Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[solstice]

I rather like the amusing and inventive names you dream up, especially Mr Pantygate, would SW join in the fun by chucking a few of her own descriptions into the soup?

[slenderfish]

Quick update. Yesterday SW dragged me along to the re-opening of the fitness center Mr. G and his wife acquired, for her to run. This new one is more of a membership-based with full services including stationary cycle room, pilates room, etc.

He will now have the prior private facility to himself for his training clients.

I was wondering why SW was so insistent I go along, and then came to realize a few things after the fact.

More later.

[BallSpanking]

Might this have something to do with the end of year resolutions about making your wildest fantasy come true?

[CuriousUK]

Intrigued

[Mr Mrs Cream]

Quick update. Yesterday SW dragged me along to the re-opening of the fitness center Mr. G and his wife acquired, for her to run. This new one is more of a membership-based with full services including stationary cycle room, pilates room, etc.

He will now have the prior private facility to himself for his training clients.

I was wondering why SW was so insistent I go along, and then came to realize a few things after the fact.

More later.

Is there any massage room where Mr G (maybe he just finished some massage course) could take care of SW?

[afagehi7]

Quick update. Yesterday SW dragged me along to the re-opening of the fitness center Mr. G and his wife acquired, for her to run. This new one is more of a membership-based with full services including stationary cycle room, pilates room, etc.

He will now have the prior private facility to himself for his training clients.

I was wondering why SW was so insistent I go along, and then came to realize a few things after the fact.

More later.

We're on the edge of our seats!

[slenderfish]

More about the Mr. Gym (a/k/a Mr. G) situation. SW had casually indicated this expansion of Mr. Gym's and Ms. Rival's (his wife) business operations, the acquisition of this new club. Apparently they'd acquired it some weeks prior, and Mr. Gym had been getting it ready for re-opening via small improvements such as paint, new lighting fixtures, etc. It's a full-service gym with full spa section (massage rooms, dry and wet sauna, etc.).

When we arrived, the open house had already commenced and we walked up to the group, kind of gathered in the front of the facility as well as into the lobby and reception area. There was some finger food, etc.

SW was wearing light blue spandex leggings and a matching light blue long-sleeved top. It made her eyes pop to a sapphire color.

SW greeted Mr. Gym, who broke away from the group he was taking to and came over to greet us. He said he wanted to show us around, and started to go inside with us but was sidetracked by other attendees wanting to congratulate him. SW said to him that she will "go ahead and show me around" and that Mr. Gym could catch up with us when he frees up. We walked inside and saw Ms. Rival, and went past her into the facility.

She gave me the tour as if she had been there before, and indeed she had. Back when it was closed for business, when Mr. Gym was getting it ready for re-opening.

She showed me the workout rooms (cycling room, pilates room, multi-purpose group training room); showed me the cage with free weights, etc., and also the exercise machines (treadmills, stair climbers, etc.). I suggested she jump up and grab the pull-up bar and she did. I grabbed some images of that with my phone camera.

We were essentially by ourselves in the main workout area. She the led me over to the women's showers/bathroom/locker room and showed me around, and we were just going to push through into the door that leads directly from the showers into the spa area. An employee came bashing in there and scolded SW that men are not allowed in this area! We scrambled out of there.

Mr. Gym then arrived and chuckled at our faux pas. He led us through the final portion of the tour, the quiet and relaxed spa area. There was a separate check-in desk, a quiet waiting area, SW marveled at the four massage treatment rooms, the two other specialty treatment rooms, the new lighting, etc.

We then emerged at the front desk area. Mr. Gym had been away for just a few minutes but someone grabbed him for photographs. I suggested to SW that we should get some images of her with Mr. Gym, if we could grab him as the group assembled for the professional photographers.

It turns out the photos were with his and her (Mr. Rival's) extended families, who were there for the occasion. SW did greet Ms. Rival, who gave me a big smile and said she saw me when we arrived. She also acknowledged SW but all her energy was directed to me. We moved along to get the photographs with Mr. Gym.

'But the professional photographer was efficient and lined them all up for photos. These took about two minutes. As the photo group started to break apart, I got in position for a photo of SW and Mr. Gym. She walked up to get him but it caught my attention that in front of Ms. Rival, SW maintained extra physical distance from Mr. Gym. When I tried to do the photo of Mr. Gym and SW, she (SW) grabbed a couple of other people and placed them between her and Mr. Gym for the photo. SW apparently did NOT want to be alone in any image with Mr. Gym. I didn't say anything.

