Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[superb101]

I am assuming that it was your master bedroom in the background of the pic-correct?

[slenderfish]

I am assuming that it was your master bedroom in the background of the pic-correct?

Yes, well, it's the master bathroom. Mirror pic. She's standing up on the level of the stone in which the jacuzzi tub is installed.

I've done a quick once-over on the background of the photos and the mirror reflections for any hints of something else as clues, but nothing at this point. Will do again in greater detail when I'm alone and have time to really get through the images.

[slenderfish]

She has never even worn lingerie before, to my knowledge, and of course never taken sexy selfies and sent to me.

Maybe, or better, hopefully she sent the sexy selfie to another man first. My wife has sent me sexy selfies that after some time I’ve learned that I was not the first man to see them.

Perhaps you can try opening the door for her to tell you by saying something along the lines of how lucky you are to receive such a hot picture and how many other men would love to receive a pic like that from her.

I did consider that she was doing it for someone else and that I got a copy. That's really hot! I'll find out.

I think it's definitely for someone else... Question is who?

Even if she didn't send them to someone else, she was likely thinking about it and testing it out on you to see a male response

This morning as she was leaving for her coffee and then over to Mr. G for workout, I was able to work into the conversation that I'm still on a bit of a high from the sexy images she sent. She said "you take care of me, I take care of you" and "you should go out of town more often" etc. I noted to her that I'll be out of town midweek next week and again the same, the following week. She smiled and said she's aware of it and I will not know what to expect.

As she was driving out of the garage, I reminded her of my real desires and she was coy, kind of "I don't know about that" reply. I said that it remains a powerful fantasy and that it's in my thoughts all the time, and that I appreciate anything she can do to support it.

And off she went, with a big smile on her face.

[8toplaywith]

This is starting to get interesting.

[slenderfish]

This is starting to get interesting.

Indeed, it is. That extra energy we've been observing of late has apparently started to blossom. Might be a good time to check the other thread (hint).

[slenderfish]

She has never even worn lingerie before, to my knowledge, and of course never taken sexy selfies and sent to me.

Maybe she meant it for someone else ...

Well, the unusual behavior (lingerie selfie) that she never before did for me (she never wore lingerie and she never did risque selfies or any selfies for that matter) is a clue that something may be up. I will share thoughts on the other thread (hint).

[slenderfish]

I think it's definitely for someone else... Question is who?

My OHW friend afagehi7 you have consistently been a keen observer and often on the mark. I will go into my realizations on this specific notion of yours, in the other thread.

[Wes31]

"And off she went, with a big smile on her face."
After reading through this whole thread, my guess is while she's smiling she's thinking "I'm already fulfilling your fantasy and you don't know it!"

[Mr ablondemilf]

Not quite there on the thoughts, but a quick update for chewing in the meantime.

I'm back to my business trips two or three days each week, two time zones away from where we live. This week a quick trip; departed 7:00 a.m. Wednesday and return 7:00 p.m. Thursday (tonight).

So last night she met a girlfriend at a wine place we love to frequent, in a more happening part of town about 25 min drive away from home. It's a place for the "pretty" people. I did speak to her a bit as she was getting ready to go out, which was just after dinner for me. I asked her to send me an image of her all dolled up, like I do from time to time, but she never provides. Sometimes when she's out, she will be in a pic with her friend and then send to me.

I stayed up late doing work but got distracted thinking about her being out, etc. I watched No Time to Die online and fell asleep around 1:00 a.m. local time, 11:00 p.m. for SW, but hadn't heard or seen anything from her. I figured she was having a nice time, etc. and went off to slumber imagining all sorts of naughty things she night be doing.

I woke up and rushed around to make it to the office in advance of a high-level meeting I was hosting at 9:30 a.m. Was rushing down the elevator of the hotel and looked at my phone to check whether I had time for a bite to eat, and noticed a new text message from SW.

Upon looking at it, I was shocked and surprised that it was her doing a selfie of herself in lingerie, kind of teasing/modeling it for me. Looking fabulous! It was time stamped 4:10 a.m. my time (2:10 a.m. her time). She has never even worn lingerie before, to my knowledge, and of course never taken sexy selfies and sent to me.

