Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Jjhw311ohw]

Here’s my question (sorry, long intro). My wife is so hot! I love her to death! She’s gotten into the hotwife fantasy and is even saying things I’ve never told her would turn me on. Like, while I fuck her she tells me she knows I want her to be a hotwife who fucks other men, and when she travels for work she’ll flash her anklet at the hotel bar until 2 or 3 men follow her to her room...stuff I love to hear.

My question: does the fact that my wife increasingly plays with the fantasy mean she likes the idea of the real thing?

[Hooker]

Ask her? She might want to tell you something? Remember no communication equals potential hurdles

[Tryagain]

My wife is still a very good-looking woman at age at 68. She does look almost 10 years younger. We are active in the lifestyle. Well…her 36 DD tits are hanging pretty low now although they are not flattened out but rather have a full shape. But the nipples are facing down. She also has some hang around the upper arms and the side of her body next to her tits. She still cuts a slim figure at 5.5 and 148 lbs.

She is considering surgery – a breast lift and arm skin reduction. My question is how many older hot wives here have had some form of surgery to keep them ‘in the game”? And what surgery was performed and how do they feel about the results?

[Farmgirl]

My wife is still a very good-looking woman at age at 68. She does look almost 10 years younger. We are active in the lifestyle. Well…her 36 DD tits are hanging pretty low now although they are not flattened out but rather have a full shape. But the nipples are facing down. She also has some hang around the upper arms and the side of her body next to her tits. She still cuts a slim figure at 5.5 and 148 lbs.

She is considering surgery – a breast lift and arm skin reduction. My question is how many older hot wives here have had some form of surgery to keep them ‘in the game”? And what surgery was performed and how do they feel about the results?

I haven't had surgery, but I would say that she should do what makes her feel confident and good.

[crystal]

Here’s my question (sorry, long intro). My wife is so hot! I love her to death! She’s gotten into the hotwife fantasy and is even saying things I’ve never told her would turn me on. Like, while I fuck her she tells me she knows I want her to be a hotwife who fucks other men, and when she travels for work she’ll flash her anklet at the hotel bar until 2 or 3 men follow her to her room...stuff I love to hear.

My question: does the fact that my wife increasingly plays with the fantasy mean she likes the idea of the real thing?

Talking about having sex with other men is a lot easier than actually making it happen. She probably likes the idea but that doesn't mean anything. You need to talk with her outside of the bedroom, address her questions and insecurities about the lifestyle and then move to the next step.

[MrGirthy]

Hotwives my question is if you ever fell in love with your bull and how did you handle it? The reason I ask is because for women sex and emotional attachment are part of the same parcel. Sorry if this was already discussed before.

[2inUPMichigan]

Hotwives my question is if you ever fell in love with your bull and how did you handle it? The reason I ask is because for women sex and emotional attachment are part of the same parcel. Sorry if this was already discussed before.

Fell in love? No
I do want a connection but what I am talking about is in no way love.

Generalizations like the bolded statement above don't seem to ring true once you start reading true accounts from real hotwives. Some hotwives do have an emotional attachment to the men that they play with but I would never say that is true of all of us.

I made it a point of telling my hubby and any man I was in contact with that I would not be exclusive with any man that I played with.
I haven't been successful in finding the multiple long term FWB'S that I wanted but I do have one long term FWB (over 2 years) and have played with a few men during that time. I continue to look for 2 more FWB'S that are a good fit.

[Farmgirl]

Hotwives my question is if you ever fell in love with your bull and how did you handle it? The reason I ask is because for women sex and emotional attachment are part of the same parcel. Sorry if this was already discussed before.

I did fall too far with my first guy and it was definitely a learning experience, and not in a fun way. My husband and I got through it and came out stronger.
I do want a connection with a man for the best sex, I do love them as friends, but I've learned the difference. I love my friends with benefits, but I'm in love with my husband.

[MrGirthy]

Thanks. I always found it hard to tell where's the line between a good connection and being in love. There were a few situations but this one wife I was seeing a while ago started talking about our future together and how she was thinking about leaving her husband etc which wasn't on my plans at all, to me it was just sex and I didn't want to break up a family and so we ended abruptly. In hindsight I should have managed it better earlier because she was spending a lot of time with me, some weekends living at my place so I could have talked to her sooner. But again it's really difficult to tell what's happening in someone's head and sex just isn't good without emotional connection.

[R_H_NC]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

[Farmgirl]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I like mine with totally bare and smooth cock and balls, and all of my men are.

[R_H_NC]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I like mine with totally bare and smooth cock and balls, and all of my men are.

HN1 has detailed his assistance in your grooming. The Silk'N is on my Amazon Wish List.

