Body Image - What men really think is sexy

[lookingiansa]

I think a little curvy is sexy, intellect and personality is sexy to me too. It's so hard for me to put it in words of what I think is attractive about women from a man's point of view. I think honestly there is something at least one thing attractive to me in all women but the more they have 2, 3, 4, or more combined things does it for me. They have me at hello. Lol

IDK how to describe it, but they say your vibe is your tribe. I can just know if meeting a new women even before sex date first contact with them if they are attracted to me and me to them. It's like there is a mutual homing beacon attracting us together.

Mr. Lookingiansa

[lookingiansa]

A7 - ^^^^ Preach it, brother!! I've seen slim girls who acted as if they were God's gift to men, and acted all "up there." Dated a few in the past. They were ZEROES!! A woman who is confident, welcoming to guys, and is sexy/flirty is a candle and we guys become moths.

I can relate to that a friend was dating a beauty queen pixie who he said he fucked her, and told herhe had better hands jobs than their PIV fucking was ouch.

Mr. Lookingiansa

[LisaViva]

I am a nude Greeter at two Vegas places. I am curvy. I wear wedge sandals as I greet our guests. I find many that love my curvy body.

[36DDwife]

As a general rule in life, I hate extremes. Same with women’s attitudes about their own bodies. For example, the ladies who give you the “I’m not sexy? I have saggy boobs, a fat ass, & thighs that look like the surface of a golf ball” are a major turn off. No matter how much you tell them they’re not any of that, they won’t listen. And then there’s the little Southern belle who will give you the “Daddy says I’m beautiful” bullshit to go along with her sense of entitlement & a perpetual case of RBF. Neither is attractive to me!

But a few extra pounds, wrinkles, gray hairs, stretch marks from giving birth....are not a problem for me.

[afagehi7]

As a general rule in life, I hate extremes. Same with women’s attitudes about their own bodies. For example, the ladies who give you the “I’m not sexy? I have saggy boobs, a fat ass, & thighs that look like the surface of a golf ball” are a major turn off. No matter how much you tell them they’re not any of that, they won’t listen. And then there’s the little Southern belle who will give you the “Daddy says I’m beautiful” bullshit to go along with her sense of entitlement & a perpetual case of RBF. Neither is attractive to me!

But a few extra pounds, wrinkles, gray hairs, stretch marks from giving birth....are not a problem for me.

Just own it and know that we like a woman who acts sexy.

[36DDwife]

As a general rule in life, I hate extremes. Same with women’s attitudes about their own bodies. For example, the ladies who give you the “I’m not sexy? I have saggy boobs, a fat ass, & thighs that look like the surface of a golf ball” are a major turn off. No matter how much you tell them they’re not any of that, they won’t listen. And then there’s the little Southern belle who will give you the “Daddy says I’m beautiful” bullshit to go along with her sense of entitlement & a perpetual case of RBF. Neither is attractive to me!

But a few extra pounds, wrinkles, gray hairs, stretch marks from giving birth....are not a problem for me.

Just own it and know that we like a woman who acts sexy.

10-4 good buddy!

[early-kink]

I was reading this thread from page 1 - which I hadn't done before. As far as PHYSICAL things I find attractive & sexy on a woman, I have to agree with HWHubby in his Nov. 25th, 2015 post about a couple things.

Like HWHubby, I ALWAYS look for a pretty, feminine manicure & pedicure. Nice, sexy nails & toes are the final touches on a lady's looks, regardless of carrying a few extra pounds. As a guy - I NEVER would show up to see a lady with dirty, ragged nails myself. Would any lady want me touching her with grubby hands?? My advice for any woman in this regard .......... you girls are ladies - and we guys LOVE seeing you own your feminine, "girly-girl" side!! Get those pretty mani-pedi's and WOW us!!!

And don't be afraid of wearing some colorful lipstick either!! The pale shades that make lips look anemic and ill aren't sexy - or even attractive really. Who thinks sickly is attractive?????????? Ladies are made for ......... and look prettiest ....... in COLORS!!!! Pinks, rose shades, corals, reds, wine-shades, merlots, berry shades, etc. are feminine dynamite!!! They don't call such looks "classy" or "CLASSIC" for no reason!!!!!!

