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Unread post by Farmgirl » Tue Feb 02, 2021 3:46 pm

punk_8081 wrote:
Mon Feb 01, 2021 11:28 pm
Hi there, my name is Arthur

I ask for the support of the ladies of this forum, to answer a question

My wife and I decided to break the rules and began to experiment
her sexuality as a hotwife, of course with my consent.
But for what reason may she be jealous that the possibility exists
that I also experience my sexuality with other women, I am very attracted to the wives of
others mens,is that my wife share her husband (that is, me) with other hotwifes?


What is the first thing that comes to mind?

1.- Is she an insecure person (can there be an insecure hotwife?).

2.- Selfishness

3.- fear of comparisons


She tells me that she can't stand the idea that I'm with another woman, I propose that
Let's find a couple like us and let's go little by little.

but she always answers with no.

thanks for your answers
"What is the first thing that comes to mind?", The first thing that comes to my mind is that you are being selfish. You know that she has objections, and you want to apply labels to her.
This isn't, and should not be looked at as, a tit-for-tat. Some wives don't want to share their husbands just as some men don't want to share their wives.
"She tells me that she can't stand the idea that I'm with another woman". If she can't stand the idea, why would you want to label your wife as "selfish", "fearing comparisons", or "insecure"?
Are you willing to enjoy having a hotwife if it means you can't also play? It sounds like you're more interested in playing yourself than in what she is comfortable with.

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Unread post by punk_8081 » Tue Feb 02, 2021 5:58 pm

Farmgirl wrote:
Tue Feb 02, 2021 3:46 pm
punk_8081 wrote:
Mon Feb 01, 2021 11:28 pm
Hi there, my name is Arthur

I ask for the support of the ladies of this forum, to answer a question

My wife and I decided to break the rules and began to experiment
her sexuality as a hotwife, of course with my consent.
But for what reason may she be jealous that the possibility exists
that I also experience my sexuality with other women, I am very attracted to the wives of
others mens,is that my wife share her husband (that is, me) with other hotwifes?


What is the first thing that comes to mind?

1.- Is she an insecure person (can there be an insecure hotwife?).

2.- Selfishness

3.- fear of comparisons


She tells me that she can't stand the idea that I'm with another woman, I propose that
Let's find a couple like us and let's go little by little.

but she always answers with no.

thanks for your answers
"What is the first thing that comes to mind?", The first thing that comes to my mind is that you are being selfish. You know that she has objections, and you want to apply labels to her.
This isn't, and should not be looked at as, a tit-for-tat. Some wives don't want to share their husbands just as some men don't want to share their wives.
"She tells me that she can't stand the idea that I'm with another woman". If she can't stand the idea, why would you want to label your wife as "selfish", "fearing comparisons", or "insecure"?
Are you willing to enjoy having a hotwife if it means you can't also play? It sounds like you're more interested in playing yourself than in what she is comfortable with.
Thanks for your answer, probably our relationship should change and my wife stops being a hotwife, before creating resentments in our relationship, which is the most important thing, I think we are all human, we are sometimes wrong, with curiosity to experiment, and we are changing constantly, I don't think I'm the only one this happened to, I'm probably not the same one who wanted to have only hotwife at home.

thank you very much

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Tue Feb 02, 2021 6:24 pm

punk_8081 wrote:
Mon Feb 01, 2021 11:28 pm
Hi there, my name is Arthur

I ask for the support of the ladies of this forum, to answer a question

My wife and I decided to break the rules and began to experiment
her sexuality as a hotwife, of course with my consent.
But for what reason may she be jealous that the possibility exists
that I also experience my sexuality with other women, I am very attracted to the wives of
others mens,is that my wife share her husband (that is, me) with other hotwifes?


What is the first thing that comes to mind?

1.- Is she an insecure person (can there be an insecure hotwife?).

2.- Selfishness

3.- fear of comparisons


She tells me that she can't stand the idea that I'm with another woman, I propose that
Let's find a couple like us and let's go little by little.

but she always answers with no.

thanks for your answers
You are ignoring the fact that you may be turned on by the idea of her having sex with someone else but she obviously is not based on her response.

