Just a Neighbor.

[greg1]

Seems he is playing this perfectly in every respect. He is being a total gentleman and he has great instincts. I wish we had him next door to us!

[Chrislydi]

There was a couple posts that mentioned the possiblity and asked if he did, as well as one even suggesting to give a key to his house already so she can live at both places. People jump the shark a little sometimes and get a little carried away.

Ahh thank you, fully agree with the last few posts then, a little lack of understanding is the penalty you sometimes pay for missing out reading most of the intervening replies to the OP's posts. I perfectly understand now and agree this isn't love, it even sounds a little ridiculous stating that.

Chris

[8toplaywith]

I think you should invite them both over to yours for a drink. Hopefully he'll leave early and there's your Green Light.

[NeighborGuy]

NeighborGuy.

I am following your story and i like it.

however, I think that you also should consider that the talk about his ED, and trial separation is just for you to feel comfortable to approach her and take her outing. there is still possibility that he is a stag and in happy marriage.

Uncle

If it was me in this situation, I would insist on talking to the neighbor husband, before going any further.

Imagine how life with the neighbor will be if it is only something the wife says and the husband does not agree.

I can see your point of you and some others. As i’ll mention in my next post I am going to take care of this and nip this in the bud.

[NeighborGuy]

It also begs the question, how long since your divorce? I can think of worse things then getting out of a marriage then having some hot 40 something who just wants sex and some beers. That should help you get back on your feet. If you’re looking to move on with your life she at the least seems like a great summer distraction.

And btw guys… just cuz he gets some flutters kissing her doesn’t mean he’s in love. Just means he’s excited to be with her. Sheesh… we’re not in high school.

Sean

Just over two years now thankfully. Also no need to get back on my feet and yes I’ve definitely moved on (that’s another story if you want to hear it). I’ve dated a handful of girls and got a good amount of ass you can say. Most of these girls were my age and air headed or I can tell not my type within 2-3 weeks. So it’s actually refreshing being around my 39 year-old neighbor that has a good amount of things in common and we’ve clicked on so many levels.

[NeighborGuy]

So some of your posts had me double thinking. Not that I do not believe her and I’m sure she is telling the truth. I see no reason why she should make up a story with the blossoming neighbor relationship we have going on.

But……

I sent him a text this afternoon asking him if we could chat when he got home from work. He replied he’s at work til 7 and then doing something afterwards. It would be best to chat in the morning before he heads to work around 6:30ish. That’s about the time I usually see him and he nods or waves. So I guess I’ll ask him how does he feel about me and her going out on the bike, out to dinner……..or more?

This should be interesting. I’m actually kind of nervous. Actually I don’t even know how I feel.

[ncalcur]

Great plan, Keep it casual and also add that is enjoyable to have her as company - maybe even add how having her rather than a "bubble head" is a relief and enjoyable to have real conversations with.

Of course play it by ear and give a lot of space, if he confirms what she told you great, but I think she wants a casual non in his face type of thing, so tread carefully! but, I think I can hear the panties dropping......

[Lookingforadventure]

So some of your posts had me double thinking. Not that I do not believe her and I’m sure she is telling the truth. I see no reason why she should make up a story with the blossoming neighbor relationship we have going on.

But……

I sent him a text this afternoon asking him if we could chat when he got home from work. He replied he’s at work til 7 and then doing something afterwards. It would be best to chat in the morning before he heads to work around 6:30ish. That’s about the time I usually see him and he nods or waves. So I guess I’ll ask him how does he feel about me and her going out on the bike, out to dinner……..or more?

This should be interesting. I’m actually kind of nervous. Actually I don’t even know how I feel.

Sounds like the right approach to me. I think you'll feel better if you know that you have his blessing to be spending time with her. And if he acts weird about your question, then at least you'll know not to take it further (or that it is risky to take it further).

[harmankard]

Agreed. Maybe talk about how she’s not like the girls you’ve dated or something.

[WVCouple8385]

I'm interested to see where this goes!

[wannabecUKold]

So some of your posts had me double thinking. Not that I do not believe her and I’m sure she is telling the truth. I see no reason why she should make up a story with the blossoming neighbor relationship we have going on.

But……

I sent him a text this afternoon asking him if we could chat when he got home from work. He replied he’s at work til 7 and then doing something afterwards. It would be best to chat in the morning before he heads to work around 6:30ish. That’s about the time I usually see him and he nods or waves. So I guess I’ll ask him how does he feel about me and her going out on the bike, out to dinner……..or more?

This should be interesting. I’m actually kind of nervous. Actually I don’t even know how I feel.

Morning can be a bit tricky if he is anxious to get off to work. The conversation could be rushed and with no time for sharing confidences. He's probably guessed what it's about.