We congratulated Mr. Gym and made our way to our car, and headed home. While driving, SW offered the following, and without prompting:

- Ms. Rival will be operating the club, so she will no longer have any ongoing reason to be at the private training facility

- The club is about a 10-minute drive from Mr. Gym's private training facility

- The spa area and massage rooms looked much improved.

- She prefers to work out at the private studio with Mr. G and will not be interested in a membership to the club

I then realized she had been to the club more times than once before. She said that she'd been working out alone with Mr. Gym at the club location for some time because he was over there for the improvements, in the big push to re-open. I then chuckled at being shooed out of the women's locker room area. She laughed a bit as well, and said that she hadn't realized it was an issue because she'd been in there with Mr. Gym, who is a man.

She also had been in the spa and massage room area with Mr. Gym when they were the only ones there.

She then explained that Ms. Rival continues to hold her (SW) at bay because, as previously explained to SW by Mr. Gym, it is Ms. Rival's worst fear that Mr. Gym will become enamored with some blonde hottie client and have an affair.

I smiled inside, at that observation.

[slenderfish]

I rather like the amusing and inventive names you dream up, especially Mr Pantygate, would SW join in the fun by chucking a few of her own descriptions into the soup?

Pantygate came directly from SW. I co-opted it for here. I'll see what I can get from her on the other characters.

[slenderfish]

On Wednesday night, we did our usual boys' night but at my request we are starting to modify the group of guys, to limit it. My buddy Dr. D and I started this Wednesday night routine about 15 years ago. I mention this because we are basically the drivers and we effectively make the rules. A couple of the newer guys seem to bring some element of drama on a consistent basis, so I let the important other guys know that I am going to phase these guys out in a friendly way.

I mention this because I know Dr. D is understandably smitten with Ms. Playboy (a/k/a Ms. Ch). She is the one with the fabulous look, a kind of modern Marilyn Monroe. She is in good shape, but is not a lean workout girl like SW but rather a buxom hottie who has to go out of her way to cover up and hide her beauty, lest she get too much attention.

She really likes me. I'm the one who found her and rescued her from a failing date with a guy who apparently was not over his ex- and poor Ms. Playboy was essentially being ignored by this guy while he was on a long phone call, leaving her waiting by herself at this super-happening bar restaurant.

I've kept the appropriate distance. SW has indicated she is not especially interested in becoming friends with Ms. Playboy, because she doesn't trust her. You may recall that we were to have a dinner in early 2021 to introduce Ms. Playboy to Mr. Big (a/k/a Mr. B) and at the last minute SW refused to participate. So we went as a group of five, with me as the fifth wheel. I was hosting so paid for the whole thing, and apparently Ms. Playboy still won't forget that. BTW she did not click with Mr. Big and spend most of that evening in conversation with me, even though I was trying to get her to engage with Mr. Big. SW also is leery because Ms. Playboy apparently was in an affair with someone's husband, someone we know of via mutual friends.

Fast forward to present. Dr. D has continued to kind of mentor Ms. Playboy. They go to breakfast, lunch, etc. and sometimes I tag along or drop in as a third wheel. She has met Dr. D's wife and it seems that Dr. D is granted some room for this dalliance, as long as it doesn't cross the line. I'm happy for Dr. D because it's really invigorated him in life, and also because I get to cross into their excursions and greet Ms. Playboy from time to time.

So this past boys' night Dr. D invited Ms. Playboy and another girl Ms. Nubile. I might have imperceptibly prompted Dr. D to do so. We met Ms. Nubile at another boys' night just over a year ago, and rescued her from her boyfriend who was, at that time, also ignoring her. Mr. Playboy and Ms. Nubile have become friends. I use Nubile as her name because she's much younger but apparently prefers the older crowd. She is also fabulous, and I'd love to introduce her to my son, but again apparently she doesn't go out with guys her age. We are trying to pair these girls up with some of our single guy friends. Tried again this past boys' night. There were the two women and four or five guys.

SW is aware that Ms. Playboy crosses into boys' night from time to time. When SW dropped in on a boys' night this past October, I'd told her that Ms. Playboy will likely also be dropping by, and she was there when SW came by.

