"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[SailorGuy]

I could never be the Bull, and frankly being a husband sexually active with my wife was a long time ago for me. As I recall the sex we had was really good, and it got even better when we began talking fantasy. By now I am completely out of the picture sexually with my wife, but masturbating thinking about her when she is over at her lover's is fantastic. A great sex life for me, totally satisfying. Sure her lover is a lucky guy, but I'd rather be me in this scenario. Never allowed to watch, but if that day ever comes I'll be thrilled.

[vrmtr]

I have an image in my mind and would love to see her actually in action. I know she LOVES to fuck...she LOVES to have a cock inside of her...being able to sit back and see it would be the ultimate sight!!

[starry_night]

I love seeing my GF fucked hard. She is horny. I am her third BF, but yet after so many years of fucking she has a good tight pussy. I want that to be loesen

Fist her. Take it slowly and you'll get there.

[Westtexashubby]

For one there is nothing like seeing your wife sexually satisfied, and when can't without the help from a bigger dildo you understand what's makes her click, the only next obvious is real one that has the ability to do so

[Jasperidge]

The immediate result of slipping into her after our friend plopped out was insanely intense. It was cavernous in there. I could barely feel the walls. And she was so hot and silky. My orgasms were convulsive. Truly mind blowing. It reminded me of sex while tripping on acid. The journey is such a delight that the destination, orgasm, fades in importance. And when I came I thought my balls were going to turn inside-out.

As important was the long-term effect. Because Sally got to fuck Bill two, three and sometimes, four times a year, she didn’t get completely bored fucking me. She got to remember hunger.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Jasperidge.

[Outlaw]

Because we all enjoy it. We shouldn't have to qualify what consenting adults do.

[Outlaw]

Because we all enjoy it. We shouldn't have to qualify what consenting adults do.

[Thickstaff]

I thought after our first swap I must be a perv or wierd because it made me so horny seeing her fucked by another man then fucking her with her cunt full of his cum. I had to find out if I was abnormal. So I started to investigate, starting with "sperm competition". That led to more and more, finding that so many other men have the same desire.

This went further and deeper, revealing many aspects of human sexual desire, men's desires and women's sexual propensity. I don' t propose to include all my support and references for my final conclusions, ( that will be part of a complete description at a later time), but I will list the things I have learned and believe explains why we love seeing our wives being fucked.

1. Women evolved so they are able to have sex with multiple men one after another while men have to take time to recover for another copulation.

2. Women are predisposed to cheat as an insurance to ensure her genes are pased on in case her current partner may not be her partner in future. This was the conclusion of a U of Texas professor.

3. Women attempt to pair with an Alpha male, but if unsuccesful, will pick a Beta male who is a good provider for her future offspring.

4. Women even though married are aroused by Alpha males, driven by subconscious instinct that urges her to succomb as her body and mind leads her to copulate as an Alpha male will give her more successful genes for her offspring. This can be by cheating or consent with her husband.

5. The husband, believing or knowing his wife has fucked another man is driven by an instinct that leads him to become aroused despite feelings of anger or jealousy. Why? If his wife has fucked another man, there is a chance she could have a child by the other man and the husband will be obligated to provide for the child. His instinct is to prevent this by fucking her to replace the other mans sperm in her cunt. Thats why men get so hard if their wife fucks another man. In fact, nothing else can make a man as hard, cum so quick and shoot such a large load of cum.

6. As support for 5 above, it has been shown by physical experiments with realistic dildos that the human penis is the most appropriate shape for removing existing semen from a woman's cunt. The crown of the head is wider than the shaft and the majority at a right angle to the shaft. The crown on the underside curves forward and smaller. Thus, as a cock slides in, the head squeezes existing semen behind the crown which then pulls the semen out of her cunt. Note also, that when a man cums in a cunt, he normally pushes in deep and holds his cock deep inside for an extended period after his ejaculation.

7. In a significant proportion of men, they want to lick their woman's cunt full of another man's cum, just another desire to remove another man's semen from her cunt.

I hope most of you see similarities in your own experience as support for my suggested reasons for wanting to see your woman fucked. This does not negate those other reasons for wanting her fucked such as wanting her to have pleasure, and giving her the gift of sex with other men.

If you have pros or cons to anything I have suggested, please let me know. I would hope that the majority will find my first post helpfull.

[Thickstaff]

This is such an interesting thread, even though I still don't fully understand why I want my wife to have sex with another man it is gratifying to hear others feel the same, for so many different reasons some of which I agree with, but others quite different... This is still my fantasy and we are far from becoming a HW couple, but I want to try to understand my own motivations before taking it further (though she knows about my fantasies).