Whatever in the world had her a) awake at 2:10 a.m. and dressed in lingerie and b) in spirits to take the images and send? The imagination runs and runs!

DAMN, you lucky dude!!!

[slenderfish]

"And off she went, with a big smile on her face."
After reading through this whole thread, my guess is while she's smiling she's thinking "I'm already fulfilling your fantasy and you don't know it!"

Seems to be the case, at least I hope. More in the other thread (over in Hotties section).

[slenderfish]

We have a new candidate, let's call him Mr. J. I think she sent him selfies of her in lingerie, later the same night after she met him at a restaurant/bar (this past Wednesday when I was on a business trip two time zones away).

- He looks about 5 years younger than SW.

- He is a lawyer in town, partner in a midtown law firm.

- He has a friendly look and a strong smile.

- He is black and very professional looking on his firm's website.

- He is tall and athletic, in good physical shape.

- He is from the Midwest (same as SW).

- He appears to prefer blonde women.

- He appears to be single.

SW hasn't mentioned anything about this. I figured it all out over the course of about 90 minutes last night, after work while SW was out for a couple of hours for a casual dinner with a married girlfriend of hers.

I'm kind of on pins and needles. Didn't sleep well. I wrote more on this development in the other string, in the Hotties section.

I want to ask her about it, but at the same time I know that asking or acknowledging will almost certainly knock her off this track.

Advice wholeheartedly welcomed at this point. Thank you in advance.

[BallSpanking]

Hmmm ... I think bringing it up might be counterproductive at this point.

[afagehi7]

We have a new candidate, let's call him Mr. J. I think she sent him selfies of her in lingerie, later the same night after she met him at a restaurant/bar (this past Wednesday when I was on a business trip two time zones away).

- He looks about 5 years younger than SW.

- He is a lawyer in town, partner in a midtown law firm.

- He has a friendly look and a strong smile.

- He is black and very professional looking on his firm's website.

- He is tall and athletic, in good physical shape.

- He is from the Midwest (same as SW).

- He appears to prefer blonde women.

- He appears to be single.

SW hasn't mentioned anything about this. I figured it all out over the course of about 90 minutes last night, after work while SW was out for a couple of hours for a casual dinner with a married girlfriend of hers.

I'm kind of on pins and needles. Didn't sleep well. I wrote more on this development in the other string, in the Hotties section.

I want to ask her about it, but at the same time I know that asking or acknowledging will almost certainly knock her off this track.

Advice wholeheartedly welcomed at this point. Thank you in advance.

Advice: if you don't want to ask her then all you can do is reaffirm your birthday desires... This way she is confirmed that she is on the right track.

Could you innocently ask her about her evening? Maybe ask if she sent the pics to Mr M (or is it S that's trying to get back in?)? You know he's trying and you know she's thinking about it, that's in the open so it could be an innocent legit question... Maybe she'll tell you about Mr J?

A young hot athletic hung stud taking her to poundtown is about the hottest thing I can imagine... Bonus if it's BBC

I'm heading over to see if you posted any lingerie pics... If not hopefully they appear soon

[Marco]

Could you innocently ask her about her evening? Maybe ask if she sent the pics to Mr M (or is it S that's trying to get back in?)? You know he's trying and you know she's thinking about it, that's in the open so it could be an innocent legit question... Maybe she'll tell you about Mr J?

Agree I would do the same, something like "it was a nice surprise to receive that pic out of the blue, what made you take it?, was it new lingerie? did anyone else get it?"
This way you don't assume it was for you (we know it wasn't but if you assumed that then she would not say it was for someone else not to hurt you) and she feels safe to say she sent it also to another guy.

[slenderfish]

I try to observe. I will point out that a couple of weeks ago it was the year anniversary of her raunchy foray seriously into hotwife water. It was our trip to her hometown for Thanksgiving, and she seduced her longtime friend and former lover Mr. M (completely unexpected by me) as well as having a more intimate set of meetups and sex with Mr. S. She came home from that weekend with NRE and everything.

I mention this because I was noticing an uptick of energy from SW over the past few weeks, increasing this week and as I write this.