It is not selfish to be turned off by something. It is quite common for married couples to not share the same kinks or turn ons.

Unfortunately some men have attempted to use hotwifing as a way to eventually get the opportunity to get what they really want which is to have sex with other women. This isn't very honest because in some cases if they had been honest about what they wanted in the first place (given their wife the full picture) she might not have taken that big step to becoming a hotwife.

Bait and switch is not cool!

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Unread post by A300 » Thu Feb 04, 2021 1:10 am

After more than a decade of discussion, our HW fantasy became a reality. Everything was great (almost too great), so we changed plans and it turned into a 4 day thing. By the end of day 3, my wife was exhausted (and sore), and somewhat cooled off. Later that final night, the guy was sexting with another girl and began distancing from my wife before his flight home. It’s been several days and she really hasn’t talked to him much and she now feels used, dirty, depressed (whatever you want to call it). I suppose this is why an ex is a poor choice in this scenario. For her, the first 3 days were almost magical and intense, but once the physical side simmered down, it seems to have opened old wounds. I don’t want my wife to feel insecure or uncomfortable about herself but not sure what to do, as this is new territory (now she wonders if he dressed poorly during the trip, turned into an asshole and is distancing because she wasn’t good enough and so-on). Looking back, for our first time, this was obviously the wrong partner and we should’ve left it as a 1 night thing... I’m guessing this isn’t exactly uncommon? Everything seemed so great until winding down. My wife was mostly concerned that I’d take issue with it (which certainly wasn’t the case, I enjoyed watching, participating and sharing!). And my wife wasn’t experiencing any issues at the time but seemingly feels rejected after the fact. In conclusion, I suppose this ending made it a bad experience... any tips to help her cope? I’m just not sure how to sympathize and make her feel like the strong, sexually empowered woman she is. She really is amazing!

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Unread post by Wisher » Fri Feb 05, 2021 9:45 am

A question about a story in the Library. While I'm sure the basic premise is more fantasy and probably distasteful to many, there is one scene I'm curious about.

In it, a young lady is placed on a padded sawhorse and taken by a large appendage, first at one end, then the other. This done as a show in front of others. It's far, far too forceful for me, but she makes it clear the next day that she was OK with it.

The question: For those into bondage, BDSM, exhibition, reluctance, etc., does that (being restrained and forcefully taken in front of others) appeal to you on any level?
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:40 pm

Wisher wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 9:45 am
A question about a story in the Library. While I'm sure the basic premise is more fantasy and probably distasteful to many, there is one scene I'm curious about.

In it, a young lady is placed on a padded sawhorse and taken by a large appendage, first at one end, then the other. This done as a show in front of others. It's far, far too forceful for me, but she makes it clear the next day that she was OK with it.

The question: For those into bondage, BDSM, exhibition, reluctance, etc., does that (being restrained and forcefully taken in front of others) appeal to you on any level?
Do you happen to know the title of it?
It really depends on the tone of the story and how the people in the story are interacting.
I couldn't give an honest response without knowing what story you are referring to and honestly I don't spend much time in the library section.

FYI - I am into bondage and BDSM but not exhibitionism or CNC (consensual non consent)

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Unread post by Deepthi » Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:58 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:40 pm

FYI - I am into bondage and BDSM but not exhibitionism or CNC (consensual non consent)
My soon to be wife is seeing her bull for her third time with him tonight.

He seems to be heavily into spanking. Although, he has only spanked her lightly so far. What is the appeal in it? I think he is a dom and he has tied her up already. He wanted to bring in some "toolbox" but we told him we are not ready for it yet.
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Unread post by Wisher » Fri Feb 05, 2021 3:34 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:40 pm
Do you happen to know the title of it?
It really depends on the tone of the story and how the people in the story are interacting.
I couldn't give an honest response without knowing what story you are referring to and honestly I don't spend much time in the library section.

FYI - I am into bondage and BDSM but not exhibitionism or CNC (consensual non consent)
OK, since you asked, this is the post that lays out the scene: viewtopic.php?p=1167124#p1167124

Like I said, it's too forceful/aggressive for me, but the basic concept has some appeal.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Feb 05, 2021 5:36 pm

Deepthi wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:58 pm
2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:40 pm

FYI - I am into bondage and BDSM but not exhibitionism or CNC (consensual non consent)
My soon to be wife is seeing her bull for her third time with him tonight.

