Am I the only stag who hates the term, bull.

[Outlaw]

Responding to the admin suggestion. I don't know what they could do. The cucks have a slate but insist on pulling us in. Maybe they're looking for humiliation. Bull doesn't belong in this category. My piece has been stated.

[Wisher]

Responding to the admin suggestion. I don't know what they could do.

Change the forum section titles/headers so as not to promote or encourage the use of the terms.

[Hottiemaybe]

It's silly, but not any sillier than "stag."

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Hottiemaybe.

[Oasis94]

We hate it. If it's on a profile we ignore said profile. Plus most guy's haven't a clue what it means anyway.

[exploringhermore]

It's silly, but not any sillier than "stag."

My thoughts as well.
Labeling seems to be inspired by porn the best I can tell.

[sinsnaps]

In a cuck way, I guess it may fit. I openly share my wife but bull implies we're not man enough to get it up.

Nope, not the only one. I've shared my wife with dozens of men, never once referred to one as a "bull", either of us. We're not looking for more labels and rules, that's for sure. Do I look for competent men to fuck her? Absolutely, and being interesting as a person is one of the main attributes of that, really. The ones who can't shake porn industry "rules" because it would involve thinking outside the moneyshot box from time to time aren't usually very interesting. We don't see a lot of porn that actually represents how we feel about it.

[Outlaw]

Glad I'm not alone.

[lookingiansa]

IRL the term isn't appealing to many who are not into the cuckold aspect. IMHO

I have been in mfm 3ways and I was always the extra guy. I'm a fwb boyfriend in these things. I'm as I said the extra and haven't let another man fuck my wife just not my thing.

But if I ever did if the extra guy started being bossy demanding disrespectful to my wife or me. I'm 6ft 235 pounds Army combat veteran. I would toss the guy out in a miliecond. Especially if I was going to give him the gift of sharing my wife' with him. And my wife sharing her body with him too.


And these guys who call themselves bulls think most of the time, that if you want to share your wife that you must be weak or something. They just don't get it. They think to be alpha they must act like a arrogant jerk try and make hubby obey and put him.down and get off doing this to hubby. Disrespect him. Thinking they got to be alpha by doing this.

But a true alpha male doesn't have to do any of that. In fact he should be secure enough not to force being an alpha. And should respect the couple and realize he is their to add to their relationship not to take away by humilulating the husband. He should know thid because he's the extra. Or at least that is how I feel about this.

Another thing that's occurred before every couple and I do the mfm.threeway. Is we meet first to see how it feels if we click and I try to get to know them better. This is especially important with wife because I know almost every woman needs an emotional connection first to feel safe.

Just my thoughts

Mr. Lookingiansa

[Outlaw]

It's petty clear since I'm a 1% biker it wouldn't be a good idea to disrespect me. I'm 6'7" and can still BP 350..we invited people to our home to have sex with several hw. In our world respect is earned. My wife is in swing club in Gulf Shores tonight. At my age , I'd rather work on my Harley. Strangely my wife has invited a guy over for sex. They get out and see 15 bikers hanging they usually leave and call her. In a few cases the guy came back. Did as he was told, say hello and go to the door.

[gulfcpl]

I think the term bull is as demeaning as any other derogatory name you can use. The other guy is a human, not a barnyard animal. I guess one needs to know if the other guy approves of such a description. Some women enjoy being called sluts or whatever. Some don’t. It’s certainly not advisable to call a lady a name that she detests, not to mention that her husband may not like it.

My thought is that you should show respect to the other person regardless of the role you’re playing.

[Stag+CarterLaine]

IRL the term isn't appealing to many who are not into the cuckold aspect. IMHO

I have been in mfm 3ways and I was always the extra guy. I'm a fwb boyfriend in these things. I'm as I said the extra and haven't let another man fuck my wife just not my thing.

But if I ever did if the extra guy started being bossy demanding disrespectful to my wife or me. I'm 6ft 235 pounds Army combat veteran. I would toss the guy out in a miliecond. Especially if I was going to give him the gift of sharing my wife' with him. And my wife sharing her body with him too.