His response? We can only guess. But if you could read his mind, I would guess he would say it is fine, they are separated in the same house, like brother and sister. He doesn''t want that arrangement disturbed by an interloper but he knows she has her unmet needs.
Ofc he is likely to speak more vaguely than that, along the lines 'it's fine, no problem, just make sure you bring her back'. Frankly, that's all you need at this stage. So don't look nervous and guilty about what you are doing. Don't make him feel he has to object. You might have some thin excuse ready why you are taking her alone, not them both, or some other girl. 'My friend's wife would like to see her again.' 'I'm hiring a two seater car.'

[Chrislydi]

Maybe a brief chat is best as you get right to the point rather than going around the houses and if he's a fair idea what it's about, which seems probable, he's more than likely got his answer prepared. I'd be surprised if it's anything other than a green light.

Chris

[SixInchDick]

Good luck. You're doing the right thing for sure. Hope everything goes well

[NeighborGuy]

It went easier then I expected this morning. After talking to him and my run I had to jump on calls all morning and afternoon since I’m taking a half day Friday to start the 4th of July weekend early. So I just had time to get on here.

He came out as I was stretching before my run so I went over and we talked for maybe 10 minutes. I told him it was awkward taking her out on my bike and out last Saturday night with them living together. I said when they moved in I thought they were married and not separated still living together like she had told me. He assured me it was ok and he pretty much confirmed everything she said except for the ED part. He respects her for hanging around after all he went through and even after they knew they weren’t in love anymore. He confirmed they have separate bedrooms, his was in the back and hers was the master upfront because it has the big closet and bathroom. That we both laughed at!

He also went on to say that when they moved in and we talked and said I was single they were surprised. He knows she has a thing for guys my type. Weird thing is I’m pretty similar looking to him, hair and size but younger. I would say better looking and definitely in shape. So that was kind of awkward. That’s when I said I had to get on with my run.

Chatting to him I definitely saw the nonchalant and not worried about me or her flirting I noticed from the beginning. So that pretty much makes sense.

[gulfcpl]

I’ve been cautiously optimistic from the start of this but it appears that there is hope.

[greg1]

Thanks for updating us and It’s great you can now be more open. I hope the weekend is your best ever 4th!

[whenwillshe]

Seems as green a light as you can get from both!

[TJJ]

It's time to invite her over and make a move

[hwfanatic]

Can we still be degenerates and wish for insatiable hottie behavior?!

[rascalnvixen]

GREEN LIGHT!!!!!

Rascal

[SixInchDick]

It’s time to bring her in for a beef injection. Stand by as we prepare the room.

I hope I got a laugh out of someone over this. It was my goal.

[kaskap79]

Chatting to him I definitely saw the nonchalant and not worried about me or her flirting I noticed from the beginning. So that pretty much makes sense.

It always feels better when you have the husbands consent. Especially when you live so close to each other.

Whenever I play with a Hotwife, I make sure to talk to her husband to be sure that his is fine with it. I don't want any drama.

[harmankard]

It’s time to bring her in for a beef injection. Stand by as we prepare the room.

I hope I got a laugh out of someone over this. It was my goal.

Mission accomplished… I chuckled.

So what’s on deck for the weekend with her? You gotta get in some bikini pool time.

[Allinfun]

It went easier then I expected this morning. After talking to him and my run I had to jump on calls all morning and afternoon since I’m taking a half day Friday to start the 4th of July weekend early. So I just had time to get on here.

He came out as I was stretching before my run so I went over and we talked for maybe 10 minutes. I told him it was awkward taking her out on my bike and out last Saturday night with them living together. I said when they moved in I thought they were married and not separated still living together like she had told me. He assured me it was ok and he pretty much confirmed everything she said except for the ED part. He respects her for hanging around after all he went through and even after they knew they weren’t in love anymore. He confirmed they have separate bedrooms, his was in the back and hers was the master upfront because it has the big closet and bathroom. That we both laughed at!

He also went on to say that when they moved in and we talked and said I was single they were surprised. He knows she has a thing for guys my type. Weird thing is I’m pretty similar looking to him, hair and size but younger. I would say better looking and definitely in shape. So that was kind of awkward. That’s when I said I had to get on with my run.

Chatting to him I definitely saw the nonchalant and not worried about me or her flirting I noticed from the beginning. So that pretty much makes sense.

As someone whose ex told guys lies about her status and my involvement, I'm very glad you did this. It was the right thing to do.

[Allinfun]

I'm wondering if she is ready to have a relationship or if she wants to be "single". She has dated people for periods of time. Maybe she wants to stay casual and assess her options.