Steel/Daphne Sex Journal

[afagehi7]

He nailed it. She's nre hard. Hopefully she understands. I'm not saying not to enjoy it but put it in perspective.

DD saying everyone should be privy is a good idea. You don't have to read real time or at all but you should be included IMHO. How much are they texting?

Everyday, text some in morning, a little during the day than more extensive at night.

They don't appear to be sexting, but I haven't been reading them.

IMHO it's a bit much for a FB or fwb. I'd give it a couple of days for the dust to settle. If it doesn't slow down by Monday or Tuesday I'd bring it up and mention that it's a bit much given the situation. Surely there's some sexting. They're probably talking about Friday night and about they liked this or that. It should be out of her system in a couple of days. If not I'd intervene lightly and softly. Don't let the nre turn into her thinking she's fallen in love. She's not experienced and may not be able to separate the two.

That is how I would feel but others may disagree. Give her a good pounding in the meantime.

I'll be interested to hear what more experienced nmembers think especially dd.

I plan on having a conversation with her tonight. She hasn't clearly defined what she wants out of their relationship. She calls it a friends with benefits and he does too. To me that's one step down from lover or boyfriend.

Try to listen and understand. Us men too often don't listen. I'm guilty of that. Once you have a clear picture of what she wants the better you can navigate.

[SteelRidge]

Everyday, text some in morning, a little during the day than more extensive at night.

They don't appear to be sexting, but I haven't been reading them.

IMHO it's a bit much for a FB or fwb. I'd give it a couple of days for the dust to settle. If it doesn't slow down by Monday or Tuesday I'd bring it up and mention that it's a bit much given the situation. Surely there's some sexting. They're probably talking about Friday night and about they liked this or that. It should be out of her system in a couple of days. If not I'd intervene lightly and softly. Don't let the nre turn into her thinking she's fallen in love. She's not experienced and may not be able to separate the two.

That is how I would feel but others may disagree. Give her a good pounding in the meantime.

I'll be interested to hear what more experienced nmembers think especially dd.

I plan on having a conversation with her tonight. She hasn't clearly defined what she wants out of their relationship. She calls it a friends with benefits and he does too. To me that's one step down from lover or boyfriend.

Try to listen and understand. Us men too often don't listen. I'm guilty of that. Once you have a clear picture of what she wants the better you can navigate.

I told her we were going to have a conversation about her and him tonight, but it is not a bad conversation.

[36DDwife]

How long should that last about?

He nailed it. She's nre hard. Hopefully she understands. I'm not saying not to enjoy it but put it in perspective.

DD saying everyone should be privy is a good idea. You don't have to read real time or at all but you should be included IMHO. How much are they texting?

Everyday, text some in morning, a little during the day than more extensive at night.

They don't appear to be sexting, but I haven't been reading them.

IMHO it's a bit much for a FB or fwb. I'd give it a couple of days for the dust to settle. If it doesn't slow down by Monday or Tuesday I'd bring it up and mention that it's a bit much given the situation. Surely there's some sexting. They're probably talking about Friday night and about they liked this or that. It should be out of her system in a couple of days. If not I'd intervene lightly and softly. Don't let the nre turn into her thinking she's fallen in love. She's not experienced and may not be able to separate the two.

That is how I would feel but others may disagree. Give her a good pounding in the meantime.

I'll be interested to hear what more experienced nmembers think especially dd.

I can agree with this. A good reclaim session & a few days of down time might curb things. One thing I thought of is to get her mind off him...see if she wants to do a camming session with you. She always seemed to like those & attention from other men might help.

I’ve never had to really deal with something like this (knock on wood) because my wife is not into sexting other men. And has been with plenty of men before me so she’s been to the circus & seen the clowns so thus far no NRE for her.

[36DDwife]

IMHO it's a bit much for a FB or fwb. I'd give it a couple of days for the dust to settle. If it doesn't slow down by Monday or Tuesday I'd bring it up and mention that it's a bit much given the situation. Surely there's some sexting. They're probably talking about Friday night and about they liked this or that. It should be out of her system in a couple of days. If not I'd intervene lightly and softly. Don't let the nre turn into her thinking she's fallen in love. She's not experienced and may not be able to separate the two.

That is how I would feel but others may disagree. Give her a good pounding in the meantime.

I'll be interested to hear what more experienced nmembers think especially dd.

I plan on having a conversation with her tonight. She hasn't clearly defined what she wants out of their relationship. She calls it a friends with benefits and he does too. To me that's one step down from lover or boyfriend.

