Are you into hotwifing as you want bigger

[2wheel]

Dreaming about big cock huh! For my HW big is not a dream but a nightmare, her max is about 7". So yes size matters!

One thing we can all agree upon is that different women like different things!!!


I'm no longer the size used to be. I'm now 5" - 5 1/2" at best, younger maybe 6 - 6 1/2". What I considered small, porn had us all fooled as to what is small, average and large. My 1st wife had no clue as I was her 2nd partner. My 2nd (current wife) had plenty of clues as she had hundreds of men before we met. Occasionally she'd say how big I was and she wasn't sure she could accommodate me, that she doesn't like big cocks, but always succeeded. I never believed her, always told myself she was sparing my feelings. Then we went to a sex club, guess what? I really wasn't small, I was average.

Now she's a hotwife and putting things in perspective (LOL) she was truthful as I've seen her refuse entry to guys that she considers too big (long).

Bottom line for me:
1 - I was average at 6"
2 - most guys are average at 6"
3 - even today at a shrunken state I'm almost average
4 - not all women like big dicks

One last thought and I know it sounds like the adage. She doesn't really talk about her sexual past (so much lost fuel) but she did tell me about one guy who'd fuck her on his boat in Sheepshead Bay (Brooklyn, NY) he was small, maybe 4" (she showed me spreading her fingers) but he'd get into the rocking of the boat and in a position that hit all her spots, so at what was maybe 4" she considered him one of her best partners.

PS We don't measure guys but I'm a pretty good judge of dimensional relationships. And I know sizes of things: I close my hand and spread open my pinky and thumb = 9" - I spread my fingers wide open pinky to index finger 6"

[Martyn0888]

Dreaming about big cock huh! For my HW big is not a dream but a nightmare, her max is about 7". So yes size matters!

One thing we can all agree upon is that different women like different things!!!


I'm no longer the size used to be. I'm now 5" - 5 1/2" at best, younger maybe 6 - 6 1/2". What I considered small, porn had us all fooled as to what is small, average and large. My 1st wife had no clue as I was her 2nd partner. My 2nd (current wife) had plenty of clues as she had hundreds of men before we met. Occasionally she'd say how big I was and she wasn't sure she could accommodate me, that she doesn't like big cocks, but always succeeded. I never believed her, always told myself she was sparing my feelings. Then we went to a sex club, guess what? I really wasn't small, I was average.

Now she's a hotwife and putting things in perspective (LOL) she was truthful as I've seen her refuse entry to guys that she considers too big (long).

Bottom line for me:
1 - I was average at 6"
2 - most guys are average at 6"
3 - even today at a shrunken state I'm almost average
4 - not all women like big dicks

One last thought and I know it sounds like the adage. She doesn't really talk about her sexual past (so much lost fuel) but she did tell me about one guy who'd fuck her on his boat in Sheepshead Bay (Brooklyn, NY) he was small, maybe 4" (she showed me spreading her fingers) but he'd get into the rocking of the boat and in a position that hit all her spots, so at what was maybe 4" she considered him one of her best partners.

PS We don't measure guys but I'm a pretty good judge of dimensional relationships. And I know sizes of things: I close my hand and spread open my pinky and thumb = 9" - I spread my fingers wide open pinky to index finger 6"

I'm not obsessed/or wanting the wife to have bigger , my wife says she doesn't like big cocks 8+ , we have been together 13 years and I've always been insecure about my size and always felt I'm not enough to satisfy her probably from watching porn etc but my wife has always told me I'm a perfect size and we have great sex ,like she preferred my size from past experiences etc and I eventually started to feel better about it and thinking I am normal and that I'm not big or small I'm average like alot of people , then since getting into wanting her to be a hotwife I started asking about her past (I wrote a post on here about it and spoke to you then about your wife best experience ) I see a post on Reddit about where would you rank in your wife's past due to size and it got me thinking so I asked her and was shocked when she wrote down how big she thought they all was I knew her first was her biggest but I thought that most was around the average size like me from the things she used to say but when I see the list I was second to last it just felt like everything she has ever said was to make me feel good about my size and not hurt me and it got me thinking is she only interested in the hotwife thing as she wants to experience what she did in her younger days as I never thought she would even think about wanting to be a hotwife but she seems really keen .