[crystal]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I prefer my men shaved completely, no shaved no bj. Sex feels better, skin to skin. I hate to find man's hair in my private parts so guys please shave it.

[2inUPMichigan]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I have to agree with the others.
My personal preference is shaved completely.
It will definitely lead to more fun playing

I have played with a man that was trimmed and honestly I was less enthusiastic

[afagehi7]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I have to agree with the others.
My personal preference is shaved completely.
It will definitely lead to more fun playing

I have played with a man that was trimmed and honestly I was less enthusiastic

Shaved everything? Even the "landing strip" area? Like Brazilian on a guy or just the CnB area?

[2inUPMichigan]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I have to agree with the others.
My personal preference is shaved completely.
It will definitely lead to more fun playing

I have played with a man that was trimmed and honestly I was less enthusiastic

Shaved everything? Even the "landing strip" area? Like Brazilian on a guy or just the CnB area?

Yep, shaved everything

[Spartan Shield]

Hi there,

Quick question for the ladies.

Does having a loving and warm marriage that is more or less sexless, but where this is still a great deal of warmth, affection and other intimacy, kissing, holding hands and cuddling etc, a position from which the wife would want to look for a lover?

This is the situation of my wife and I. She has in the past flirted and had a non sexual dalliance with her personal trainer, which cane to an end over lockdown.

The pressures of home schooling, finances, me working from home and being locked up together 24/7 has really hit our sex life for six, but we are still v warm and affectionate and have a v loving family with our child. We just don’t really have sex anymore.

I have noticed her looking at younger guys out and about & she even comments on how fit random guys are on the street, and I wondered if that is a place from which she might have started looking.

[Spartan Shield]

Hi there,

Quick question for the ladies.

Does having a loving and warm marriage that is more or less sexless, but where this is still a great deal of warmth, affection and other intimacy: kissing, holding hands and cuddling etc, is that a position from which the wife would want to look for a lover?

This is the situation of my wife and I. She has in the past flirted with and had a non sexual dalliance with her personal trainer, which cane to an end when lockdown happened.

The pressures of home schooling, finances, me working from home and us all being locked up together 24/7 has really hit our sex life for six, but we are still v warm and affectionate and have a v loving family with our child. My wife and I just don’t really have sex anymore (the last 4-5 months).

I have noticed her openly looking at and admiring younger guys out and about & she even comments on how fit random guys are on the street. I don’t get the sense that she is doing this to get a reaction from me (she doesn’t express frustration or anger towards me), rather she seems to just be making absentminded conversation. I wondered if she is at a place from which she might have started looking.

[Spartan Shield]

Hi there,

Quick question for the ladies.

Does having a loving and warm marriage that is more or less sexless, but where this is still a great deal of warmth, affection and other intimacy: kissing, holding hands and cuddling etc, is that a position from which the wife would want to look for a lover?

This is the situation of my wife and I. She has in the past flirted with and had a non sexual dalliance with her personal trainer, which cane to an end when lockdown happened.

The pressures of home schooling, finances, me working from home and us all being locked up together 24/7 has really hit our sex life for six, but we are still v warm and affectionate and have a v loving family with our child. My wife and I just don’t really have sex anymore (the last 4-5 months).

I have noticed her openly looking at and admiring younger guys out and about & she even comments on how fit random guys are on the street. I don’t get the sense that she is doing this to get a reaction from me (she doesn’t express frustration or anger towards me), rather she seems to just be making absentminded conversation. I wondered if she is at a place from which she might have started looking.

[afagehi7]

A reference to manscaping in another thread raised this question for me. I have often wondered about a woman’s preference for this detail of a man’s grooming.

Realizing that there are many opinions for as many reasons but what do you as a woman (and a HW) prefer as far as a man’s genital grooming? Trimmed, shaved partially, shaved completely?

I have to agree with the others.
My personal preference is shaved completely.
It will definitely lead to more fun playing

I have played with a man that was trimmed and honestly I was less enthusiastic

Shaved everything? Even the "landing strip" area? Like Brazilian on a guy or just the CnB area?

Yep, shaved everything

Interesting. I've always heard to shave the CnB and manscape the "patch/landing strip" area. WTF is that area called on a guy?

Maybe farm girl and crystal can confirm that is also what they prefer. This is the first I've ever heard of Brazilian style on a guy

[Farmgirl]

I have to agree with the others.
My personal preference is shaved completely.
It will definitely lead to more fun playing

I have played with a man that was trimmed and honestly I was less enthusiastic

Shaved everything? Even the "landing strip" area? Like Brazilian on a guy or just the CnB area?

Yep, shaved everything

Interesting. I've always heard to shave the CnB and manscape the "patch/landing strip" area. WTF is that area called on a guy?