I think for me a lot of the excitement about the idea is as a way to deal with jealousy. In my first relationship I often thought about and fantasized about my girlfriend with her ex, imagining watching them having sex, and getting extremely excited about the idea. She told me that my cock was "kind of thin" and that "there was more feeling" with a thicker one, and since she had only been with two other guys I figured her ex must have been a lot girthier than me, and that added to my feelings of jealousy and excitement thinking about them having sex. As it happened, she did end up cheating on me with him, but that didn't make me feel excited - I handled it very badly. And in later relationships I was often very jealous and possessive. When I met my wife twenty years ago we went through a rocky period after the first years, we were on a break as I wasn't sure of my feelings, and she met someone else who was clearly more physically attractive than me (and I think well endowed, though I don't think that mattered much to my wife). That didn't last, and we eventually made it back together and things improved massively and we've now been happily married for the last ten years. But throughout these years I have never stopped fantasizing about her having sex with that guy. I couldn't stop thinking about how sex must have been better with him - she did admit that "it's always exciting in the beginning", and that he was more good-looking than me, and while those thoughts filled me with jealousy they also excited me in strange ways. Over the years, my jealousy dissipated and I could handle those thoughts better and I was (and am) no longer worried about my wife cheating on me or leaving me. But the excitement of those fantasies is as strong as it's ever been, and I often fantasize about her other exes as well - she has told me about some of her past sexual experiences and I find thinking about those incredibly hot. The thought about her being lustful and sexually active with others, enjoying sex for the pure physical pleasure is very erotic to me. With my jealousy now a thing of the past, I am more and more wanting her to relive that part of her life, feel the excitement of flirtation and sexual attraction to a new man. With family life and children taking center stage, our sex life has inevitably become rather routine and staid, at best weekly, and with menopause she is losing a lot of her natural libido. Her lust is also diminished from stress, anxiety, and a loss of body confidence (even though she's still sexy as hell).

I want her to regain her lust - and I know that she will not feel that lust for me again, not without some major rekindling of her sexuality by another man. So my jealousy - the feeling of anger at her being sexually pleasured by another man - has turned into a desire to see her getting that pleasure with me as a bystander, watching her let herself go and enjoy the body and cock of a new man, watching her give in to the pure physical lust that you only get in the very beginning stages of a relationship. While I'm hoping that would awaken her lust for me again, I would be happy just to see her experience that rush and thrill again even if it's just with another man - for me, watching it would be more exciting than taking part (though I'm sure I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off her when they've finished). I suppose I just want her to become that sexual being she once was when we first met, free of responsibilities and free to embrace her sexuality without limits.

That so perfectly describes the desires I have about my wife and how I feel having seen her fuck other men. I only hope yoy can convince her to take the plunge, both for her enjoyment and the slaking of your desires.

[2inUPMichigan]

Because we all enjoy it. We shouldn't have to qualify what consenting adults do.

Wish we had a like button for this post! ❤

[Outlaw]

Thanks, we enjoy the life.

[aversimiro]

I remember this thread after seeing my wife on the sofa getting it from behind in doggystyle from her stud. Seeing her beauty, her toned body, her thighs and slender feet from a few metres away. What a view. It is far more pleasure to see a thick 9 inch cock. I much prefer the view and taking it all in with the stud getting the opportunity to enjoy her.

To be fair taking all into account there are only 2 reasons why you would not want another guy to fuck your wife 1) She is not a drop dead stunner 2) The male is insecure.

My wife is not a drop dead stunner

[Aushotwife89]

my husband has told me he gets off when i am enjoying myself and having an orgasm. we haven’t done anything yet, is this a thing? do guys like watching their wives orgasm in front of them? wouldn’t he be jealous?

[lisamyhotwife]

my husband has told me he gets off when i am enjoying myself and having an orgasm. we haven’t done anything yet, is this a thing? do guys like watching their wives orgasm in front of them? wouldn’t he be jealous?

Can't think of anything I'd rather do!

[Parsifal]

my husband has told me he gets off when i am enjoying myself and having an orgasm. we haven’t done anything yet, is this a thing? do guys like watching their wives orgasm in front of them? wouldn’t he be jealous?

You question -- "wouldn't he be jealous? -- is specific to him, so none of us can really answer unless we know him better than you. Generally, for men who sense jealousy as part of the experience, it's spice -- some may tell you the flavor is strong, others subtle; and if they make it a lifestyle to watch their wives in action in the first place, it's because they enjoy feeling some level of jealousy as part of the rich erotic mix. The better question to ask is whether he's able to control his jealousy and let it spice the overall experience or whether it will end up controlling him and spoiling his fun and yours. So my point is, him having a twinge of jealously is not a deal killer -- it's normal and even desirable provided he's got it under control and can harness it as a positive part of his experience.

[Robert01]

Well I'm new to all this, my wife and I are quite young (I'm 28 she is 27). Neither of us were sexually experienced, and I always had the nagging doubt that I wasn't satisfying her. After we met our (now) regular, I was quick to realise my wife was being very very fully satisfied by him, from my selfish perspective too, I really enjoyed seeing her being fully satisfied.