Try to listen and understand. Us men too often don't listen. I'm guilty of that. Once you have a clear picture of what she wants the better you can navigate.

I told her we were going to have a conversation about her and him tonight, but it is not a bad conversation.

Good

[SteelRidge]

Daphne and I had a very good conversation. Really an initial start on defining the parameters of Daphne's and massage guy's relationship. I asked her to think about it later so that there are no surprises. But basically from a sex standpoint they have no plans about anything.

[afagehi7]

I guess that's good?

[SteelRidge]

I guess that's good?

In my mind yes. Right now the texting is mostly vanilla. She sent a couple photos when she was dressed sexy Saturday night but otherwise no sexting. The biggest thing was getting the discussion started between me and her about their FWB relationship. She said he said they could be friends and since they have been sexual with each other she thinks it's a FWB.

The other thing was having her think about them meeting. Cannot have them get together for coffee or drinks and her come home a few hours later fucked. She and I (and him) should know beforehand what is expected during a meeting.

[afagehi7]

I guess that's good?

In my mind yes. Right now the texting is mostly vanilla. She sent a couple photos when she was dressed sexy Saturday night but otherwise no sexting. The biggest thing was getting the discussion started between me and her about their FWB relationship. She said he said they could be friends and since they have been sexual with each other she thinks it's a FWB.

The other thing was having her think about them meeting. Cannot have them get together for coffee or drinks and her come home a few hours later fucked. She and I (and him) should know beforehand what is expected during a meeting.

I'd say that they have no reason to hang out outside of sex? I wouldn't be comfortable with the F being too friendly. I'd prefer a FB relationship to the FWB. It's a fine line in my head.

As long as you and daphne are happy, I'm happy for you. He got some great pussy and mouth so I'm sure he's happy.

[SteelRidge]

I guess that's good?

In my mind yes. Right now the texting is mostly vanilla. She sent a couple photos when she was dressed sexy Saturday night but otherwise no sexting. The biggest thing was getting the discussion started between me and her about their FWB relationship. She said he said they could be friends and since they have been sexual with each other she thinks it's a FWB.

The other thing was having her think about them meeting. Cannot have them get together for coffee or drinks and her come home a few hours later fucked. She and I (and him) should know beforehand what is expected during a meeting.

I'd say that they have no reason to hang out outside of sex? I wouldn't be comfortable with the F being too friendly. I'd prefer a FB relationship to the FWB. It's a fine line in my head.

As long as you and daphne are happy, I'm happy for you. He got some great pussy and mouth so I'm sure he's happy.

I agree I much prefer a fuck buddy arrangement between them. But she said she wants a friendship too. I suspect if sex wasn't on the table there wouldn't be any friendship but that's just sour puss me.

I can't much complain because me hooking up with women involved dates and whatnot. The chances of me finding a fuck buddy are practically zero, so I have to do some wining and dining.

[afagehi7]

I guess that's good?

In my mind yes. Right now the texting is mostly vanilla. She sent a couple photos when she was dressed sexy Saturday night but otherwise no sexting. The biggest thing was getting the discussion started between me and her about their FWB relationship. She said he said they could be friends and since they have been sexual with each other she thinks it's a FWB.

The other thing was having her think about them meeting. Cannot have them get together for coffee or drinks and her come home a few hours later fucked. She and I (and him) should know beforehand what is expected during a meeting.

I'd say that they have no reason to hang out outside of sex? I wouldn't be comfortable with the F being too friendly. I'd prefer a FB relationship to the FWB. It's a fine line in my head.

As long as you and daphne are happy, I'm happy for you. He got some great pussy and mouth so I'm sure he's happy.

I agree I much prefer a fuck buddy arrangement between them. But she said she wants a friendship too. I suspect if sex wasn't on the table there wouldn't be any friendship but that's just sour puss me.

I can't much complain because me hooking up with women involved dates and whatnot. The chances of me finding a fuck buddy are practically zero, so I have to do some wining and dining.

Sometimes I wish I was female. I'd be fucking new guys all the time. It's good that women have a built in rev limiter.

[SteelRidge]

In my mind yes. Right now the texting is mostly vanilla. She sent a couple photos when she was dressed sexy Saturday night but otherwise no sexting. The biggest thing was getting the discussion started between me and her about their FWB relationship. She said he said they could be friends and since they have been sexual with each other she thinks it's a FWB.

The other thing was having her think about them meeting. Cannot have them get together for coffee or drinks and her come home a few hours later fucked. She and I (and him) should know beforehand what is expected during a meeting.