Why am I mentioning this? Because I'm owning up to the fact that it's much more interesting conversation and dynamic when these fun and attractive ladies are in the mix. I like the attention and I get it because I'm safe. I will keep it that way, as it's part of my personal brand.

[BallSpanking]

SW is sharply aware of Mr Gym, his wife, your presence, and any photos taken of the event.
She has some compelling reason NOT to appear in images alone with Mr Gym. Clearly not that you would mind.
So who would be upset from such a photo? Mrs Rival, for starters, possibly Mr Gym (if his wife is already hypersensitive about SW),
and by extension, SW who wants to avoid trouble. But is she overanxious about everything, or only this?

[bubbajack]

Ballspanking (fellow OHW Addict! ) asked:
"..But is she overanxious about everything, or only this?.

My read of the wineglass dregs suggests that she suffers a bit from Acute Anxiety Syndrome - maybe because she is outwardly so beautiful and blonde and fit and wet-dream-inducing ... but inwardly?

[slenderfish]

Ballspanking (fellow OHW Addict! ) asked:
"..But is she overanxious about everything, or only this?.

My read of the wineglass dregs suggests that she suffers a bit from Acute Anxiety Syndrome - maybe because she is outwardly so beautiful and blonde and fit and wet-dream-inducing ... but inwardly?

She does have a serious challenge with anxiety and readily acknowledges when she is in a self-aware time.

[Boomhauer]

Fish, have you thought about swinging with your wife? It seems like it would be a better fit. You've expressed interest in having sex with others. Sw likes to party and be the center of attention, so she'd probably love a swingers club. And best of all, you wouldn't have to worry about breaking up the marriage between Mr G and his wife (assuming that Sw was able to bed him). I don't see any down side to it, but what do you think?

[afagehi7]

Fish, have you thought about swinging with your wife? It seems like it would be a better fit. You've expressed interest in having sex with others. Sw likes to party and be the center of attention, so she'd probably love a swingers club. And best of all, you wouldn't have to worry about breaking up the marriage between Mr G and his wife (assuming that Sw was able to bed him). I don't see any down side to it, but what do you think?

I think once sw is more comfortable, it would be great. Even if he doesn't touch another woman, a single guy or hubby there flirting and dancing with sw is hot, if she's socially lubricated she might welcome some mfm or even play with a hubby wife combo while fish observes

[slenderfish]

Fish, have you thought about swinging with your wife? It seems like it would be a better fit. You've expressed interest in having sex with others. Sw likes to party and be the center of attention, so she'd probably love a swingers club. And best of all, you wouldn't have to worry about breaking up the marriage between Mr G and his wife (assuming that Sw was able to bed him). I don't see any down side to it, but what do you think?

Glad you asked this. From the beginning, I've always had this impression that SW would be up for checking out a the swing lifestyle. She actually did make one or two comments that she would be up for checking it out, attending a newbies event.

But when the subject came up a few years ago (before the pandemic), and during subsequent conversations of "monogamish" she was completely uninterested.

This thought came again into my mind just last night. She seems perfect for it. I'll put it on the discussion list for the therapy sessions.

[Mark K]

Glad you asked this. From the beginning, I've always had this impression that SW would be up for checking out a the swing lifestyle. She actually did make one or two comments that she would be up for checking it out, attending a newbies event.

But when the subject came up a few years ago (before the pandemic), and during subsequent conversations of "monogamish" she was completely uninterested.

This thought came again into my mind just last night. She seems perfect for it. I'll put it on the discussion list for the therapy sessions.

Perhaps you can have her read this, as a primer:

https://skinnydip.ca/going-to-desire-for-the-first-time

I like that it was written by a woman, and that she has been to several of the adults-only, clothing-optional resorts in Mexico. She seems to have had a very positive experience at Desire. Seem like the kind of place where there is a sexy vibe, little pressure, and you can do as much, or as little as you want (just dip your toe in), in a very sexy environment.

[il2sw]

Glad you asked this. From the beginning, I've always had this impression that SW would be up for checking out a the swing lifestyle.

She seems to have had a very positive experience at Desire. Seem like the kind of place where there is a sexy vibe, little pressure, and you can do as much, or as little as you want (just dip your toe in), in a very sexy environment.

We’ve been to Desire and I highly recommend it. My wife was reluctant when I booked it, but she liked it so much that now she’s usually the one asking when we’re going back. Even not counting the swinging, we had way more fun than at any vanilla resort we’ve ever been. I think SW (and you) would love it.