[cuckling]

Martyn how big are you?

[AlexWat]

As a psychologist with a fair working knowledge of anatomy, I want to say that 'yes, women care about size', or 'no they don't' is false dichotomy. As a broad generalisation, few women can climax without clitoral stimulation. In a small number of cases, other areas - such as the cervix or anus - can fulfil that need. However, the whole notion ignores the fact that some women (especially submissives) get enormous excitement from being filled and stretched by a large cock. That, plus the fact that a large cock, especially a thick one, can apply direct stimulation to the external regions of the clitoris (it isn't all concentrated in one little bud). To sum up, as DH Lawrence said, sex is in the head. It's the brain that provides the stimulus. For some women (perhaps the majority?) it's the emotional connection first, foreplay second, and clitoral stimulation third (the order of stimulation, that is).

One final observation, having counselled women for whom a extra marital affair, with or without the husband's approval, is an extremely exciting prospect, fantasy about any potential partner may focus on particular characteristics. Disappointingly, sex with a black partner seems t be a frequent fantasy; sex with a well-endowed male is also a frequent fantasy. The point being that satisfaction can often be related directly to the fantasy (as disappointment also can)

[AZStag]

Speaking for my wife who always insist I try to find her a guy who is hung she prefers bigger, I'm very well endowed at over 9" with good girth, she is very petite and very small frame, watching very hung guys fuck her is amazing, it sometimes scares her when she sees hugely hung guys for the first time but she never refuses, the first time she saw mine she sat open mouth and said, "what the fuck is that" lol.

9 inches? My wife has a thread for that

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[Martyn0888]

Martyn how big are you?

6 inches long and a fraction under 5 in girth so average in Google terms but I just never feel it's enough for some reason

[Tryagain]

Martyn,

Your cock size is definitely at least average, and probably a bit larger than average. It does seem surprising that you were second to last. But the important question is measured against how many?

You are not alone in suspecting your wife may have been minimizing the issue of your size. But she is probably not lying about your being very satisfying to her. After all she can be satisfied with you but that does not mean she was more satisfied with other guys.

This parallels my situation - never feeling large enough somehow compared to everything I see on porn, even in amateur porn. And my wife also in the beginning minimized her previous boyfriend's size only to tell me after we had swung a couple of times that he was actually much larger than me. She admitted to not wanting to hurt my feelings even though she did not have a good time with him for various reasons.

After swinging with hung guys and seeing her reactions to each of them, I began to think that perhaps my concern about my size was in part based on my unidentified suspicion that she was not enjoying sex as much as i thought she should. Can you relate to that? Perhaps I may have missed it but have you guys been engaged in 3 somes ?

[Martyn0888]

Martyn,

Your cock size is definitely at least average, and probably a bit larger than average. It does seem surprising that you were second to last. But the important question is measured against how many?

You are not alone in suspecting your wife may have been minimizing the issue of your size. But she is probably not lying about your being very satisfying to her. After all she can be satisfied with you but that does not mean she was more satisfied with other guys.

This parallels my situation - never feeling large enough somehow compared to everything I see on porn, even in amateur porn. And my wife also in the beginning minimized her previous boyfriend's size only to tell me after we had swung a couple of times that he was actually much larger than me. She admitted to not wanting to hurt my feelings even though she did not have a good time with him for various reasons.


After swinging with hung guys and seeing her reactions to each of them, I began to think that perhaps my concern about my size was in part based on my unidentified suspicion that she was not enjoying sex as much as i thought she should. Can you relate to that? Perhaps I may have missed it but have you guys been engaged in 3 somes ?

Yes as stats say I am on the lager side of average , I am joint second to last but it's out of 14 including me the biggest being 8and half and the smallest being 4 and half and 6 of them being over 7 but she's always talked as if nearly all was around my size until a couple of weeks ago the majority all had more girth than me aswel , when talking about her past there was a few she would mention more than others and basically say they was the best in bed out of the rest and they are both over 7 and more girthy than me .