I'd say that they have no reason to hang out outside of sex? I wouldn't be comfortable with the F being too friendly. I'd prefer a FB relationship to the FWB. It's a fine line in my head.

As long as you and daphne are happy, I'm happy for you. He got some great pussy and mouth so I'm sure he's happy.

I agree I much prefer a fuck buddy arrangement between them. But she said she wants a friendship too. I suspect if sex wasn't on the table there wouldn't be any friendship but that's just sour puss me.

I can't much complain because me hooking up with women involved dates and whatnot. The chances of me finding a fuck buddy are practically zero, so I have to do some wining and dining.

Sometimes I wish I was female. I'd be fucking new guys all the time. It's good that women have a built in rev limiter.

A friend of mine once said, "If I were a woman, I'd be an absolute slut".

Some women don't have that rev limiter.

[afagehi7]

I'd say that they have no reason to hang out outside of sex? I wouldn't be comfortable with the F being too friendly. I'd prefer a FB relationship to the FWB. It's a fine line in my head.

As long as you and daphne are happy, I'm happy for you. He got some great pussy and mouth so I'm sure he's happy.

I agree I much prefer a fuck buddy arrangement between them. But she said she wants a friendship too. I suspect if sex wasn't on the table there wouldn't be any friendship but that's just sour puss me.

I can't much complain because me hooking up with women involved dates and whatnot. The chances of me finding a fuck buddy are practically zero, so I have to do some wining and dining.

Sometimes I wish I was female. I'd be fucking new guys all the time. It's good that women have a built in rev limiter.

A friend of mine once said, "If I were a woman, I'd be an absolute slut".

Some women don't have that rev limiter.

No rev limiter = hotwife lynda!

[36DDwife]

I agree I much prefer a fuck buddy arrangement between them. But she said she wants a friendship too. I suspect if sex wasn't on the table there wouldn't be any friendship but that's just sour puss me.

I can't much complain because me hooking up with women involved dates and whatnot. The chances of me finding a fuck buddy are practically zero, so I have to do some wining and dining.

Sometimes I wish I was female. I'd be fucking new guys all the time. It's good that women have a built in rev limiter.

A friend of mine once said, "If I were a woman, I'd be an absolute slut".

Some women don't have that rev limiter.

No rev limiter = hotwife lynda!

Word.

[SteelRidge]

Popping some Viagra helped last night and we had an intense fuck session. Not overly long but we did it twice, both times a deep pounding.

[afagehi7]

Popping some Viagra helped last night and we had an intense fuck session. Not overly long but we did it twice, both times a deep pounding.

Thanks for warning her up. I'll be over later. Hahaha.

[SteelRidge]

I'm feeling a lot better after the events at the beginning of the month. Sometimes it seems better to keep stuff a fantasy, you never know what will happen again until you actually try to realize it.

[afagehi7]

I'm feeling a lot better after the events at the beginning of the month. Sometimes it seems better to keep stuff a fantasy, you never know what will happen again until you actually try to realize it.

That's good. I think you're both at the point you have to make some hard decisions about where this is going before you get too deep (pun intended).

[SteelRidge]

I think I may post my Tinder profile on here. I change it quite often. Tinder is basically a joke for men my age so I treat it as such.

Listen, stay away from me, I'm bad news. I'll use you for sex and break your heart.

I don't care if your a lib feminist, I'm a Trump supporting MAGA American. If you can't handle that then so much for your "open minded tolerance" right? Just stay home and have fun with your cats.

I'm not here to be validated by you. I'm a professional with a good career, good looking, great in bed and I'm just looking for a woman to have fun with. If your too afraid to LIKE me, then swipe left.

Note: it seems like a quarter of women's profiles have some variation of "if your a Trump supporter swipe left".

I did get one match and chat with above profile but then she flaked out.

I currently have 11 matches with probably 8 not responding to my messages.

[afagehi7]

I think I may post my Tinder profile on here. I change it quite often. Tinder is basically a joke for men my age so I treat it as such.

Listen, stay away from me, I'm bad news. I'll use you for sex and break your heart.

I don't care if your a lib feminist, I'm a Trump supporting MAGA American. If you can't handle that then so much for your "open minded tolerance" right? Just stay home and have fun with your cats.

I'm not here to be validated by you. I'm a professional with a good career, good looking, great in bed and I'm just looking for a woman to have fun with. If your too afraid to LIKE me, then swipe left.

Note: it seems like a quarter of women's profiles have some variation of "if your a Trump supporter swipe left".

I did get one match and chat with above profile but then she flaked out.

I currently have 11 matches with probably 8 not responding to my messages.

