We're starting very very slowly

[2inUPMichigan]

This post will be simple and short, it needs to be written. I’m addressing it to all wannabe and experienced so-called “bulls”. I believe there’re wonderful men out there. Non-apology to those who feel offended by my post. It needs to be written.

Don’t try to whore us out
Don’t tell us is not a big deal
Don’t slap us when we say NO because someone waits for us at home and they might want to beat the shit out of you which is another issue we have to deal with
Don’t treat us like a piece of property
YOU don’t OWN us

US =all hotwives - wannabe and experienced out there.

The next issue I want to address - wannabe and experienced cuckolds stop spreading BS(family bulls, mother/daughter, forced sex and etc) topics in the cuckold forum. Content composed by men for men builds unrealistic expectations in wannabe hotwife couples and that’s not ok, not at all.

It needs to be written.

Sending hugs and healing thoughts your way.
So very sorry you had to deal with this.

[2inUPMichigan]

Crystal

You have no reason to be embarrassed in fact he should be the one that is humiliated by the fact that he Shit all over what could have been an awesome weekend.
His loss honey

What a loser to put his hands on a woman because he didn't get his way
And assuming that being non-monogamous means that you would have sex with whoever he included? Yeah I've run into that before (real classy)

Being a hotwife is a special thing that some men just don't "get". Those that don't get it and appreciate us aren't worth our time and attention.

You deserve better, much better than the way he treated you.

[Farmgirl]

This post will be simple and short, it needs to be written. I’m addressing it to all wannabe and experienced so-called “bulls”. I believe there’re wonderful men out there. Non-apology to those who feel offended by my post. It needs to be written.

Don’t try to whore us out
Don’t tell us is not a big deal
Don’t slap us when we say NO because someone waits for us at home and they might want to beat the shit out of you which is another issue we have to deal with
Don’t treat us like a piece of property
YOU don’t OWN us

US =all hotwives - wannabe and experienced out there.

The next issue I want to address - wannabe and experienced cuckolds stop spreading BS(family bulls, mother/daughter, forced sex and etc) topics in the cuckold forum. Content composed by men for men builds unrealistic expectations in wannabe hotwife couples and that’s not ok, not at all.

It needs to be written.

I'm glad you have spoken out! Some of that needed to be said, especially about the Cuckold Forum. Guys and gals, we can have a great forum...listen to what Crystal is saying.

[Farmgirl]

Having read further, I'm appalled at the guy's behavior . The very idea that he struck you!

I don't know what to say other than he's scum. Our prayers are with you as you two move through this, and I hope you don't let him spoil this for you and your husband.

[Brute]

Crystal, I am so sorry this has happened to you.

[Kentros]

What a dirtbag. I'm so sorry

[Husbands Kandi]

I’m going to echo 2Up and Farmgirl – the embarrassment is not yours. This guy isn’t deserving of you! Unfortunately, not everything is rainbows and roses in hotwifing. But most don’t share those encounters, so it skews our perspective sometimes. I’m terribly sorry this happened. Thank you for being brave and sharing it with us so we can all come to support you. And others can understand what can happen in this LS.

[anonymister1948]

All your feelings are valid. Even your embarrassment that is a misplaced emotion. He is the one who should be embarrassed.

“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place”

― Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You

[Open2it]

Crystal,
No one has the right to treat you like that! You did the right thing by leaving and coming home. You have nothing to be embarrassed over and I’m so sorry that it happened to you. Continue to be true to yourself and not let one A.H. impact you. He crossed a line that should never be crossed.
O2

[R_H_NC]

Aside from the obvious anger shared by all here, I have to say there are many times that embarrassment and shame is the best description for my feelings when I read or hear of this type of behavior by another man.

Stay strong Crystal (and Crystal's husband)

[MichaelW]

Sounds like you should have sworn an assault complaint in Vegas. Put his worthless ass in jail. No excuse for what he did. Lot of legal problems for him this day and age along the lines of sexual human trafficking if there is evidence wanting to whore you was the reason for taking you there. Husband, whatever you do in confronting him do not lay a hand on him, the law is on your side on this.

[RetiredSnowbird]

Crystal, what I find especially attractive in you is your strong will. What happened to you has been an eye opener for sure but somehow I think you are going to come through all of this crap okay whereas that jerk you interacted with will continue to sink deeper into the mire of his own making.

[crystal]

I LOVE YOU, ALL OF YOU

I'm writing this for 3rd time.

Many thanks for supporting my message to the community - 2inUPMichigan, Farmgirl, Husband Kandi and Whosbeensleeping, Brute, anonymister1948, R_H_NC, Open2it, MichaelW and RetiredSnowbird.

I didn't feel angry when he slapped me, I slapped him twice as hard as I could. I decide to get boxing training, have my first training session tonight - steam the vent.

And it started so well. The first night was fun, I won in the casino, and we had a really great time in bed. I knew Brian wanted me at this business dinner but I didn’t know it was important for him to have me there until we got back in the hotel. His business partner, early 60s, piggy, rude and hadn’t even tried to hide the interest in my body.