He seems to be heavily into spanking. Although, he has only spanked her lightly so far. What is the appeal in it? I think he is a dom and he has tied her up already. He wanted to bring in some "toolbox" but we told him we are not ready for it yet.
Spanking can be very erotic 😈👍 There are a lot if nerve endings that can be "lit up" from a spanking. I would ask him what is in his play bag - what kind of impact toys he has. If she is a newbie a flogger is a more sensual type of impact toy - more erotic than painful.
If he starts pulling out whips she should tell him she isn't ready for something like that 😳 as they can be more intense (yikes)


3rd time and he has already tied her up? How well does she know him and how does she know she can trust him?
Personally I wouldn't let a man restrain me unless I knew him very well and I am into bondage. You are incredibly vulnerable while restrained and if you don't know that person very well then anything could happen! Safety should always be a priority.

Exploring is good as long as you are safe. Have fun!

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Unread post by MommysBullyboy20+ » Fri Feb 05, 2021 9:52 pm

Alright I'm 23 y.o. single male, and I am new here. Just signed up two days ago and this is my first post that I already posted in Fetish Forum with not luck. So would like to hear from a Hotwife.

I've known about hotwife/cuckoldery for a while. What I am about to say might be taboo and might not be for everyone, but would like hear your thoughts.

I've had this roleplay fantasy where I'm the "Mommy's boy" who seduces "Mom" in front of "dad" and show him how it's done.
"dad" would be shocked, disgusted, angry and in denial at first. But there is nothing he can do to stop us.

Of Course, the fantasy does not involve my actual parents. Its just a roleplay fantasy.

The ideal "Mommy" in my mind would be in her late 30s / early 40s, tall, with a thick curvaceous figure.

I know its super taboo, but it's something that's been eating at me for the past two years and I can't seem to shake it.

What are your thoughts? Has anyone else here either fantasized about a similar scenario, or played out a similar fantasy where you are playing the role of "Mommy" who is getting frisky with her "son" in front of his "dad"?

And how did you feel about yourself after you played it out? Any lingering feelings of guilt or shame? or did you enjoy it and repeat it? :twisted:
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Unread post by Deepthi » Sat Feb 06, 2021 10:52 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 5:36 pm
Deepthi wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:58 pm
2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:40 pm

FYI - I am into bondage and BDSM but not exhibitionism or CNC (consensual non consent)
My soon to be wife is seeing her bull for her third time with him tonight.

He seems to be heavily into spanking. Although, he has only spanked her lightly so far. What is the appeal in it? I think he is a dom and he has tied her up already. He wanted to bring in some "toolbox" but we told him we are not ready for it yet.
Spanking can be very erotic 😈👍 There are a lot if nerve endings that can be "lit up" from a spanking. I would ask him what is in his play bag - what kind of impact toys he has. If she is a newbie a flogger is a more sensual type of impact toy - more erotic than painful.
If he starts pulling out whips she should tell him she isn't ready for something like that 😳 as they can be more intense (yikes)


3rd time and he has already tied her up? How well does she know him and how does she know she can trust him?
Personally I wouldn't let a man restrain me unless I knew him very well and I am into bondage. You are incredibly vulnerable while restrained and if you don't know that person very well then anything could happen! Safety should always be a priority.

Exploring is good as long as you are safe. Have fun!
She has been tied up before, so it was something that he wanted to try as the first thing of dominating her. She agreed.

I think he wants to flog her. It's safe because they meet only in our house.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sat Feb 06, 2021 11:54 am

MommysBullyboy20+ wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 9:52 pm
Alright I'm 23 y.o. single male, and I am new here. Just signed up two days ago and this is my first post that I already posted in Fetish Forum with not luck. So would like to hear from a Hotwife.

I've known about hotwife/cuckoldery for a while. What I am about to say might be taboo and might not be for everyone, but would like hear your thoughts.

