subguy80 wrote: ↑Thu Dec 01, 2022 12:42 pm
ucaneffher wrote: ↑Thu Dec 01, 2022 4:05 am
I can't imagine my girlfriend not only having a lover but her lover also sharing her with other men. That certainly pushes every single one of my cuckold buttons in all the right ways.
Yes, the two of them have always had the understanding that they each have the option of playing, either together with others, or individually. Most of their play lately has been together with this group of swingers they have found and really like. Unfortunately, I usually don't get to participate in those sessions unless they're held at our house.
Just like your wife having a boyfriend, I also find myself wanting my girlfriend to have a boyfriend, too. I originally started with wanting it to be just sexual but the more time that passes, the more that I feel that I want her to get a boyfriend, and have her own relationship. I feel that I want to have to respect her intimate time and space with him and accept that she is also his girlfriend and is emotionally attached to him. Obviously, this is something that I find myself wanting both while she is my girlfriend and later when she becomes my wife.
Watching my girlfriend/wife date and bring her boyfriend home for the first time for me to meet is something I want. Oddly enough if I have a daughter later on, I will have to deal with both my wife and my daughter bringing their boyfriends home for me to meet but then seeing him come and pick them up for their dates. I'm probably going to be that guy that just has the women in his life bringing their boyfriends to "meet the dad" or "meet the husband"
Anyway sorry to ramble on... regarding your situation, while it is definitely hot, I can see how you can feel a little left out during the times you arent invited. I have also felt excluded myself when my e- gf would go to a bunch of parties, BBQs, family events, and bar hopping/dancing with her boyfriend instead of me. There were even times when she would take him to gatherings that mutual friends of mine and hers would have which really pushed me over the edge.
I eventually accepted my place as her secondary boyfriend (something I had really asked her to make me in the first place) and stopped complaining to her about her being so involved with her BF and I just learned to go on Facebook and go through our mutual friends' profiles to look for the pictures of my girlfriend being another mans girlfriend.
It took me over 2 years to get used to seeing my girlfriend fully dating another man and seeing their pictures together plastered all over social media. Unfortunately, I just couldn't get used to seeing her having a relationship with another man soon enough and my jealousy manifested itself before I came to full realization and acceptance that her being in a relationship with another man is what I wanted. Shortly after leaving her, I experienced extreme regret because I felt that delayed effect finally kicking in and accepting that she had done everything that I wanted- belonging to another man while still keeping me in her life. I kicked myself for not having given her more time as well as giving myself at least another 6 months to truly embrace the lifestyle we led for the past 2 years. I know that if I would have stayed with her 2,3 or, 4 more months, It would have finally sunken in my head that our life was going to be like that and that I would have to get used to her having another relationship and not always being available to me. I accepted that change once it was too late.
Right now I find myself waiting for my new gf to fully dive into the lifestyle and if one day she tells me that she wants a boyfriend, then I will be signing up to try this all over again and hopefully with better results and me adapting faster to her having a serious relationship with another man. Who knows, maybe down the road I'll find myself answering the door at 7pm for a young man coming to pick up my 19 year old daughter for their date and at 7:30pm another man will be ringing my doorbell to pick up my wife for their date. I'd like her to have a man I trust, who I can feel comfortable and safe letting her go on a month long vacation or random sleepovers throughout the week.
While I don't believe I would want to be a full time secondary man to my gf/wife.. I can be flexible and take turns letting the other man be her primary partner. I did have a dream that before having our children, for a temporary time, I live with my girlfriend and her boyfriend and I become just the friend while he is 100% primary. I'd love to rent out an apartment for 6 months and for those entire 6 months only he fucks her and dates her while I am witnessing it all under the same roof every day and every night.