I had 3 manhattans, then 3 bottles of wine the three of us shared at dinner, then I heard Brian said I’m great fuck and finally I realized why he brought me to Vegas, to seal him a deal. As far as I was concerned I wasn’t going to fuck this guy. He asked me to be nice as the limo took us to Wynn and they were all over me, I kept slapping their hands when Brian told him I’m just teasing slut. Then I felt humiliated. As soon as we were inside the suite I took my suitcase and start packing. He slapped me hard when I refused to have anything sexual with his partner. I slapped him in return as hard as I could.

Sounds like you should have sworn an assault complaint in Vegas. Put his worthless ass in jail. No excuse for what he did. Lot of legal problems for him this day and age along the lines of sexual human trafficking if there is evidence wanting to whore you was the reason for taking you there. Husband, whatever you do in confronting him do not lay a hand on him, the law is on your side on this.

Totally agree. But I wanted to grab my suitcase and got out. I took a cab to the airport and flew back home. Then I had to deal with Bill's desire to beat the shit of him.

[R_H_NC]

Crystal, I echo MichaelW and say, please don't let Bill lay a hand on Brian. I think MichaelW meant that the law is on your side with regard to Brian's assault on you. If Bill touches Brian, all bets are off.

Please Bill, do what you must to reign in your obvious and well deserved anger short of laying hands on Brian

[anonymister1948]

Crystal, I echo MichaelW and say, please don't let Bill lay a hand on Brian. I think MichaelW meant that the law is on your side with regard to Brian's assault on you. If Bill touches Brian, all bets are off.

Please Bill, do what you must to reign in your obvious and well deserved anger short of laying hands on Brian

While violence is never an appropriate action, I'd be so far up in that man's grill he'd be able to tell what I had for lunch three days ago. And while I wouldn't lay a hand on him, I'd make it VERY easy for him to initiate allowing me to knock a few of his teeth down his throat.

[2inUPMichigan]

So so proud of you Crystal for keeping your head straight and getting yourself out of a bad situation!

What a great idea (learning self defense skills) so that you have the confidence to know you can defend yourself if necessary or get out of a bad situation if needed. Learning these skills will also give Bill some peace of mind too. (Win/Win)

Bill I know you want to beat his ass, but she did good by getting herself out when she needed to. By all means vent your spleen at him!! He absolutely deserves it but don't do anything that he can retaliate for.

[RetiredSnowbird]

Crystal, I just wish that your experiences along with your reactions could be mandatory reading for all budding hotwives, husbands and would-be bulls.

[SSQ]

I'm glad you're safe and OK. Never be embarrassed for someone else's bad actions. You are a class act; money can't buy class.

[mjar65]

That guy is an a***hole. Does that explain his single status? What a loser.

If nothing else, it proves you married the right guy. Dodged a bullet with the ex-BF for sure.

Your experience reminds of me of something that happened with an ex - set her up with a guy but he took liberties and went way too far. Just cos she wanted sex with him did not mean a green light for anything he wanted. I never forgave myself. But I learned valuable lessons.

I am normally a lurker on here. But I've really enjoyed reading about the journey you and your husband have been on. Your shared approach has been working well. And more power to you both. You will both gain some positives from this awful experience.

As for hotwifing in the future?... I would just say that you don't need to make any decisions, not yet. If/when it feels right then you will know.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum mjar65.

[tommaso1153]

I'm usually a lurker here. But I can't help but express my solidarity with you. Under the circumstances you acted in the best possible way, and did not feel embarrassed and humiliated by what happened. He's the one who should feel that way. In Italy we have a proverb that reflects popular wisdom: "Women don't even touch a flower".

[crystal]

Watch out . The boxing class had been awesome, it had been a great workout.

It turned out my trainer - Charlie is hot, ripped, big hands and sweet face- killer mix. He's quick and strong. I gave him hard time keeping his eyes off my sports bra and spandex. He's been super professional and cool. Some bad ideas came to my mind while taking shower there. Very bad and dirty thoughts

[isinlarsa]

Watch out . The boxing class had been awesome, it had been a great workout.

It turned out my trainer - Charlie is hot, ripped, big hands and sweet face- killer mix. He's quick and strong. I gave him hard time keeping his eyes off my sports bra and spandex. He's been super professional and cool. Some bad ideas came to my mind while taking shower there. Very bad and dirty thoughts

It sounds like your trainer needs to give you some personal attention.

[2inUPMichigan]

Welcome to OHW tommaso1153

[crystalhusband]

Watch out . The boxing class had been awesome, it had been a great workout.

It turned out my trainer - Charlie is hot, ripped, big hands and sweet face- killer mix. He's quick and strong. I gave him hard time keeping his eyes off my sports bra and spandex. He's been super professional and cool. Some bad ideas came to my mind while taking shower there. Very bad and dirty thoughts

It sounds like your trainer needs to give you some personal attention.

When your hotwife sends you a text - "coming home get ready to fuck me" your imagination starts working very fast What did I do to deserve this. Nothing, probably it has nothing to do with me and it gets even better knowing another man excites her.