I've had this roleplay fantasy where I'm the "Mommy's boy" who seduces "Mom" in front of "dad" and show him how it's done.
"dad" would be shocked, disgusted, angry and in denial at first. But there is nothing he can do to stop us.

Of Course, the fantasy does not involve my actual parents. Its just a roleplay fantasy.

The ideal "Mommy" in my mind would be in her late 30s / early 40s, tall, with a thick curvaceous figure.

I know its super taboo, but it's something that's been eating at me for the past two years and I can't seem to shake it.

What are your thoughts? Has anyone else here either fantasized about a similar scenario, or played out a similar fantasy where you are playing the role of "Mommy" who is getting frisky with her "son" in front of his "dad"?

And how did you feel about yourself after you played it out? Any lingering feelings of guilt or shame? or did you enjoy it and repeat it? :twisted:
Are you a "Little"? Do you know what that means? Are you a little boy in this scenario?
Or do you see yourself as a cocky teenager or younger man who can attract a woman away from her husband?
These are much different scenarios!!

There is a kink MDLB (Mommy Dom Little Boy) that addresses this in part that you might want to explore.
Is this the kind of info you were looking for?

If however you are referring to the fact that a lot of younger men are attracted to older women. Not a shock anymore 😂 (it was at first!) You have to understand however that as the single man you aren't going to be directing the action in most situations.

The best thing to do is to find a couple that has the same interests and work within their boundaries.

Hopefully that answered your questions 😁👍

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sun Feb 07, 2021 10:01 am

Wisher wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 3:34 pm
2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Feb 05, 2021 2:40 pm
Do you happen to know the title of it?
It really depends on the tone of the story and how the people in the story are interacting.
I couldn't give an honest response without knowing what story you are referring to and honestly I don't spend much time in the library section.

FYI - I am into bondage and BDSM but not exhibitionism or CNC (consensual non consent)
OK, since you asked, this is the post that lays out the scene: viewtopic.php?p=1167124#p1167124

Like I said, it's too forceful/aggressive for me, but the basic concept has some appeal.
Sorry for the delay- I typed up a reply 3 times and it got wiped out 🤦‍♀️

It made me uncomfortable because I couldn't tell if she had consented to what was going to happen. No safe word discussion or alternate way of communication in case she needed to stop things.

To me words like "assault, fear and terror" describe an unwelcome attack, not a consensual encounter.

FYI - I am an erotic author and also consider myself a Switch. I would never allow myself to remain in any situation where I felt fear or terror. I would fight like hell to get out of it!

Maybe there was an explanation before that post that I missed? But based on that one post it's definitely not something I would be involved in.

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Unread post by Wisher » Sun Feb 07, 2021 10:16 am

^^ It's a fictional story/fantasy I'm pretty sure and a lot of the nuances are missing. You'd have to read back a few posts to see if the prior consent you're looking for is there. To me, the story as a whole indicates consent of the characters being in the situations at all, even if a bit reluctant. Some of that is kind of hard to convey in written word without stating it outright.

I'm just more asking about the scene itself, assuming full prior consent.

It's arousing, but off-putting at the same time.
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Unread post by marriedman50 » Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:56 am

Do you have to be multi-orgasmic to be a hotwife? My wife can rarely come more than once, and gets hypersensitive after her orgasm so doesn't enjoy any further stimulation; on the rare occasions that we have sex several times a day it is always several hours in between. Are there any hotwives who are like her? I've brought up the subject to her and suggested that she could have sex with other men, ideally I'd love to watch her with another man and take turns (though I'd be totally fine with just watching), but given that she can't have multiple orgasms (at least not with me) the HW lifestyle might not be as attractive to her as those who can't get enough.. Are there any hotwives like my wife out there? Would love to hear your thoughts.