Robert

[cuckdave11]

Seems to me this question is the wrong way around. My wife will sleep with whomever she wants, regardless of what I think. I happen to love that about her!

[long4her]

my husband has told me he gets off when i am enjoying myself and having an orgasm. we haven’t done anything yet, is this a thing? do guys like watching their wives orgasm in front of them? wouldn’t he be jealous?

The fact that a huge percent of searches on internet porn sites are cuckold or hotwife related would suggest many men at least like the idea of their wife or girlfriend being satisfied by another man. I suspect for most men the reality is too much but in fantasy it might work. And yes he’d be crazy jealous but that’s the point.

[lisamyhotwife]

I guess we look at things differently. My wife and I started out swinging after 20 years of marriage. We loved seeing each other pleased. As time went by there was, at least for us a natural progression to the hot wife type relationship. We don't own each other, we enjoy the erotic and sexy life swinging/hotwife has given us. Watching my wife enjoy a man or a woman gives me great joy. Thursday we are heading south to hookup with one of her long term fb, she my spend the night in his bed she my get up in the morning and let him have his way with her, I just enjoy her fucking to be blunt!. We have a thread up here with pix and our story if you care to check it out, but in short we have been involved in this for almost 20 years but we had a family and a life together before we took the leap. I am her anchor and her support, that is the key. She is safe knowing I love her no matter what

[early-kink]

my husband has told me he gets off when i am enjoying myself and having an orgasm. we haven’t done anything yet, is this a thing? do guys like watching their wives orgasm in front of them? wouldn’t he be jealous?

You question -- "wouldn't he be jealous? -- is specific to him, so none of us can really answer unless we know him better than you. Generally, for men who sense jealousy as part of the experience, it's spice -- some may tell you the flavor is strong, others subtle; and if they make it a lifestyle to watch their wives in action in the first place, it's because they enjoy feeling some level of jealousy as part of the rich erotic mix. The better question to ask is whether he's able to control his jealousy and let it spice the overall experience or whether it will end up controlling him and spoiling his fun and yours. So my point is, him having a twinge of jealously is not a deal killer -- it's normal and even desirable provided he's got it under control and can harness it as a positive part of his experience.

GREAT ANSWER!!! Accurate points. Love the comparison of jealousy to a "spice." Without some degree of jealousy / angst - the "flavor" & eroticism is almost nil.

[CurvyNerdMILF]

my husband has told me he gets off when i am enjoying myself and having an orgasm. we haven’t done anything yet, is this a thing? do guys like watching their wives orgasm in front of them? wouldn’t he be jealous?

I am a newbie around here. I’ve only had a couple of experiences with other men so far.

Both my husband and at least one of the men I’ve been with are captivated by my orgasms. Most men, unless they’ve done authentic tantric training or other mindfulness, have short-lived orgasms. Do they feel good? Sure. But women’s orgasms are typically longer, stronger, and more ecstatic. I think many men realize this and rather than wallowing in jealousy, ride out the pleasure by watching their partner’s joy, including if they are not the ones providing the orgasm.

I have also met a man who accepted advice from a friend in a female-led relationship (FLR) and conditioned himself to react sexually to the sight of his wife’s orgasms with others by touching himself while watching her. I guess it’s trying to wire the voyeuristic experience to his own physical pleasure.

So, yes, it’s a thing.

[dinoo]

WELL SAID

[lisamyhotwife]

I agree with this. As I have said many times on threads here, I love my wife and seeing her enjoying another man or woman brings me great joy. When we started all those years ago it was because I wanted her to experience everything in life she wanted. At that time I don't think she even knew how much she would enjoy being with others. I was the only person she had ever had so she was a bit nervous but as time went on she fell in love with how open she could be with me about her wants. I love that. We just got back from two nights and three days at a friend's house and what a time. (Pictures are coming to our thread soon.)I love when I wake up, she is not there and I hear her in his bedroom. The sounds are intoxicating. I get up and walk into his room and see her legs spread wide for him or her on top sliding up and down.
When we first started I can't lie, I had some jealousy issues but Lisa made me feel loved and wanted, I was included in the path that I started her down so how could I not learn to enjoy the journey. She has a couple of men she has seen for many years and some for not so long, they have become friends that I trust to treat my wife the way I treat her and I could not ask for more than that.
If you are truly partners on this path it is an incredible and erotic journey that can keep you young and your relationship exciting. I have been with my wife 44 years now and would not trade this life for anything.
If you go down this path do it with and open mind and open heart and enjoy!

[dinoo]

lisamyhotwife wrote:
"If you are truly partners on this path it is an incredible and erotic journey that can keep you young and your relationship exciting. I have been with my wife 44 years now and would not trade this life for anything."

Could have been written by myself.