Poll: How many men is your HW currently seeing

[UK-Stag]

My beautiful sexy hotwife is currently regularly fucking and texting 3 black guys. She's messaging a further guy who she's seen a few times and trying to get regular but he's super flaky.

So her number is 3 (that I know of, but she's allowed a secret lover if she wants it).

So what's your HW's current number of regulars (at least once a month would be regular)

[JMNBABE]

Surprised this didn't get more activity....maybe if I respond it will jump to the top of the list?

My wife is currently involved only with 1 Lover, they have been Lovers for 11 years now. He is also her (our) Boss, but he is not aware I know of their relationship and would not be comfortable with that. COVID put the skids on their relationship tho, they have only been sexual 3 times since March 2020 and that is because they elected to have lunch 3 times and simply could NOT restrain themselves!! LOL I got a call after the first lunch saying :we are 10 minutes away, pack up and GET OUT!!.. I worked the rest of the afternoon and early evening at McDonald's while they tore up out marital bed, it was the first time he had ever come to our home for sex with her. It was obvious when I got home that being in our bed added a huge level of excitement!! LOL They tried twice more, and each time ended up in bed together, so they stopped the lunches. He has some underlying medical conditions that would seriously complicate COVID and they are #1 and #2 on the company.....not a good situation for both to be ill at same time.....

When she was BBC active for a 3 year period earlier in our marriage, she was a total SLUT!! No way of even guessing at how many guys she was with!! This was a long held fantasy of hers, and once she acted on it....WOW!! The first year was fun for both of us. She met a few guys via Connection mags (they were still around, no internet), she quickly found she could meet more guys by dating and going to after hours bars, night clubs, etc and started going out on weekends. Was a ton of fun hearing about her nights out, etc.

Second year was different.....she met a black guy thru work that was also in the same business I was (related to hers also)......she actually started having an affair with him behind my back. He was not comfortable with me knowing, as we crossed paths from time to time. Eventually tho, their relationship became SO hot that she had to admit it to me and she let him know I was fine with it. They got pretty serious together, she admits she fell in love with him and seriously considered leaving me for him (actually the only reason she did not was our then 2 yo son). They also made the decision that they were going to have baby together and would have if his wife had not caught on and set him up and gave him an ultimatum when he got home Sunday night after spending the weekend with my wife. They broke up and she was SAD!! Heartbroken really.

That set her off on a REALLY crazy third year.....she was a TOTAL slut!! She was eventually going out 6-7 nights a week, having sex with any Black guys she met at clubs, online, afterhours clubs. A couple of the guys whored her out which she REALLY enjoyed, but the lifestyle was taking a toll. She got involved in drugs, she would drag home at 3-4 AM, collapse in to bed for 3 -4 hours, drag what was left in to work, come home that night and sleep a few hours and then be gone all night again..........work suffered, she was pushing her Bosses limits of tolerance, we suffered, and it ended when she left on Friday evening "for a few hours" and she was dropped off LATE Sunday night in front of neighbors by a LOUD carload of black guys half dressed and obviously been ridden hard and out up wet!!

When I dealt with what they dropped off (she was so high she would have ended up in my ER as an overdose were it not for my ability to treat her at home) and she was somewhat lucid after missing 3 days work, I gave her an ultimatum........me/us and our Son and life together, or her new lifestyle and get out. She thought about it the rest of the week....and elected to stay with me/us. Quit cold turkey.....she admitted that if she went back out in her crowd, she would fall right back in to the same behaviors.

For a couple years, she had no outside relationships at all. Changed jobs, met her Boss (she has a thing for Bosses) and their affair blossomed over a coupe of years. They have been together 11 years now (older white guy). Then COVID.........end of fun.

CW

[isinlarsa]

My wife was dating a number of men she connected with in response to her internet ad as "a married woman looking to date, and maybe more." During this phase she was going out on dates with new men once or twice a week. She seldom went out with a man more than two or three times. She only met a few who she found attractive enough to fuck. Many of her dates were just for dinner and a good conversation (hopefully), but they never got into her panties. I think four of them got to fuck her, but she may have not told me about everyone. I keep hoping over time she will disclose that there were more. I loved the sexual tension I felt when I knew she was out with another man and there was a chance she would come home freshly-fucked.

[Parsifal]

For the past year, my wife has dated two other men, both married. Two has been a good number for us because one tends to lead to me the other man as a rival, while more than two seemed to add more covid risk without much corresponding benefit. This spring, her goal is to add a third.

[DaveS]

Only one - her poly boyfriend, but they see each other 5 or 6 times a week, and have sex an average of about 3 times a week - usually at our house in the daytime. (This is her second poly bf, that she started dating soon after the first relationship ended).

[Littlewilly1970]

Hannah has four regular Dom bulls, her boss, a bi mm couple, guys she hooks up with on swingers or dating site, a Dom bdsm couple and Mike her step brother who lives with us in a poly relationship.

