Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[Mark K]

Maybe she received an unexpected text from an out of town man from one of her previous Hotwife adventures, and she was enticing them to come visit her with that message...

[MatureCouple]

So Mark, you think that SW sent the "Come Fuck Me" text... interesting

[BallSpanking]

The text has to be from tall Mr X-Porn star. The others were too intimidated to proceed with such a demand.
Whatever conversation took place between SW and x-Porn, it clearly left him with the impression he could address her that way.
He was half right. If the text was SW's outgoing text, the explanation is barely different.

Be that as it may, he has SW's number, and my guess is that SW was hot and bothered enough to want to 'scratch that itch'.

[whenwillshe]

Point of clarification
Did she send or receive the COME FUCK ME text?

[CuriousUK]

Literal cliffhanger!!

[slenderfish]

Well, it was quite a night of wine and we had a bit of a row when we got home because she was displeased I'd not gotten anyone's contact information. I told her that the birthday girl insisted on getting SW's number for future contact and that I put SW's number into the woman's phone myself. But SW was not quite getting what I was trying to tell her and continued to be chagrined. I was frustrated but also found it a bit comical. Ultimately I just gave her a long, big hug and she then got naked and just laid all over me, trying to manage her wine intake (e.g. keep it from going the wrong way). We laid and talked and kissed and let time pass. Was unusual and nice.

The next day, after I'd gone for a big bike ride and arrived home mid-morning to greet her, she did complain of the expected headache and hangover, and slept it off. We had big plans for Saturday night and I kind of blocked the conversation she seemed to want to start, that of cancelling plans for Saturday night. My efforts worked out, and she got herself together enough to make it happen.

Now let's get back to that text message.

She again asked if I'd gotten any numbers or text messages, because she said she had none. That she wanted to be able to get back into contact with one or two of the women from the birthday party, etc. I reminded her again that I'd put her number into the phone of the birthday girl. And also that we'd found out that at least three of the party participants work out at the club SW had recently decided she intends to join beginning March 1. She was happy to hear this, etc.

So she said nothing about any text message.

She did say that she had gotten a bit loose with her conversation with the three guys before we went home that night, so much so that she completely offended one of the guys. So offended that he left the bar/club immediately and took his buddies with him.

I'm sure it was one of these guys who send the text message.

If I had to guess, she was doing something with her phone and the guy kind of punked her by sending the text message. She then decided to get back at him and started a line of conversation that became very offensive to him and that was the end of it.

But of course I am intrigued at what transpired in their conversation that led to that point. And at what may transpire, if he indeed has her phone number. And what she may or may not share with me.

[slenderfish]

We did have the big night on Saturday night, a social outing which was a bit fancy. SW made a splash, and there was a pool there but it was not a literal splash, just figurative.

It was a birthday party of a very wealthy man who we've met a couple of times, and who asked our mutual friend to invite us for some reason we have not yet fully realized. Hosted at his fabulous house, full valet parking, etc.

This man is not really liked by SW, in that he's quite a bit older than me/us and he dates very young women. She calls it a "yuck" factor. But I think she may have mellowed her opinion of him after last night. More on this in another post.

I'll post an image of her from last night, in the Hotties section, when I have a bit of time to prepare it.

As we were driving home after the party, she remarked that she was happy with her choice of outfit but if she had it to do over again, she would have dressed more sexy.

[slenderfish]

The text has to be from tall Mr X-Porn star. The others were too intimidated to proceed with such a demand.
Whatever conversation took place between SW and x-Porn, it clearly left him with the impression he could address her that way.
He was half right. If the text was SW's outgoing text, the explanation is barely different.

Be that as it may, he has SW's number, and my guess is that SW was hot and bothered enough to want to 'scratch that itch'.

I agree it was probably from that guy.

[JeffBingham]

How did the guy come into possession of SW’s number to begin with, if she wasn’t genuinely interested in him enough to give it to him? I don’t give my number to people with whom I have contentious conversations.

Her continuing dishonesty and complete lack of trust in you is troubling to me. Trust and transparency are the cornerstones of successful hotwifing.

[slenderfish]

Point of clarification
Did she send or receive the COME FUCK ME text?

I'm going to ask her all this today.

[slenderfish]

How did the guy come into possession of SW’s number to begin with, if she wasn’t genuinely interested in him enough to give it to him? I don’t give my number to people with whom I have contentious conversations.

Her continuing dishonesty and complete lack of trust in you is troubling to me. Trust and transparency are the cornerstones of successful hotwifing.

It was a raucous and drunk-off-her-ass kind of night. Kind of the closest thing to a "honky tonk" bar in our area. The kind of place SW would NEVER visit, and has steadfastly refused for over 10 years!

I will let this one stand apart, but will find out what I am able. Holding off judgement right now.