And these guys who call themselves bulls think most of the time, that if you want to share your wife that you must be weak or something. They just don't get it. They think to be alpha they must act like a arrogant jerk try and make hubby obey and put him.down and get off doing this to hubby. Disrespect him. Thinking they got to be alpha by doing this.

But a true alpha male doesn't have to do any of that. In fact he should be secure enough not to force being an alpha. And should respect the couple and realize he is their to add to their relationship not to take away by humilulating the husband. He should know thid because he's the extra. Or at least that is how I feel about this.

Another thing that's occurred before every couple and I do the mfm.threeway. Is we meet first to see how it feels if we click and I try to get to know them better. This is especially important with wife because I know almost every woman needs an emotional connection first to feel safe.

Just my thoughts

Mr. Lookingiansa

It's as if you spoke these words for me. I enjoy sharing my wife. She enjoys pleasing other men. No "cuck" stuff about it. No disrespect. No humiliation. It's hard to find people who understand this.

[Rsm7075]

As wannabe, we prefer lover or bf. Sounds more intimate and fun

[kaskap79]

In Denmark we call him a "House Friend" or more correctly in English a friend of the house.

[Outlaw]

Bull should only be used on the cuck site

[Lapster]

I hate the term, but once something goes viral hard to undo.

[Izzy2]

I hate the word bull or cuck I am a confident man on the dominant side and fairly well hung i also love for my wife to have good sex with men that deserve to experience her respect and adore her and it makes me proud to know my wife is a slut i am proud that her friends and mine enjoy fucking her I am not a week man and am secure our connection

[Outlaw]

Well said.

[spyguy24]

For better or worse it seems any kind of non-monogamy that's not poly on both sides of a relationship gets labeled as cuckolding in popular discourse. Whenever I've tried to have a conversation at the outset of describing my preferred relationship dynamic there's this confusion that sets in until they get a clue and go "oh, you're a cuck."

It's something I tried to cut out of my language entirely. It had the side effect of then limiting the conversations I would like to have. I've settled on using those terms, and then simply correcting where people assume my boundaries are.

[gulfcpl]

In the strictest meaning of the term, I am a cuckold. As a cuckold however, I hate the term bull. As I stated earlier in this thread, I think it’s demeaning. For couples and single who like this term, to each his or her own. The dislike of this term isn’t limited to just cuckold types although it’s seen more on that side.

I enjoy seeing my my pleasured by other men pure and simple.

[fredfred2]

No problem with the term. Like most I think it's used as a form of short cut to describe the lover. I understand some don't like the idea of bull on thier wife.

[WPBCouplex]

it’s not altering our life either way. But we prefer the term play date.

[Pufferfish]

This forum has really helped me understand a lot as far as how other guys with this fantasy/lifestyle think. But one thing that absolutely cracks me up are semantics, and how certain words trigger people so hard. You have one large subsect of people who absolutely lose their minds whenever someone brings up the word "rules". Their free spirited brains absolutely shut down at the concept. While they are perfectly fine with "rules" so long as they are only called "guidelines". Nothing changes, except what you call them, but suddenly it's ok because they're just guidelines now not rules.

People are like that about absolutely everything. They don't want to be called a cuck, but as long as you call them a "stag" they're perfectly happy. "Bull" infers that they are more masculine than me, but "stunt cock" is perfectly acceptable... They typically have a negative opinion or viewpoint about something(or themselves), but as long as the words used present a more acceptable version of what they are and believe, then it's suddenly ok.

[Outlaw]

Cucks have their own thread. Just because I am open minded on sharing, I don't want to hear about letting a bull piss on me or licking cock snot up. Categories more so than rules.

[Hildasw]

We hate it. If it's on a profile we ignore said profile. Plus most guy's haven't a clue what it means anyway.

Same here. Will not play with a guy that describes himself as a bull.