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Unread post by Farmgirl » Mon Feb 08, 2021 11:08 am

marriedman50 wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:56 am
Do you have to be multi-orgasmic to be a hotwife? My wife can rarely come more than once, and gets hypersensitive after her orgasm so doesn't enjoy any further stimulation; on the rare occasions that we have sex several times a day it is always several hours in between. Are there any hotwives who are like her? I've brought up the subject to her and suggested that she could have sex with other men, ideally I'd love to watch her with another man and take turns (though I'd be totally fine with just watching), but given that she can't have multiple orgasms (at least not with me) the HW lifestyle might not be as attractive to her as those who can't get enough.. Are there any hotwives like my wife out there? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Hotwives come in all flavors and types ;).
I'm not multi-orgasmic. When it comes to orgasms, I'm a one and done girl. There is soooo much to do before ever getting to an orgasm, so don't worry about just having one.
Why would you think that a woman needs to be multi-orgasmic to be a Hotwife?

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Unread post by Deepthi » Mon Feb 08, 2021 4:36 pm

Would you be furious if your husband secretly followed you and the bull? Not that because he doesn't trust you to tell everything, but he wants to see how his wife enjoys another man when she knows no one is watching her.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:15 pm

Deepthi wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 4:36 pm
Would you be furious if your husband secretly followed you and the bull? Not that because he doesn't trust you to tell everything, but he wants to see how his wife enjoys another man when she knows no one is watching her.
If he wants to watch that should be something they discuss and agree on.
It doesn't matter what reason is given to justify spying. It is a breach of trust and an invasion of privacy.

It would be a huge breach of trust and very hurtful. I would be more devastated than furious.

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"When she knows no one is watching her" - Think about what you are saying here!

I would be devastated to find out that my husband thought his fantasy was more important than any agreement that we had. To find out it was more important for him to watch me responding to another man when I didn't know he was there...
he would go so far as to ignore our agreements to get what he wanted. (That's bad!!)

If I couldn't trust him with this, what else couldn't I trust him about?

Manipulating the situation to get what you want is never a good idea.

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Unread post by Deepthi » Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:17 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:15 pm
Deepthi wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 4:36 pm
Would you be furious if your husband secretly followed you and the bull? Not that because he doesn't trust you to tell everything, but he wants to see how his wife enjoys another man when she knows no one is watching her.
If he wants to watch that should be something they discuss and agree on.
It doesn't matter what reason is given to justify spying. It is a breach of trust and an invasion of privacy.

It would be a huge breach of trust and very hurtful. I would be more devastated than furious.

*****

"When she knows no one is watching her" - Think about what you are saying here!

I would be devastated to find out that my husband thought his fantasy was more important than any agreement that we had. To find out it was more important for him to watch me responding to another man when I didn't know he was there...
he would go so far as to ignore our agreements to get what he wanted. (That's bad!!)

If I couldn't trust him with this, what else couldn't I trust him about?

Manipulating the situation to get what you want is never a good idea.

What I meant to ask was about her public dates with her bull. Not spying their sexy time but in public.
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Unread post by Farmgirl » Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:26 pm

Deepthi wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:17 pm
2inUPMichigan wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:15 pm
Deepthi wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 4:36 pm
Would you be furious if your husband secretly followed you and the bull? Not that because he doesn't trust you to tell everything, but he wants to see how his wife enjoys another man when she knows no one is watching her.
If he wants to watch that should be something they discuss and agree on.
It doesn't matter what reason is given to justify spying. It is a breach of trust and an invasion of privacy.

It would be a huge breach of trust and very hurtful. I would be more devastated than furious.

*****

"When she knows no one is watching her" - Think about what you are saying here!

I would be devastated to find out that my husband thought his fantasy was more important than any agreement that we had. To find out it was more important for him to watch me responding to another man when I didn't know he was there...
he would go so far as to ignore our agreements to get what he wanted. (That's bad!!)

If I couldn't trust him with this, what else couldn't I trust him about?

Manipulating the situation to get what you want is never a good idea.

What I meant to ask was about her public dates with her bull. Not spying their sexy time but in public.

I don't public date other men, I date my husband. But, if my husband was following me and spying on me, it would be a huge breach of trust. Just as he would see it as a breach of trust if I was following him.

