What’s off limits for you in cuckolding?

[NSEW1]

Which of the following would you not allow or want in your cuckolding relationship? What are your hard limits?

[Rhino444]

A few things on that list. Definitely not into sissy stuff, nor would I ever fund dates. I still need to be able to kiss my wife and see her naked. And I find the idea of calling another dude sir or master just because he's fucking my wife ridiculous.

I'm down with just about anything else though.

[knight4princess]

Interesting responses so far. I checked as "off limits" everything starting with "being verbally abused or degraded" and ending with "chastity for weeks or months" -- with the exception of the chores. I'll be glad to run drinks and grab fuck towels for them. I wouldn't be down for mowing the lawn while they fuck or washing his car though. For the most part I'm good with the other items.

[iloanmywife]

My only hard limit is funding their lifestyle. If another guy wants to take my wife to dinner or on a vacation, I’m not writing a check. I also get nothing out of the “sir” or “master” stuff. Feels artificial. I’m not really into spanking/paddling but my wife very much is, so I’ve sometimes been side-by-side with her and taking a belt along with her. It turns her on immensely but just makes my ass hurt.

And I don’t see “chores” as sexy play. I already have a to-do list a mile long, and I actually have done chores while my wife was getting laid. It just didn’t feel like it had anything to do with sex. The way I see it, if a guy is fucking my wife several times a month he could at least help me clean the garage once on a while.

[NSEW1]

Not surprising that “nothing off limits” gets only 3% of votes, underscoring that nearly everyone has limits.

Also interesting that while some limits are more common than others, there is a broad diversity. What works for some is objectionable to others. I expected more pronounced winners and losers.

[desertsub]

I'm pretty deep into being cuckolded and submitting to both of them. The only one I checked was "Funding their lifestyle". If he wants to take my wife out to dinner or to a hotel he can pay for it! I HAVE paid for his drinks at the bar though because my wife told me to.

[veub]

From reading on here, the correct answer to what you will do is "whatever she wants me to do." The alternative is her leaving you.

[Rhino444]

Ah yes, I neglected to mention chores. I could maybe see the humiliation in something like serving drinks if that counts as a chore, but if you think I'm going to wash your car while you fuck my wife, keep dreaming.

[tosaintsfan]

I submit to many things on the list but will never call a boyfriend/bull sir or master, and never submit to any physical abuse. I also checked will not be ssified, but I will wear panties if requested, so I am not sure if i am sending mixed messages here. I have never been in a position where i was expected to pay everything so i didn't specifically check this, although i would likely rebel against that also.

I have never been outed to my family or friends but Marla has talked about me being a cuckold to several of her friends. Not sure the word cuckold was used but it was clear she fucked other guys with my knowledge. She even told one friend that I cleaned up a cream pie. I dont mind , in fact it turns me on, when she talks about me encouraging her to have boyfriends but the cream pie confession took it too far from my view. Perhaps if was part of a sex talk that evolved into that subject it would have been fine, but it came out of left field in a general what's new type of conversation.

TO

[canadianwittol]

I must laugh a little at the list because while there are many things on it I can tell you today I would never do, I can also see four items which ten years ago I would have told you that I would never do, but which over time I have found myself doing. The bigger surprise is that the ones I would have expected to be most difficult to overcome weren't anywhere near as bad as my fears worried they could be.

Of course I still have limits and nothing turns on/off like a light switch. But limits are, I think, much more fluid than we realize and not *always* in your total control unless perhaps you're willing to stake out a completely selfish position.

As we've become accustomed to saying, our cuckold lifestyle is always "a work in progress".

[tosaintsfan]

I must laugh a little at the list because while there are many things on it I can tell you today I would never do, I can also see four items which ten years ago I would have told you that I would never do, but which over time I have found myself doing. The bigger surprise is that the ones I would have expected to be most difficult to overcome weren't anywhere near as bad as my fears worried they could be.

Of course I still have limits and nothing turns on/off like a light switch. But limits are, I think, much more fluid than we realize and not *always* in your total control unless perhaps you're willing to stake out a completely selfish position.

As we've become accustomed to saying, our cuckold lifestyle is always "a work in progress".

Agree completely. I know that I have evolved in this lifestyle. When I started I never wanted anything to do with humiliation, but I am turned on with mild humiliation now, but I know I could never submit to worshipping a boyfriend (calling him sir) or physically submit to another male. There are some lines that my ego would not allow me to cross.

TO

[NSEW1]

I must laugh a little at the list because while there are many things on it I can tell you today I would never do, I can also see four items which ten years ago I would have told you that I would never do, but which over time I have found myself doing. The bigger surprise is that the ones I would have expected to be most difficult to overcome weren't anywhere near as bad as my fears worried they could be.

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As we've become accustomed to saying, our cuckold lifestyle is always "a work in progress".

Very true... things are fluid. What are some examples of things you might have rejected initially but have come around to?

[Smallcock74]

Ah yes, I neglected to mention chores. I could maybe see the humiliation in something like serving drinks if that counts as a chore, but if you think I'm going to wash your car while you fuck my wife, keep dreaming.