[slenderfish]

She has not really attempted any hotwifery for many months, and continues to say that her foray last year with Mr. S ended up not working out and wasn't overall a good experience. I suppose it was because of the NRE that got her on a high, and then his lack of follow through in the weeks following.

I have been taking things she says in the context of hotwife and husband, and am now wondering if much or most of it has been my coloring of her words?

I am thinking about having a deeper conversation with her about hotwifing in general and if she's through with it. If she has any intention of this new undisclosed interest being a hotwife potential, then I think she would answer with an open end (e.g. hold out the possibility even if downplaying). If she says she's completely over it, and that I should manage my fantasy on my own, then that would potentially give the other answer.

But the above assumes a logical and rational process. This is more of an emotional matter and SW is definitely one who operates off emotion and feeling much more than logic and rational thinking.

Definitely a lot of energy coming from her. She is going through something, kind of keeping a bit of distance and spending a lot of time with girlfriends. Including hanging out and extending her plans with them. And more wine than usual. And no indication of physical intimacy or interest in it.

I'm going out of town next week for a couple of days, and then the weekend a ski trip. And then out of town a couple of days the week after.

I'll note one recent thing that I took as a hotwife comment; when I returned from the business trip this past week (Thursday night), and the following morning thanked her again for the lingerie pics as she was departing for her workout with Mr. G, she said "you'll have to go out of town more often for such rewards" or similar. I smiled and concluded she implied she might be warming up hotwife efforts. I confirmed with her the trips I noted above, and that she will have that solo time. She said that she loves the independence while I'm away.

Hmmm...

[afagehi7]

She has not really attempted any hotwifery for many months, and continues to say that her foray last year with Mr. S ended up not working out and wasn't overall a good experience. I suppose it was because of the NRE that got her on a high, and then his lack of follow through in the weeks following.

I have been taking things she says in the context of hotwife and husband, and am now wondering if much or most of it has been my coloring of her words?

I am thinking about having a deeper conversation with her about hotwifing in general and if she's through with it. If she has any intention of this new undisclosed interest being a hotwife potential, then I think she would answer with an open end (e.g. hold out the possibility even if downplaying). If she says she's completely over it, and that I should manage my fantasy on my own, then that would potentially give the other answer.

But the above assumes a logical and rational process. This is more of an emotional matter and SW is definitely one who operates off emotion and feeling much more than logic and rational thinking.

Definitely a lot of energy coming from her. She is going through something, kind of keeping a bit of distance and spending a lot of time with girlfriends. Including hanging out and extending her plans with them. And more wine than usual. And no indication of physical intimacy or interest in it.

I'm going out of town next week for a couple of days, and then the weekend a ski trip. And then out of town a couple of days the week after.

I'll note one recent thing that I took as a hotwife comment; when I returned from the business trip this past week (Thursday night), and the following morning thanked her again for the lingerie pics as she was departing for her workout with Mr. G, she said "you'll have to go out of town more often for such rewards" or similar. I smiled and concluded she implied she might be warming up hotwife efforts. I confirmed with her the trips I noted above, and that she will have that solo time. She said that she loves the independence while I'm away.

Hmmm...

Keep a close watch on things. Don't want another Mr B episode...

[Her number1]

slenderfish,
I catch up on your story from time to time. I do hope she is getting ready, for you and for herself, to take to wing .

[slenderfish]

slenderfish,
I catch up on your story from time to time. I do hope she is getting ready, for you and for herself, to take to wing .

Thanks for the encouragement.

[slenderfish]

Well, I do have a bit of an update. Not really a shocker, but a bit of an eye opener. I had wondered how it was that SW was out so late on Wednesday (the night she sent the lingerie pics to me right after she was on the phone with this new guy to almost 2:00 a.m.) if she was with her girlfriend Ms. S who is extra careful about her weeknights and getting home early.

Information does come if I am patient. I've noted before that SW is not very good at keeping things secret even when she tries. This cycle is kind of proving that once again.