[wny3somecple]

We took a break for covid but are ready to jump back in. The two young men Mary began hooking up with in the fall before covid are eager to be involved.

One pre-covid regular is ghosting us. No biggy that happens.

A few members of a local FD I am sure will welcome Mary abd her friend Rosie back.

[wny3somecple]

We took a break for covid but are ready to jump back in. The two young men Mary began hooking up with in the fall before covid are eager to be involved.

One pre-covid regular is ghosting us. No biggy that happens.

A few members of a local FD I am sure will welcome Mary abd her friend Rosie back.

[adamgunnauthor]

Well, our answer has been for the past year zero. Of course the poll doesn't consider that. But . . . since we're both vaccinated we wouldn't mind playing again. We got a message from an old lover of hers last weekend, and we have a date scheduled with him for Saturday night. It may be just vanilla, but it's possible that my wife will jump on him the minute he walks in the door!

[iloanmywife]

There should be an option for "I don't really know." Of the men she meets with alone, I know of three of them by description if not by name (e.g., "the guy with the ranch"). I know only that there are others, but I don't know exactly how many. That's definitely over-stating how much she's currently playing. Like most others on here, our secret lives ground to a complete halt over the past year. My wife stays in close contact with a small group of guys she likes, so there is a group of maybe around half a dozen (-ish) men she would be open to reconnecting with on a moment's notice, even though she hasn't met with most of them in over a year. It's been much more difficult for her to have private dates that I don't know about when we've all been locked up together. I guess if we're being more literal about "currently seeing" to mean anyone she's had sex with in the past year then I'm pretty sure it's just the three guys I know about.

There are also a few guys we've played with together and with whom we've stayed in contact. Same thing, we haven't been able to meet up in so long that they don't really qualify. We did go out on a vanilla date with a guy a couple of weeks ago, so we hope to restart our MFM adventures in the immediate future.

[SilverStag]

They cycle in and out...currently Cecil has one she has been seeing a while and has had 2 playdates with, she has had the obligatory dinner (only) date with another, and one of her long-time crushes has recently come up single again and she is having dinner with him this weekend.

[ucaneffher]

I selected 6-10 based on her peak when she was out several times a week with different guys. She had a minimum of 7 guys in rotation.

I always encouraged her and told her I wanted her to have a different guy every single day. Part of me believes that she was trying for that.

[subguy80]

Only one - her poly boyfriend, but they see each other 5 or 6 times a week, and have sex an average of about 3 times a week - usually at our house in the daytime. (This is her second poly bf, that she started dating soon after the first relationship ended).

I'm curious to know why you call them "poly" boyfriends. I know we can all have somewhat different interpretations of these terms. Interested in yours. My wife has had a relationship with her current lover for years, but I don't think of them as poly because she doesn't love him like a co-husband. We call him "lover" because there is a connection and certainly feelings of more than a FWB. Maybe we're saying the same thing. Thanks.

[DaveS]

Only one - her poly boyfriend, but they see each other 5 or 6 times a week, and have sex an average of about 3 times a week - usually at our house in the daytime. (This is her second poly bf, that she started dating soon after the first relationship ended).

I'm curious to know why you call them "poly" boyfriends. I know we can all have somewhat different interpretations of these terms. Interested in yours. My wife has had a relationship with her current lover for years, but I don't think of them as poly because she doesn't love him like a co-husband. We call him "lover" because there is a connection and certainly feelings of more than a FWB. Maybe we're saying the same thing. Thanks.

Hi subguy80 - common question for those not familiar with the subject. In the poly community and literature, polyamory is most often defined along the lines of: having multiple long-term, loving (romantic, sexual) relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. Since my wife and her bf having a loving relationship (and they use the word "love' to describe their relationship) that is relatively long-term (over a year of consistently seeing each other multiple times a week, sometimes with sex, sometimes not) - they clearly fall within this definition. And my girlfriend and I do as well, although our relationship is much less intense due to the logistics. Poly is defined in terms of relationships (although sex is obviously almost always involved). Swinging-hotwifing, etc is centered on couples having consensual recreational sex with others in order to enhance the marriage - typically couple-centric. Of course, there are always exceptions and there is lots of gray area within the consensual non-monogamy spectrum. Sometimes a swinging relationship will evolve into a poly relationship. Your wife's relationship with her boyfriend - as you described it - could easily be described as poly. But how you guys define it is, of course, your own call.

Mass media has fueled the sexy idea that poly is characterized by a married couple adding a third to their marriage (usually a hot bi-babe, or unicorn). In actual reality, this is one of the rarest poly relationship models to be found in the poly community. And, when it does occur, it is far more likely to be a MFM situation instead of a FMF relationship (that the public fantasizes about). Most married poly couples date independently - but always with knowledge and consent. Each spouse will always know who their spouse's partner is (and typically have emergency contact info) - but they may or may not actually meet - although most of the time they will. Sometimes a husband may just know that his wife's bf exists - sometimes they may become friends. Situations vary. Each couple that opens up will negotiate their own "poly contract" - there is no one "right" way, although there is generally accepted "poly wisdom - best practices" out there in the literature and on the forums.