Confident, flirty (but not over-the-top), easy to talk to women are JUST the sexiest ladies out there!! Women who OWN their femininity, and are comfortable in their own skin - comfortable around guys. Don't fret over some extra pounds or a few wrinkles. ATTITUDE and CONFIDENCE are what's magnetic to us guys!!

[DaveS]

I definitely have sapio-sexual tendencies - I really love smart women! My wife has a Doctorate, my girlfriend has a Master's degree. Physically, I prefer curvy and brunette.

(We are poly - so I have a gf also - although she is much more involved with her bf than I am with my gf - and gets a lot more action than I do. We have essentially embedded a stag-vixen sexual dynamic in our poly marriage).

[RetiredSnowbird]

To a certain extent this involves body image but I really like a woman who is truly confident of her sexuality and looks you in the eye. In my opinion, having a woman lock eyes with me, either while dressed or as soon as she's free of all clothes, is one of the most wonderful experiences of sexuality.

[early-kink]

To a certain extent this involves body image but I really like a woman who is truly confident of her sexuality and looks you in the eye. In my opinion, having a woman lock eyes with me, either while dressed or as soon as she's free of all clothes, is one of the most wonderful experiences of sexuality.

100% agree with this. Confidence in her femininity & sexuality is the top of the list. If a woman has that, she'll not be afraid to own her "femaleness", and her sexual magnetism will blossom. Being a scared-mouse isn't sexy or attractive, IMO.

"I'm a sexy, confident woman ... and you're gonna want to get to know me. Just check me out and tell me if you like what you see - head to toe." THAT confident, feminine attitude is sexy to me.

[JMart72]

Hey guys, I loved reading through all the responses on this topic... it really boosted my confidence to see all the ways a man finds a woman attractive. I always felt "less than" because I'm a bigger girl (US size 16)... and was hurt so many times by one-and-done kind of guys because I thought I was just too big for their taste... so I, myself, would often say goodbye prematurely, not giving them a chance to hurt me first. As it turns out, maybe I was not their taste, maybe I was... but I didn't even give them a chance. Now I realize there's more to it for a lot of guys. Thanks so much for the insights!!

[afagehi7]

Hey guys, I loved reading through all the responses on this topic... it really boosted my confidence to see all the ways a man finds a woman attractive. I always felt "less than" because I'm a bigger girl (US size 16)... and was hurt so many times by one-and-done kind of guys because I thought I was just too big for their taste... so I, myself, would often say goodbye prematurely, not giving them a chance to hurt me first. As it turns out, maybe I was not their taste, maybe I was... but I didn't even give them a chance. Now I realize there's more to it for a lot of guys. Thanks so much for the insights!!

Own your body and be confident and you'll find plenty of guys who like you. Throw in a slutty attitude in the bedroom and you'll have guys all over you.

[armyguyot1]

We have a porn DVD called, "Wife Cheats Husband Eats." The gal is a little overweight but you don't even notice as she is so damn hot and she is so damn hungry for cock. A friend once said nothing looks better on a man than money. For women that fuckable hot appeal. Seems like women who love to fuck give off a vibe and men go nuts over it. Probably a lot of things as we all know how personality is really important in attraction. There are some hard to quantify variables the let a guy know that a woman is hot and loves and enjoys fucking.

[nerdywbooty]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

[afagehi7]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

We'd love to see a picture! Non identifiable of course.

It's all in the attitude. Own your body and be confident and we'll love it too!

[H2100309]

I am a nude Greeter at two Vegas places. I am curvy. I wear wedge sandals as I greet our guests. I find many that love my curvy body.

Its a job I want to try and recommend after enjoying it for a while. The fact that you were hired means you fit the sexy criteria for majority of expected guests, at least the hiring manager. I am not sure if I would get hired, but I am interested in trying

[LisaViva]

Ten years as a Greeter... I have been mostly nude since I was 19.

Recent pic...