Last night there was a holiday event in the little town next to ours, very popular and there is a new hot restaurant (again, the good-looking people) right in the best place for it all. I don't have enough juice to obtain a reservation there during such high demand and at the last minute, but my friend Mr. R does. So I contacted him and asked his plans and, as expected, he invited SW and me into his group. I asked if SW could bring a cute girlfriend and, also as expected, he agreed. She had indicated that this Ms. S will be in the area for the holiday event, and was kind of holding out for the best invitation from someone, so once we got this set up, she (as expected) elected to attend with us as the +1.

Ms. S was out with SW that Wednesday night, as I'd been told prior to going on the business trip. SW had told me when we were on the phone that night at around 6:30 p.m. (her time) that she had to go now, that she was cutting the time tight for picking up Ms. S on the way to the restaurant. But SW didn't seem to know how to get to her house, which is really near to where we live and almost exactly on the way to where we were headed, also quite near to us. I started feeling like things were not adding up.

My opportunity to see her (well, both of them) face, her body language, etc. if and when that night came up in conversation. But I didn't wait for the crumbs. Went directly in for the meat.

Shortly after we were seated, greeted my friend, got introductions to the others in the dinner group, and received our order of drinks, I asked Ms. S how she liked the bar/restaurant from their outing on Wednesday night. She seemed a bit confused at the question. I then remarked that it is a place we often visit on our boys' night, which is generally Wednesday nights, and that was the night of the week they were there. She looked as SW, who began to blush, and SW said quickly, "Oh, she had to cancel because of work in the morning, so did not join." Ms. S chimed in "Yes, had to work."

SW then quickly added "I was there with Ms. Norse and with Ms ____" which is someone I'd never heard of before. Seemed like Ms. S had never heard of this name before, either. It was my impression that SW made it up, or perhaps it was someone she met that night, or ?? SW then added that Ms. Norse also cancelled at the last minute. It seemed to me that SW was quickly cobbling together a cover story for both me and for Ms. S and realized that she shouldn't add Ms. Norse to the mix since I will likely see her within the next week or two and will be able to ask her about the night. She then added "you guys haven't et Ms. ____" which is true. Perhaps will never meet Ms. ____ if she's a made-up person.

I continued. "This bar/restaurant is where we often go for boys' night and it's kind of real happening place on the weekends. Wednesday nights can be great, but sometimes are dead. Ms. S, have you been there on a Wednesday night before?" She answered "No, not on a Wednesday night."

SW then chimed in "Oh, it was hopping on Wednesday this week." I said it's a great place to be a wing man or wing woman. SW agreed, and said she had been "an excellent wing woman" on Wednesday night.

I said to Ms. S "I really like the open format where it's easy for the groups of people at tables in the bar area, for example, to initiate talk across to the other tables. There are usually tables of guys, and tables of girls, so it's pretty easy to meet new people." Ms. S said that she will make a point of going out there when she has a chance.

SW kind of got lost in her thoughts for a beat, and then said "Perhaps we might go on Wednesday this upcoming week, as SF (me) will be out of town again." Ms. S smiled to herself and said "Give me a call."

So SW was kind of busted, but I didn't attach even the smallest bit of energy to it during the conversation. I took it all in stride, smiled a bit to myself at the outcome, and transitioned quickly and naturally to another subject.

I'll continue to observe and report. It does now feel a bit like how it was with Mr. B. This new place from last night is just around the corner from the place where SW was with Mr. B during her cover stories as "out with the girls" but Mr. B was also there, etc. And she was doing all this (back then) when I was going out of town on ski trips, etc.

[afagehi7]

Well, I do have a bit of an update. Not really a shocker, but a bit of an eye opener. I had wondered how it was that SW was out so late on Wednesday (the night she sent the lingerie pics to me right after she was on the phone with this new guy to almost 2:00 a.m.) if she was with her girlfriend Ms. S who is extra careful about her weeknights and getting home early.

Information does come if I am patient. I've noted before that SW is not very good at keeping things secret even when she tries. This cycle is kind of proving that once again.

Last night there was a holiday event in the little town next to ours, very popular and there is a new hot restaurant (again, the good-looking people) right in the best place for it all. I don't have enough juice to obtain a reservation there during such high demand and at the last minute, but my friend Mr. R does. So I contacted him and asked his plans and, as expected, he invited SW and me into his group. I asked if SW could bring a cute girlfriend and, also as expected, he agreed. She had indicated that this Ms. S will be in the area for the holiday event, and was kind of holding out for the best invitation from someone, so once we got this set up, she (as expected) elected to attend with us as the +1.