Edit: I should add that our experience at Desire was pre-pandemic. Things may have changed.

[rooster444]

Some of the adult resorts in Mexico are 'couples only' and more geared toward swinging couples. I put more hotwifing hope into places that allow single guys - Temptations / Hedonism / some adult only Club Meds (Turks & Caicos?). Temptations would be an easy sell, good party, naughty but not over the top, topless but not full nude, plenty of single guys. Just sell her on the idea that you're going to a resort where there are no small children running around and where she can go topless at the pool with a good party and entertainment every night. Long weekend, 3-4 nights...bet she would want to go back.

[slenderfish]

The concept of lifestyle-friendly resorts is appealing to me, but SW has been against them. Perhaps her attitude has changed?

I do expect that we will have the opportunity in the near future to discuss with the sex-positive therapist how to find more common ground with respect to our desires, trying to support the other person in what they desire, etc. I imagine it will end up being a compromise. I can see these resorts as one logical solution.

[afagehi7]

The concept of lifestyle-friendly resorts is appealing to me, but SW has been against them. Perhaps her attitude has changed?

I do expect that we will have the opportunity in the near future to discuss with the sex-positive therapist how to find more common ground with respect to our desires, trying to support the other person in what they desire, etc. I imagine it will end up being a compromise. I can see these resorts as one logical solution.

What are her reservations on somewhere like Temptations (mentioned by rooster)? She can be topless or not, can play or not. It sounds like any other resort but with the addition of naughty fun if you want.

Maybe she is thinking that it's required or expected? Perhaps she's worried about swinging and you with another woman?

I think you are like I whereas swinging would be fine but your primary motivation is the wife with another guy.

I think this is a fantastic concept and I also think she has mis-perceptions. Do your homework via Google-Fu and asking others here about the resort. Have all the answers before you bring it up.

She'd have a blast being courted by some hot single studs even if it never went farther than flirting and dancing.... she enjoys that now but here she'd have the ability to go further if she wants.

Remember, no expectations, it doesn't have to involve you with another woman... I think you can sell it easily if you do the due diligence.

[rooster444]

It's not like Temptations is a 'life style resort.' Hedo is much more like that. Temptations is more of a flirty atmosphere, fun with no kids. Totally harmless. Look up the some of the reviews. Maybe go the first time with another couple just to check it out - it's kind of the way we started our short lived journey.

[slenderfish]

It's not like Temptations is a 'life style resort.' Hedo is much more like that. Temptations is more of a flirty atmosphere, fun with no kids. Totally harmless. Look up the some of the reviews. Maybe go the first time with another couple just to check it out - it's kind of the way we started our short lived journey.

I'll definitely put this on my list of items to discuss with SW when the conversation supports it.

Thank you.

[slenderfish]

I'm in Utah on a ski weekend with a group of guys (about 10 guys). Most are professional and all (except for me) are from the hometown of SW. Just how it worked out.

A couple of them have met SW and during this trip have expressed that she is such a fireplug. They can't really believe she is from their home town.

This is the third or fourth annual ski trip with these guys and by now they expect me to be the life of the party. Tonight I channeled SW and delivered.

- I talked to the best looking woman in every venue we visited (drinks, dinner, etc.) and brought her into our group.

- I made friends with the hot solo guitar and vocal artist at the happening apres-ski bar in town, and even went on stage and did a duet with her at the end of her set. I asked her to join our group at the next venue for later-night cocktails, but she could not make it happen. She did ask if I/we would be around for a few days.

- At the last place of the night, there was literally about 80 guys (including our group) and 4 women. I even circulated through the place and told my set of guys there was no energy from any of the women, for me to work with. But then a 25-year-old blonde cutie came over and said we'd placed our coats over hers on the coat hook, and that she can't lose her coat. I took that opening and brought her into a conversation, and then into our group. She wants to hang out again before we leave.

As we were getting into the shuttle back to our property, I kind of observed of myself, and said out loud "I feel like SW when she's drunk and on fire."

I truly channeled her style tonight. The guys loved it.

[BallSpanking]

I truly channeled her style tonight. The guys loved it.

I doubt you possess the needed parts, SF ...

[slenderfish]

I truly channeled her style tonight. The guys loved it.

I doubt you possess the needed parts, SF ...

You are correct, sir!