Let's also remember that she has this SW vs. Pinky mode. SW wants to be this good wife, anti-slut behavior, dress classy and pull attention, but very limited sexuality. SW also knows my fetish and generally keeps it at arm's-length. But inside of her, this Pinky character who likes the attention and what comes with it, even more so from men, and also gives herself permission to act from time to time.

But the day after, when waking up as SW, she apparently wants to clean whatever mess Pinky may have made. Clears off all trails, footprints, etc.

And I'm here hoping that SW and Pinky can find a middle ground, and live together in harmony.

[solstice]

Your wife is very high maintenance, and I am not talking about the financial side, are you ever tempted to take her over your knee and give her a spank?
I am not a violent guy but there are limits.

[BallSpanking]

Your wife is very high maintenance, and I am not talking about the financial side, are you ever tempted to take her over your knee and give her a spank?
I am not a violent guy but there are limits.

Although I don't completely disagree, I think that would eliminate the need for a therapist. Divorced couples don't bother with that.

[JeffBingham]

Hey SF, no judgment from me. Maybe a little projection, but not judgment. Honesty and trust are paramount in all aspects of life for me. But I’m also quite similar to you in that I try to be thoughtful and deliberate in my actions. As a business owner with a few hundred employees, I’ve learned to watch and listen as much as possible before acting. That has served me well over the years, as I’m sure it has you.

[afagehi7]

Your wife is very high maintenance, and I am not talking about the financial side,

She's high maintenance on just about every dimension! I don't care how hot, I couldn't take it. How fish keeps up is beyond me, he's like super-husband

[slenderfish]

Your wife is very high maintenance, and I am not talking about the financial side, are you ever tempted to take her over your knee and give her a spank?
I am not a violent guy but there are limits.

Haha yes, in good humor I have done this from time to time. It's a cute little ass just asking for a fun spanking. Always tame and non-painful, but a shocking one finds its way into the mix and elicits a bit of a yelp. That generally marks the end of the fun, and we proceed to the more serious lovemaking with her cheeks showing a pink-red color of shame.

[slenderfish]

Hey SF, no judgment from me. Maybe a little projection, but not judgment. Honesty and trust are paramount in all aspects of life for me. But I’m also quite similar to you in that I try to be thoughtful and deliberate in my actions. As a business owner with a few hundred employees, I’ve learned to watch and listen as much as possible before acting. That has served me well over the years, as I’m sure it has you.

Yep. This is certainly my style. Has generally worked best for me, also.

[slenderfish]

Point of clarification
Did she send or receive the COME FUCK ME text?

I'm going to ask her all this today.

Gonna post an image in the Hotties section that solves these questions about who was texting, etc.

When I have a bit of time, presumably later today (Saturday).

[johnstevens555]

Is anyone else lowkey hoping the picture is of SF and Ex-pornstar running a train on SW?

[TheHammer]

I hope it’s Mr G’s burner phone

[afagehi7]

Is anyone else lowkey hoping the picture is of SF and Ex-pornstar running a train on SW?

She has to be curious about the abilities and size of the porn star. The more women a guy gets, the more women seem to want him. If I were fish I'd be suggesting that we meet up with pornstud

[slenderfish]

Update: Not much new to update. Living life, the sex-positive therapist has been a nice addition, etc.

She told SW: Consider that you have a refrigerator in your house, it's the place to get food nourishment. Consider also that you have a partner loving relationship in your house. It's the place to get emotional and affection and physical intimacy nourishment. What if you went to open the refrigerator door for food nourishment and the door wouldn't open, not really "in the mood" right now? You return an hour later, a day later, a week later. If still the refrigerator will not release its food stores, you begin to wither from hunger.

Similar with intimacy.

It's not a luxury, it's something we need and for which we hunger, and we have invested our hearts and love with our partner to be there for that need.

[Observer1931]

Your therapist had a very good way of explaining an in depth a too common situation. Thanks for sharing.

[afagehi7]

Update: Not much new to update. Living life, the sex-positive therapist has been a nice addition, etc.

She told SW: Consider that you have a refrigerator in your house, it's the place to get food nourishment. Consider also that you have a partner loving relationship in your house. It's the place to get emotional and affection and physical intimacy nourishment. What if you went to open the refrigerator door for food nourishment and the door wouldn't open, not really "in the mood" right now? You return an hour later, a day later, a week later. If still the refrigerator will not release its food stores, you begin to wither from hunger.

Similar with intimacy.

It's not a luxury, it's something we need and for which we hunger, and we have invested our hearts and love with our partner to be there for that need.

And even if the fridge is full and freely opens, sometimes you want the thrill of going out to eat or getting a takeaway... And in our case we enjoy watching her enjoy her fancy meal!

[TheHammer]

And sometimes you want to combine food from the fridge with takeout.