I enjoy the voyeurism part more than anything else, so if I was off doing chores there would be no point to it for me.

[sudhir2701]

As the other guy in a marriage, I find a lot of things weird and crazy because, the whole idea of this lifestyle is for the benefit of the marriage and humiliation should be between the wife and husband. I do not find any sort of sexual high in most of the activities listed.

[Long Lurker 34]

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As the other guy in a marriage, I find a lot of things weird and crazy because, the whole idea of this lifestyle is for the benefit of the marriage and humiliation should be between the wife and husband. I do not find any sort of sexual high in most of the activities listed.
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SH# - Would you be open to relating how you came to be "the other guy", perhaps in a thread of your own?

[isinlarsa]

I see that I am good with the things most husbands are good with, and reject most things other husbands do. It hasn't happened, but I surprised myself in being okay with being outed to friends and family, and having my wife change for her stud (I hate the term "bull'). Actually, I have been outed to her best friend and her brother, but no one else.

[ucaneffher]

I selected a couple of options as you can see. Originally a stag but was turned on by some of the cuckold elements so I mostly identify as a cuck but don't agree with or like a lot of the things that cucks do. My thing is, take my girl, bang her, date her if you want but you respect the two of us.


Having to lick / eat her cream pie
To my knowledge, never tried this and never care to intentionally try it. Likely would have to occur without my knowledge.

Having to fluff or suck the bull
I don't do male on male contact


Having to dress like a sissy
I simply like to share my woman, there's no reason for me to dress like a sissy. I'm a damn man.

Being verbally abused or degraded
I'm giving her freedom, in exchange I expect respect. As for him, he'd end up with a black eye or two if he ever disrespected me, my partner, or ever tried to degrade me.


Being physically punished (e.g. paddled, flogged, whipped)
Doesn't quite float my boat. Plus, I've done nothing to deserve any of those lol

Not being allowed to kiss your wife or see her naked
I may give up her pussy for short or extended periods but I'm not giving anything else up.

Having to call the bull master or sir
Oh hellllllll no, I've had clowns ("bulls") in PMs telling me to call them "sir" lmao, bro get the fuck out of here, you'll be called bro and dude and that's as much as her lovers/fwbs/boyfriends get. Their name, a bro, or a dude. My partner isn't a cow for these clowns to be called bulls.

Being made to do their chores
I don't take orders. I will do chores at my own accord and as I see need for them.

Having to fund their lifestyle

The most funding I do is buying her sexy outfits to go out, the gas in my vehicle to drop her off and pick her up. If another man wants to play, then he better man the fuck up and pay to play.


Having your penis locked in chastity for weeks or months
Nope. Not happening. I'm not that type of cuck.

[atl0707]

My only hard limit is funding their lifestyle. If another guy wants to take my wife to dinner or on a vacation, I’m not writing a check. I also get nothing out of the “sir” or “master” stuff. Feels artificial. I’m not really into spanking/paddling but my wife very much is, so I’ve sometimes been side-by-side with her and taking a belt along with her. It turns her on immensely but just makes my ass hurt.

And I don’t see “chores” as sexy play. I already have a to-do list a mile long, and I actually have done chores while my wife was getting laid. It just didn’t feel like it had anything to do with sex. The way I see it, if a guy is fucking my wife several times a month he could at least help me clean the garage once on a while.

For me, running errands for our bull, mowing his lawn and doing his laundry for him while he’s with my wife make me feel more submissive, which I crave. He’s not lucky he gets to be with my wife; he deserves to be with her more than I do since he pleases her so much. The more things I do for him, the happier he is with our situation, and the more he wants to see my wife.

[Mike_B]

I thought one would be a hard no but once Shirley and her bf got me into panties and sucking cock I was hooked ! Why? Good question!!!

[Mike_B]

I thought one would be a hard no but once Shirley and her bf got me into panties and sucking cock I was hooked ! Why? Good question!!!

[Thebestdays1]

Although we never discussed limits, there were a few things on the list that I'd never do:

Dress like a cissy.
Be verbally abused.
Be physically punished.
Not being allowed to kiss my wife or see her naked.
Call him sir.
Do their chores.
Wear any sort of chastity device.

There's one other thing I wouldn't do that's not on the list; I'd never have any sort of anal contact with another man.

There are a few things on the list that I never imagined I'd do, but did.

Eat a creampie.
Fluff and suck another man.
Initially, I didn't think I'd like anyone to know, but I ended up enjoying her family knowing we had an open marriage.
Paying for her and one particular boyfriend to go to a restaurant where one of their ex colleagues worked and even paid for them to spend the night in the hotel, just because I knew their friend would know they were sleeping together.
Although I would never willingly agree to being denied sex with my wife, in the last 6-8 years of our marriage she would hardly ever have sex with me or go down on me when she was between boyfriends. That could be between 4-15 months, although she'd encourage me to go with a colleague of hers or her older sister and later on, her younger sister too.

[atl0707]

My limit is my wife getting on a guy behind my back and only casually telling me later. The humiliation is intense, but the point is for us both to enjoy what’s going on in real time.