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Unread post by marriedman50 » Thu Feb 11, 2021 3:46 am

Farmgirl wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 11:08 am
marriedman50 wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:56 am
Do you have to be multi-orgasmic to be a hotwife? My wife can rarely come more than once, and gets hypersensitive after her orgasm so doesn't enjoy any further stimulation; on the rare occasions that we have sex several times a day it is always several hours in between. Are there any hotwives who are like her? I've brought up the subject to her and suggested that she could have sex with other men, ideally I'd love to watch her with another man and take turns (though I'd be totally fine with just watching), but given that she can't have multiple orgasms (at least not with me) the HW lifestyle might not be as attractive to her as those who can't get enough.. Are there any hotwives like my wife out there? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Hotwives come in all flavors and types ;).
I'm not multi-orgasmic. When it comes to orgasms, I'm a one and done girl. There is soooo much to do before ever getting to an orgasm, so don't worry about just having one.
Why would you think that a woman needs to be multi-orgasmic to be a Hotwife?
Great to hear that not all hotwives are multi-orgasmic, especially when it comes from an authority like yourself! I understand that if you play solo with your lover then it doesn't matter whether you can come several times or not during a meet, but I guess what I was thinking of was the reclaim sex (or if the hubby wants to join in)- I would very much love to experience that with my wife after she has come with her lover, but I suspect that she wouldn't be in the mood for sex quite some time afterwards, given she usually feels worn out (even with lots of lube). Obviously I'd be happy to wait but just curious how other women deal with this, if at all - do you just wait to have reclaim sex, or is that not something you enjoy? Perhaps this is more of an issue for swingers than hotwives, but I would imagine there's some overlap?

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by Farmgirl » Thu Feb 11, 2021 11:38 am

marriedman50 wrote:
Thu Feb 11, 2021 3:46 am
Farmgirl wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 11:08 am
marriedman50 wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:56 am
Do you have to be multi-orgasmic to be a hotwife? My wife can rarely come more than once, and gets hypersensitive after her orgasm so doesn't enjoy any further stimulation; on the rare occasions that we have sex several times a day it is always several hours in between. Are there any hotwives who are like her? I've brought up the subject to her and suggested that she could have sex with other men, ideally I'd love to watch her with another man and take turns (though I'd be totally fine with just watching), but given that she can't have multiple orgasms (at least not with me) the HW lifestyle might not be as attractive to her as those who can't get enough.. Are there any hotwives like my wife out there? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Hotwives come in all flavors and types ;).
I'm not multi-orgasmic. When it comes to orgasms, I'm a one and done girl. There is soooo much to do before ever getting to an orgasm, so don't worry about just having one.
Why would you think that a woman needs to be multi-orgasmic to be a Hotwife?
Great to hear that not all hotwives are multi-orgasmic, especially when it comes from an authority like yourself! I understand that if you play solo with your lover then it doesn't matter whether you can come several times or not during a meet, but I guess what I was thinking of was the reclaim sex (or if the hubby wants to join in)- I would very much love to experience that with my wife after she has come with her lover, but I suspect that she wouldn't be in the mood for sex quite some time afterwards, given she usually feels worn out (even with lots of lube). Obviously I'd be happy to wait but just curious how other women deal with this, if at all - do you just wait to have reclaim sex, or is that not something you enjoy? Perhaps this is more of an issue for swingers than hotwives, but I would imagine there's some overlap?

Of course, I can't say how your wife will feel or want to do, but I can give an idea of what I do.
When I'm with another man, I come away sexually satisfied. I easily orgasm, and after all, I'm a one and done girl. But then, there is the part of myself being a hotwife. I know I've just done something illicit, naughty, and slutty. I've sucked, fucked, and immensely enjoyed sex with a man other than my husband. My husband knows and is excited at home waiting for my return.
All of that, sets me to wanting more, the whole naughtiness turns me on, and I want to return to share with my husband.
When I get home, I don't try to rush into "reclaim" sex and neither does my Number1, he knows me. Instead, I let myself physically rest a bit. We kiss, hug, and I show him my well-used pussy or ass. I want him to smell my cock breath, I want him to feel and examine his sexually active wife, seeing evidence of what she's been doing.
This satisfies our reconnection needs of the immediate moment. We then settle into a more normal routine, showering, bathing, eating, watching my favorite shows on TV; just relaxing at home. At times throughout my shows, I tell him bits of what I have been up to, things I or my lover said. This increases his need for me and my need for him, until near bedtime. Then I'm ready and excited to tell and show him exactly what his slutty wife had done. I'm now ready for another massive orgasm from my Number1.
Hope that helps you see how it can work for a one and done girl and her husband.