Hope this answers your question - maybe more than you wanted to know!

[DaveS]

One other note - in regard to to MFM and FMF poly relationships. These can exist either as triads where all three are involved in a triangle - this is the typical public fantasy of the married couple adding a hot bi-babe to their marriage. Triads do obviously exist in the poly community, but they are uncommon - because they are very difficult to maintain, too many dynamics at play.

Or they can exist as a V - where there is hinge partner - who the two partners on the legs of the V share. The two legs are not involved with each other romantically or sexually. This is the more common model for MFM.

On a different topic, I will add that in our poly marriage, we purposely incorporate a stag-vixen dynamic into the sexual dynamic just to spice things up for all of us. Again, situations vary.

[subguy80]

[Poly is defined in terms of relationships (although sex is obviously almost always involved). Swinging-hotwifing, etc is centered on couples having consensual recreational sex with others in order to enhance the marriage - typically couple-centric. Of course, there are always exceptions and there is lots of gray area within the consensual non-monogamy spectrum.

Thank you, DaveS, for the great explanation. In these two definitions you give, I see elements of "us" in both, however, I see much more of "us" in the hotwifing. In our case, of course, we have added cuckold dynamics. That's why my posts are generally over there. Thanks for the nice explanation. Very helpful.

[adamgunnauthor]

Poly is defined in terms of relationships (although sex is obviously almost always involved). Swinging-hotwifing, etc is centered on couples having consensual recreational sex with others in order to enhance the marriage - typically couple-centric. Of course, there are always exceptions and there is lots of gray area within the consensual non-monogamy spectrum. Sometimes a swinging relationship will evolve into a poly relationship. Your wife's relationship with her boyfriend - as you described it - could easily be described as poly. But how you guys define it is, of course, your own call.

Mass media has fueled the sexy idea that poly is characterized by a married couple adding a third to their marriage (usually a hot bi-babe, or unicorn). In actual reality, this is one of the rarest poly relationship models to be found in the poly community. And, when it does occur, it is far more likely to be a MFM situation instead of a FMF relationship (that the public fantasizes about). Most married poly couples date independently - but always with knowledge and consent. Each spouse will always know who their spouse's partner is (and typically have emergency contact info) - but they may or may not actually meet - although most of the time they will. Sometimes a husband may just know that his wife's bf exists - sometimes they may become friends. Situations vary. Each couple that opens up will negotiate their own "poly contract" - there is no one "right" way, although there is generally accepted "poly wisdom - best practices" out there in the literature and on the forums.

Hope this answers your question - maybe more than you wanted to know!

Great answer, DaveS. The thing about being Polygamous is that it encompasses a full relationship, not just sex. One boyfriend my wife had for a few yers went to house tours with her, something I'm not fond of. As you say, they didn't always have sex on a date.

[sexyjessie]

I answer for normal times. I got lots sex friend guys I can always call up for quicky but has be more hard since the virus so I answer for normal times. In normal times I out most every night picking guys up in bars and clubs as well as hook up with sex friends during the day, hubby is happy for me have multiple men every day. I can’t waits get back to this lifestyle!

[CheltCpl]

3 regularly, sometimes 4

[Mkliny442015]

Right now my Hotwife is looking for a boyfriend for a committed relationship. She is currently talking to two guys who don’t know about each other but is also not committed yet, but they are candidates to what she would consider boyfriend material. She has learned that if she focuses on one guy she will overlook their shortcomings so by dating two Guys at once they compete with each other to have the honor of having her as a girlfriend without knowing and ultimately lets her make the best choice of the two. She has another guy she has fucked a few times as she describes him as not good for the night but good for the end of the night. In other words when she is horny and out with her friends after a few drinks he is good for a late night fuck but she says he could never be steady boyfriend material . Now that we have been doing this awhile she wants to focus on one guy and experience having a boyfriend vs random hookups .

[DedicatedHubby2013]

She currently has taken on two lovers.
She feels this amount is manageable.

[PANTIES]

She only has one guy at a time. Her current lover has had her for several years and it appears there’s no end in site.

Pauline

[ucaneffher]

My gf isn't officially a hot girlfriend yet but she is currently texting, talking on the phone, video chatting, and going out with two different men. Already spent an entire day with one sightseeing and then hanging out at his place. She is working out the details to go to the other guys house to watch Netflix and "chill" with him. He told her that he wants to cuddle and she didn't oppose to the idea. I'd love it if one day told me tha she is sleeping with both of them.

[WillingHubby]

My wife always works one guy at a time. She used to like multiple guys at the same time when she was younger but now she likes to have one guy that knows how to get her off. After all that is the reason we hotwife so she can have great orgasms!

[LongTermHubby]

Since the pandemic arrived, my wife has been exclusive to one lover.