Ms. S was out with SW that Wednesday night, as I'd been told prior to going on the business trip. SW had told me when we were on the phone that night at around 6:30 p.m. (her time) that she had to go now, that she was cutting the time tight for picking up Ms. S on the way to the restaurant. But SW didn't seem to know how to get to her house, which is really near to where we live and almost exactly on the way to where we were headed, also quite near to us. I started feeling like things were not adding up.

My opportunity to see her (well, both of them) face, her body language, etc. if and when that night came up in conversation. But I didn't wait for the crumbs. Went directly in for the meat.

Shortly after we were seated, greeted my friend, got introductions to the others in the dinner group, and received our order of drinks, I asked Ms. S how she liked the bar/restaurant from their outing on Wednesday night. She seemed a bit confused at the question. I then remarked that it is a place we often visit on our boys' night, which is generally Wednesday nights, and that was the night of the week they were there. She looked as SW, who began to blush, and SW said quickly, "Oh, she had to cancel because of work in the morning, so did not join." Ms. S chimed in "Yes, had to work."

SW then quickly added "I was there with Ms. Norse and with Ms ____" which is someone I'd never heard of before. Seemed like Ms. S had never heard of this name before, either. It was my impression that SW made it up, or perhaps it was someone she met that night, or ?? SW then added that Ms. Norse also cancelled at the last minute. It seemed to me that SW was quickly cobbling together a cover story for both me and for Ms. S and realized that she shouldn't add Ms. Norse to the mix since I will likely see her within the next week or two and will be able to ask her about the night. She then added "you guys haven't et Ms. ____" which is true. Perhaps will never meet Ms. ____ if she's a made-up person.

I continued. "This bar/restaurant is where we often go for boys' night and it's kind of real happening place on the weekends. Wednesday nights can be great, but sometimes are dead. Ms. S, have you been there on a Wednesday night before?" She answered "No, not on a Wednesday night."

SW then chimed in "Oh, it was hopping on Wednesday this week." I said it's a great place to be a wing man or wing woman. SW agreed, and said she had been "an excellent wing woman" on Wednesday night.

I said to Ms. S "I really like the open format where it's easy for the groups of people at tables in the bar area, for example, to initiate talk across to the other tables. There are usually tables of guys, and tables of girls, so it's pretty easy to meet new people." Ms. S said that she will make a point of going out there when she has a chance.

SW kind of got lost in her thoughts for a beat, and then said "Perhaps we might go on Wednesday this upcoming week, as SF (me) will be out of town again." Ms. S smiled to herself and said "Give me a call."

So SW was kind of busted, but I didn't attach even the smallest bit of energy to it during the conversation. I took it all in stride, smiled a bit to myself at the outcome, and transitioned quickly and naturally to another subject.

I'll continue to observe and report. It does now feel a bit like how it was with Mr. B. This new place from last night is just around the corner from the place where SW was with Mr. B during her cover stories as "out with the girls" but Mr. B was also there, etc. And she was doing all this (back then) when I was going out of town on ski trips, etc.

I would be concerned. Personally, I wouldn't tolerate another Mr B episode.

I'm guessing that she went by herself and quickly found a social group which included Mr J. Were there others or just him? Certainly by the end, it was just the two.

She's not the type for tinder or similar but is she the type to go solo without a priori plans?

Watch ever so closely. I don't understand why she wouldn't just tell you what is going on. I'd say she has until your birthday weekend to come clean without getting pissed...

[solstice]

I don't understand SW's motive to lie to you, If she told you, that with a friend she met a Mr ... and later he shagged the arse off her, she can be sure it would meet your approval. she runs the risk of you tiring of her lies and dumping her, although the risk seems small.

[johnstevens555]

SF, you simply must have cameras installed at your house.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum johnstevens555.

[superb101]

SF, you simply must have cameras installed at your house.

I completely agree and without wifes knowledge!!!!