I'm certain she says stuff to make me feel better and not hurt but I'd rather she just tell me how it is I'd rather know the truth . I know I have given her the best sex she has ever had and am the only person to give her an orgasm we have always had a good sex life but I've always felt I need that little bit more ( don't we all ) and as you say from watching porn and even being on the swinging sites and Reddit it's just full of men with larger dicks so it makes me more insecure about mine .

I can definitely relate to that .I definitely feel that she could enjoy sex more with someone else that's a bit bigger than me as stated she talks about a couple of guys that was 7 and thick I personally think she wants something like that again , I've brought penis extensions to make my girth bigger etc and she is always up for me using them and reacts well to them as well.

No we have not had any 3 somes yet it is something we have talked about to maybe do in the future but at the moment we are just looking at her going solo

[AZStag]

You guys are so insecure. I'm 5.5 inches and never had a complaint. Just read the stuff from the real, verified women here. Ignore the dudes saying "my wife needs huge." I've got a super sexy wife, a full time side girl and a long term chick I fuck a few times a year. And they keep coming back for this 5.5 inches. Its all about skills and personality my friends.

[XYAlpha]

My wife had a BF that was packing a very normal 5 inch tool. Not super girthy or anything of note.

He ROCKED her world! She LOVED fucking that guy.

She also at one time had a BF that was quite large - probably 8 inches and pretty girthy. She only saw him occasionally if it was the right time in her cycle. I hated it when she saw him because she was so sore for several days it limited our relations.

I would have answered no as that was not one of the reasons we started into the LS. It really didn't matter to either of us.

XY

[2inUPMichigan]

Its all about skills and personality my friends.

That right there says it all!!

[early-kink]

I'm not a HW hubby, but I've been on here a while now. My $.02 -

Listen to the ladies!!! Of all the girls I've been with in my life, no 2 were exactly the same. Some could orgasm with just p-in-v, others (most) needed some clitoral stimulation of some sort, some could go off by g-spot ........ others g-spot seemed not in the picture. Some women want you to "discover" their triggers on your own, others TELL you what they like. I really don't think size is the key to great sex. It's a connection, humor, comfort level. If those are good - she'll let you know - in one way or the other - what gets her going.

So best not to create your own "mold." Every lady is different. Romance her, make her laugh, give her massages, cook for her or take her out for dinner ......... and get to know her. Then any sexual talk or hints will be much easier & smoother. It's worked for me.

[AZStag]

Exactly.

[cuckling]

You guys are so insecure. I'm 5.5 inches and never had a complaint. Just read the stuff from the real, verified women here. Ignore the dudes saying "my wife needs huge." I've got a super sexy wife, a full time side girl and a long term chick I fuck a few times a year. And they keep coming back for this 5.5 inches. Its all about skills and personality my friends.

Yesterday I found the dumbest post on this blog, today this must be one of the brightest posts on this blog! WE ARE ALL FOOLED BY PORN! You guys really think those porn actors would have a chance with your wives? Apart from a big dick they are mostly ugly mtf’s.. Size is more important to men than to women, that’s a FACT

[XYAlpha]

Women that say size doesn’t matter are lying. The husband’s small penis is the number one reason a wife looks outside the marriage. If you fall into that category ask your wife whether you are satisfying her and when she tells you no - offer to bring another man into play. You will be surprised how receptive she is. Seeing her satisfaction from a well endowed man (who yes must also know how to use it) will become more satisfying for you then watching her stare at the ceiling while you use your wife’s pussy to make yourself cum. That is RIGHT you are using your wife if you aren’t giving her orgasms with your penis when you are climaxing (eating her out before intercourse doesn’t cut it). Let her have real sex - it will make you both happy and the best sex ever will be that rare opportunity when they let you have sloppy seconds. If you aren’t bringing 8 or more with girth you aren’t able to satisfy your wife. People should be more honest about this especially here where cuks like us are understood and accepted. Until a more complex and legitimate penis enlargement procedure becomes available men under 8 should expect to have to introduce a man into their marriage or end up in divorce court after an affair results in her emotional attachment to a real man. Please don’t let that happen to you. Talk to her about it today - for those 8 and under she has given the thought of another with your blessing more thought than you think. You can save your marriage.