Wow! Not getting political but I'm amazed at the lack of tolerance from one side of the aisle.

I'm surprised you didn't get some men responding as women.

[SteelRidge]

I think I may post my Tinder profile on here. I change it quite often. Tinder is basically a joke for men my age so I treat it as such.

Listen, stay away from me, I'm bad news. I'll use you for sex and break your heart.

I don't care if your a lib feminist, I'm a Trump supporting MAGA American. If you can't handle that then so much for your "open minded tolerance" right? Just stay home and have fun with your cats.

I'm not here to be validated by you. I'm a professional with a good career, good looking, great in bed and I'm just looking for a woman to have fun with. If your too afraid to LIKE me, then swipe left.

Note: it seems like a quarter of women's profiles have some variation of "if your a Trump supporter swipe left".

I did get one match and chat with above profile but then she flaked out.

I currently have 11 matches with probably 8 not responding to my messages.

Wow! Not getting political but I'm amazed at the lack of tolerance from one side of the aisle.

I'm surprised you didn't get some men responding as women.

Tinder is political. They have "passions" you can pick. There are a lot of general stuff like hiking, beer, movies. Then there are leftist stuff like BLM, LGBT+, etc, but they have no conservative stuff.

I only did this profile once as an absolute "fuck it" I'm going to say what I want to say and let the chips fall where they may.

The last paragraph in that profile is the best IMO.

[SteelRidge]

I'm a happy, emotionally well adjusted and financially secure man. I'm equally at home cuddling on the sofa or out on some adventurous activity, cooking dinner with that special lady or out on the town with fine dining and cocktails. I love kids, dogs and even cats. Great listener too.

Not looking for a hookup but I want a LTR with that special someone. Are you her? Friends first and let's see what develops. Let's chat a little here but prefer face to face interactions.

This one hits on at least half of the points in women's profile. In truth, not interested in a LTR but I want see if that verbiage increases matches.

[afagehi7]

I'm a happy, emotionally well adjusted and financially secure man. I'm equally at home cuddling on the sofa or out on some adventurous activity, cooking dinner with that special lady or out on the town with fine dining and cocktails. I love kids, dogs and even cats. Great listener too.

Not looking for a hookup but I want a LTR with that special someone. Are you her? Friends first and let's see what develops. Let's chat a little here but prefer face to face interactions.

This one hits on at least half of the points in women's profile. In truth, not interested in a LTR but I want see if that verbiage increases matches.

Say you are interested in ltr with single moms and love kids. Hahahahaha.

[SteelRidge]

I'm a happy, emotionally well adjusted and financially secure man. I'm equally at home cuddling on the sofa or out on some adventurous activity, cooking dinner with that special lady or out on the town with fine dining and cocktails. I love kids, dogs and even cats. Great listener too.

Not looking for a hookup but I want a LTR with that special someone. Are you her? Friends first and let's see what develops. Let's chat a little here but prefer face to face interactions.

This one hits on at least half of the points in women's profile. In truth, not interested in a LTR but I want see if that verbiage increases matches.

Say you are interested in ltr with single moms and love kids. Hahahahaha.

That's what I'm hinting at and lots of disposable income. Nothing I like more than throwing money at women and kids who aren't mine.

[afagehi7]

I'm a happy, emotionally well adjusted and financially secure man. I'm equally at home cuddling on the sofa or out on some adventurous activity, cooking dinner with that special lady or out on the town with fine dining and cocktails. I love kids, dogs and even cats. Great listener too.

Not looking for a hookup but I want a LTR with that special someone. Are you her? Friends first and let's see what develops. Let's chat a little here but prefer face to face interactions.

This one hits on at least half of the points in women's profile. In truth, not interested in a LTR but I want see if that verbiage increases matches.

Say you are interested in ltr with single moms and love kids. Hahahahaha.

That's what I'm hinting at and lots of disposable income. Nothing I like more than throwing money at women and kids who aren't mine.

Money + willingness to play father figure = young hot moms. That's always been my theory. I'll be interested to see what happens.

[SteelRidge]

This one hits on at least half of the points in women's profile. In truth, not interested in a LTR but I want see if that verbiage increases matches.

Say you are interested in ltr with single moms and love kids. Hahahahaha.

That's what I'm hinting at and lots of disposable income. Nothing I like more than throwing money at women and kids who aren't mine.

Money + willingness to play father figure = young hot moms. That's always been my theory. I'll be interested to see what happens.

In m mind this is the ideal profile most of the women are looking for on Tinder. However a lot of these moms aren't hot at least they are packing a few extra pounds.