one of those who was once at our home for a late evening, but she has told me of at least two others.

She is out at this time as a guest for a civic meeting and phoned a half hour ago that she may be a little late getting home. An unusually heavy thunderstorm is ongoing there as it is at our home, and the attendees cars are some distance from the club house where they have been meeting.

~ Des

[Tracey52]

Thanks for your reply Des. My wife has used sugaring by her beauty therapist which she found better than waxing and it left her very smooth. Since then she has had electrolysis which was painful at the time but there is very little Re growth now. Very nice if you ask me. AWD cars are the things for wet weather or areas that get snow if you live in one of those areas.

[Scotch98]

Wow great update Des, I was sitting here reading and letting my mind imagine him fucking Gigi's Bare pussy (which I love btw) and admiring her avatar. She has such a beautiful body and I can just imagine how beautiful she looks while fucking someone. Thanks for all the Detail as I really love that. As far as watching them on your bedroom’s surveillance cameras, there is no doubt I would succumb to that temptation...LOL. Thanks again for the update and looking forward to the next one...Cheers

[Des 31]

Just a quick update: I have a minute or so alone at work and checked in here online. My wife called me at the office an hour ago to say that Beau had just phoned her at work to say he’s back in town and yesterday afternoon moved into the furnished duplex apartment where he will be living through the coming school year. Gigi invited him to come over to our place tonight for a while. Neither needed to mention they’ll be having sex; that’s pretty much understood whenever they get together.

He had already phoned the chief financial officer for who he will again be working part-time and will be back on the job at the bank tomorrow morning full-time until his classes begin on the 20th of this month. He told Gigi he has met his next-door neighbor in the other side of the duplex; she is a graduate student in psychology, has been living in the opposite apartment for the past two years and said they have a great landlord.

I’m looking forward to their second reunion this month. I suspect that because both are working tomorrow he won’t be staying overnight on this occasion, but I’ll add here whatever happens if it’s worthwhile writing about.

~ Des

[Open2it]

Des, you and Gigi are both living the dream. Admittedly from different perspectives but it’s great when a couple can be so in sync.

[Des 31]

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[solstice]

I read a great deal of US news, and I grieve how politically divided your Country has become, we are not wedded to political parties as you appear to be, when Tony Blair was elected, the Labour party had moved to the centre ground, in recent years they shifted to the left, and became unelectable as a governing party. there is signs now of it becoming a little more moderate. the greatest debacle has been on the never ending effort to leave Europe.
Generally the populace has a poor opinion of politicians, although in Scotland Nicola Sturgeon has a high approval rate in handling Covit, Boris Johnson does not. As of yesterday, 261 people were in Scottish hospitals (Pop over 5 million) with confirmed or suspected Covit in the last few weeks deaths have been zero.
My views of course are highly subjective, and if some of your UK readers were to comment I suspect there would be differing opinions.
There appears to be more US citizens settling in the UK, I believe there are over 200,000 of them.

[samlowen]

Did Beau appreciate the suits Gigi bought him for his birthday or has that not happened yet and I'm simply not remembering correctly?

[Des 31]

Did Beau appreciate the suits Gigi bought him for his birthday or has that not happened yet and I'm simply not remembering correctly?

His birthday is the 24th but his parents are hosting a party on Saturday the 22nd at his family's home as it was last year. Gigi won't be able to attend this time and I'm told his mother will give him a gift certificate from my wife after his friends leave that day.

I'll have an update - probably tomorrow - about last night. I'm working late tonight and Gigi's having dinner with a loan officer and one of the principals of a new commercial customer with the bank.