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by marriedman50 » Thu Feb 11, 2021 5:57 pm

Farmgirl wrote:
Thu Feb 11, 2021 11:38 am
marriedman50 wrote:
Thu Feb 11, 2021 3:46 am
Farmgirl wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 11:08 am
marriedman50 wrote:
Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:56 am
Do you have to be multi-orgasmic to be a hotwife? My wife can rarely come more than once, and gets hypersensitive after her orgasm so doesn't enjoy any further stimulation; on the rare occasions that we have sex several times a day it is always several hours in between. Are there any hotwives who are like her? I've brought up the subject to her and suggested that she could have sex with other men, ideally I'd love to watch her with another man and take turns (though I'd be totally fine with just watching), but given that she can't have multiple orgasms (at least not with me) the HW lifestyle might not be as attractive to her as those who can't get enough.. Are there any hotwives like my wife out there? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Hotwives come in all flavors and types ;).
I'm not multi-orgasmic. When it comes to orgasms, I'm a one and done girl. There is soooo much to do before ever getting to an orgasm, so don't worry about just having one.
Why would you think that a woman needs to be multi-orgasmic to be a Hotwife?
Great to hear that not all hotwives are multi-orgasmic, especially when it comes from an authority like yourself! I understand that if you play solo with your lover then it doesn't matter whether you can come several times or not during a meet, but I guess what I was thinking of was the reclaim sex (or if the hubby wants to join in)- I would very much love to experience that with my wife after she has come with her lover, but I suspect that she wouldn't be in the mood for sex quite some time afterwards, given she usually feels worn out (even with lots of lube). Obviously I'd be happy to wait but just curious how other women deal with this, if at all - do you just wait to have reclaim sex, or is that not something you enjoy? Perhaps this is more of an issue for swingers than hotwives, but I would imagine there's some overlap?

Of course, I can't say how your wife will feel or want to do, but I can give an idea of what I do.
When I'm with another man, I come away sexually satisfied. I easily orgasm, and after all, I'm a one and done girl. But then, there is the part of myself being a hotwife. I know I've just done something illicit, naughty, and slutty. I've sucked, fucked, and immensely enjoyed sex with a man other than my husband. My husband knows and is excited at home waiting for my return.
All of that, sets me to wanting more, the whole naughtiness turns me on, and I want to return to share with my husband.
When I get home, I don't try to rush into "reclaim" sex and neither does my Number1, he knows me. Instead, I let myself physically rest a bit. We kiss, hug, and I show him my well-used pussy or ass. I want him to smell my cock breath, I want him to feel and examine his sexually active wife, seeing evidence of what she's been doing.
This satisfies our reconnection needs of the immediate moment. We then settle into a more normal routine, showering, bathing, eating, watching my favorite shows on TV; just relaxing at home. At times throughout my shows, I tell him bits of what I have been up to, things I or my lover said. This increases his need for me and my need for him, until near bedtime. Then I'm ready and excited to tell and show him exactly what his slutty wife had done. I'm now ready for another massive orgasm from my Number1.
Hope that helps you see how it can work for a one and done girl and her husband.
Thanks, that's beautiful. Your husband is a very lucky man!

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by Daphne1173 » Sat Feb 13, 2021 6:53 pm

Do any other hotwives have primary partners/husband's that want them to cheat on them? We've been open (primarily on my end) since we've been together and I have a regular fwb that he is always aware of encounters with beforehand. Now he's been starting to pressure me to cheat on him and not tell him until weeks or months later. I prefer him to be present or at least aware, because then I get to enjoy him getting excited as I get myself ready to see my fwb and he gets the anticipation of me coming home to be reclaimed. Just wondering if anyone elses SO has changed their preferences and should I be concerned he's trying to remove himself from the experiences now?
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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by Hooker » Sun Feb 14, 2021 1:10 am

Certainly not, but it does help, and seems to me is a must if engaging in group be sex.

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