Maybe farm girl and crystal can confirm that is also what they prefer. This is the first I've ever heard of Brazilian style on a guy

Maybe I was too ambiguous, I don't want any hair in my mouth or in my face. So make it completely bare "down there" .

[crystal]

Hi there,

Quick question for the ladies.

Does having a loving and warm marriage that is more or less sexless, but where this is still a great deal of warmth, affection and other intimacy: kissing, holding hands and cuddling etc, is that a position from which the wife would want to look for a lover?

This is the situation of my wife and I. She has in the past flirted with and had a non sexual dalliance with her personal trainer, which cane to an end when lockdown happened.

The pressures of home schooling, finances, me working from home and us all being locked up together 24/7 has really hit our sex life for six, but we are still v warm and affectionate and have a v loving family with our child. My wife and I just don’t really have sex anymore (the last 4-5 months).

I have noticed her openly looking at and admiring younger guys out and about & she even comments on how fit random guys are on the street. I don’t get the sense that she is doing this to get a reaction from me (she doesn’t express frustration or anger towards me), rather she seems to just be making absentminded conversation. I wondered if she is at a place from which she might have started looking.

First of all, It's not healthy and being horny 24 hours is bad. If hubby denies me for 4-5 months I'll literally fuck anything that moves or tie and fuck the shit out of him. Hubby, don't get any ideas

[cuckcouple7784]

My wife and I have only had one bull for over a year now and are about to add 1 possibly 2 local guys to the mix, my wife has only had one alone date while I was at work on the condition that she take pics and or video which she completely forgot about but that's another story.

She's said that she wants to have a mix of 1 on 1 dates and some with me there as she says it's easier to let go when I'm not there but she would also like me there sometimes???

I suspect that she'd prefer to have me not present on all her dates but is only including me in some of her dates because she's a good wife and a nice person, however she's mentioned that she'd love to have a dom bull and that I won't be there for those which sux but I know from other posts what the woman's common reasons are for this, she's said that his level of control would only extend to their dates but I'm thinking that once she fully submits what if she allows him to control me ie pussy free periods or condoms etc, even though she's said that won't happen it seems like it's happened in a lot of other similar situations and seeing as she doesn't yet know what it's like to fully submit should I request video or maybe eventually ask to watch just one date? Also in your opinion is it likely she will love fully submitting and it affect our dynamic not necessarily in a bad way (denial can be sexy) or am I overthinking and become a victim of my jealousy and loss of (perceived) control?

[2inUPMichigan]

My wife and I have only had one bull for over a year now and are about to add 1 possibly 2 local guys to the mix, my wife has only had one alone date while I was at work on the condition that she take pics and or video which she completely forgot about but that's another story.

She's said that she wants to have a mix of 1 on 1 dates and some with me there as she says it's easier to let go when I'm not there but she would also like me there sometimes???

I suspect that she'd prefer to have me not present on all her dates but is only including me in some of her dates because she's a good wife and a nice person, however she's mentioned that she'd love to have a dom bull and that I won't be there for those which sux but I know from other posts what the woman's common reasons are for this, she's said that his level of control would only extend to their dates but I'm thinking that once she fully submits what if she allows him to control me ie pussy free periods or condoms etc, even though she's said that won't happen it seems like it's happened in a lot of other similar situations and seeing as she doesn't yet know what it's like to fully submit should I request video or maybe eventually ask to watch just one date? Also in your opinion is it likely she will love fully submitting and it affect our dynamic not necessarily in a bad way (denial can be sexy) or am I overthinking and become a victim of my jealousy and loss of (perceived) control?

You are reading a lot into some of these posts. I do play with a dominant partner and he has absolutely no say on my life outside of our play time. A respectful experienced Dom does not need to take over and will respect any boundaries that a couple has.

The man I play with specifically asked (yes he asked) if there were any rules that HE needed to follow or be aware of. He said as long as he knew what they were he would never break them and make sure I didn't either.

Control can't be "taken" it can only be given. So if you do not give him control then he has no control, it really is that simple.
No one can force anyone to submit to them.

The threads where a "bull" takes over completely - they might be presented that way but trust me no one can take over unless you hand over permission for them to take control. When you relinquish control to someone else then of course some will take advantage and take things as far as they can. The solution? Communicate your boundaries clearly

I understand why she is talking about solo play dates as a submissive. Playing as a submissive I can get almost tunnel vision (hard to explain) anything that distracted me would interrupt that intensity and I would lose my arousal. (It has happened before) Sorry if I'm not explaining this very well.

I think her wanting to explore her sub side is an unknown for you and you are unsure on how to react. Has her sub side had an negative effect on your relationship so far? Just because she hasn't fully explored it doesn't mean it hasn't been there all along.

Trust her, communicate your concerns and screen the men well.

[Masterbull34]

If a bull ask a question?