[2inUPMichigan]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

There are quite a few men that are more interested in mature women who know what they want and aren't afraid to ask for it as opposed to the "thinner/younger/prettier" ideal that we are taught that men want. (Thankfully)

[H2100309]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

There are quite a few men that are more interested in mature women who know what they want and aren't afraid to ask for it as opposed to the "thinner/younger/prettier" ideal that we are taught that men want. (Thankfully)

I agree with you...

[wantahw]

Ten years as a Greeter... I have been mostly nude since I was 19.

Recent pic...

Gorgeous!

[LisaViva]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

Take a leap... Try a nudist place...

I have been nude since I was 19. I am 45 now. I have been around mostly older men and they appreciate me no mater how I am looking that day. I am far from ms universe. It just takes a willingness to do it and once you do you will get rewarded! Men are not looking for ms universe. They are looking for me and you. If you never went nude with others, you are missing out. No one is perfect. And no one thinks they are. At least not people like you, me, and the typical nudist.

Do it!

[tonasketcouple]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

My wife is like you too, in all of the same things she says. one of the medical things on top of the lack of body confidence is that she has vitiligo which is a skin pigment lightening (light pink) in spots in various places on her body. I dont worry about it, but its all about all she sees.

what does the collective minds, both ladies and gent think, is this a road bock to you?

[2inUPMichigan]

Thank you for this thread! My husband is always telling me how hot I am, but it’s hard not to have in my head that guys are wanting someone thinner/younger/prettier. I recently gained some weight due to a medication, and it’s taken a toll mentally. I’m working on building up my confidence and feeling sexy again. I got some sexy new clothes and will be treating myself to a pedicure and Brazilian. I think I’ll find some new red lipstick too. Need to shake off this pandemic frump and have some fun again!

My wife is like you too, in all of the same things she says. one of the medical things on top of the lack of body confidence is that she has vitiligo which is a skin pigment lightening (light pink) in spots in various places on her body. I dont worry about it, but its all about all she sees.

what does the collective minds, both ladies and gent think, is this a road bock to you?

I've realized since I became a hotwife that men really don't look at the same things I look at when I look in the mirror. Or should I say they look at them but they see them differently.

When they look at my body they are looking at it from the standpoint of what they could be doing to it they are thinking about how our bodies go together not necessarily zeroing in on what I perceive as my physical flaws.

[tonasketcouple]

2 in up,
Exactly. I think you have a great perspective. Maybe she needs to talk to you, my opinion doesn't count.

[JMNBABE]

Haven't read the whole thread yet, but here is one expereince I had when working my way thru college at an Adult Bookstore in the Detroit area (made LOTS more $$ than people bussing in restaurants, or QuikPik clerks!! LOL And had more fun!!):

In Detroit, near 8 Mile and Dequindre (about a mile or so from where Eminem grew up), the single most in demand streetwalking hooker was this SKANKY hag of a woman, weighed EASY 400 lbs, 6 foot tall, only clothing she wore was a pair of Farmer Overalls, sometiomes a pair of worn our tennis shoes but mostly barefoot, FILTHY dirty all the time, stunk like nothing you have ever experienced (unless you are one of the guys that utilized her services!!), face woul dhave stopped a speeding bullet, hair dyed filthy blond and never combed....only good thing I can say is she had pretty blue eyes!! LOL

She could not hardly be dropped off for the next guy picking her up!! I have NO idea how anyone was able to do anything sexual with her. She would come in the store occasionally for a candy bar, or cigarettes, maybe to do a few blow jobs in the movies in the back room. Nice enough to talk to, but OMG how anyone could see her as "sexual" or attractive, or even remorely desirable is beyond my capacity to understand!!

YEARS later after I graduated College, she came in to my ER with "pain up there".........have NO idea what she had been fucking, and she wouldn't own up about it, but we removed TWO infected and jammed so far up inside her it was unbelievable, diaphragm cups. She was so infected we tried to admit her, but she had to "get back on the street".........she was by then a "skin popper", HIV positive, had severe Herpes, and god knows what else and she was STILL an active streetwalker......

So "sexy" is TRULY in the eyes of the Beholder!!

CW