I'll agree with the others who have responded to your silly view.

REAL women who have seen, and more importantly, have been on the receiving end of a variety of cocks - have spoken with real life experience.

I consider them subject matter experts - you should also!

XY

[0nerina0]

I am surprised by the results, really expecting a big gap between the results.
Maybe I'm cautious still about being slut shamed for loving big ones.
Or
Maybe some answered No to avoid the size queen tag.

[jagman1957]

No.

Size is nothing.

I am on the "handsome" side, or so I have been told. I am smart. I have a good sense of humor. I am a great kisser. My penis is just under 4 inches long when hard. The end op my dick fits inside of a toilet paper tube, but the base doesn't. My wife says my dick is useless. Interested?

[Tryagain]

As a bull, I’m not sure it matters that much to women. I’m sure it does some. I’m 6.5 inches and have had some incredible experiences with my HW’s.

May I ask how thick is your penis?

[Tryagain]

Isn't this all as simple as acknowledging - as said here many times before - that all women are not alike. Some are built in such a way that their primary satisfaction comes from the extra visual, tactile and vaginal stimulation provided by a big penis. As AZ Vixon said " size is nothing." She left out the phrase " TO ME".

[Yourfirstbull]

Obviously every experience is unique BUT every hubby of a hotwife that I’ve been with, every one, has asked me my size. Not one wife ever has.

[isinlarsa]

I suspect men fantasize about their wives being fucked by a big cock more than woman desire to. I must admit that I do. I find it hot to imagine watching a really big cock penetrating into my wife.

[Fox]

I wish I could get my wife to come on here and get verified. She just has so much going on with work, kids, etc. now hotwifing. Just not enough time in the day. Anyway, before we had our first experience a few months ago, I was the biggest she’d ever had at 6”. She’s now had 3 bigger than me. She won’t admit it openly cuz she’s afraid of hurting my feelings but when I press her she admits they 2 of the bigger cocks do things to her I cannot. It doesn’t hurt my feelings. It also doesn’t turn me on cuz if the humiliation aspect. It turns me on cuz I love watching the ecstasy on her face and the sounds she makes when they’re fucking her. However she does swear that sex feels overall better with me because of our emotional connection and I know her body so well that I know how to make her feel good.

[Tryagain]

Obviously every experience is unique BUT every hubby of a hotwife that I’ve been with, every one, has asked me my size. Not one wife ever has.

Well...they did not have to ask you since their husband already did ! :-)

[BBCfan]

As a psychologist with a fair working knowledge of anatomy, I want to say that 'yes, women care about size', or 'no they don't' is false dichotomy. As a broad generalisation, few women can climax without clitoral stimulation. In a small number of cases, other areas - such as the cervix or anus - can fulfil that need. However, the whole notion ignores the fact that some women (especially submissives) get enormous excitement from being filled and stretched by a large cock. That, plus the fact that a large cock, especially a thick one, can apply direct stimulation to the external regions of the clitoris (it isn't all concentrated in one little bud). To sum up, as DH Lawrence said, sex is in the head. It's the brain that provides the stimulus. For some women (perhaps the majority?) it's the emotional connection first, foreplay second, and clitoral stimulation third (the order of stimulation, that is).

One final observation, having counselled women for whom a extra marital affair, with or without the husband's approval, is an extremely exciting prospect, fantasy about any potential partner may focus on particular characteristics. Disappointingly, sex with a black partner seems t be a frequent fantasy; sex with a well-endowed male is also a frequent fantasy. The point being that satisfaction can often be related directly to the fantasy (as disappointment also can)

Why is it disappointing to you that sex with a black man is a common fantasy among wives??

[BBCfan]

Obviously the verified hotwives are right...we guys make way more about cock size then they do...I know my wife would give at least 4-5 attributes more important if she decided to become a hotwife...

but she also has refused to fuck a guy because he was so small it seemed pointless, yet never refused a guy for being too big. I think a big dick would be icing on the cake but if you were a trained masseuse for sure you'd be more alluring than just a massive dick. yet if you were a trained masseuse with a massive dick, you'd be above the masseuse with the average dick so it matters for some women but likely not the reason to choose the lifestyle.